Skills to Face any AdversitySkills to Face any AdversitySkills to Face any AdversitySkills to Face any AdversityNaseem Mariam

Full-time Sr. Engg Manager ChennaiHobbies: Nutrition Advisor, Writer, Speaker, Mentor & Entrepreneur

Why?• Revolutions: Agriculture (farmers),

Industrial (Job), Information Technology (Knowledge workers)

• Current: Distribution of products, services, information, social networks (WalMart, hotmail, Google, orkut, twitter)

• No change in lifetimes; now change every Year: Between revolutions exists turmoil

• Skill #1 = ?? Willingness to Change

I am not now / That which I have been. ~ George Byron All things must change / To something new, to something strange. ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Nothing is permanent but change. ~ Heraclitus We must change in order to survive. ~ Pearl Bailey The art of progress is to preserve order amid change and to preserve change amid order. ~ Alfred WhiteheadProgress is impossible without change; and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.

~ George Bernard Shaw

Why? Life is Peaks & Valleys

Peaks are moments when u appreciate what u have; Valleys are moments when u long for what is missing. Control your Peaks & Valleys by what u believe and what u do.

U change your valley into a peak when u find & use the good that is hidden in the bad time. Ask: What is the truth of this situation? What am I ignoring? Refusing to accept? Make reality your friend.

A personal peak is a triumph over Fear. Celebrate it. Don’t try to escape your valley. Learn from it.

• Peaks & Valleys r not just good & bad times; they r also how u feel inside & respond to outside events. P & Vs are connected.

• Errors u make in 2days Good Times create 2morows Bad Times

• Wise things u do in 2days Bad Times create 2morows Good Times ~ Spencer Johnson

• Focus on others; change Self

Self-esteem & Positive Mental Attitude PMA

(a) Repetition of small tasks with Self-discipline• Get up one more time • u succeed => confidence

(b) Interactions with people(c) Audacity of hope

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. ~ Buddha

By doing what matters most in life ... moment by moment ...you'll be creating real success and happiness for yourself ... and influencing others along the way. Are u making each moment count?

To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are. ~ Muhammad Ali You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you,

and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. ~ Brian Tracy

Discipline & Accountability

Focus on others; discipline and change yourself -> Success<Focus on self; try to change others> -> Failures

Accountability results in:• Turning passion and energy into consistently

performing to maximum potential • Encourages a continual ‘raising of the bar’ on

achievements • Keeping the vision focused and on track – less apt

to be overwhelmed with ideas • Removing ‘limiting beliefs’ – accountability

highlights each success and achievement • Crystallizing larger goals into specific steps to

ensure action continues and passion remains

With self-discipline most anything is possible. ~ Theodore RooseveltBy constant self-discipline and self-control you can develop greatness of character. ~ Grenville Kleiser

In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves ... self-discipline with all of them came first. ~ Harry S. Truman

We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of

determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort. ~ Jesse Owens 

Coach Guru MentorTo be successful you must be able to have the IDEA;

recognize the right OPPORTUNITY; take appropriate ACTION; ensure FOLLOW THROUGH and drive the project to COMPLETION.

If any of these pieces are missing then the picture is not complete and success may always be just out of reach.

A coach helps to bring all the pieces together and create the right mindset needed.

Accountability and coaching are both extremely empowering tools for the students, because you do the work, not your coach.

All the answers, techniques and mindset are already within, and your coach will enable you to bring them out through a process of understanding, motivation, clarity, accountability and challenge.

My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. ~ Henry FordMy chief want in life is someone who shall make me do what I can. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are the same today that you are going to be in five years from now except for two things:

the people with whom you associate and the books you read. ~ Charlie Tremendous Jones

Knowledge + Action• Knowledge + Action = Experience ->

Expert• Listen, learn, read, mobile univ on wheels• Submission for wisdom; Leaders r Readers,

Listeners• Power of Spoken Word: Thoughts -> Words

with feelings+ emotions -> actions -> habits -> character -> destiny ~ Lao Tze

• Law of Attraction • Affirmations needs Action, Action needs

Plans, Plans need a Destination (dreams)

Watch your thoughts; they become words. … Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. ~ Lao-Tze

God grant me serenity 2 accept the things I cannot change; courage 2 change the things I can & wisdom to know diff

Action follows conviction, not knowledge. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

If a picture is worth a thousand words, one act is worth a thousand pictures. ~ English proverbWithout knowledge action is useless and knowledge without action is futile. ~ Abu Bakr.

K A + FocusAct on it – persistent, consistent small

steps committed <story: water dripping from the tap erodes the stone beneath>

Sub-skills required:• A sense of urgency tempered by self

discipline • A vision that is future focused and objective • The ability to set and stick to goals • Determination fuelled by confidence & passion • Predisposition for calculated risk-taking and

defying the norms • And a head for business, <ability to maintain

positive cash flow> <blinders and bridle for the horse; waterfall & dam>

Success is when skill meets opportunity; Failure is when fantasy meets reality ~ Brokins

What we think or what we know, or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence.

The only consequence is what we do. ~ John Ruskin

Internal work• Core values, ‘As within, so without’• Law of Correspondence: To raise

your income level, u must raise your quotients: E F G H R

• Ant (monkey, inner child) and the Elephant (physical body): Harness

• Avoid 3 Cs: criticize, condemn, complain

• Attitude of Gratitude• Self-talk, Affirmations (+Actions)

Identify top 5: Adventure Commitment Honesty Integrity Concern4Others Respect Balance Contribution Courage Hope Creativity Empathy Excellence Fairness Faith Family Freedom Friendship Generosity genuineness

Happiness Harmony Peace Health Humor Kindness Knowledge Leadership Loyalty Openness Perseverance Responsibility Self-Discipline Self-motivated Security Serenity ServeOthers Significance Recognition

Reward Beauty Career Entrepreneur Charity

Love Relationship & Communication

• To a child Love is spelt as T-I-M-E• You can only give what u have; core of self-

esteem & self-respect 1st step to people skills

• Ppl are 1000 times more interested in themselves than in u: WIIFM? Ppl don’t like being disagreed with. Smile. Show that u care before u share & serve.

• Others are a reflection/mirror of yourself. Birds of a feather flock together. What irritates u abt someone? Most probably u have that trait too. One finger pointing out =>3 or 4 pointing back at me

• Coach, Mentor reqd for daily improvement

To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be. ~ Anna Louise Strong

We look forward to the time when the Power of Love will replace the Love of Power.  Then will our world know the blessings of peace.  ~ William Ewart Gladstone I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved. ~ George Elliot

Leverage• Leverage: Invest little now 2 gain

great results later. Delayed gratification

• Invest your money regularly; make money work for u: 10% tithe 10% emergency fund 20% save

• Invest your time wisely; it is more valuable than money

• Invest yourself in others; in creating a network of friends by providing help, counsel, mentorship & leadership

The key is in not spending time, but in investing it. ~ Stephen R. Covey Being rich is having money; being wealthy is having time. ~ Margaret Bonnano

Time is at once the most valuable and the most perishable of all our possessions. ~ John Randolph The great dividing line between success and failure can be expressed in five words: ‘I did not have time’. ~ Franklin Field

Service for Success• Study success; individualize what success

means to u: 10 yrs, 5, 2 yrs from now, 1 yr, 6mo, 3 mo, 1 month later ?

• Avoid 2 mistakes: think u r right when u r wrong (b open to change) OR accept u r wrong when u r right (b patient till u succeed).

• Success & Failure r 2 sides of the same coin: Future vision perspective gives an event its meaning.

• Focus on your dreams. Find people who r today what u want to be. Do what they did. U will get tomorrow what they have today.

We need roots to grow and wings to fly. Values gives us roots. Success gives us wings. Freedom is not free. It is priceless. Give & ye shall receive. What u sow so shall u reap.

When we see –ves abt ourself, thank God for His Light. Accept with self-honesty medicine which is bitter but it heals. For those who would be free, the choice must be to see.

RecapSKILLS: Technical, Health (physical,

mental, emotional, values, spiritual), Relationship, Follower (shishya), Leader

• Self (discipline, esteem, faith, belief)Serve others Change self

• Knowledge applied, wisdom• Internal work, continuous improvement,

attitude of gratitude• Love, Relationships & Communication, • Leverage (time, money, friends

networks)• Serve for Success

Just do it ! Life is 10% what u make it and 90% how u take it. ~ Irving Berlin

How will u choose to respond to the challenge before u? The choice is yours. Always choose to Finish Strong.

New Day This is the beginning of a new day.

God has given me this day to use as I will.I can waste it or use it for good.What I do today is important, becauseI am exchanging a day of my life for it.When tomorrow comes,this day will be gone forever,leaving in its place somethingthat I have traded for it.I want it to be gain, not loss;good not evil; success not failure;in order that I shall not regretthe price I paid for it.

~ Author Unknown

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