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Listen to life music.. Communication is meaningful through listening…
Listening…simple story…
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Facts about Listening Listening is our primary communication activity.
Our listening habits are not the result of training but rater the result of the lack of it.
Most individuals are inefficient listeners
Inefficient and ineffective listening is extraordinarily costly
Good listening can be taught
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Listening: Learned first, Used most (45%), Taught least.
Speaking: Learned second, Used next most (30%), Taught next least.
Reading: Learned third, Used next least (16%), Taught next most
Writing: Learned fourth, Used Least (9%), Taught most.
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Why listening is critical… Improves relationships
Improves our knowledge
Improves our understanding
Prevents problems escalating
Saves time and energy
Can save money
Leads to better results
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Listening In words of Senge
“To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words. You listen not only to the ‘music,’ but to the essence of the person speaking. You listen not only for what someone knows, but for what he or she is. Ears operate at the speed of sound, which is far slower than the speed of light the eyes take in. Generative listening is the art of developing deeper silences in yourself, so you can slow our mind’s hearing to your ears’ natural speed, and hear beneath the words to their meaning.”
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Listening as Receiving skills
Listening is composed of six distinct components
Hearing: The physiological process of receiving sound and/or other stimuli.
Attending: The conscious and unconscious process of focusing attention on external stimuli.
Interpreting: The process of decoding the symbols or behavior attended to.
Evaluating: The process of deciding the value of the information to the receiver.
Remembering: The process of placing the appropriate information into short-term or long-term storage.
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Listening as Relational Receiving Skills Non-Listening: A style that is appropriate when the receiver has no need for the content
and has minimal relationship with the sender.
Pseudo listening: A way of "faking it" where the receiver feels obligated to listen even though they are preoccupied unable or unwilling to at that particular time.
Defensive Listening: A style of listening used in situations where the receiver feels that he might be taken advantage of if he does not protect himself by listening for information directly relevant to him.
Appreciative Listening: A style that is appropriate in a recreational setting where the listener is participating as a way of passing time or being entertained.
Listening with Empathy: A style that teaches an individual to enter fully into the world of the other and truly comprehend their thoughts and feelings.
Naively/ Curious listening to customers: A style that helps build an ongoing relationship by helping the receiver understand the needs of the sender.
Therapeutic Cathartic Listening: A listening style used by psychological counselors to help people who are having problems dealing with life situations.
Therapeutic Diagnostic Listening: A listening style that is used to assess the needs of the sender.
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Content Receiving Skills
Insensitive Listening or Offensive listening: A style where the listeners main intent is to select information that can later he used against the speaker.
Insulated Listening: A style where the listener avoids responsibility by failing to acknowledge that they have heard the information presented by the speaker.
Selective Listening: A style where the listener only responds to the parts of the message that directly interests him.
Bottom Line Listening: A style of listening where the receiver is only concerned about the facts. "Just the facts man.”
Court Reporter Syndrome: A style of taking in a speakers message and recording it verbatim.
Informational Listening: A style that is used when the listener is seeking out specific information.
Evaluative Listening: A style used to listen to information upon which a decision has to be made.
Critical Incidence Listening: A style used when the consequence of not listening may have dramatic effects.
Intimate Listening: The style that is appropriate when the speaker is communicating significant relational information being completely and wholly honest.
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Hearing To perceive sound via the ear
Listening
To concentrate on hearing something; heed or pay attention to
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Barriers to effective listening Interrupting – knowing the answer
Trying to be helpful
Seeing discussion as competition
Distraction - red flag words – emotional triggers
Gap searching
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Simple listening technique 1. Listen
Don’t interrupt
Let the speaker finish
Concentrate on what is being said and how it is being said
Make notes if this helps
Show the speaker that you are listening
2. Question
Check understanding
3. Summarise
Paraphrase what the speaker has just told you
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Listening impacts your results & communication…
• Listening is important aspect in process of communication.
• Its one of the four important elements in making your communication effective.
• Your communication looses relevance without listening
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Listening to communicate
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Your LI=EI Listening Intelligence=Emotional intelligence
• Different levels of EQ is possible only when a person engages in listening
• EQ determines your effectiveness in leadership in other words your listening impacts your leadership outcomes
• LI Could be listening or your Leadership Intelligence
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EQ Based Listening
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HOW CAN I CREATE A HELPING RELATIONSHIP?
Carl R. Rogers On Becoming a Person 1. Can I be in some way which will be perceived by the other person as
trustworthy, as dependable or consistent in some deep sense?
2. Can I be expressive enough as a person that what I am will be communicated unambiguously?
3. Can I let myself experience positive attitudes toward the other person -- attitudes of warmth, caring, liking interest, respect?
4. Can I be strong enough as a person to be separate from the other? Can I be a sturdy respecter of my own feelings, my own needs; as well as his?
5. Am I secure enough within myself to permit him his separateness?
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HOW CAN I CREATE A HELPING RELATIONSHIP? Carl R. Rogers On Becoming a Person
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6. Can I let myself enter fully into the world of his feelings and personal meanings and see these as he does. Can I step into his private world so completely that I lose all desire to evaluate or judge it?
7. Can I accept each facet of this other person which he presents to me?
8. Can I act with sufficient sensitivity in the relationship that my behavior will not be perceived as a threat?
9. Can I free him from the threat of external evaluation?
10. Can I meet this other individual as a person who is in the process of becoming, or will I be bound by his past and my past?
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Ten keys to effective listening
Find areas of interest. The Poor Listener: Tunes out dry topics. The Good Listener: Seizes opportunities: "What's in it for me?"
Judge content, not delivery. The Poor Listener: Tunes out if delivery is poor. The Good Listener: Judges content, skips over delivery errors.
Hold your fire. The Poor Listener: Tends to enter into argument. The Good Listener: Doesn't judge until comprehension is complete.
Listen for ideas. The Poor Listener: Listens for facts. The Good Listener: Listens for central theme.
Be a flexible note taker. The Poor Listener: Is busy with form, misses content. The Good Listener: Adjusts to topic and organizational pattern.
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Work at listening. The Poor Listener: Shows no energy output, fakes attention The Good Listener: Works hard; exhibits alertness.
Resist distractions. The Poor Listener: Is distracted easily. The Good Listener: Fights or avoids distractions; tolerates bad habits in others; knows how to concentrate.
Exercise your mind. The Poor Listener: Resists difficult material; seeks light, recreational material. The Good Listener: Uses heavier material as exercise for the mind.
Keep your mind open. The Poor Listener: Reacts to emotional words. The Good Listener: Interprets emotional words; does not get hung up on them.
Thought is faster than speech; use it. The Poor Listener: Tends to daydream with slow speakers. The Good Listener: Challenges, anticipates, mentally summarizes, weights the evidence, listens between the lines to tone and voice.
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Active Listeners
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Leadership listening…
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Leadership listening
Finally…
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CURE YOURSELF &CURE OTHERS, BY SIMPLE YET EFFECTIVE LISTENING…