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Stepping Up: A CAll to CoUrAgeoUS MAnhood exCerpt Booklet
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contents
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What does it ake to Be a man?
1 i Ca i Cua 3
2 Cua Vay 10
3 tm S U 19
4 Wa rbs M Cua? 26
he Fst Ste: Byd
An Age o Exploration and Discovery
5 ta Bas g Mau My S
6 Wa evy By ns
7 S U as a da
8 Yu Ca d i!
he Seon Ste: dlScc
An Age o Pushing and Pulling
9 t Wss Yas
10 Usa lasca
11 Wa evy ta By ns
12 evy Mas Ba
he h Ste: md
An Age o Stepping Up Again and Again
13 A Ma euac
14 t Cua ia
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v c o n t e n t s
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16 t Cua rss tma
17 t Cua Bv
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An Age o Investment and Impact
18 A Maj lau tabaz
19 M n o M
20 Bcm a gaa Mss
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An Age o Infuence and Relevance
21 l B
22 A Yu d Ma a dc?
23 Quas a paac
24 Fs W
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ma ma s sa m. p w a
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ssby.
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m bcm a y-ya- asc, i ma
sm a ss wa ma. i ca yu w au i am
g ps cua, a a was assv w cam
my vm.
Sm yas bac w i a my ds ray v a a
a m u s b, y b m a
Sauay m ams y yas a, bu sa y w m.
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f o r e w o r d
t mssa a ds uacs s cm b s c a
cca c u ams, u cucs, a u a. p-
as yu a sam s a b vbw. i ca assu yu a s.
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ay w w a wa a ma s. ty bam. W m
s u a mbac sass vs, amas
s w a w a ms mac s m w av u
mm sy.
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m a w ca b a a g as ca us b.
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What oes t take
to be a an?
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3
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Courage is not the absence o ear,
but rather the judgment that something
else is more important.
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w sus sm bmbs as a aw
a ba a w City o Los Angeles, a bmb mss.
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cu, cam bac u . . . bac rs ac. W- s-
us, bu a 1,300 s, bas sm uu cab a
as uus avc rs ys a s.
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bmb s was a u ma bua, w a
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4 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
mus bmb bay, cas ca b vy
ay bw u.
o mayb was a aav, a ma a cua.
gabb w- cas s a, r ew sumb
aca, wav by by sc wa cc
ww. Suy, c w avas ab a bc s
a cc. S a, w bmb bw s am a
b ca, a w s ac ab a qu b
as as a . W a as su y, r scamb
cc a fu w ba u a a u wa was pacc. A cas a szz
a.
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aab aa, sums cm a a was a m
u abv cas suac. A w m scs, a ay a-
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A m a acc, s by was s sm, s-
us m y su ac m cs sca a
mb fc m s s. h s a s ya w s ys sw su
a u m a y sus.
ev w a Cssa Ma h a au s c,
wu aways ba mas a by sa by umaab a.
ve an on boa was
save, bt re wns
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i c A L L i t c o u r A g e 5
Y r ew wu v a u c a sv ac-
s a. h wu as cac l lau ams, w Aabama
Cms t ba, cuc Suays, a m a
ca w Vas Amsa.
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iv aways v ss abu cua. My avs a s abu m
w cu mssb a aus ba accms
a s s bsacs a scbab asmenwho didtheir duty under re.
i bv s sm cs a ma a ss a
uqu way ss cua. ts a c vy mas a a
s b cuaus, b b a usy a c a mascu ma
bavy uma asca. i u as, w w a a a
c u ma s cua.Bu may m az a au ms us av u
a sy, sm- ba, a us ac bas a ma
cua.
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r ew, w s s awa a s ca cv
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a. ty w sca, bu y ac ayway.
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ra cua s yu uy u . A w a ac suas
uu u vs a qu a y cua. Va a m,
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6 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
c u wvs a c. Ma cua maac. B-
cm m g ca us b, s wav ssus w ac
w.
Steng u means wnng u
is v a s u, v w a masscay w a
masac u w aus a s s w s wv
wu. n ws s b a Mca.
Ma ss a ms, Mca was aay ca s w. h a cas w a Aa ma;
y maa wu as a s as asv
yas. Bu was cus ba a c, a ba way.
Mca w s was a wc, s c a suc was
way u. oy cu u w . h ma b, a
a, bu a sw wa bw, ca s ma w m.
Bu s a a ca. S a s a-suc am,
Mca auc was av. i Aa a i wa
av ay w u maa, says. i jus ay
wa .
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m a cuus vc as. ty scv a a
a was mss, s y vc a ay. A , sa
cu w vc cs, Mca sa vs s w
a aam.
W a a , Aa says, a sa m wa was
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Mca aa. Aa av m. ty av maa
a y. ty v mv a cy b a w .
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i c A L L i t c o u r A g e 7
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aa.
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css s sc aa w yas. i a b abu u
ms. h sa, aa, a wa a vc a a s su v
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Aas m a a a avsm u W rmm-
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uasu cus baby , Mca a v a y. t
as a awa sm m, ca m say
a a u.
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usa a wa gs us was my , says, a i -
y cu usa wa hs v ma. W sas s-
cuss c a Cs ca ma a ss , Mca cas,
F s m i c us Jsus Cs w my a maa.
Mca ba a ss cua, a a. o Sa-
uay cc w, ca Aas as a
az css a ma a wa a u
m u. t, sva ms a a a s bu
he eates o athehoo
awakene soethng n h, ang
h to sta athe than n.
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8 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
us, a Aa w w vws. Smms as cu-
a was .
r ews a Mcas ss a abu cua. B m s
u. rs bavy m b m bvus a cba, bu Mcas s
ss c. ds s aus, Mca w s ssby a
scu s maa. As vss a bcm a ssb us-
ba a a was a bav, b s, a w.
n invtaton to the Jone
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i as a w, im v yu a vy sm y wu
vs wa mas b a ma a way s . im
ca yu w cca css a vy ma mus ma u
v sc sas ss ma. F s yu w a suc
w ss, i sa acca ways yu ca usuc as u v. A i a abu wa vy by a yu ma
s m a a, a aa, a uc, a b, a ma.
im v a abu a ssv subjc sm yu: w a
ma s s a g.
B a sm cfc us a ms as yu wa
u s b. A w a a ay vs s mausc
w m a a c m wa w u aa as
a sam m.
t s a, sa, vv a s w a s as
acs w m. o sc a, u abu ma i
was, ma i am, a ma i b ay. t a -
qu am s as w g. h az w s
bu was m gs v a vss.
t u a, sa, was ms ma m. i ma
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i c A L L i t c o u r A g e 9
a acy wu av b. Wa w my c say
abu m, my , my us, a my as w g? t qus
s, am i v m, my, g? d i ay u hm s, s a
jus us a? h az was v muc msa
was au a a ss b was a.
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w abu yu w c, abu yu a, a abu
a -s- ccs yuv ma v yu m. My s a by
m yu s, yu w b cua step up a b ma
yu ba.Bu yu may av as muc m a as yu . Yu ba
cu b au c.
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2coage n
the Vae
The moment you enter the Valley o the Shadow o Death,
things change. You discover that Christianity is not
something doughy, passive, pious, and sot. . . .
The lie o belie teems with thrills, boldness, danger,
shocks, reversals, triumphs, and epiphanies. t s , c a
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ou au rbcca, w vs a sa, w ab a
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s w a s a usba, Ja, wu cac us w
baby was b.
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A 5:45 a.m. i was awa by a : is a ! i sm a
w bac s, w y ca w y w ab.
t was sc y mus.
t ca cam.
W a a a My was b, s cy u mus.
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c o u r A g e i n t h e vA L L e y 1 1
t cs w suscus a a mumu, a My a b
ws away aa sv-ca u a Cs hsa
dv. n ws w c.
Soethng is Wong
W ma av aams, a wv us a w wa
Cs hsa wa aa, w w w by Ja. A
w a ws, Sm s w w Mys ba.
i mmay u, Fixing a heart is one thing. Thats dangerousenough. But brain surgery? Thats much more serious.
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ac v a My, a mmay ba w. S a ubs a
ws aac smy vy a by. W w su as w
wac y cs av, ab ba. Ja was s u
, a wa b s uc us u aau.
du wy-u us, w wac ssy as Ja a
rbcca cv ws a My a a massv ba auysm. ty
w a sc sv w vm, v ga (
maj v a cas b c ba) a v v
ms amu b a a ma ba cvs, a a as a su,
muc Mys ba was .
instant, what was sose
to have been a ong oes
ontanto eebaton o new
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nto a ak, avenos vae.
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1 2 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
isay, wa was sus av b a yu cus mua-
cba w bcam sa a a a a, cavus
vay vay saw a.
ty w y s . i a v c ay
s. Wa cu a a ma, a a, a aa a css
s? hw s a ma ac s w as aquacy a , us -
v v a cm s amy s?
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uy as a ma a i a aca. i css s s
a- vay, i was abu scv a cua. t
w mms w i a m quss a as a cua. hw
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s vs ms sa?Fuay i was j by a maJas a, B Muz. B
s a ma a as b ma pam sc 1977. ty a b
u vay b w a pam s sb s, sv-
m- Jaa, w w a baub.
o ay a a m, B a i u uy. Sm w mua u-
s uc, u as, ca amy a s, a c-
u amy mmbs a a. o mms w ay bu
u. Mys sv-ay was ma by ms umaab,
z-am sass w cu v ccv. l s a c c-
c m w u wvs a wac Ja a rbcca cv
ws m cs a My wu y qucy a su-
. ta s wu qu wy -a sus,
a v u sm macuus mas s suvv, s wu b
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c o u r A g e i n t h e vA L L e y 1 3
b. My wu v sa. S wu y v a, v wa,
v . . . t scs cus as a .
As B wu a ca, o ms cu s m as a
ma a a was ma s as rbcca a Ja w m
ccs. i was cs, m. B us a a as
cua b s.
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ts sv ays Mys w ms ca mms my. n cms cs. Bucs as. h my w, au, a
Ja w y sbb. A as umaab as sus, w cca-
ss w w a au m.
t as ay Mys ay was uab.
Au , rbcca a Ja a us as aas by
v us v My a say -by. n usc w a a. W wa b m mm
w cus au.
Babaa was s. i was qu a mauv ma su a ws a
ubs a w su Mys a, bu ay
s was ams. Babaa say w muc a was
s css k. S cs a c ws v
a ama v bauu ac. h bac as was mssb.
Jas as sa a y cu. W was Bs u,
s ac, y ws s v , a sa s av
scus w . pam bam as s y c My a sa Jsus
lvs M . B B a pam jus , ss ac,
as, a w as y sa -by.
As My was ac my ams, s s wam, jus vy
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1 4 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
wb. i s , a i ub a s cz Jsus lvs
M as i c u a w ws u as.
Ja, w was va, as m, paa, wy yu My a
sy . . . yu Sc p ss? ts a avu ss
y a quay y caus w v a ma-bv,
mcscc w, ac ay umb cas a ma cua
a a. ou s w a w s y- ss, a w
i am m my as. t ss aways a Sc p
vy a . . . a i cs by say, A yu av
wa u mw a s sy.i s Ja, Yu a as m a a iv jus
bubb my way u a sm s Jsus lvs M, a yu?
Ja was j by rbcca say a su ysy wu
m .
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ac, a ba my sy: A Sc aa a s Scaau w s y Sc s . . . My sy was ss a
sy scs , a w i u rbccas ac, s a
bs , ms a a. S was v mm.
As i ccu my sy, i My, t Sc aa a
aau s a a m, a y cu
sm yu wu v c bv . . . a yu w av wa
u i av a s sy.
A s i was sbb, bu i ws u . . . a rbcca a
Ja sa au. rbccas au as aways b caus, a i,
, ba ay au.
o a mac s a a us a b y -
My, aa a sss a m b m a
by cu a. S as i ba au, Ja a i a a
a y m s was sss sysm, bu s
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c o u r A g e i n t h e vA L L e y 1 5
was a. h y saua, wc a b a 80 c, s
u 92 c, a 94, 97, 98, 99 . . . W jus au, a
y v cmb 100 c, a v a ac wy-u
us. A u us c My.
i was a mm s a mysy. A sma , as?
Ys, ub. Bu a ac vay saw a, g
av us au.
Csas a y w ca au ms suc a
css wu saw w w w a a. hav s ca
bcaus wa Jsus Cs us u hs a u ss. B-caus h vs, w w bv a ac u sa us hm av
a a. i a ma acs a Cs vss s
ss a sus s l, ca b ca av .
is uma as wy a s a u w Cs.
A s wy w cu au as u bv My was abu av us.
t au s, a as fw aa as i was was
m m say -by. rbcca was w My. Babaa a
i bs as i a a -by :
Mighty Molly
i jus m yui ca.
i wa say -by.
i w i y s yu a cu cas s
y, w b , ay.
he aghte stoe, an the
teas fowe agan as i was to t
was te o e to sa goo-be.
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1 6 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
S i wa say -by.
Yu w aways b my My, my aau.
im ay sa a i w b s yu
w a , sa cca,
a yu c-cam as,
a a cca a u.
lau a m a wa yu mmmy a ay wu say
y w wa w w .
i wa say -by.
Yu sv ays su bu a jy yu mm a asacs. iv wac m yu w ys, ss yu
m a , s a cass yu.
Yu as v yu wg cu av v yu b
as. Cuaus as.
ty av v yu w a sacca v a y a vy w
s yu v c.
Bcaus us as s muc,
, w i ay wa say -by.
A s, sw My, u a ay av
w w w cba ass u g ,
( w w sa cca a a c-cam a)
i MUSt say -by.
g-by, My A.
i v yu, paa.
lessons o the Vae
rfc bac s m-ac, v-s-s sv ays, i w
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c o u r A g e i n t h e vA L L e y 1 7
u y a vy , i summaz sss m my
juy.
i a ma b cuaus, mus w u
abu w g s. Cua a vcms a cms m
cvcs, a cvcs abu a a cm m
u Scu.
t ass a ma a vasa css s mv
a a .
A ma sa as yu w yu bcuaus w juy u vay. B Muz was
a ma my vay.
i as a acs cua a ma uy ac a css
s ms. t aua cy s u away m m
y y s yu w b ss a ma bcaus yu
sb ucaby. pasu a a w b ma bc by m. F m, a cua.
i as a acs cua a ma v s m
css ms y m m a b a
sam ac s.
A ma s ss cuaus ac w a sua a ca
a abu wc s w wa , bu cs u
g ay, h m, g!
A ma ca av ubs a s s u.
A ma s av usa a gs uss s u
a b hs ma.
A umb yas a, Babaa a i w vaca suws
ea a sumb u w Sa Buya, a cssa
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1 8 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
cuy w a ub, a cay cuc, a a avya. W s a
a a w avss. o a was bay b cmmma a
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Lie shrinks or expands in
proportion to ones courage.
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2 0 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
i ssab sma a muc m asy. S a as mss
u s, i u w a qus i w wu ca
au ab. is a qus i v as m: Whats the most coura-
geous thing youve ever done?
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s, a awwa sc ca suy sc, suc ws u
m. Ms bas s cac a a u. Yu ca ams s
m s a sac, y css. A y iv scv
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m uy v asw.iv a s ss m uy a y s
vs. B au wvs w by was . gv u
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a my mssa, i c a abu s saby
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2 2 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
ay bsacyu as, yu scus, yu ssss a sa
s u u ssbs h as v yu.
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manhoodas ua s cucuum: A a ma jcs assvy,
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wav bs yu a assay sz yu assm.
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bcm a cuc a. Ma assvy s a sas a bs a ma s
us w sys maas, us ams, a ss acs. A
t ts oe, assvt s owae.
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t i m e t o s t e p u p 2 3
assv ma s a; as. h cs sa ssby.
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is, s , a w a muc abu cwas? n ma
was b ab a cwa. isa, w scvy vau a ac-
a m w sz mm a a acm w s u
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w as s am a cmbac u qua,
c c w scus s a s w , busssma w
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i ays a w s aacs Smb 11, 2001, i was
mss by ss cuaus m w a wa s bu
w ws a s sacc vs s. py naa c Wall Street Journalw s w a m
a bac:
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m. ty a a m, way a, m w u
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w w bu wav as s ac.
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2 4 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
ysca cua, s a wss us b
s.
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bacs bu w u u wa was a cuy, sa
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ty c a , a y my. ty s.
ty u. May av vs.
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bmbs, bu w a a ba a sam. is a u ams
a u uu. A s w m w a w bavy
s u a b u, cuaus m g as s m b.
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sam a mm s m uw ua a
wc wu bcm s s u.
evy ma as a as wc s uquy su. Yu may av
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t i m e t o s t e p u p 2 5
W yu a a yu ma a a yu , my
ca yu s s: ss ba, yu us w sm m
s, a s s. B a s w s
w yu s u.
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2 6
4What robs men
o coage?
Most o our obstacles would melt away i,
instead o cowering beore them, we should make
up our minds to walk boldly through them.
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way Caaa, av s a a cu w s m
ms. t s uca ass u Was, dC,
m s a mmbs Css sa quas.ta was cas a A naa Cmy, w uas
av ssy s v a tmb Uws vy u
vy ay sc Juy 1, 1937. W uca , ss ma
a ss v u y w v mss s s.1
tas wa a s s. h acws sm, bu s
v . h sas m.
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muc m ma s a i sa ua v vmy w a
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w vy sms a s b us cua, au a m
us c u uy a aba u ss. ts sms a ac
sm w. A yu ay m?
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w h At r o b s m e n o f c o u r A g e ? 2 7
Sto o. 1: danabe anng
b Fathes
i c m a ma w w u a m sc u cuy. h a-
m a y avc cv as a by m s a abu
wm was
g m yu.
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ass w m a s. ts s y msu a-
ma a as cu s may m as as
msss m w c wvs a c s a w
s a m.
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w y , a-a ams a ss may m
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c. hs a a m a sma a ba w s sa avc,
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2 8 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
s u ssbs. is ay w w av a a
m w s a amss, w w ac as
y abu msvs, wm, a w asss?
Sto o. 2: Fatheess Faes
t ss, w ws a cuu vc av u
amy , a w a as w as m. W u
vc as a cas umb bs s wm (ay
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m a ub sc 1978.3
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: a s AWol a may ms ay. ts m as
m dav Ba, u isu Amca Va-
us, uc a ass amy s a sca v ms a a us s. i ss a aca au m
vuay a uma sy a c.4
t sca mcas ass ams a ss. F am,
as c a c u sc, cmm a
cm, a s s a m wu a a. May yu
w u ay aas w y au ma ms y w a
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w h At r o b s m e n o f c o u r A g e ? 2 9
v- bys a as. t au as y jus bu: a c
wa yu m a usa wm w a a m.
o as cas ay by cu u s y bcm
a ma wu a a sw m w. hw ca a by w wa s
bav as a ma, v a ma, a b a ma ba ma
ma s as aba m?
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as as. h ws a ssu cua s cm u
cvsas:
May [s yu m] a w a. . . . i a
sma u ams v as y yas s as
ams suaz a a ucay. dvc, s
s-a uss, a ac assm abus
a ysuc u ams av uc a a w
may yu w a aa s, a aa ma
msas.
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m cac w as, y a as w w
ac a v ay mau as. W a
w a acy m w vay s av b mz.
ty a uca abu w a wa a ma s, a w a ma
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3 0 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
sa w m a a b au cass a w w ss
bu v: ma, ma, msua ma, msua ma, a as-
. n w yu m a cus a yu wm a w-
w a m a! W v a mu-cc cuu: a yu
a A, B, C, d, e? Ma suay a y av bcm a bw
aay s.
t wa mus b yu bys w u ay. Ma
us a ucaa s aac aa s m a cam
a a ma w ss b a a s amy s acuay ss s w
a c. ou cuu s ma w suay, w c as c mssas a s mas a a a yu a a
as w. t ucaa sysm s sm w w
ac bys, a as a su, s a a aa s scs, c -
m, a aua as. Bys a casy mca bcaus
as w w ca mascuy, avu, a v.
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i wa s sms s a a m w w w
b m. ty w w av a assw wm,
w c, w m. A may w u w wa i ca
a cua cy av a wa cua s a ma,
wa ys cuaus ccs y ma as y mv u
vs.
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v m sa ssy way. M. ray,
as cu yas, iv ma a a w c, sa, a
iv m a i w w maa. A i w
w amy. Cu yu m?
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w h At r o b s m e n o f c o u r A g e ? 3 1
ts yu ma acua wa ms yu m a
ayaqua, au, ay, a sa ma
a a vs.
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t Bb s may ss m bav bays m,
ma m, a as m w u cm-
ms, us, mu, jausy, a, assvy, cwac. Scu
as m as y ay a, bmss ba-bac ways. t sy Scu s ass i w a
Bb wu b ac a wa a a ma su b
a . i ba u Scus, cus assas
a a abu m a ma, a a way, i scv v
va ms.
1. A man controls his emotions and passions.W s ma,a a ma ams s asss. h s abus wm a c;
cs m. h s s as a wma w s s w, a
as s w w v, sc, a y. h s s ys -
ac mas. h cs a s wmas vy a cc. hs
a j by s s bw was. hs a ma w a a,
a, a cscc.
2. A man provides or his amily. Fs tmy 5:8 s us, Bu
ay s v s w, a scay s s us-
, as a a s ws a a ubv. ts a
s ws. W a ma s w a v s amy, s
a ss sam. hs s-w ss. A ma w s w, w ca
a jb, w mvs m jb jb, w uss assum s s-
sby cas scuy s w a c. evy ma s -
v s amy.
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3 2 w h At d o e s i t t A k e t o b e A m A n ?
i a ms m a aua ss ssby s aa,
bu may sm usa a v amy mas
m a m ysca s. i as mas a ssby
v ma a sua s. A a su a s c
a a m bcm ssb aus w w w a
sw a smms v cus cuu.
3. A man protects his amily.t bw a usa m J p
a Way gum ssc mascuy: W yu a y
b w yu w, a yu a su a ww b
yu c a 3:00 a.m., yu sa awa a say, t as m sccu, i was w u basba ba a vsa s
sm was ba u us. nw s yu u, swa.
hs ba!?6
n! tas w ma s u.
Bu b a c cas m a su ysca say. pv-
bs 4:1015 scbs a a w cs s s by ass wsm, m bu y caac, a ac m jc s a
mas w. ts a s c y s s bu
as w as wsm sas s ass a .
4. A man serves and leads his amily. ts w wsservea
leadmay sm a cac, bu y a saab acc
Scu.
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a w, qucy us s ay s a s as
aws ay m ss ma mac. h cms sc w
as Cs as s a cuc. t assa s say
a usbas su v wvs jus as Cs as v cuc
a av hms u (vs 25).
ts as a cu as a s cay w w
vws . A ma s ca b a sva-a a ssby
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w h At r o b s m e n o f c o u r A g e ? 3 3
s w a c a u s aa s w. h s ca
msa sss, sacca v y v w s g
wa hs c.
5. A man ollows Gods design or true masculinity.Mca 6:8 s us, h
as yu, o ma, wa s ; a wa s l qu yu
bu jusc, v ss, a wa umby w yu g?
t c a mas su b s as w g. t ma
w was umby w g s mva a mw s u a
assum cu ssbs a cm s way.
Yu s, a cuaus ma s v uy.
Wa abu Stepping Up a m scuss w yu s? Vs
Famyl.cm/rsucs a s quss a a s.
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Chapter 1
1. t sy eu r ew s by au bas
ma u Mas S. hy e. r ew, A
Fc es ha isu, ://www.a.m/ma/
a/s.as?c=&=123006484; a J l. Fsb,
r ews psa puay, Air Force Magazine72, . 10
(ocb 1989), ://www.ac-maaz.cm/MaazAcv/pas/1989/ocb%201989/1089va.as.
Chapter 3
1. J p, Whats the Dierence: Manhood and Womanhood
Dened According to the Bible(Wa, il: Cssway Bs,
1990), 19.2. py na, Wcm Bac, du, o Jua, Wall
Street Journal, ocb 12, 2001.
Chapter 4
1. Sv V, tmb guas Sa S tu isabs
ta Sw, Washington Post, ocb 2, 2003.
2. daa m naay daa Ss, naa Va Sascs Sysm, c
Sa J. Vua, Ca pas nmaa C-
ba U Sas, National Center or Health Statistics
Data Brie, . 18 (May 2009).
3. U.S. Csus Buau Cu pua Suvy, lv
Aams C U Sas v tm, naa
hay Maa rsuc C, accss dcmb 15, 2010,
www.aymaa..
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3 5
4. dav Ba, Fatherless America: Conronting Our Most
Urgent Social Problem (nw Y: hapa, 1996), 49.
5. Caw ls, Leadership as an Identity: The Four Traits o
Those Who Wield Lasting Infuence(Cca: My pubss,2009), 185.
6. Aa m J p a Way gum, s., Recovering
Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical
Feminism (Wa, il: Cssway Bs, 2006), 43.
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3 6 n o t e s
abot the atho
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ds ray s s a Ceo Famyl (a msy
Camus Cusa Cs) a a aua daas tca Sm-
ay. F m a y-v yas, as b sa a w
maa a amy ssus. Sc 1976, as vs vm
Famyls umus uacs, cu ua W
rmmb maa away. h s as ay s aay
syca a am FamilyLie Today. h a s w, Babaa,
s l rc, Aasas, a av s au c a sv
ac.
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