Something we

cannot forget

Forgiveness is painful

The pain of life

The pain of death

God’s Calvary

Our own Calvary

Leads to life Leads to death

1 Peter 2:24He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and

live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.

Psalm 32:3-5When I kept silent, my bones wasted away

through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy

upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my

sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD" — and you forgave the guilt of

my sin.

Proverbs 3:7-8Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil. This will bring health

to your body and nourishment to your bones.

The Process

Stages

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

I do not admit that I am dying

In Dying

Blaming others

Setting up conditions

Blaming self

Looking forward

I do not admit that I am hurt

Forgiveness

Blaming others for our hurt

Setting up conditions to forgive

Blaming self for allowing others to hurt us

Looking forward to growing from our hurt