1.BEYOND SCHOOL WALLS: SOCIAL MEDIA AND TEEN DATING Melinda Dubinski, MSW Kristen Herman, BS #SM4teens

2. WHO ARE WE?? Melinda Dubinski Turning Point at Peoples Place REAL Relationships Coordinator Kent & Sussex Counties Kristen Herman CHILD, Inc safe + respectful Coordinator New Castle County #SM4TEENS 3. WHO ARE YOU?? What are you hoping to get out of this presentation? How much experience do you have with social media? #SM4TEENS 4. OBJECTIVES Understand how teens use social media Discuss positives/negatives of teen social media use Why you need to be on social media Social media basics Experience familiarity with Twitter Incorporating social media to your organizations goals #SM4TEENS 5. WHERE ARE YOUTH? As of 2012, 95% of all teens ages 12-17 are now online. 81% of them use social networks. #SM4TEENS 6. WHAT?? FACEBOOK IS OUT? *CNET, 2014 #SM4TEENS 7. WHAT HAPPENED? Parents! #SM4TEENS 8. HOW TEENS USE SOCIAL MEDIA Activity % of teen SM users that engage in activity Send instant messages/chat with friends through social media site 88% Post comments on friends posts 87% Post a status update 86% Post a photo or video 80% Send private messages to a friend 76% Tag people in posts, photos, or videos 69% Play a game on social media site 50% *Pew Research Center, 2011 Older teens (14-17) are more active in all categories except social media gaming. Girls are more active in all categories except social media gaming. #SM4TEENS 9. Teens do NOT use social media in the same ways adults do. THINK: Where did you socialize with friends outside of school? #SM4TEENS 10. In the 1980s, the most popular hang out site in the U.S. was the mall a public space where teens could gossip, support one another, share information, flirt, joke, and goof around. Social networks have become the new stomping ground for teens. The site has changed, but the practices are quite similar. Social media is simply another place for teens to connect with friends. Adults are more likely to use social media for networking reconnecting with old high school acquaintances, find business connections, or date. *Boyd, 2001. #SM4TEENS 11. Normal part of healthy teen development #SM4TEENS 12. Identity vs. role confusion (ages 12- 18) Who am I?? Social relationships most important separation from parents and move to friends Exploring independence Developing personal identity Desire approval and social acceptance Likely to experiment with different roles and identities #SM4TEENS 13. Teens must work out how they envision themselves and how they want to be seen and then they must use tools to formally articulate this (Boyd, 2001) Creation of profiles Much time & effort devoted to the creation of profiles that reflect who they are and how they want to represent themselves to others. Constantly reevaluating #SM4TEENS 14. #SM4TEENS 15. SURE, SOCIAL MEDIA HAS DOWNSIDES Cyberbullying & Digital abuse One in six youth report being the victims of cyber bullying, which is abuse and harassment from someone other than a romantic partner (Urban Institute, 2013). One in four dating teens is abused or harassed online or through texts by their partners (Urban Institute, 2013). #SM4TEENS 16. Sexting 2% of all teens ages 12-17 say they have sent a sexually suggestive nude or nearly nude photo or video of themselves to someone else. 16% of all teens have received one of someone they know (Pew Research Center, 2011). Spend a LOT of time online Access to unhealthy/untrue media Privacy issues #SM4TEENS 17. PRIVACY ISSUES #SM4TEENS 18. BUT, SOCIAL MEDIA ISNT ALL BAD Find information privately and comfortably Connect with friends and family easily which teens list as their primary reason for being online Social media users are more politically and socially engaged in national conversations and movements. 69% of social media using teens say their experience is that peers are mostly kind to each other in social network#SM4TEENS 19. Nearly 65% of social media using teens say they personally have had an experience on a social networking site that made them feel good about themselves 58% of social media using teens day they felt closer to another person because of an experience on a social network site *Pew Research Center, 2011 #SM4TEENS 20. WHY SOCIAL MEDIA MATTERS Young people deserve real information, when they need it, how they need it. Social media is not going away we must embrace it! Prevention & awareness building #SM4TEENS 21. WHY SOCIAL MEDIA MATTERS Access to diverse youth across the world We can reach more kids with social media than in person Allows youth the ability to express themselves safely and positively influence others Can be used to reinforce curriculum material Youth need to hear messages 7+ times! #SM4TEENS 22. #SM4TEENS 23. WHO ELSE IS USING SOCIAL MEDIA? Pewinternet.org #SM4TEENS 24. Romanelli.com #SM4TEENS 25. Sg.news.yahoo.c #SM4TEENS 26. SO WHATS THE DIFFERENCE? Pinterest.com #SM4TEENS 27. HOW ARE WE USING SOCIAL MEDIA? #SM4TEENS 28. THE BREAKDOWN: #SM4TEENS 29. YOUR CHEAT SHEET Elliotdesign.us #SM4TEENS 30. #SM4TEENS 31. YOUR ACCOUNTS!! EMAIL: sm4teens_ @gmail.com SCREEN NAME: sm4teens__ PASSWORD: sm4teensde #SM4TEENS 32. CREATE YOUR PROFILE #SM4TEENS 33. FIND + FOLLOW: State Coalition Against Domestic Violence Non-profit in Delaware News Source Youth-Focused Twitter #SM4TEENS 34. LOVE IS RESPECT @LOVEISRESPEC T #SM4TEENS 35. ! CRISIS ! Disclosure #SM4TEENS 36. RESPONDING TO CRISIS 1. Be Prepared 2. Act Quickly 3. Take Charge 4. Be Sorry 5. Encourage Dialogue 6. Deliver on Your Word 7. Know When to Take it Offine 8. Learn Your Lessons #SM4TEENS 37. #SM4TEENS 38. Martinprint.com. #SM4TEENS 39. JOIN THE CONVERSATION! #YesAllWomen #BringBackOurGirls #NotBuyingIt #StreetHarassment #TeenHealth #SM4TEENS 40. ACTIVITY Develop a plan to implement social media into your organization/program #SM4TEENS 41. #SM4TEENS