Strategic Life Management

“ We are not human beings who sometimes feel spiritually rather, we are spiritual beings going through a very short human experience.”

Mavlana Room

“ The Purpose Of life is not to be happy.It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make Some”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Strategic Life Vision Velocity = Speed + Direction

Road Map

1. Pehli Manzil …………………………………… The Learning Cycle

2. Doosree Manzil ……………………………… Meaningful life, Strategic Vision

3. Teesri Manzil …………………………………. Waqt Ki Qadr

4. Chothee Manzil ……………………………….Kamal-e- Kalam – Watakalamo-Wataarafoo

5. Paanchween Manzil ………………………. Irfan-e- Zaat aur wo ‘4’ Sawal

6. Chatee Manzil…………………………………. Dil- e Pursoz

7. Saatweeen Manzil…………………………… Ghussay ko laagam

Pehli ManzilThe Learning Cycle

Fails to adopt to new situation,Fails to use learned skills,Adopts bad habits.

Unconscious Incompetence

Unconscious Competence

Conscious Incompetence

Conscious Competence

• Attends a training, • Demonstration

Learn about the Way we LearnThe Learning Cycle

• Practice what one learns lives the learning's

• Regular skill Usage,

Doosree ManzilMeaningful life, Strategic Vision

A Meaningful Life; What is it ?

1. If you were to look back at your life now, would you like to say that you have tried your utmost to create a meaning in your life ?

a) Yesb) Noc) I don’t care

2 . If you were to look back at your at the time of your death, would you like to say at time that you have tried your utmost to create a meaning in your life?

d) Yes e) No f) I don’t care

Activity – Lets Define “ Meaningful Life

I would say I lived a meaningful life if ;

1. _____________________________________

2. _____________________________________

3. _____________________________________

Ba Maqsad Zindagi

1. Have a khawab

2. Manage Time wisely

3.Knowledge Skills & Attitude

4. Leadership Quaidana Saheeyat

Clear - Wazeh

Right - Dorust

‘4’ Ds of life Management

Ability to Communicate

Ability to inspire

Ability to facilitate

Prioritize Azam

Sound IdeologyLive , Love, Learn , Legacy

• Willingness to force yourself• Pay the price• Know what you should do whether u like it our not

1. Desire / Khawhish

Discipline/ Nazm o Zabt 2. Decision / Faisla

3. Determination/Mustaqil mizajee

• Burning desire to be efficient – important success • Diff b/w successful men and women Efficient use of 24 hrs and through team Get more things done in same time

Life time Lifestyle – wide

approach

• Make a decision ‘right now’ so that people point towards you & say look at him/her. A great doctor

• To develop any Habit – repetition is the key. Over and over again• Defeat tendency to slide back

Manzil

Metaphor : A van filled with people going to a destination

Driving Skills

Character of a driver

Fuel

Road

Driving along this road

Map / Naqsha

Driver

Convincing everyone in the vanthat the destination that you want to go to is the best for them.

Present Location

1. Vision – Khawab/Dream2. Competence/ Salaheeyat3. Inspire-Character4. Now5. Life6. The ability to prioritize7. Share8. A meaningful life9. You10. Azm (Determination)

Teesri ManzilWaqt Ki Qadr

How would you feel if you went to a bank that credits you every morning

Rs. 86,400/= daily to spend.

However , if you failed to spend the amount it will be taken off forever.

Those who live a meaningful life Don’t ‘spend’ a time, they invest it

Time Management technical definition of the word “ Important”

Anything that takes us towards our ‘ worthwhile goal’ is termed as ‘important’ and anything that takes us away from our

‘ worthwhile goals ‘ or doesn’t take us towards our ‘worthwhile goals’ is called

‘not important’.

Important & Urgent

( Do It now do it your self)

Important But Not Urgent(Do It Later)

Not important but

Urgent(Ask someone

to do it)

Not Important Not Urgent

( Don’t do it)

Impo

rtan

tN

ot Im

port

ant

Urgent Not Urgent

URGENCY INDEX

Chothee ManzilKamal-e- Kalam – Watakalamo-Wataarafoo

“ Alfaaz sa baat samajh me aatee hai , lehjay se dil main utar jati hai. Jadu Alfaaz me nahi lehjay main hota hai. Alif lelvi darwaza har aeray gheray k “khul ja sim sim” kehnay se nahn khulta wo Aladin ka lehja mangta hai. Dilon k Qufl ki kuleed bhi Lafz main nahn lehjay main hoti hai.

Behavior

Attitude

Belief

Value

For People Living a Meaningful Life

Communication is a process,

That gets things DoneFor People Living a Meaningful Life “Communication is a process , That gets things Done”

Words Vocal Features Non Verbal0%5%

10%15%20%25%30%35%40%45%50% Volume

PitchPacePauseClarityRhythmResonance

1.Facial expression /eye contact2.Gestures3.Body movements4.Space /Distance

People Living Meaningful life focus of the key areas while communication

People hear & act only 30% of words

20 %

People living a meaningful life are Good Listener

• Be an active listener ,don’t’t just hear• Suppress, delay to show disagreement• Do not interrupt when listening to anyone• Do not complete sentences by your words• Be visually and mentally present to listen• Avoid the need to ask for repeating anything• Don't 'judge, till discussion is not complete• As related questions for un-explained facts• Ask to rephrase important points and take notes if appropriate Look

Inquire

Summarize

Take notes

Encourage

Neutralize feelings

Paanchween ManzilIrfan-e- Zaat aur wo ‘4’ Sawal

Psychological key for Meaningful life

1. Psychology of Leadership is based on – Law of Control

Is based on law of control the says ; - U feel good about yourself to the degree you feel your are in control of situation - U don’t feel good about things to the degree you feel you feel you are not in control of your situation

You need to feel you are master of your destiny – not your boss, bills, Kids fee, circumstances Feel in control –behind the steering wheel , not being driven

Psychologist :Locus of control Internal locus of controlExternal of control

Psychological key for Meaningful life

2. Develop Self Concept and sense of purpose

Everyone has ideas, picture, beliefs People attend courses, red books nothing changes ? If u believe you are well organized, your subconscious constantly causes you to believe If you believe you will act Act will be repeated Become habit, character, destiny The best idea will not work, unless you work the idea

Psychological key for Meaningful life

Take Psychological steps to change yourself concept

Step 1: Changes your language, say to your self I am organized, Subconscious forces you to behave as one

Step 2: Visualize mental picture of well organized professional, how does this well organized person look – CALM , EFFICIENT, NOT SUFFERING FROM ANEXIETY, pressure

Step 3 : Act as if u r well organized, pretend; Fake it, until u make it, Begin to think like a winner, the one who uses time very well

‘ 4 ‘ most important Qs you need to answer

Psychological key for Meaningful life

Q. 1 Ask what are you trying to do ?

Introspection and reflection on what you are trying to do bring joy and fulfillment

• Ask what outcomes do you desire?• Final result.

- Are you working b/c you want money to be happy ?- Are you working b/c you work is a mission for you?- What is it you are trying to accomplish ?- Where do want to end up?- Than what would it look like –what you are trying to accomplish ?

• You 2013____2014____2015 ____2016 you there ( fast forward yourself ).• Take yourself in time machine forward – you have achieved –see around –how it would look like• Now look at step you could have/wouldn’t taken – it crystalizes the tools you need internally to make your dreams come true

Psychological key for Meaningful life

Q. 2 Ask why you are doing what you are doing ?

Bring this in line & consistent with your values

Why do you get up in the morning

Why do the ….. What is your need

Major reason deep down

One of the major reasons for unhappiness today is the realization that what you are

doing has no purpose

You may become excellent at Leadership but it wont do you a darn good you feel good

doing what you do , Only if it is in harmony with your values

If you believe in one thing and do another – you will be stressed

You never worn out doing what you love to do

Psychological key for Meaningful life

Q. 3 Ask How are you trying are to di it ?

• Question a & b give you the clarity you need• These help you to look around you and diagnose if you are on the right track

Q. 4 Ask could you be on the wrong track ?

• Could you be on the wrong tack• There would be no point of accelerating or increasing your speed if you are on the wrong track• One of great exercise of creative thinking is daring to think if you were wrong

“ There is more to life than just increasing the speed! “• “Definition of madness is re – doubling your efforts when your aim has been forgotten “• Now you can start serious Life Management

Psychological key for Meaningful lifePractice Though Love

Though love is the habit of self – discipline because getting tough with yourselfis actually a very loving gesture.

B y b e i n g s t r i c t e r w i t h y o u r s e l f , y o u w i l lB e g i n t o l i v e l i f e m o r e D e l i b e r a t e l y , o n y o u r t e r m sr a t h e r t h a n r e a c ti n g t o l i f e .

T h e t o u g h e r y o u a r e o n y o u r s e l f ,t h e e a s i e r l i f e w i l l b e o n y o u .

Kai = Change Zen = Good

Chatee ManzilDil- e Pursoz

People living meaningful life have consideration for others

Story of a Child

• One day a ten year old boy went to an ice cream shop , set at a table and asked waitress. “ How much is an ice cream cone ? “ She replied Seventy five cents the boy started counting the coins he had in has hand Then he asked how much a small cup of ice cream was. The waitress replied sixty five cents the boy said, I’ll have the Small cup

. He had his ice cream, paid the bill and left . When the waitress came to pick the empty plate, she was touched as there were ten cents as tip. The little boy had consideration for the waitress before he placed order

. Show consideration , thoughtfulness. Courtesy and Politeness

. Think for others ( team, associate, customers, society) before thinking for yourself

People living meaningful life think Win/Win

Story of Hell and Heaven

A man died and had a chance to look at both hell and heaven to decide where to go.In hell, he saw a large table with all types of good food served on it and people with four feetOf fork and knife tied to each one . The were all hungry . Said and pale faces.

On the other hand , same situation was in the heaven i.e. table , food and four feet forks.However , these people looked happy, healthy and well fed. The only difference was they Were feeding each others and the result was happiness, prosperity,Enjoyment and gratification because the were not thinking for themselves only.

Remember, We can all win without beating someone

“ Anyone can become angry .....that is easy .… But to be angry with the right person ,to the right degree, at the right time, forThe right purpose, and in the right way … that is not easy.”

( Aristotle )

Share Of IQ & EQ / EI for Success

IQ

EQ/EI

Model of Emotional Intelligence

Relationship Management Managing other people’s emotions

Social Awareness Understanding and sensitivity to the feeling , thoughts, and situation of others

Self Management Controlling or redirecting our internal states, impulses, and resources

Self awareness Understanding your own emotions, strength , weakness,

Saatweeen ManzilGhussay ko laagam

Anger Management – Sing

1. Headache2. Digestion problems, such as abdominal pain3. Insomnia4. Increased anxiety5. Depression6. High blood pressure7. Skin problems, such as eczema8. Heart attack9. Stroke.

Anger - Universal Causes

1. Frustration of our goals.2. Hurt3. Harassment.4. Personal attack ( mental or physical ) on ourselves.5. Threat to people, things or ideas that we hold dear.

Anger – Management Perspective

1. Maintain a “ Hostility Log”2. If you Do, Acknowledge that you have a problem managing anger3. Use your support Network4. Use anger Management techniques to Interrupt angel Cycle5. Use empathy6. Laugh 7. Relax8. Build Trust9. Listen 10. Be Assertive11. Live Each Day as if it is your last 12. Forgive

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