Stonecutter StoryStonecutter Story• What was the stone cutter looking for? • Why did his image of the “perfect lifestyle” keep

changing? • What lessons should he have learned by this

experience? • Why do people frequently want to be something

or someone else? • Why do we often perceive others’ situations to

be easier or better than our own?

Teenagers, like Teenagers, like play dough, come play dough, come in different colors, in different colors, shapes, sizes, and shapes, sizes, and

wardrobeswardrobesAND IT IS OK!!!!AND IT IS OK!!!!

EACH PLAY EACH PLAY DOUGH CREATION DOUGH CREATION WAS DIFFERENT WAS DIFFERENT

AND UNIQUEAND UNIQUE

JUST LIKE PEOPLEJUST LIKE PEOPLE

Play Dough CreationsPlay Dough Creations

WHY DO WE OFTEN THINK SOMEONE ELSE’S CREATION IS BETTER THAN OURS?

WAS IT A CHALLENGE FOR YOU TO DESIGN AND SHARE WITH OTHER CLASS MEMBERS?

Self ConceptSelf ConceptSkills that lead to an understanding of Skills that lead to an understanding of

self. Differentiating between self self. Differentiating between self concept and self esteem. Identifying concept and self esteem. Identifying

ways of building self concept and a high ways of building self concept and a high level of self esteem.level of self esteem.

How strong is my self concept?How strong is my self concept?

• It is important that you answer each question truthfully.

• No one will see your results.

• On the back of the paper: Write a brief evaluation of your personal self concept based upon the results. Write a personal plan for improving your self esteem.

SELF CONCEPTSELF CONCEPTThe way you perceive The way you perceive

yourself; the whole picture; yourself; the whole picture; changes slowlychanges slowly

Good Self Image Good Self Image Feeling positively about Feeling positively about

yourself; your actions and yourself; your actions and your futureyour future

Low Self ImageLow Self ImageFeeling negatively about Feeling negatively about

yourself, your actions and yourself, your actions and your future.your future.

SELF ESTEEMSELF ESTEEMThe way you think or feel The way you think or feel about yourself; fluctuates about yourself; fluctuates from moment to momentfrom moment to moment

HIGH SELF ESTEEM HIGH SELF ESTEEM CHARACTERISTICSCHARACTERISTICS

• SMILES A LOT• TRIES NEW THINGS• MOSTLY LIVES WITHIN HIS/HER VALUE

SYSTEM• FRIENDLY• TRUSTING• EXHIBITS A POSITIVE OUTLOOK ON LIFE• OPEN AND COMMUNICATIVE

LOW SELF ESTEEM LOW SELF ESTEEM CHARACTERISTICSCHARACTERISTICS

• RARELY SMILES• MAY BE SHY AND QUIET IN CLASS• OR MAY BE LOUD AND OBNOXIOUS• HAS FEW FRIENDS• KEEPS HEAD DOWN• HAS A SAD EXPRESSION• ASHAMED OF ACTIONS• MAY HAVE GUILT OR INFERIOR FEELINGS• MAY BE DIFFICULT TO COMMUNITCATE

WITH

SELF ESTEEM FLUCTUATES SELF ESTEEM FLUCTUATES ON A DAILY BASIS. THIS ON A DAILY BASIS. THIS

FLUCTIATION IS NORMAL, FLUCTIATION IS NORMAL, ESPECIALLY DURING THE ESPECIALLY DURING THE TEEN YEARS. A PERSON’S TEEN YEARS. A PERSON’S

SELF ESTEEM AFFECTS SELF ESTEEM AFFECTS HIS/HER SELF CONCEPTHIS/HER SELF CONCEPT

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Peer Relationships that can move you up: – Gaining new friends– Receiving complements– Being accepted– Enjoying time together– Understanding your feelings– Helping maintain your values

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Peer relationships that can move you down: – Fighting with friends– Feeling betrayed by friends– Hearing rude comments– Being left out– Negative peer pressure– Losing a friend

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster• Family Situations that can cause or add to self

esteem : – Praise for work done– Positive communication – Trusting actions– Receiving/giving help with problems– Promotions with added responsibilities– Support when needed– Encouragement– Listening

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Family situations that can cause or detract from self esteem:– High level of fighting or arguing at home– Separation, talk of divorce– Divorce of parent– Change in parents’ occupation, layoffs– Parent(s) have negative experience at work– Moving to a new location – Adding a family member

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Personal accomplishments that can add to self esteem: – Achieving goals– Raising grades– Doing your best on projects– Learning new skills

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Personal accomplishments that can detract from self esteem: – Procrastinating– Failing grades– Giving minimum effort on projects– Watching TV all the time and being bored

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster• When stay within your personal value system

you will raise your self esteem.

• Actions that foster self esteem: – Making up with friends after a fight– Working hard for a good grade– Moving towards your value system– Setting and accomplishing goals (no matter how

small) – Caring about other people– Giving yourself credit for your positive qualities

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster• When you act against your values, you

naturally have feelings of guilt and your self esteem drops.

• Some actions that lower your self esteem: – Lying to a friend or parent– Giving in to peer pressure– Cheating– Stealing– Spreading rumors about a friend– Wasting time

Self Esteem RollercoasterSelf Esteem Rollercoaster

• Use this information given in the lecture to complete the assignment found in your self concept packet.