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proverbs 14:12

There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.

proverbs 3:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your

paths straight.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb . . . My frame was

not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of

the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your

book before one of them came to be.Psalm 139-13-16

psalm 139:13-16

All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

“Haven’t you heard,” Jesus replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female,”

and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and

the two will become one flesh?”So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what

God has joined together, let man not separate.

matthew 19:4-6

“So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together,

let man not separate.”

c.s. lewis

“The monstrosity of sexual intercourse outside of marriage is that those who indulge in it are trying to isolate one kind of union (the sexual)

from all other kinds of union which are intended to go along with it and make up the total union.”

Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs over-

flow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never

to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice

in the wife of your youth. (Is God really talking about water here?)

A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by

her love.

proverbs 5:15-19

May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may

you ever be captivated by her love.

You have stolen my heart. . . How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more

pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice!

Your lips drip sweetness as the honeycomb my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue. You

are a garden locked up…. you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.

Song of Songs 5:9-12

Your lips drip sweetness as the honeycomb my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue.

You are a garden locked up . . . you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.

hebrews 13:4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the

adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

song of songs 2:8

Do not awaken or arouse love until the time is right.

I timothy 5:2

Treat the older women as you would your mother, and treat the younger women with

all purity as your own sisters.

ephesians 5:3

there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality or any kind of impurity or of greed,

because these are improper for God’s holy people.

matthew 5:27

But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed

adultery with her in his heart.

Dawn Eden

“Lack of chastity is irreverence, in any area of life, sex included. And reverence is a lot about proper waiting. To lack chastity, to be irreverent, is to be impatient, selfish, callous, immature, undisciplined or boorish in any way so that our actions deprive someone else of his or her full uniqueness and

preciousness. And we do this every time we short-circuit waiting.

Dawn Eden

someone else of his or her full uniqueness and preciousness. And we do this every time we short-circuit waiting. Sex, because it so deeply affects the soul, speaks most loudly about chastity or

lack of it . . .”We violate chastity in sex whenever there is

prematurity, unfair pressure, subtle manipulation, crass force, taking without giving, posturing an

intimacy we don’t mean, lack of respect for previous commitments, disregard for the wider

relationships of family and community or failure to respect long-range happiness and health.

Dawn Eden

“We violate chastity in sex whenever there is prematurity, unfair pressure, subtle

manipulation, crass force, taking without giving, posturing an intimacy we don’t mean, lack of respect for previous commitments, disregard

for the wider relationships of family and community or failure to respect long-range

happiness and health.

Dawn Eden

for the wider relationships of family and community or failure to respect long-range

happiness and health.”

I thessalonians 4:3-5

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified; that you should avoid sexual immorality; that

each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable.

william harley

“When a couple live together before marriage, they tend to be ‘renters’. By that I mean they

view their relationship much as they would renting an apartment. If something goes wrong in the apartment, the landlord is expected to fix it.”

if it needs paint, the landlord paints it; if it needs repairs, the landlord does the repairing. In other words, the renter is not responsible for making

the apartment suitable for living—the landlord is responsible. And if the apartment is not repaired, the tenant isn’t expected to fix the apartment

himself, he simply moves to another apartment if he/she doesn’t like the one he is renting

william harley

“if it needs paint, the landlord paints it, if it needs repairs, the landlord does the repairing.

In other words, the renter is not responsible for making the apartment suitable for living — the

landlord is responsible.”And if the apartment is not repaired, the tenant isn’t expected to fix the apartment himself, he simply moves to another apartment if he/she

doesn’t like the one he is renting

william harley

“And if the apartment is not repaired, the tenant isn’t expected to fix the apartment himself,

he simply moves to another apartment if he/she doesn’t like the one he is renting.”

william harley

“On the other hand, when couples marry before they live together, they tend to be ‘buyers’.

Much like buying a house, these couples realize that if anything needs fixing, they will have to

fix it — the sooner, the better.”Their marriage is not a test of how livable their relationship is, but rather, it’s a commitment to make their relationship livable. That means that when a problem first surfaces, they go right to work fixing it, knowing that is they don’t fix it

soon, it can lead to an even bigger problem later.”

william harley

“Their marriage is not a test of how livable their relationship is, but rather, it’s a commitment to

make their relationship livable.”

That means that when a problem first surfaces, they go right to work fixing it, knowing that is they

don’t fix it soon, it can lead to an even bigger problem later.”

william harley

“That means that when a problem first surfaces, they go right to work fixing it, knowing that is they

don’t fix it soon, it can lead to an even bigger problem later.”