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1105 West 15th Street Plano, TX 75075 972-423-5600 St. Mark the Evangelist Catholic Community Wedding Guidelines
1105 West 15th Street
Plano, TX 75075
972-423-5600
St. Mark the Evangelist Catholic Community
Wedding Guidelines
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May the Peace of Christ be with you!
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. We wish you every blessing in this exciting life journey that you are making together. You have received this booklet because you have expressed a desire to celebrate your marriage in the Catholic Faith Community of St. Mark the Evangelist Parish, Plano, Texas. The booklet is meant to help you best utilize the resources of this community as you prepare for marriage. It will assist you as you choose your sacramental marriage preparation process, plan the celebration of the Wedding Rites, and nurture your relationship with a variety of support systems available. Please accept our offer of help, guidance and support in your time of preparation and celebration.
St. Mark Pastoral Staff
“May your joys be as bright as the morning,
your years of happiness
As numerous as the stars in the heavens,
and your sorrows
But shadows that fade in the sunlight of love.”
An Old Blessing
Revised November 2016
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Contact Information
Family & Adult Ministries
972-424-5794
Music & Liturgy Ministry 972-423-6041, ext. 231
Wedding Coordinator 972-424-5794
Parish Offices 972-423-5600
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Table of Contents
CONTACTS………………………………………………………………………………………….4 PREPARING FOR THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE ...................................................... 7
Marriage Preparation Requirements of the Couple ...................................................... 8
PLANNING THE WEDDING CEREMONY ........................................................................ 11
Order of Service (with Mass & outside Mass) ……………………………………………12 Ordinary Ministers of the Liturgy ................................................................................ 13 Planning the Music ..................................................................................................... 15 Music During the Wedding Mass ............................................................................... 16 The Use of the Church ............................................................................................... 18 Planning the Environment .......................................................................................... 20
CHECKLIST ................................................................................................................... 22
One Month Before the Date of Marriage .................................................................... 24 Rehearsal................................................................................................................... 24 Wedding Day ............................................................................................................. 24
AFTER THE WEDDING BELLS HAVE RUNG .................................................................. 25 PLANNING YOUR LITURGY ............................................................................................. 27
Old Testament Readings ............................................................................................ 28 New Testament Readings .. ....................................................................................... 35 Gospel Readings …………………………………………………………………………….39 Responsorial Psalm …………...……………………………………………………………..32 Consent…………….…………………………………………………………………………..43 Universal Prayer……………………………………………………………….………………44
NOTES ............................................................................................................................... 46
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Wedding Guidelines
for St. Mark the Evangelist Catholic Church
PREPARING FOR THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! The members of St. Mark the Evangelist Parish
are here to assist you and to celebrate with you as you prepare for the sacrament of your
marriage in the Catholic Church. The seriousness of the marriage commitment, which is a
witness to our beliefs, requires sincere and prayerful preparation.
The laws of the church require that each party:
be free to marry (never having been married before; free due to death of prior spouse; or free due to declaration of invalidity of previous bond);
have known each other at least six months;
have adequate ability to make a mature and deliberative decision about marriage;
have the emotional, psychological and spiritual capacities (abilities) to carry out the purposes of Christian marriage, form a community of life between husband and wife, and live a life of permanence and fidelity.
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MARRIAGE PREPARATION REQUIREMENTS OF THE COUPLE
1. Please contact the St. Mark Family and Adult Ministry Office for an initial meeting at least 6 months before your intended wedding date. The couple preparing for sacramental marriage is welcomed to their preparation process. Available marriage preparation programs are discussed and the couple completes their registration form/s at that time. The required prenuptial forms are also completed. The couple is asked to provide newly issued baptismal certificates with notations from the Catholic party/parties. Each fiancé is given a form to verify freedom to marry, to be completed by a parent, older sibling, or other older relative or family friend who has known the party since early adolescence.
Note: If there has been a previous marriage and a need for the annulment process is required (other than Absence of Canonical Form which can be processed on the parish level), the individual or individuals are assisted to begin the annulment process through the Family & Adult Ministry Office.
2. Marriage Preparation Program Options:
Together In Love (Not yet available in Spanish): This preparation program series is held two times a year (Fall and Spring). The process includes:
A. Three preliminary sessions held in the home of an assigned sponsor couple who assists with the completion and review of preparation materials including a personality tool and the premarital communication instrument called FOCCUS.
B. Participation in a 2 day Marriage Preparation Retreat held at St. Mark Parish. (Engaged couples and their Sponsors attend the Saturday and Sunday retreat together.) The Saturday schedule is 9:00 AM to 4:30 PM and includes a continental breakfast and lunch. The Sunday schedule is 9:00 AM to 1:00 PM. Sunday begins with 9:00 AM Mass. A special blessing for the engaged couple is part of the liturgy. A Sunday brunch and a final session complete the preparation process.
Advantages: The program provides one-on-one mentoring with a trained married sponsor couple plus the opportunity to interact with other engaged couples of the parish and their sponsors in a group-learning environment. The cost of the program is significantly less than the Diocesan Engaged Encounter since there is no retreat facility fee. Engaged couples make connections with other parish support groups and resources.
In Faithful Love (Available in English & Spanish): This preparation program series is designed to work in conjunction with attending the Diocesan Engaged Encounter Weekend. It consists of:
A. Two sessions held in the home of an assigned married sponsor couple to complete and review the FOCCUS premarital communication instrument.
B. Attending the Diocesan Engaged Encounter Weekend (Begins Saturday, 8:30 AM and concludes at 1:00 PM on Sunday).
C. The third and final session is held in the home of the sponsor couple to review preparation learning.
Advantages: The Engaged Encounter Weekends are scheduled periodically throughout the year allowing for flexibility of attendance.
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Convalidation Preparation: This program addresses the needs of couples that are already civilly married and are now preparing for the validation of their marriage within the Church. It consists of:
A. An introductory session held in the St. Mark Family & Adult Ministry Office to determine preparation needs of the individual couple.
B. Two sessions where the couple is assisted to complete and review REFOCCUS, a communication tool for married couples. This is often done in the home of an assigned marriage ministry couple. Note: If the couple has been married under a year, the FOCCUS premarital instrument may be recommended instead.
C. An additional preparation enrichment program is required. The couple will be given possible options to fulfill the requirement. Note: The couple will be assisted to register for a program occurring within St. Mark Parish or through the Diocese of Dallas.
Advantages: Couples preparing for the validation of their marriage often have special needs. Frequently, they have had no formal marriage preparation or enrichment. Some are preparing for a second marriage and may have unresolved issues. If there are children from a former marriage, there are many extra topics for the couple to discuss. This process allows individual attention to the couple’s particular marriage issues or concerns, addresses possible parenting needs, and provides sacramental preparation.
Note: If one or both parties are in the RCIA process, they are asked to begin their preparation as early as possible to avoid overlapping scheduling issues of preparing for reception into the Church and the
validation preparation process.
3. Supplemental Marriage Preparation Programs:
Creating a Healthy Remarriage and Family (Available in English and Spanish): This supplemental preparation covers the unique issues of marrying again. It addresses the challenges of the transition that occurs when there are children from one or both of the previous marriages. By appointment in the Family & Adult Ministry Office.
Natural Family Planning Classes (English and Spanish): In all St. Mark marriage preparation programs, the Church’s teachings on family planning are presented and engaged couples are encouraged to attend supplemental Natural Family Planning classes. A list of class series that includes dates, locations, and contact couples are provided through all programs.
Getting Married In the Church: Each January, an information evening is held to assist couples and their families as they prepare for marriage at St. Mark the Evangelist parish. It includes a focus on Christian Marriage, options for required marriage preparation, guidelines for weddings at St. Mark, and a mini-concert of frequently chosen selections for weddings. The St. Mark Wedding Coordinator, Directors of Family & Adult Ministry, Director of Music and Liturgy, and a clergy representative are present to give input and answer questions.
If you have any questions regarding the marriage preparation process, please call the St. Mark Family & Adult Ministry Office at 972-424-5794.
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4. Necessary documents you will need:
A. Newly issued baptism certificate with notations for each Catholic (issued no more than six (6) months prior to your scheduled wedding date) from the church of your baptism. Note: The date and place of Baptism is needed for the party of another faith expression.
B. Affidavits that testify to the freedom of each party to marry which are filled out and signed by a parent or someone who has known you most of your life and will attest to your freedom to marry. You will receive the forms at your prenuptial appointment in the St. Mark Family & Adult Ministry office.
C. Proof of completion of your marriage preparation program.
D. Marriage license issued by any county in Texas. The license is only valid for 90 days, so plan to obtain this near the end of your marriage preparation. Also, you must obtain the license at least 72 hours prior to your wedding date and time.
E. If you are completing your orientation appointment at St. Mark but marrying elsewhere, there are additional documents and information required. The completed Prenuptial forms will then be sent to your church of marriage.
F. If there has been a former marriage by one or both parties, proof of annulment in the Catholic Church will be required.
G. If a widow or widower is marrying, a copy of the former spouse’s death certificate is required.
As you can see, there is much to do for preparation of the sacrament of marriage. Please give yourself adequate time to get each of the above completed.
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PLANNING THE WEDDING CEREMONY
Planning the ceremony from the environmental setting to the choices of Scripture, music, prayers, and additional rites should be done as carefully as possible. The wedding ceremony will announce to all who attend how the couple understands their relationship with each other, with God, and with God's people.
If the fiancés are both practicing Catholics, the church invites them to be married within the Mass. For a marriage between a Catholic and a partner of another religious tradition (faith), the Liturgy outside Mass may be the best articulation of the faith union. This decision will be discussed at your prenuptial appointment.
At St. Mark the Evangelist, the priest or deacon, the Family and Adult Ministry Office, the Director of Music and Liturgy, and the Wedding Coordinator are prepared to assist you in your discussions, reflections, and choices for the best expressions of your love and faith. We would like to help you construct a celebration that is both reverent and truly beautiful. The Universal Church gives the overall ritual structure to us, but some pastoral options are available. The outlines on the next page will describe the difference between a Marriage celebrated within the contents of the Mass and a Marriage celebrated within the Liturgy outside of the Mass.
Included in this guideline booklet are suggested wedding ceremony readings, music and vows. You will select Bible passages from the Old and New Testament including the Responsorial Psalms and the Gospel. We have included a form for you to complete your selections. You will also give the names of the individuals who will participle in your ceremony as attendants, gift bearers, readers and/or cantors.
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THE WEDDING MASS Prelude (instrumental or sung music)
Entrance Rite Procession (instrumental music or hymn)
Greeting Gloria Opening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word Old Testament Reading Responsorial Psalm (usually sung) New Testament Reading
Gospel Acclamation & Verse (sung or omitted)
Gospel (priest/deacon)
Homily
Rite of Marriage Introduction
Questions before the Consent
Consent The Reception of the Consent Blessing & Giving of Rings Special Rites (optional: i.e. Arras, )
Prayers & Blessings
Universal/Prayer of the Faithful
Liturgy of the Eucharist Presentation of the Gifts (music) Preparation of the Altar Eucharistic Prayer Holy, Holy, Holy (usually sung)
Memorial Acclamation (usually sung) Great Amen (usually sung) The Our Father (Blessing and Placing of the Lazo or Veil) Nuptial Blessing Sign of Peace
Lamb of God Communion (sung or instrumental music) Prayer after Communion
Concluding Rite Blessing Recessional (instrumental music)
LITURGY OUTSIDE THE MASS Prelude (instrumental or sung music)
Entrance Rite Procession (instrumental music or hymn) Greeting Opening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word
Old Testament Reading Responsorial Psalm (usually sung)
New Testament Reading Gospel Acclamation & Verse (sung or omitted)
Gospel (priest/deacon) Homily
Rite of Marriage Introduction Questions before the Consent Consent The Reception of the Consent Blessing & Giving of Rings
Special Rites (optional: i.e. Arras) Prayers & Blessings Universal Prayer/Prayer of the Faithful (Blessing and Placing of the Lazo or Veil) Nupital Blessing Lord’s Prayer Sign of Peace Holy Communion Concluding Rite Blessing Recessional (instrumental music)
ORDER OF SERVICE
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ORDINARY MINISTERS OF THE LITURGY
Liturgy is a powerful form of communication. Your wedding liturgy, including the Scripture readings chosen, and those individuals chosen to assist in the liturgy, takes careful planning. Some liturgical ministers are a required element to the liturgy, others are optional:
PRESIDER:
The priest or deacon usually serves as the Church's official witness to the marriage as well as leading the liturgical prayer of the wedding rite.
LECTOR (S): Men or women who proclaim the Scriptures.
The lector (s) normally read the Old and New Testament readings and the Prayers of the Faithful. If there is no cantor, then the lector may also lead the Responsorial Psalm.
The Bride and Groom may elect to read or family and friends may be chosen, but they should be comfortable reading in front of others and have knowledge of the passage they are reading.
They need not be Catholic, but should share in the faith proclaimed in the Scriptures.
MUSICIANS: Musicians accompany the principal actions and sung prayer. All musicians are chosen in consultation with the St. Mark Music and Liturgy Department.
The Director of Music and Liturgy is the primary musician for all weddings. (See section “Planning The Music” for more details on page 15.)
NO TAPED MUSIC IS PERMITTED. All music is provided by the chosen musicians.
Fees are charged for parish musicians or those hired by the St. Mark Music and Liturgy Department.
CANTOR (S): Singer (s) who lead the community ’s sung prayer.
This would include the Responsorial Psalm, Gospel Acclamation, and other Mass parts.
He or she may also provide solos where chosen.
A fee is required for parish cantors.
If a couple decides to have a friend, family member or any non-parish musician sing at their wedding, a parish cantor must also be hired, unless the friend or family member is a cantor at another parish. All cantors are chosen in consultation with the Director of Music and Liturgy. Note: There may be an additional rehearsal fee if non-parish musicians participate.
MINISTERS OF COMMUNION: Men or women commissioned by the parish or diocese to assist in distributing the Eucharist when the wedding is celebrated at Mass.
Generally they are necessary only when offering both the bread and the wine.
Family or friends of the couple may serve if they are already commissioned as Ministers of Communion.
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ALTAR SERVERS: Young people of the parish who are trained to serve during the liturgy.
Family or friends may be invited to serve if they meet the qualifications.
Altar servers are not required for the liturgy, even if celebrating with a Mass.
Please discuss with the wedding coordinator as to the necessity of servers.
It is appropriate to give a small stipend to the altar server.
USHERS: Usually family or friends greet your guests and seat them.
Additional tasks may include passing out programs, escorting parents and other relatives, and assisting the attendants prior to the ceremony.
They are not required, but are recommended for any wedding in the church to assist with the flow of guests. Usually one usher for every 50 attendees is appropriate.
Groomsmen may perform the ushers’ duties.
GIFT BEARERS: Two or three individuals are chosen to bring forward the bread and wine to be consecrated if your wedding is celebrated in the context of the Mass.
If you have any questions regarding the liturgical planning, the Wedding Coordinator, the Family & Adult Ministry Office, or the Director of Music and Liturgy can assist you.
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PLANNING THE MUSIC
The selection of the wedding music should reflect the sacred nature and sense of joy that characterizes all Christian Worship. The music and words chosen for the marriage ceremony should sustain and support the prayerful nature of the liturgical celebration and be an appropriate complement to the scriptural readings and formal prayers of the rite. Some songs - even some that have been widely and regularly performed during and before weddings - are unsuitable based on the sacred aspect of the ceremony. Secular music may not be used for the ceremony. Only music that has been composed for use in liturgy may be used. Please note that love songs should reflect the love between a man and a woman AND God. The Director of Music and Liturgy can answer any questions you may have regarding proper selections for your wedding.
Make an appointment with the Department of Music and Liturgy.
The appointment may be made anytime during the preparation process, but all music selections should be completed, where possible, at least eight (8) weeks before the wedding.
Musical and Liturgical considerations for the ceremony will be discussed.
Guest Musicians
Guest musicians (string quartets, mariachi groups, guest vocalists, and guest organists) may be used only with consent of the Director of Music and Liturgy, who should be consulted prior to making any musical decisions.
The Director of Music and Liturgy’s fee is still required. The Director of Music and Liturgy will be involved in the selecting and planning of appropriate music, meeting your guest musicians, and the actual set-up on the day of the wedding.
Parish Musicians
The competent and qualified cantors and instrumentalists are available.
Music and Liturgy Department can assist you in selecting a qualified cantor or additional instrumentalists.
If you choose to have a personal friend or an acquaintance take part in the ceremony as a soloist or instrumentalist, the Director of Music and Liturgy MUST approve their participation based on their experience and skills.
There may be an additional fee for rehearsal time with the Director of Music Liturgy and guest soloist or instrumentalist.
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MUSIC DURING THE WEDDING MASS
PRELUDE - Instrumental or sung music while guests are being seated.
PROCESSIONAL & RECESSIONAL - Instrumental or sung hymn appropriate to accompany the beginning and the ending procession.
RESPONSORIAL PSALM - The Psalm should always be sung. The assembly should be encouraged to sing a responsorial refrain with a cantor singing the solo verses.
GOSPEL ACCLAMATION - The Gospel Acclamation (Alleluia in ordinary time) should always be sung. If it is not sung, it is to be omitted.
SPECIAL RITES - Following the Marriage Rite itself, there is often a time of lighting the unity candle or other special rituals, such as taking flowers to the statue of Mary. These rites are many times accompanied by music that is appropriate to the particular rite.
PREPARATION OF THE GIFTS - Instrumental or vocal music may accompany the presentation of the gifts.
EUCHARISTIC ACCLAMATIONS - The congregation should sing the three Eucharistic Acclamations (Holy Holy Holy, Memorial Acclamation, and the Great Amen.) The cantor/soloist leads the assembly in this integral parts of the liturgy.
LORD'S PRAYER - The Lord’s Prayer should be recited by the entire worshipping assembly. The Lord's Prayer should never be sung by a soloist during the liturgy. The prayer is offered as a prayer of the bridal party and the assembly as an integral part of the liturgy.
LAMB OF GOD - The Lamb of God, which accompanies the Fraction Rite or Breaking of the Bread may be sung in a familiar setting by the assembly, sung by a cantor, or recited.
COMMUNION - Music during communion may be instrumental, congregational, or a solo vocalist.
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APPROPRIATE MUSIC FOR WEDDING CEREMONIES
Please note that this is not a complete list of music for Wedding Ceremonies, but is instead a list of suggestions. The Director of Music and Liturgy can help validate music selections.
Psalms to be sung: Psalm 4 Psalm 33 Psalm 103 Psalm 128
Hymns in the Ritual Song Hymnal:
#670 All Creatures of Our God and King #737 Amazing Grace #744 Blest are They #846 All Are Welcome #914 Alleluia Sing to Jesus #941 A Nuptial Blessing #942 When Love is Found #943 Wherever You Go #944 Bridegroom and Bride #945 Blessing the Marriage #946 Love is the Sunlight Ave Maria (Schubert) Ave Maria (Bach-Gonoud)
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THE USE OF THE CHURCH
St. Mark the Evangelist is our parish home. We ask that you treat our facilities with the
respect and care that you would treat your own treasured home and possessions. Since this is
our Church, we further require that there BE NO SMOKING, EATING, CHEWING GUM,
ALCOHOLIC BEVERAGES OR ILLEGAL DRUGS in the church or classrooms. The wedding
coordinator will discuss these rules with you in more detail.
You are requested to adhere to the guidelines regarding the use of the church. Our parish is large and our church is used heavily on the weekends. Your consideration of other scheduled activities is appreciated.
SCHEDULING YOUR WEDDING REHEARSAL AND CEREMONY will be done at your initial appointment in the Family & Adult Ministry Office.
Weddings are ordinarily held on Saturdays. Hours for weddings are 11:00 AM,1:00 PM, and
3:00 PM. These times are set to insure that wedding parties have use of the facilities for an adequate amount of time.
When certain feast days and Holy Days of Obligation fall on a Thursday, Friday or Saturday, wedding rehearsals and weddings may not be permitted. For example, NO WEDDING should be scheduled on All Saint’s Day, (November 1), All Soul's Day (November 2), Christmas Eve, or Christmas Day. Note: Weddings may not be scheduled during the last 3 weeks of Lent and Advent.
There are no rehearsals in the chapel on Fridays.
The Family & Adult Ministry Office will be able to assist you if you have any questions regarding scheduling your wedding.
The Sanctuary and Church decor that reflects each liturgical season, even during the Ordinary Time of the church, will remain in place for weddings.
Weddings during the season of Advent should reflect the simplicity of the liturgical season. It is to be understood that Sanctuary and Church decor and symbols reflecting the season will remain in place.
During the Christmas and Easter seasons, the more elaborate Sanctuary arrangements are to be left in place. You may bring your own flowers if you wish, but sanctuary flowers, the Advent Wreath, or the Nativity will remain in place - they cannot be moved.
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The Bride's Room is available for use of bride and her attendants for dressing.
There must be a wedding Coordinator if the Bride Room is used.
Daytime Church weddings usually use the bride’s room located in the church narthex. . She will make sure that the room is open and ready for you to use.
Please remember that there is to be NO SMOKING, ALCOHOLIC BEVERAGES, FOOD OR DRINK OF ANY KIND ALLOWED in the Church or any of the Rooms you use. All rooms must be cleared out and picked up immediately following the ceremony. If you are using the nursery, please be sure all toys are picked up and returned to their proper place. You are responsible to remove all items you bring in.
Reservations of rooms for dressing will be made when you speak with the wedding coordinator.
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PLANNING THE ENVIRONMENT
All weddings scheduled in the main sanctuary must be supervised and coordinated by a parish wedding coordinator. They are the liaison between the parish and the professionals who will be working with you on the day of your wedding. You will be contacted prior to your wedding to make sure that the liturgy and music have been planned. The coordinators will answer any questions regarding the sanctuary arrangements, florists, photographers and other liturgical preparations. They will oversee the many church details for your wedding ceremony at the rehearsal and on the wedding day. The St. Mark Wedding Coordinator conducts the wedding rehearsal and supersedes all contracted professional coordinators. The Pastor of St. Mark has the final authority for all rules and regulations of St. Mark.
Note: Weddings scheduled in the smaller Chapel do not require a wedding coordinator. Any requests for music are still referred to the Department of Music and Liturgy when a wedding is in the Chapel.
FLORAL ARRANGEMENTS may be placed in the sanctuary.
Usually one or two large arrangement on the floor in front of the altar are sufficient. Your florist must provide protection for the floor. All arrangements in front of the altar must not be taller than the altar.
Fresh floral arrangements DO NOT have to be left in the sanctuary. Please plan to take all your arrangements with you following the ceremony and return the Church arrangement to their proper place.
We prefer that only the candelabras owned by St. Mark be rented from and used on the altar area. Your wedding coordinator will arrange the rental of these candelabras for you. ALL equipment that a florist uses or you rent from an outside company must be picked up immediately following the ceremony and not left on the St. Mark property.
Florists who are delivering arrangements to the church must understand that they may arrive only one (1) hour before the scheduled ceremony to drop off and/or decorate the sanctuary.
OTHER DECORATIONS for the ceremony may include one (1) pair of candelabras and/or a unity candle stand.
If you plan to use candelabras or a unity candle, your florist may set them up on each side of the altar. The candelabras should never interfere with liturgical movement in the sanctuary, and may never be placed behind the altar. Your florist must also provide some kind of protection for the floor. They must also provide candles that do not drip (usually the metal mechanical candles). St. Mark has a pair of candelabras and a unity candle stand available for rent. Speak to your wedding coordinator for details.
Pew bows or decorations may not be attached with any device or tape that may harm the wood finish of the pews.
All other decorative ideas are to be discussed with the wedding coordinator.
PLEASE DO NOT use rice, birdseed, bubbles, potpourri or confetti anywhere on the Church premises. Floral petals are not allowed. Aisle runners are prohibited. These guidelines are necessary for your safety. There is no janitorial service in the church throughout the day, and our church home is a very busy place on weekends. We appreciate your adherence to this policy.
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PHOTOGRAPHERS are usually an integral part of your wedding day. They are expected to follow the guidelines listed below.
Photographers may arrive one hour before the ceremony and take pictures in the church up to 30 minutes before the scheduled wedding time.
After the ceremony, only 30 minutes of photography is allowed due to the busy schedule in the Church on weekends.
No flash pictures may be taken during the wedding ceremony. Photographers must use natural lighting photography, so that the sacredness of the ceremony is not be disrupted.
Once the procession or entrance into the church has started, photographers may not stop each participant to take photographs.
Photographers are strictly prohibited from entering the altar area during the ceremony or within view of the people.
Photographers are not allowed to move the church furniture, (i.e. altar, ambo, candles, piano, etc.)
Fun or joke type photographs may NOT be taken any where in the church.
Photographers are asked to check in with the wedding coordinator when they arrive and go over the church’s policy and ask other questions they may have.
VIDEO TAPING is permitted from discreet locations in the church. Failure to follow these guidelines may result in being prohibited from video taping at St. Mark Church.
Videographers may arrive one (1) hour before the ceremony to set up.
Videographers should avoid being a distraction from the holy occasion.
Videographers may not enter the altar area, but they may set up in the corner of the choir loft, as long as they do not interfere with the musicians, or on the lower level to the right of sanctuary by the lower sacristy door.
Setting up a tripod and staying in one location is recommended as long as it is not in any major traffic area.
No extra lighting is ever allowed with video cameras.
Anyone who will be videotaping are asked to check in with the wedding coordinator upon arrival at the church and she can assist them in proper set up locations.
PRINTED PROGRAMS are very appropriate for a wedding liturgy and encourage congregational singing and response. These can be easily prepared and are thoughtful gestures inviting the community present to participate in the celebration.
Any questions you have regarding the environment of the church on the day of the wedding ceremony should be directed to the wedding coordinator.
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CHECKLIST FOR COMPLETION OF MARRIAGE PREPARATION
This is a helpful checklist to make sure you do not forget any necessary steps. Timing is very important for the completion of pre-wedding tasks.
_____ Make initial appointment with the Family & Adult Ministry Office to complete necessary
documents, begin your marriage preparation process and book your wedding dates.
_____ Name your Presider (the priest or deacon who will witness your vows.) If your Presider is not a
St. Mark priest or deacon be sure to contact him to see if he is available. We will need to know his full name, mailing address, and telephone contact numbers. All priests and deacons from outside the Diocese of Dallas must obtain permission from their bishop to witness your vows in another diocese. This permission is given in the form of a signed and sealed letter call a Celebret. It bears testimony that the priest or deacon is free from canonical censures. Please ask the priest or deacon you are inviting to provide this written permission to St. Mark. Letters can be mailed to St. Mark Family & Adult Ministry, 1105 W. 15th Street, Plano, TX 75075.
Register for your marriage preparation process at least 6 months before your
wedding date. (See page 8 for description of programs.)
Confirm your wedding and rehearsal dates/times with the Family and Adult
Ministry Office. All dates and times should be confirmed prior to ordering wedding invitations. _____ Make sure the Sanctuary Fee is paid within one month of the confirmation of your wedding
date. (For the chapel-1/2 fee is due For the church-1/2 fee is due.)
Catholics must provide a current Baptismal Certificate that is issued six (6) months
before the scheduled Wedding Day. Please call or write to your church of baptism - they will provide the Baptismal Certificate. Individuals baptized in other faiths will be asked to provide date and place of Baptism.
Complete a “Proof of Free Status” form for the bride and groom (forms are in your
packet from your Marriage Orientation Session with the Family and Adult Ministry Office). These forms should be signed by a parent, sibling, long time friend or professional person that can and will state you are free to marry within the Catholic Church. In other words, you have not been validly married previously, are not related to the person you are marrying or have any other impediments such as a required annulment.
Provide a copy of your Certificate of Completion from your marriage preparation program (s) to
the Family and Adult Ministry Office.
Select readings for your wedding ceremony. Selection are included in this booklet. (See
page 27.)
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____ Talk with your Wedding Coordinator to discuss details regarding flowers, photographers, sanctuary arrangements, etc. Please be sure to discuss our guidelines and policies with your florist, photographer and videographers. All couples planning weddings at St. Mark in the main sanctuary are required to have a St. Mark Wedding Coordinator.
Contact the Director of Music and Liturgy to plan your music. It is important to call
prior to making any formal music plans, especially regarding other musicians. Please call at least twelve (12) weeks before your wedding.
Call the Parish Office for an appointment to meet with your Presider when your
marriage preparation program is completed or nearly completed. Two or three months before the wedding is an appropriate time.
The 2nd sanctuary fee installment, is due two months before your wedding date,
please mail or take to the St. Mark Family & Adult Ministry office. (For use of the church and the chapel).
Complete final signatures on prenuptial documents and return all forms to the Family &
Adult Ministry Office.
Plan to attend Reconciliation if your are Catholic before your marriage either privately
with a priest, or during the regular scheduled reconciliation times.
Out of town marriages. All steps should be completed six (6) weeks prior to marriage. The
final documents may have to be sent to our diocesan offices before they are sent to the church of marriage. This takes time, so start early!
Those with previous marriages (Catholic or non-Catholic) must provide declarations of
nullity, certificates, or other information as necessary. Please ask for more information if you are unsure of your situation.
____ Return the “Selection Form” to Family & Adult Ministry or to your wedding coordinator.
Note: For couples marrying in the chapel return the form to the Family and Adult Ministry Office to be given to your celebrant.
All documents can be mailed to St. Mark Family and Adult Ministry Office, 1105 West 15th
St., Plano, TX 75075 or bring all documents to the St. Mark Family and Adult Ministry Office,.
Please plan appropriately for each of these steps. If you need further assistance with any part of your preparation, please call 972-424-5794. We are all delighted to assist you as you plan for your life together within the sacred bond of Christian marriage.
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ONE MONTH BEFORE THE DATE OF MARRIAGE
Obtain your Marriage license from any county office in Texas 90 days to three 3 days (72 Hrs.) before the wedding. The Plano County Clerks Office is located at 900 E. Park, Suite 140C. The phone number is 972-881-3025. There are three Dallas County Clerks Office locations: Downtown Dallas in the Records Building at 501 Main St., 1st floor, phone number, 214-653-7131; North Dallas Government Center at 10056 Marsh Lane, Suite 137, phone number 214-904-3032; and East Dallas Government Center at 3443 St. Francis, phone number 214-321-3182. It is recommended that you call before going to any of the County Clerks Offices to confirm that you have proper paper work and fees.
Both parties need to be present (if both parties cannot be present, please call county office).
Bring identification (birth certificate, valid driver's license, valid passport, or military ID) and Social Security number.
Bring fees in cash.
REHEARSAL
Rehearsal times are scheduled for 6:30 PM or 7:30 PM, on Friday and will be no more than 60 minutes long.
Arrive on time (plan 30 minutes ahead of scheduled rehearsal time) with all members of the wedding party present. Rehearsals must get started on time because there are usually several scheduled on the same day.
Give the Marriage License to the wedding coordinator so she may give it to the priest or deacon. If the wedding will be conducted in the chapel take the marriage license to the Family and Adult Ministry Office. The Parish Office sends your completed license to county offices.
ALL stipends must be paid on or before the wedding rehearsal. Please bring stipends and fees and give them to the wedding coordinator. (If the wedding s in the Chapel and there is no Wedding Coordinator, please bring stipends and fees to the Family and Adult Ministry Office.)
WEDDING DAY
Arrive at least 1 hour before the wedding. You may arrive one (1) to one and one-half hours (1 1/2) before the wedding if you wish to dress at the church. You MUST be at the church 45 minutes prior to the wedding.
Bring all decorative items that you previously discussed with the wedding coordinator. (i.e. pew bows, programs, guest book, unity candles, etc.)
Photographers may arrive one (1) hour before the ceremony, and take pictures in the church up to 30 minutes before the scheduled wedding time.
After the ceremony, ONLY 30 minutes of photography is allowed.
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AFTER THE WEDDING BELLS HAVE RUNG!
We at St. Mark the Evangelist want you to know that we care about you,
not just as you prepare to get married, but also after you are married. If you
should decide to make our faith community your spiritual home, we extend
a warm welcome to you in whatever way we can.
There are many recreational, educational and fellowship activities
available to you. Please check them out. When you call, tell them you are a
newly married couple in the parish.
The Family and Adult Ministry office exists to support and nurture family
life in and among our faith community. They offer marriage enrichment
opportunities, couple groups, and professional counseling services. We
have many other ministries to serve you. There are a multitude of ways to
feel part of the parish family by becoming involved in worship, outreach,
fellowship, community life, and Catholic education.
If you plan to make St. Mark Parish your faith family home, we welcome
you warmly!
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Planning Your Liturgy
Suggested Readings from the
Old Testament, New Testament, Gospel,
Responsorial Psalms, Vows & Universal Prayers.
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Old Testament Readings
Genesis 1:26-28, 31a
Male and female he created them.
A reading from the Book of Genesis Then GOD said: "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” GOD created man in his image; in the image of GOD he created him; male and female he created them. GOD blessed them, saying: "Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” GOD looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.
Genesis 2: 18-24 The two of them become one body.
A reading from the Book of Genesis The LORD GOD said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.” So the LORD GOD formed out of the ground various wild animals and various birds of the air, and he brought them to the man to see what he would call them; whatever the man called each of them would be its name. The man gave names to all the cattle, all the birds of the air, and all wild animals: but none proved to be the suitable partner for the man. So the LORD GOD cast a deep sleep on the man, and while he was asleep, he took out one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. The LORD GOD then built up into a woman the rib that he had taken from the man. When he brought her to the man, the man said: “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; This one shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body. The word of the Lord.
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Tobit 8:4b-8
Allow us to live together to a happy old age. A reading from the Book of Tobit On their wedding night Tobiah arose from bed and said to his wife, “Sister, get up. Let us pray and beg our Lord to have mercy on us and to grant us deliverance.” Sarah got up, and they started to pray and beg that deliverance might be theirs. They began with these words: “Blessed are you, O God of our fathers; praised be your name forever and ever. Let the heav-ens and all your creation praise you forever. You made Adam and you gave him his wife Eve to be his help and support; and from these two the human race descended. You said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; let us make him a partner like himself.’ Now, Lord, you know that I take this wife of mine not because of lust, but for a noble purpose. Call down your mercy on me and on her, and allow us to live together to a happy old age.” They said together, “Amen, Amen.” The word of the Lord.
Proverbs 31: 10-13, 19-20, 30-31 She who fears the Lord is to be praised.
A reading from the Book of Proverbs
When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. Her husband, entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize. She brings him good, and not evil, all the days of her life.
She obtains wool and flax and makes cloth with skillful hands. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her fingers ply the spindle. She reaches out her hands to the poor, and extends her arms to the needy.
Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her a reward of her labors, and let her works praise her at the city gates.
The word of the Lord.
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Song of Songs 2:8-10, 14, 16a; 8:6-7a
Stern as death is love.
A reading from the Song of Songs
Hark! My lover -- here he comes springing across the mountains, leaping across the hills. My lover is like a gazelle or a young stag. Here he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattices.
My lover speaks; he says to me, “Arise, my beloved, my dove, my beautiful one, and come!
“O my dove in the clefts of the rock, in the secret recesses of the cliff, Let me see you, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and you are lovely.”
My lover belongs to me and I to him. He says to me: “Set me as a seal on your heart, as a seal on your arm; For stern as death is love, relentless as the nether-world is devotion; its flames are a blazing fire. Deep waters cannot quench love, nor floods sweep it away.” The word of the Lord.
Sirach 26:1-4, 13-16 Like the sun rising in the LORD’S heavens,
the beauty of a virtuous wife is the radiance of her home.
A reading from the Book of Sirach Blessed the husband of a good wife, twice-lengthened are his days; A worthy wife brings joy to her husband, peaceful and full is his life. A good wife is a generous gift bestowed upon him who fears the LORD; Be he rich or poor, his heart is content, and a smile is ever on his face. A gracious wife delights her husband, her thoughtfulness puts flesh on his bones; A gift from the LORD is her governed speech, and her firm virtue is of surpassing worth. Choicest of blessings is a modest wife, priceless her chaste soul. A holy and decent woman adds grace upon grace; indeed, no price is worthy of her temperate soul. Like the sun rising in the LORD’S heavens, the beauty of a virtuous wife is the radiance of her home.
The word of the Lord.
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Jeremiah 31:31-32a, 33-34a
I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah. A reading from the book of the Prophet Jeremiah
The days are coming, says the LORD, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah. It will not be like the covenant I made with their fathers: the day I took them by the hand to lead them forth from the land of Egypt. But this is the covenant which I will make with the house of Israel after those days, says the LORD. I will place my law within them, and write it upon their hearts; I will be their God, and they shall be my people. No longer will they have need to teach their friends and relatives how to know the LORD. All, from least to greatest, shall know me, says the LORD. The word of the Lord.
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Responsorial Psalms
Psalm 33:12, and 18, 20-21, 22 The goodness of the Lord.
Response: The earth is full of the goodness of the Lord. Blessed the nation whose God is the LORD, the people he has chosen as his heritage. Yes, the LORD’S eyes are on those who fear him, who hope in his merciful love. (Response) Our soul is waiting for the LORD, He is our help and our shield. In him do our hearts find joy.
We trust in his holy name. (Response)
May your merciful love be upon us, as we hope in you, O LORD. (Response)
Psalm 34: 2-3, 4-5, 6-7, 8-9 Bless the Lord.
Response: I will bless the Lord at all times. Or: Taste and see the goodness of the Lord. I will bless the LORD at all times, praise of him is always in my mouth. In the LORD my soul shall make its boast; the humble shall hear and be glad. (Response) Glorify the LORD with me; together let us praise his name. I sought the LORD,
and he answered me; from all my terrors he set me free. (Response)
Look toward him and be radiant; let your faces not be abashed. This lowly one called; the LORD heard, and rescued him from all his distress. (Response) The angel of the LORD is encamped around those who fear him, to rescue them. Taste and see that the LORD is good. Blessed the man who seeks refuge in him. (Response)
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Psalm 103: 1-2, 8 and 13, 17-18a The Lord is kind and merciful.
Response: The Lord is kind and merciful. Or: The Lord’s kindness is everlasting to those who fear him. Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all within me, his holy name. Bless the LORD, O my soul, and never forget all his benefits. (Response) The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and rich in mercy, As a father has
compassion on his children, the LORD’S compassion is on those who fear him. (Response)
But the mercy of the LORD is everlasting upon those who hold him in fear, upon children’s children his righteousness, for those who keep his covenant. (Response)
Psalm 145:8-9, 10 and 15, 17-18 The Lord is compassionate.
Response: How good is the Lord to all. The LORD is kind and full of compassion, slow to anger, abounding in mercy. How good is the LORD to all, compassionate to all his creatures. (Response) All your works shall thank you, O LORD, and all your faithful ones bless you. The eyes of all
look to you, and you give them their food in due season. (Response)
The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his deeds. The LORD is close to all who call him, who call on him in truth. (Response)
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Psalm 148: 1-2, 3-4, 9-10, 11-13a, 13c-14a Praise the Lord.
Response: Let all praise the name of the Lord. or: Alleluia. Praise the LORD from the heavens; praise him in the heights. Praise him, all his angels; praise him, all his hosts. (Response) Praise him, sun and moon; praise him, all shining stars. Praise him, highest heavens, and the waters above the heavens. (Response) Mountains and all hills, fruit trees and all cedars, beasts, both wild and tame, creeping things and birds on the wing. (Response) Kings of the earth and all peoples, princes and all judges of the earth, young men and maidens as well, the old and the young together. Let them praise the name of the LORD, for his name alone is exalted. (Response) His splendor above heaven and earth. He exalts the strength of his people. (Response)
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New Testament Readings
Romans 8:31b-35, 37-39 What will separate us from the love of Christ?
A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans Brothers and sisters: If God is for us, who can be against us? He did not spare his own Son but handed him over for us all, will he not also give us everything else along with him? Who will bring a charge against God’s chosen ones? It is God who acquits us. Who will condemn? It is Christ Jesus who died, rather, was raised, who also is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. What will separate us from the love of Christ? Will anguish, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or the sword? No, in all these things, we conquer overwhelmingly through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
The word of the Lord.
Romans12: 1-2, 9-13 Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.
A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans.
I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice,
holy and pleasing to God, your spiritual worship.
Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you
may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect.
Let love be sincere; hate what is evil, hold on to what is good; love one another with mutual
affection; anticipate one another in showing honor.
Do no grow slack in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.
Rejoice in hope, endure in affliction, persevere in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the holy
ones, exercise hospitality.
The word of the Lord.
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Romans 15: 1b-3a, 5-7, 13
Welcome one another as Christ welcomed you. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans
Brothers and sisters: We ought to put up with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves; let each of us please our neighbor for the good, for building up. For Christ did not please himself. May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to think in harmony with one another, in keeping with Christ Jesus, that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Welcome one another, then, as Christ welcomed you, for the glory of God. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
The word of the Lord.
1 Corinthians 12:31—13:8a
If I do not have love, I gain nothing.
A reading from the first letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians Brothers and sisters: Strive eagerly for the greatest spiritual gifts. But I shall show you a still more excellent way. If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. The word of the Lord.
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Ephesians 5:2a, 25-32
This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the Church. A reading from the Letter of saint Paul to the Ephesians Brothers and sisters: Live in love, as Christ loved us and handed himself over for us. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the Church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. So also husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the Church, because we are members of his Body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the Church.
The word of the Lord.
Philippians 4:4-9 The God of peace will be with you.
A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Philippians
Brothers and sisters: Rejoice in the Lord always. I shall say it again: rejoice! Your kindness should be known to all. The Lord is near. Have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God. Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Keep on doing what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me. Then the God of peace will be with you. The word of the Lord.
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Colossians 3:12-17
And over all these put on love, that is, the bond of perfection. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Colossians Brothers and sisters: Put on, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do. And over all these put on love, that is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of Christ control your hearts, the peace into which you were also called in one Body. And be thankful. Let the word Christ dwell in you richly, as in all wisdom you teach and admonish one another, singing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in words or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
The word of the Lord.
Hebrews 13:1-4b, 5-6b Let marriage be held in honor by all.
A reading from the Letter to the Hebrews Brothers and sisters: Let mutual love continue. Do not neglect hospitality, for through it some have unknowingly entertained angels. Be mindful of prisoners as if sharing their imprisonment, and of the ill-treated as of yourselves, for you also are in the body. Let marriage be honored among all and the marriage bed be kept undefiled. Let your life be free from love of money but be content with what you have, for he has said, I will never forsake you or abandon you. Thus we may say with confidence: The Lord is my helper, and I will not be afraid. The word of the Lord.
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Gospel Readings
John 15:9-12
Remain in my love. + A reading from the holy Gospel according to John Jesus said to his disciples: “As the Father has loves me, so I also love you. Remain in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy might be in you and your joy might be complete. This is my commandment: love one another as I love you.” The Gospel of the Lord.
R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
John 15:12-16
This is my commandment: love one another. + A reading from the holy Gospel according to John Jesus said to his disciples: “This is my commandment: love one another as I love you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father. It was not you who chose me, but I who chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit that will remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name he may give you.” The Gospel of the Lord. R. Praise to your Lord Jesus Christ.
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John 17:20-23
That they may be brought to perfection as one.
+ A reading from the holy Gospel according to John
Jesus raised his eyes to heaven and said: “I pray not only my disciples, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, so that they may all be one, as you, Father, are in me and I in you, that they also may be in us, that the world may believe that you sent me. And I have given them the glory you gave me, so that they may be one, as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may be brought to perfection as one, that the world may know that you sent me, and that you loved them even as you loved me.
The Gospel of the Lord.
R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
Matthew 5:1-12a
Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.
+ A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain, and after he had sat down, his disciples came to him.
He began to teach them saying:
“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the land.
Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the clean of heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.
Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you
and utter every kind of evil against you falsely because of me.
Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.” The Gospel of the Lord.
R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
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Matthew 5:13-16
You are the light of the world.
+ A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew Jesus said to his disciples: “You are the salt of the earth. But if salt loses its taste, with what can it be seasoned? It is no longer good for anything but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A city set on a mountain cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and then put it under a bushel basket; it is set on the lamp stand, where it gives light to all in the house. Just so, your light must shine before others, that they see your good deeds and glorify your heavenly Father.” The Gospel of the Lord. R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
Matthew 22:35-40
This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it. + A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew One of the Pharisees, a scholar of the law, tested Jesus by asking, “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” He said to him, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.”
The Gospel of the Lord. R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
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Mark 10:6-9 They are no longer two, but one flesh.
+ A reading from the holy Gospel according to Mark Jesus said: “From the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate. The Gospel of the Lord. R. Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.
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Consent
Version 1: In statement form. Bridegroom:
I, (name) , take you, (bride’s name) , to be my wife. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life. Bride:
I, (name) , take you, (groom’s name) , to be my husband. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.
Version 2: In question form. Questions to Bridegroom:
(name) , do you take (bride’s name) to be your wife? Do you promise to be faithful to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and to honor her all the days of your life?
Bridegroom: I do. Questions to Bride:
(name) , do you take (groom’s name) to be your husband? Do you promise to be faithful to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and to honor him all the days of your life?
Bride: I do.
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Universal Prayer
Version 1:
Priest: Dear brothers and sisters, as we call to mind the special gift to grace and charity by which God has been pleased to crown and consecrate the love of our sister_____ and our brother______, let us commend them to the Lord.
Reader: That these faithful Christians, ______and ______, newly joined in Holy Matrimony, may always enjoy health and well –being, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer. That he will bless their covenant as he chose to sanctify marriage at Cana in Galilee, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer.
That they be granted perfect and fruitful love, peace and strength, and that they bear faithful witness to the name of Christian, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord, we ask you, hear our prayer.
That the Christian people may grow in virtue day by day and that all who are burdened by any need may receive the help of grace from above, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord, we ask you, hear our prayer.
That the grace of the Sacrament will be renewed by the Holy Spirit in all married persons here present, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord, we ask you, hear our prayer.
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Priest or Deacon: Graciously pour out upon this husband and wife, O Lord, the Spirit of your love, to make them one heart and one soul, so that nothing whatever may divide those you have joined and no harm come to those you have filled with your blessing, Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
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Universal Prayer
Version 2:
Priest: Dear brothers and sisters, Let us accompany this new family with our prayers, that the mutual love of this couple may grow daily and that God in his kindness will sustain all families throughout the world. Reader:
For this bride and groom, and for their well-being as a family, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer. For the relatives and friends, and for all who have assisted this couple, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer. For young people preparing to enter Marriage, and for all whom the Lord is calling to another state in life, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer. For all families throughout the world and for lasting peace among all people, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer.
For all members of our families who have passed from this world and for all the departed, let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer.
For the Church, the holy People of God, and for unity among all Christians,
let us pray to the Lord.
Lord , we ask you, hear our prayer.
PRIEST or Deacon:
Lord Jesus, who are present in our midst, as _______ and _______ seal their union accept
our prayer and fill us with your Spirit. Who live and reign for ever and ever.
Amen.
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