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Value of Challenging Thinking

See Spatial-Relational & Question Conventional Consider Both Sides & Multiple Facets Gain a Wider, Bigger & More Novel Perspective Perceive Shades of Gray & Figure-Ground Stimulates Creative Confusion Grasp a Higher or Paradoxical Truth Encourages Daring & Defiance

Pablo Picasso: Every act of creation is first of all an act of destruction!

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Value of Healthy Aggression

1. Focuses Energy2. Sharpens Thinking3. Transforms Pain Into Purpose4. Heightens Drive and Discipline5. Fires Our Mind-Body Chemistry6. Ignites Passion7. Breaks Chains of Habit8. Strengthens Courage, Creativity & Commitment

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Art of Designing Disorder

A. Aware-ily Jump In Over Head1) Quick Assessment of Skills & Resources2) Anxiety & Loss Generates Rapid Learning

B. Strive to Survive High Dive1) Strive High and Embrace Failure2) Time Frame: Battles and Beachheads

C. Thrive On “Thrustration”1) Torn Between Direct Action and Frustration2) Take an Incubation Vacation

D. Design for Error & Opportunity1) Range of Possibilities Over Fixed or Ideal Goals2) Floundering through Confusion Over Illusion of Control; Self-Challenge

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Seven Keys for Unleashing Your Passion Power

Confront Toxic People or Situations Pursue a Passionate Path of Excellence Bring your Whole Self Work through Old Hurts Generate Collaborative Synergy & Gentle

Laughter Harness Time Pressure Embrace Evolution and Risk

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A GLIDE to Performance Excellence Purposeful and Passionate Practice

G = Goal Setting: Short- and Long-Term L = Learn to Love; Love to Learn I = Immediate Input then Insight D = Deliberate Desire E = Experiment & Expand; Evaluate & Evolve

Jonas Salk: “Evolution is getting up one more time than you fall down, being courageous one more time than you are fearful, trusting just one more time than you are anxious.”

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Don’t and Do PANICEmancipation Procrastination Tips & Techniques

P = Priorities and Perfectiona) Urgent vs. Important b) Selective Perfection

A = Avoidance and Advancea) Face Anxiety & Anger b) Beware 11th Hour

N = “No and Negotiate” and (Designated) Naggera) Balance Giving/Receiving b) Go Public

I = Initiation and Incubation Vacationa) Start Small b) Let Go, Break and Play

C = Compartmentalize and Creative Spacea) Multi-Tasking & “A” List b) Structure/Nurture Space-Time

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Managing Reorganizational Stress and Generating Team Synergy

Supervisor Wears Two Hats Rotate Facilitators Wavelength Segment: Task & Process Morning Huddles & Informal Lunches Cookout at Chief’s House Structured Monthly Staff Meetings “Big Five” Meetings

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Personality Strengths of CreativeRisk-Takers

Motivated by Constructive Discontent Not Preoccupied About Making Mistakes Tolerate Separation Anxiety & Ambiguity Physiologically Needs Variety and Complexity Harness Mania and Melancholy Energy Analyze and Play with New Relations & Patterns Admit When Wrong; Learn from Trial and Error Immerse Themselves in Their Mistakes Long-Term Fight for Their Beliefs and Baby

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Five “C”s of Power Struggles

Control Competition Change Cultural Diversity/Competency Communication Skills

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Three Key Communication Tips

Connect to the Four “P”s –Pain & Passion, Purpose and Power

Reduce Status Differential

Avoid All or None Thinking

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Unleashing Your Passion Power

Let Go of Toxic People or Situations Pursue a Passionate Path of Excellence Work through Old Hurts Bring Your Whole Self Generate Collaborative Synergy and Laughter Harness Time Pressure Embrace Evolution and Risk

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Unleashing Passion: Energy-Empathy Connection

Energy

EmpathyAliveness Autonomy

Awareness Conscious(Imagining)

Courageous(Daring)

Acceptance Compassionate(Listening)

Collaborative(Sharing)

The Four “P”s of Powerful Presentation

Motivational Method

Mode Gravitas Comedia

Cognitive Purposeful(Understanding)

Provocative(Wit)

Affective Passionate(Spirit)

Playful(Humor)

Managing Performance Pressure

Recognize Productive Pressure Start Softly, Build Naturally Generate Emotional Flow Find a Positive Audience Mirror Beware of Perfectionist Tendencies Challenge Old Voices Courageously Integrate Feedback

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Six “F”s for Managing Loss and Change

Let Go of “Familiar” Past Confront Unpredictable “Future” Acknowledge Loss of “Face” Get Support for Rebuilding “Focus” Seek Trusted, Objective “Feedback” Have “Faith” in Higher/Team Power

Albert Camus: “Once we have accepted the fact of loss we understand that the loved one obstructed a whole corner of the possible pure now as a sky washed by rain.”

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S is for Status Quo

With real conflict you cannot do business as usual.

U is for Underlying Motives

Conflict surfaces underlying feelings, issues and hidden agendas.

C is for Clarification

Conflict challenges people to take a stand and be more real.

C is for Creative Synthesis

Conflict does not just produce opposition; it can stir creative problem solving and consensus.

E is for Empathy

Conflict enables you to walk in your adversary’s shoes (or at least understand why he or she has bunions or calloused feet).

S is for Spontaneity

Conflict can release spontaneous and genuine emotions, including healthy anger.

S is for Strength

Conflict can strengthen a sense of trust and ultimately build more supportive and more productive, i.e., stronger relationships.