“ YOUNG ISRAEL OF HOLLYWOOD-FT. LAUDERDALE Rabbi Yosef Weinstock Rabbi Edward Davis, Rabbi Emeritus Dr. P.J. Goldberg, President 3291 Stirling Road, Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33312 954-966-7877 email: [email protected]www.yih.org SHABBAT SHALOM. WE WELCOME ALL NEWCOMERS, VISITORS AND GUESTS JOINING US FOR SHABBAT. PARSHAT KI TETZEI 11 ELUL 5777 SEPTEMBER 2, 2017 TORAH READING Deuteronomy 21:10 HAFTORAH Isaiah 54:1 Nach Yomi : Ecclesiastes 6 Daf Yomi : Sanhedrin 48 Friday Night 7:15 p.m. & 7:22 p.m. Candle Lighting 7:00 p.m. Minchah/Ma’ariv, Main Sanctuary 7:00 p.m. Minchah/Ma’ariv Sephardic Minyan, Library 7:30 p.m. Mincha/Ma’ariv in House across the street Shabbat Afternoon 6:30 p.m. Rabbi Weinstock’s Class : The Rabbinic Sermon in History and Halacha 7:15 p.m. Minchah, Main Sanctuary Seudah Shlishit after Minchah 8:19 p.m. Ma’ariv, Main Sanctuary 8:19 p.m. Shabbat Ends 2 SHABBAT MORNING SERVICES 7:00 a.m. Shacharit Minyan, Main Sanctuary 8:00 a.m. Shacharit Minyan, Upstairs Rooms 1 & 2 8:45 a.m. Sephardic Minyan, Library 8:45 a.m. Minyan, House across the street 9:00 a.m. Shacharit Minyan, Main Sanctuary. Please note: The Rabbi’s sermon and the D’var Torah from the Bar Mitzvah boy, David Leubitz, will be after Mussaf before Ein Keilokeinu. 9:30 a.m. YP Minyan, Chapel 9:00 a.m. Youth Minyan, this week will join the Leubitz Bar Mitzvah in the Main Sanctuary 9:30 a.m. Teen Minyan, Upstairs Room 5 - For Weekday Daily Minyanim see Page 6- SHABBAT SCHEDULE OF CLASSES 8:15 a.m., Parsha Shiur. 9:10 a.m. Chapel: Sefer HaChinuch Shiur, Rabbi Raphael Stohl, preceding 9:30 a.m. YP Minyan. Parsha classes with Rabbi Yitzchak Salid: 9:15 a.m. in Rm. 6, 10:15 a.m. in Kiddush room in house across the street (access through glass door on north side of house). After 8:00 a.m. Minyan, Social Hall: The Rest of the Story: Understanding the Haftarah, Rabbi Yitzi Marmorstein. 9:00 a.m. Shiur Boker for Teens with Rabbi Moshe Nachbar, Room 5 10:45 a.m., following the Minyan: Open individual & group learning, as well as Shiur in Sefer Hamitzvot with Rabbi Moshe Parnes. 6:00 p.m., : Gemara class (Hebrew) Tractate Gittin. 6:15 p.m., Library: Daf Yomi. 7:45 p.m. Modern Halachah for Teens with Rabbi Moshe Nachbar, Chapel. Between Minchah & Ma’ariv, in : Class with Rabbi Jonathan Hirsch. 11th and 12th graders are invited to attend. Immediately after Ma’ariv, Library: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 5-minute class to start your week off learning Torah. THIS PUBLICATION GOES TO THE PRINTER ON WEDNESDAYS. ALL SUBMISSIONS MUST BE IN THE SHUL OFFICE BY WEDNESDAYS AT NOON. THIS INCLUDES EVENTS, SPONSORSHIPS, NAMES FOR THE REFUAH SHLEIMAH LIST.
Orientation meeting: This Sunday, Sept. 3rd 10:00-11:00am upstairs in Rm 1-2.
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In Parshat Ki Tetzei the Torah says: But the Lord, Your God, did not want to listen to Bilaam. So the Lord, your God, transformed the curse into a blessing for you, because the Lord, your God, loves you. The difficulty with this Pasuk is that in Parshat Balak, we find no reference to a curse that ever leaves Bilaam’s lips. Balak, the King of Moav, wanted Bilaam to curse the Jews; but the only words that Bilaam actually utters are blessings. Taking note of this difficulty, Rabbi Yochanan in Masechet Sanhedrin (105b) teaches us: “From the blessings pronounced by that wicked man (Bilaam), you can deduce what was actually in his heart.” Perhaps the real danger is in fact Bilaam’s blessings. Praise can be given with two different intentions. I can give praise that encourages the recipient to strive and want to do better. Or I can give praise that causes the person to feel that s/he has no reason to work any harder. Psychologists today are concerned that in America we are raising a generation of over-indulged children. Although coming from noble and loving motivations, over-praise can backfire and make the child addicted to praise. It can give that child an unrealistic notion of his own capacity and talent, leading a child to reason that s/he does not need to strive for improvement; praise will be offered regardless. Bilaam as a prophet understood that praise can be extremely motivating or extremely harmful. His words were meant to lull Bnai Yisrael into a sense of complacency, with no accompanying call for improvement within Bilaam’s blessings. It is when people feel that there is nothing more to achieve that they are prone to complacency and failure. Moshe Rabbeinu was the greatest Jewish leader in history. And during his lifetime we do not find many instances in which he praises the people. On a few occasions, he defended Bnai Yisrael in the face of impending Divine punishment. More often he chastised the Jews, calling them “stiff-necked” and “rebellious.” It is only at the end of his life that Moshe offers blessings to each tribe as his last testament, in Parshat V’Zot Habracha. The true leader always wants better for his people, and therefore the bulk of his/her efforts is spent on getting them to realize their potential. Through his blessings, Bilaam was trying to convince B’nai Yisrael that they had already achieved far beyond what was to be expected. Inherent within Bilaam’s supposed blessing is the message that Bnai Yisrael were fine, even if they did not improve anymore, and even if they slacked off a bit. As we guard ourselves against the repercussions of over-praising we must be careful not to go to the other extreme. Recently, parents in Nashville Tennessee complained that schools were publicizing the names of students who made honor roll or attained other academic achievements. They were concerned that the publicity would harm the self-esteem of some of the non-honor students. A school attorney found an old Tennessee state law that prohibits the release of a student’s academic records without parental consent. In response, the schools stopped publicizing honor roll. One school refused to publicize the name of their Spelling Bee winner. A principal was not allowed to release the names of the high scorers from a school basketball game. In the end sanity prevailed, and Nashville schools once again publicize honor roll students - only now it is only with a parent’s permission. We must be on alert for excessive praise, but we should also be wary of any movement that seeks to either neutralize all achievements or ignore all of them equally. According to this philosophy, either everyone gets praised or nobody does. This is an incorrect and potentially dangerous attitude. As the story of Bilaam teaches, the way one praises/blesses others indicates our true feelings for that person. Let us be careful that our praise, for ourselves, our shul and each other, be heartfelt, realistic, and used as a motivation for reaching greater achievements.
Bahor ben Merhai (Boris Yusupov-Roman Yusupov’s father), Baruch Zvi ben Rivka Batya (Rabbi Dr. Brian Galbut-Daniel Galbut’s cousin), Binyamin ben Chemla (Binyamin Israel), Chaim Rafael ben Leah (Howard Rotterdam), David HaKohen ben Esther (Lev Kandinov’s father), Elchanan ben Shifra Rachel (Henry Goldberg-Ellen Rotterdam’s father), Eliezer HaLevi ben Chana (Leon Brauser-Joel Brauser’s father), Harav Yehuda ben Rivka Leah (Rivka Ginsparg’s father), Solomon ben Solika (Solomon Perez-Ilana Melnitsky’s father), Yaakov ben Mira (Jacques Vogel-Michel Vogel’s father), Yehuda Arieh ben Mindla (Philippe
Leiberman’s father), Yitzchak Chanoch ben Chana (Vanessa Shamah’s nephew).
Bracha Etl bat Chana Nehorah (Ettie Langer), Chaya Mariam bat Blima (Harriet Bloom-Wendy Goldsmith’s mother), Chaya Sara bat Dubra (Irene Berlin-Reva Homnick’s mother), Chaya Shayna Sara bat Chane Esther (Shaani Splaver), Devora bat Sheina Baila, Elka bat Tova (Leona Brauser-Joel Brauser’s mother), Masha bat Ruth (Marcia Chonchol-Craig Barany’s mother), Sara Leah bat Rochel (Cynthia Lynn Haber-Cheryl Hamburg’s sister), Sara Leah bat Bracha (Stacey Deutsch), Shira Raizel Esther bat Mina Zosha (Ruth Messer’s granddaughter), Tzirel Libah bat Frimed Mindel (Sylvia Lieberman-Philippe Lieberman’s mother),
Yocheved bat Tzril (Joan Niad)
If you know of a shul member in the hospital or who might appreciate a home visit, please let the Rabbis know by contacting the shul office. Please contact the office if
REFUAH SHLEIMAH
COMMUNITY NEWS
YIH Late Ma’ariv 9:30 p.m. Sun.-Thurs. and Early Minchah 2:00 p.m. Mon.-Thurs.
at Hollywood Community Kollel, 3670 Stirling Rd., in modular at Bnei Sephardim.
Sunday, September 10th, ZOA Florida presents Jump for Israel, a skydiving
fundraiser. To jump or/and sponsor go to tinyurl.com/jump4israel2017. For more
Holyland Judaica is taking orders for Lulavim and Etrogim.
To host the Bnot Sheirut for meals, please message Chava Berkower
at 3057852641 to host the Ben Gamla Bnot Sheirut and Melissa Burger
at 9542969627 to host the Scheck Hillel NMB Bnot Sheirut.
Help for Houston: Our thoughts and prayers are with the Houston
community. To donate, see the OU website: https://www.ou.org/giving/houston-
relief-fund/ If anyone is interested in volunteering in Houston at a time to be
determined, contact Rabbi Weinstock.
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BROTHERHOOD PARENTING TIP
Ten Guidelines for Healthy Discipline by Rabbi Shimon Gruen While it may be the least enjoyable part of parenting and educating, discipline and consequences are fundamental. A child who is not disciplined and never admonished will not only be less motivated to strive for more, but may actually sink from the level that he has already achieved. But the art of discipline is tricky. When done incorrectly it can leave lasting damaging effects. Criticizing a child the wrong way can hurt his self-esteem in the long run. These 10 guidelines are designed to foster healthy discipline and consequences. 1. Remember: Nobody is perfect When it comes to our own personal shortcomings we easily overlook or make excuses for our deficits, saying, “Nobody’s perfect!” Children are entitled to the same consideration. We need to temper our immediate reactions to their misbehavior with the knowledge that they’re not finished products. Keeping this in mind helps us be more forgiving and tailors our response to a more tempered and productive one.
Continued next week…..
NEW! WHATSAPP GROUPS FOR MEMBERS WITH CHILDREN PRE-K
THROUGH 8TH GRADE. TO BE ADDED, CONTACT RONIT KORNBLUTH OR
ALIZA MARKOVICH.
WE ARE OPENING A GROUP FOR HIGH SCHOOL PARENTS PLEASE
CONTACT RAV JAMES TO BE ADDED.
ELUL/TISHREI SERIES OF CLASSES
Tuesday, September 12th – Making the Machzor More Meaningful
Tuesday, September 26th – Phil Sinnreich Teshuva Lecture
Thursday September 28th – Rabbi Frand’s Teshuva Lecture (pre-recorded,
via interent)
Tishrei Holiday Workshops/Classes – 3 part series:
Secretary Tillerson: Iran “Must Leave” Syria and “Go Home” Recently, Secretary of State Rex Tillerson warned that Iranian forces in Syria “must leave and go home, whether those are Iranian Revolutionary Guard forces or paid militias…that Iran brought [from abroad].” The secretary touched on Iran’s role in destabilizing the region, saying, Iran is “persistent in [its] efforts to exert their influence across the Middle East,” and “it is our intent working with our allies in the region to push back on Iran’s expansionist efforts to destabilize areas, particularly Yemen, Iraq, [and] Syria, but we also see them in the theaters of Afghanistan.” Tillerson highlighted Iran’s “ongoing ballistic missile programs, [its] export of terrorism, [its] export of instability in Yemen, [and its] export of foreign fighters into Iraq and Syria.” Iran’s ballistic missile program, he noted, violates the “spirit of the [2015 nuclear] agreement.” President Trump has since signed into law The Countering America’s Adversaries Through Sanctions Act, which sanctions Iran for its regional aggression. Our synagogue partners with AIPAC, America’s pro-Israel lobby, in educating our
community on issues affecting the U.S.-Israel relationship. We encourage you to learn
more by contacting AIPAC at (202) 639-5200 or by visiting www.aipac.org.
AIPAC Policy Conference 2018: March 4-6, 2018
Join Rabbi Weinstock, Young Israel of Hollywood-Ft Lauderdale members, and
over 18,000 pro Israel citizen activists for 3 of the most important days for
exploring and strengthening the US-Israel relationship.
To register go to www.aipac.org/pc. We also have a block of registrations that
can be purchased directly from the shul. The following members are already
signed up as part of our synagogue delegation:
Sheldon Levin, Faye Fingerer, Walter Fingerer, Harold Zombek, Nancy
Zombek, Heather Sered, Dahlia Sered, Sam Sered, Lisa Baratz, Phil Baratz,
Jonathan Gelman, Wendy Gelman, Michelle Mendelsohn,
Jay Mendelsohn, Jayne Kaplan, Akiva Hershenov, Gabrielle Slomowitz,
Linda Slomowitz, Rabbi Weinstock, Tziviah Staiman, Maish Staiman,
Myra Shulkes, David Genet, Monica Genet, Jana Chesal, Michael Chesal, Lily
Rosenblatt, Joe Rosenblatt, Kayla Marks, Lynda Levin
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Time Program Age/Grade Location
Shabbat Day
9:00am Game Room Pre K - 4th Grade Room 3&4
9:00am Babysitting 18mth-Nursery 3 Modular
9:00am Shiur Boker with Rabbi
Nachbar
8th-12th Grade Room 5
9:00am Youth Minyan: This week will
join the Leubitz Bar Mitzvah in
the Main Sanctuary.
Families & 5th - 7th
Grade
9:30am Teen Minyan 8th-12th Grade Room 5
10:00am Shabbat Groups Pre K - 2nd Grade Rooms 2,3,4
& 6 10:00am Minyanaires 3rd & 4th Grade Room 1
7:15pm Teen Mincha Chapel
7:45pm Modern Halacha for Teens 8th-12th Grade Chapel
8:19pm Teen Maariv Chapel
This Shabbat
RAV JAMES IS OUT OF TOWN THIS SHABBAT AT THE BNEI AKIVA
NATIONAL LEADERSHIP CONFERENCE.
SAM MERKIN & DAHLIA SERED WILL BE OVERSEEING THE RUNNING OF
SHABBAT GROUPS THIS WEEK
DUE TO ROOF DAMAGE, BABYSITTING WILL BE IN THE MODULAR
9:00am Teen Shiur Boker with Rabbi Nachbar in room 5
Between Mincha & Maariv Teen Modern Halacha Shiur in Chapel
Sunday
9:30am Chidon HaTanach Study Group (open to MS & HS)
Wednesday
6:15pm Girl Scouts & Cub Scouts
7:30pm Boy Scouts
Thursday
8:00pm NCSY Latte & Learn at Dunkin Donuts
Weekly Youth Shiurim & Programs
Happening This Week
Shabbat Shmooze for Teen Girls
September 2, 2017 after Teen Minyan at YIH
NCSY Emtza Planning Meeting
September 3, 2017 more details contact Jason Segalbaum
High School Youth Council
September 4, 2017, 8:00-9:30pm Location TBA
To join the council speak to Michal Amar or Adina Hirsch
The first person to email [email protected] on Motzi Shabbat with the correct answer to
the following question will win a prize!
Elementary School:
If one saw a bird’s nest with eggs or young in it, was it permissible to take them for
food? What was the procedure in this kind of situation?
Middle School:
If a man's brother died and he as yet had no children, what was required of the living
brother and what was that called?
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D’var Torah : Rav James
This week’s Parsha contains numerous Mitzvot relating to a multitude of different things, yet sharing the themes of compassion and respect. One of the many Mitzvot found within the Parsha is that of Shiluach Haken, sending the mother bird away from her nest before taking her eggs or babies. When describing this Mitzva, the Torah uncharacteristically states that anyone who is careful to fulfill this seemingly easy Mitzva will be blessed with long life. The Gemara further points out that long life should not be translated as long life in this world but that anyone who keeps this Mitzva will be granted Arichat Yamim, eternal life, in the World to Come. Why would the Torah specifically single out this mitzva and describe its reward as that of long life? Rabbi David Tzvi Hoffman, in his writings on the Parsha points out that the Mitzva of honoring one's parents, also carries the same reward. Therefore he draws the conclusion that the Torah specifically wants us to compare these two Mitzvot. He further explains that there is a clear link between the compassion one must display for our own parents and the honor we must show a mother bird before taking away her children or her eggs. If we understand that we must honor an animal, such as the mother bird, we will understand the importance of respecting our parents, who nurture and sustain us on a daily basis. In Chorev, Rabbi Shimson Raphael Hirsch takes this analogy a step further, pointing out that the Torah allows and even encourages us to enjoy the world, with one restriction. We are commanded to make Brachot over this enjoyment. As such, a person is allowed to take and enjoy a bird's eggs but is first commanded to show respect for the mother. While the Mitzvot of Kibud Av Vaem and Shiluach Haken are logical, we must understand that we perform these Mitzvot because they were commanded by Hashem. It is for this reason that we are told the reward for these Mitzvot. The Torah is stressing that it is Hashem who rewards us for doing these logical Mitzvot. As Rashi points out, if the Torah rewards us for performing the seemingly easy (and logical) Mitzva of Shiluach Haken, certainly we will be rewarded for doing Mitzvot that are harder.
