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Stilettos on Fire!!

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INTRODUCTION BY SONYA FARRELL 2015

‘Loving Eyes’by Jim Knipe

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Loving Eyes

Looking from one part to another…

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Loving Eyes Procedure – Jim Knipe

Difficulty in holding Dual Attention

Alternative to Phase 3 of the EMDR Standard Protocol.

Client feels too much or too little…

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes Procedure…

Step 1: Adult part + Safety in room – Visually witness the childhood trauma as a separate person from the Child.

Step 2: “Just see this child, see whatever you see..”. BLS - Constant Installation of Present Orientation of Safety (CIPOS) may be needed if the Adult self experiences the feelings of the child.

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes Procedure…

Step 3: Adult – Fearful of Child part? Defence.

Client - focus on the positive feelings associated with the defence – Short set of BLS

Blocking Beliefs Questionnaire

Clients positive self statement is then installed as a Resource.

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes Procedure…

Step 4: Client can freely see the Child – “When you look at the child can you see the child’s feelings”? BLS

Step 5: “When you look at that Child, how do you feel about the Child”? BLS “Can she hear you”?

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes Procedure…

Step 6: “Is there anything you know now as an Adult that may be helpful to that Child, something that Child doesn’t know”? “ Stay with that” BLS

Step 7: If the client says that the Child is “scared that we see her” or is “scared that we will criticise her for being afraid”, then the shift should be back to the Adult self with questions like, “Do you in fact, as an adult, looking at the Child, feel critical of the Child for having that fear”?

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Loving Eyes Procedure…

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Step by step approach to achieve a healing connection between two conflicting dissociative parts

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Case Example - Sharon

HistoryPresentationStandard Protocol – BLS

NC: ‘I am out of control’PC: ‘I am in control’SUD: 5VOC: 5

Dissociation from affect – Vulnerable Child

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Loving Eyes – Two Parts in Conversation

Sharon had never had the loving eyes of an Adult

Sharon learnt as a child it is not OK to cry or safe to have negative feelings - Developed a strong ANP.

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes with Sharon…

“Look back in time until you are looking at your brothers body …” BLS

Move your attention to the person you were that day, look at her, looking at him…” BLS

“When you look at her now, standing next to her…. what do you see…”? BLS

“What do you feel for that girl standing there as you look into her eyes….”? BLS

“What would you like to say to her with all the knowledge you have now as an adult that may help her in that moment….” BLS

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Steps in using the Loving Eyes with Sharon…

Targets:

River – seeing her brothers body pulled up

Morgue door

Seeing her brothers face in the morgue.

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Loving Eyes

Sharon - after the ‘Loving Eyes’ Procedure: “My brother is no longer in the morgue, he is

in heaven, we are both at peace now”.“I know now that I coped well with losing my

dear brother and managed to stay in control”

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