The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth

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The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth1. The Law of Intentionality: Growth doesnt just happen 2. The Law of Awareness: You Must Know Yourself to Grow Yourself 3. The Law of the Mirror: You Must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself 4. The Law of Reflection: Learning to pause allows growth to catch up to you 5. The Law of Consistency: Motivation gets you going, discipline keeps you growing 6. The Law of Environment: Growth thrives in a conducive surroundings 7. The Law of Design: To maximize growth develop strategies 8. The Law of Pain: Good management of bad experiences leads to great growth 9. The Law of the Ladder: character growth determines the height of your personal growth 10. The Law of the Rubber Band: Growth Stops When You Lose the Tension Between Where You are and Where You Could Be 11. The Law of trade-offs: You have to give up to grow up 12. The Law of Curiosity: Growth is stimulated by asking WHY 13. The Law of Modeling: It's Hard to Improve When You Have No One But Yourself to Follow14. The Law of Expansion: Growth always increases you capacity 15. The Law of Contribution: Developing Yourself Enables You to Develop Others

1.The Law of Intentionality -Growth doesnt just happen

Do you have a plan for your personal growth?

Growth Gap Traps - The Assumption Gap

I assume that I will Automatically grow Be Intentional No one improves by accident

A time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man you want to become & start being the man you want to be- Bruce Springsteen

The Knowledge Gap- I dont know how to grow

The Timing Gap- Its not the Right Time to Begin

The Law of Diminishing Intent The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it

The Mistake Gap Im afraid of Making MistakesWhat would you attempt to do if you knew you wouldnt fail? - Robert Schuller A mistake is simply another way of doing things - Warren Bennis

The Perfection Gap I have to find the Best way before I start

The inspiration Gap: I dont feel like doing it Forget motivation. Just Do ItMotivation is a by-product

Stick with growth long enough to start reaping the benefits

The comparison Gap - Others are Better than I amLearn to become comfortable with being out of your comfort zone

The Expectation Gap -I thought it would be easier than thisPreparation (growth) + Attitude+ Opportunity+ Action =Luck

Direction - Make the transition You can not change your destination over night, but youcan change your direction overnight -Jim Rohn1. Ask the Big Question Now: How far can I go? - Set the direction

Direction - Make the transition 2. Do it NowA sense of urgency Later: A Dream-killer

Direction - Make the transition 3. Face the Fear Factor Fear of failureFear of Trading Security for the Unknown

Fear of being overextended financiallyFear of what others will say or thinkFear that success will alienate peers

Make the transition 4. Change from Accidental to Intentional GrowthOnes philosophy is not best expressed in words; it isexpressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. - Eleanor Roosevelt

2. The Law of Awareness - You must know yourself to grow yourselfNo one can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself- James Russell Lowell

3 Kinds of people1. People who dont know what theyd like to do (confused)2. People who know what theyd like to do but dont do it (frustrated)3. People who know what theyd like to do & do it (fulfilled)

Pay attention to your passions1. Do you like what youre doing now?2. What would you like to do? E&E factor - Energy & Excellence3. Can you do what you would like to do?

Ask yourself Warren Bennis Do you know the difference between what you want & what youre good at?Do you know what drives you & what gives you satisfaction?Do you know what your values & priorities are, & what your organizations values & priorities are?

Discover your uniqueness; then discipline yourself to do it- Jim Sundberg

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4. Do you know why you want to do what you would like to do?

Motives matterThe right reasons Inner strengthClearer vision

I was born for thisEnergy Take time to reflect Explore your intentions & attitudes

5. Do you know what to do so you can do what you want to do?Awareness - What choices do you make?Action - Nearly all successes are the fruit of initiative.Accountability (public & personal)

Who you are is who you attract. - The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

6. Do You Know People Who Do What Youd Like to Do?Get committed. Pay people for their time if necessary.Be consistent. Meet purposefully every month with someone who can teach you.Be creative. Start with their books if you cant meet them in person.Be purposeful. Spend two hours in preparation for every hour of interaction.Be reflective. Spend two hours in reflection for every hour of interaction.Be grateful. These people are gifts to your personal growth; be sure to let them know.

You cannot get where you want to go on your own.

You will need the help of others to guide you on your way.

Pay attention to your passions7. Should You Do What Youd Like to Do with Them?Possess a teachable spirit.Always be prepared for the time you get with your mentor.Set the agenda by asking great questions.Demonstrate how youve learned from your time together.Be accountable for what youve learned.

Pay attention to your passions 8. Will You Pay the Price to Do What You Want to Do? Taking the steps necessary to live your dreams and do what you want to do will cost you. You will have to work hard. You will have to make sacrifices. You will have to keep learning and growing and changing. Are you willing to pay that price? Know this: Most people arent.

Pay attention to your passions9. When Can You Start Doing What Youd Like to Do? Why not now?Nobody ever got ready by waiting. You only get ready by starting.

Pay attention to your passions10. What Will It Be Like When You Get to Do What Youd Like to Do?When you do what youve always wanted to, it will be better than you everimagined.

3. The Law of the Mirror You must see value in yourself to add value to yourself

Low self-esteem Its impossible to consistently behave in a manner inconsistent with how we see ourselves. We can do very few things in a positive way if we feel negative about ourselves.

How do you see yourself?No factor is more important in peoples psychological development and motivationthan the value judgments they make about themselves. Every aspect of their livesis impacted by the way they see themselves. Nathaniel Branden

Low Self-Esteem Puts a Ceiling on Our Potential

If you feel inadequate to face challenges, unworthy of love or respect, unentitled to happiness, and fear assertive thoughts, wants, or needsif you lack basic self-trust, self-respect, and self-confidenceyour self-esteem deficiency will limit you, no matter what other assets you possess.

The Value We Place on Ourselves Is Usually the Value Others Place on UsYou shouldnt become too concerned about what othersmight think of you. You should be more concerned aboutwhat you think of yourself.

If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price1. Guard Your Self-TalkYou need to learn to become your own encourager, your owncheerleader.2. Stop Comparing Yourself to OthersThe only one you should compare yourself to is you3. Move Beyond Your Limiting BeliefsWhen a man has put a limit on what he will do, he has put alimit on what he can do. Charles Schwab

Jack Canfield- 4 Steps1. Identify a limiting belief that you want to change.2. Determine how the belief limits you.3. Decide how you want to be, act, or feel.4. Create a turnaround statement that affirms or gives you permission to be, act, or feel this new way

4. Add Value to Others Its hard to feel bad about yourself when youre doing something good for someone else. Adding value to others makes them value you more. It creates a cycle of positive feeling from one person to another. How much time every day and every week do you spend focusing on others and adding value to them? Do you serve others through a volunteer organization? Do you mentor people? Do you give assistance to others less fortunate than yourself?

5. Do the Right Thing, Even If Its the Hard Thing.Being true to yourself and your values is a tremendous self-esteem builder.

6. Practice a Small Discipline Daily in a Specific Area of Your Life Discipline is a morale builder. Boost yours by taking small steps that will take you in a positive direction.

7. Celebrate Small Victories Celebrating encourages you. It helps to inspire you to keep going. Dont underestimate its power.

If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price

8. Embrace a Positive Vision for Your Life Based on What You Value

If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price

9. Practice the One-Word StrategyWhat the individual focuses on expands. If you could pick only one word to describe yourself,what would it be?

If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price

10. Take Responsibility for Your Life We tend to get in life what we are willing to tolerate. If we allow others to disrespect us, we get disrespected.

4. The Law of ReflectionLearning to pause allows growth to catch up with you .Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From thequiet reflection will come even more effective action. - Peter F. Drucker

Reflection Turns Experience into InsightExperience is the teacher of all things, - Julius Caesar (Authors note: Evaluated experience is)

Everyone Needs a Time and a Place to PausePausing allows people to make sure they are on theright track. If someone is going down the wrongroad, he doesnt need motivation to speed up. He needs to stop, reflect, and change course.

Pausing with Intention Expands and Enriches Thinking Solitude A minute of thought is worth more than an hour of talk. When you are able to create a lonely place in the middle of your actions and concerns, your successes and failures slowly can lose some of their power over you.- Henri J. M. Nouwen

Incubation Incubation is taking an experience of life and putting it into the slow cooker of your mind to simmer for a while. It is very similar to meditation. The great scientist Galileo said, All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered. The point is to discover them. That takes investigation.

IlluminationAt the end of each day, you should play back the tapes of your performance. The results should either applaud you or prod you. - Jim Rohn

Good Questions Are the Heart of ReflectionSuccessful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers. -Anthony Robbins What Is My Biggest Asset?What Is My Biggest Liability?What Is My Highest High? What Is My Lowest Low?What Is My Most Worthwhile Emotion?What Is My Least Worthwhile Emotion?What Is My Best Habit?

What we do on some great occasion willdepend on what we are; and what we are will be the result of previous years of self-discipline. - H. P. Liddon

Ask yourselfWhat Is My Worst Habit? There are things in life that you have to work for and there are things you have to wait for.What Is Most Fulfilling to Me?What Do I Prize Most Highly?The wise man questions himself, the fool others. - Henri Arnold (cartoonist)

5. The Law of ConsistencyMotivation gets you going-Discipline keeps you growingSmall disciplines repeated with consistency every daylead to great achievements gained slowly over time.Match your motivation to your personality type

PatienceHave patience. All things are difficult before they become easy. SaadiOnce you learn to quit it becomes a habit. - Vince Lombardi Habits: You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.The great composer does not set to work because he is inspired, butbecomes inspired because he is working. - Ernest NewmanIf you develop the habits of success, youll make success a habit. - Michael Angier

6.The Law of EnvironmentGrowth thrives in conducive surroundings.The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment you first find yourself in. - Mark CaineWhether you are a success or failure in lifehas little to do with your circumstances; it hasmuch more to do with your choices. - Nido Qubein

Assess Your Current EnvironmentMusicWhat songs lift me?ThoughtsWhat ideas speak to me?ExperiencesWhat experiences rejuvenate me?FriendsWhat people encourage me?RecreationWhat activities revive me?SoulWhat spiritual exercises strengthen me?HopesWhat dreams inspire me?HomeWhat family members care for me?GiftednessWhat blessings activate me?MemoriesWhat recollections make me smile?BooksWhat have I read that changed me?

Change Yourself and Your EnvironmentChange yourself but not your environment-growth will be slow and difficult.Change your environment but not yourself-growth will be slow and less difficult.Change your environment and yourself-growth will be faster and more successful.

The right elementsAs you consider changing yourself and your environment, think about the elements that the right kind of growth environment provides:The right soil to grow in: What nourishes me? Growth.The right air to breathe in: What keeps me alive? Purpose.The right climate to live in: What sustains me? People.

Change Who You Spend Your Time With

Walk with the wise and become wise, for acompanion of fools suffers harm.We become the combined average of the fivepeople we hang around the most.

Challenge Yourself in Your New EnvironmentFocus on the Moment Today is when everything thats going to happen from now on begins.Harvey Firestone Jr. You can only really live in the moment youre in. So to me thats always the happiest moment.

Mother Teresa observed, Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.

Move Forward Despite CriticismWhatever course you decide upon, there is always someone totell you that you are wrong. -Ralph Waldo EmersonSomeones opinion of you does not have to become yourreality. - Les BrownAlbert F. Geoffrey asserts, When you take charge of your life,there is no longerneed to ask permission of other people or society at large.When you ask permission you give someone veto power overyour life.

Creating the right environmentIf you are a leader, do everything in your power to growyourself and create the right environment in whichothers can grow. It will be the best investment you evermade as a leader.

7. The Law of Design To Maximize Growth, Develop Strategies If you dont design your own life plan, chances are youll fall into someone elses plan. And guess what they may have planned for you? Not much. - Jim Rohn Life Is Very Simple but Keeping It That Way Is Very Difficult Life has a way of becoming complicated, and it is only through great effort that we can keep it simple. Designing Your Life Is More Important Than Designing Your Career Planning your life is about finding yourself, knowing who you are, and then customizing a design for your growth. Once you draw the blueprint for your life, then you can apply it to your career.

We have to do the best we can in the moment

You only live once. But if you work it right, once is enough.- Fred Allen In Planning Your Life, Multiply Everything by TwoPlan for double to stay out of troubleIt infuses realism into your optimismAllow yourself to grow slowly and with deep roots

Remember that a squash vine or tomato plant grows in a matter of weeks, produces for several days or weeks, and then dies when the first frost comes. In comparison, a tree grows slowlyover years, decades, or even centuries; it produces fruit for decades; and if healthy, it stands up to frost, storms, and drought.

As you develop strategies for growth, give yourselfthe time and resources you need. Whateveramounts seem reasonable to you, multiply them bytwo. That practice will help to keep you frombecoming discouraged and giving up too soon.To Develop Strategies, Depend on Systems.Systems permit ordinary people to achieveextraordinary results predictably.- Michael Gerber

What is a system? Its a process for predictably achieving a goal based on specific, orderly, repeatable principles and practices. Systems leverage your time, money, and abilities. They are great tools for personal growth. Systems are deliberate, intentional, and practical.

Effective Systems 1. Effective Systems Take the Big Picture into Account We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind. - Stephen Covey Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it. 2. Effective Systems Make Use of Priorities What systems do you need to put into place to help you maintain your priorities? And what people do you need to give responsibility and power to so they can help you?

3.Effective Systems include MeasurementAny kind of progress requires the ability to measure Where would sports teams be if they never knew the score of thegame.Measurement is key to improvement.Hawthorne Effect: When people know their work is being measured,Their productivity increases. It enables you to set goals, evaluateprogress, judge results, and diagnose problems.

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Effective Systems 4. Effective Systems Include ApplicationNo plan is worth the paper it is printed on unless it starts you doing something. 5. Effective Systems Employ Organization The number one time waster for most people is looking for things that are lost. Being organized gives a sense of power. 6. Effective Systems Promote Consistency An idealist believes the short run doesnt count. A cynic believes the long run doesnt matter. A realist believes that what is done or left undone in the short run determines the long run. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.

What does it take to develop consistency?A system and the discipline to follow through. One Golfers Strategy -Harvey Penick- A great teacher ofGolfAs you seek to develop strategies to maximize your growth, youshould seek out principles that have stood the test of time.Customize practices to yourself.If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work onyou. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to workon you. Whatever good things we build end up building us. Jim Rohn

8. The Law of Pain Management of Bad Experiences leads to Great GrowthEvery problem introduces a person to himself. -John McdonnellPain prompts us to face who we are and where we are. What we do with that experience defines who we become.

Cheryl McGuinness - September 11, 2001

As unfair, unreasonable, and impossible as it seems, we still have work to do after a tragedy occurs. We still have roles to fill. We still have responsibilities to family and others. The stuff of life may pause for a while, but it doesnt stop. Fair or not, that is reality. - Beauty Beyond the Ashes

Bad ExperiencesEveryone Has ThemExpecting the world to treat you fairly just because youre a goodperson is a little like expecting the bull not to charge you becauseyoure a vegetarian. -Dennis Wholey (TV host and authorLet your discomfort be a catalyst for your development. Growth is the best possible outcome for any negative experience.

Bad ExperiencesNo One Likes ThemBut if they manage the experience well, then they enjoy talking aboutit afterward.Few People Make Bad Experiences Positive ExperiencesMost successful people will point to the hard times in their lives askey points in their journey of development. If you are dedicated togrowth, then you must become committed to managing your badexperiences well.

Turn Your Pain into Gain Choose a Positive Life Stance Life stance is a term used to describe peoples overall frame of reference - the set of attitudes, assumptions, and expectations people hold about themselves, other people, and the world in general. Life is not the way its supposed to be. Its the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. - Virginia Satir No longer forward nor behind I look in hope or fear; But, grateful, take the good I find, The best of now and here. - John Greenleaf Whittier-poet

Turn Your Pain into Gain Embrace and Develop Your Creativity Embrace the Value of Bad Experiences Its always easier to see something positive in a negative experience long after it happens. Where there is no struggle, there is no progress. Facing difficulties is inevitable. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. - Neale Donald Walsh (author) Facing difficulties is inevitable. Learning from them is optional.

Make Good Changes after Learning from Bad ExperiencesA bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you fail to makethe turn.When bad experiences create strong feelings in us, we either face thefeelings and try to change or we try to escape. I am willing to put myself through anything; temporary pain ordiscomfort means nothing to me as long as I can see that theexperience will take me to a new level.I am interested in the unknown, and the only path to the unknown isthrough breaking barriers, an often-painful process. - Diana Nyad Long distance swimmer

Take Responsibility for Your Life You need to recognize that your circumstances dont define you. It is nearly impossible to grow in any significant way when you dont take responsibility for yourself and your life. No pain, no palm; no thorns, no throne; no gall, no glory; no cross, no crown. William Penn (English philosopher)

9. The Law of the LadderCharacter Growth determines the height of your personal GrowthAchievement to most people is something you do to the highachiever, it is something you are. - Doug FirebaughThe Value of CharacterIn almost every survey conducted, honesty has been selectedmore often than any other leadership characteristic. - James Kouzes & Barry PosnerIf you cannot trust yourself, you wont ever be able to grow. Goodcharacter, with honesty and integrity at its core, is essential tosuccess in any area of life. Without it, a person is building on shifting sand.

Character99% of leadership failures are failures of character. - Norman Schwarzkopf (Retired general)Focus on Being Better on the Inside than on the Outside -Character MattersOur reputation comes from what others believe about ouroutside. Our character represents who we are on the inside. The Inside influences the Outside. What we believe really matters.We reap what we sow. If you do the things you need to do whenyou need to do them, then someday you can do the things youwant to do when you want to do them.Right outward talking with wrong inward thinking will not bringlasting success.Our inside development is totally within our control

Character Character is a quality that embodies many important traits such as integrity, courage, perseverance, confidence, and wisdom. Unlike your fingerprints that you were born with and cant change, character is something that you create within yourself and must take responsibility for changing. Jim Rohn How can you ever reach your potential and become the person you can be if others are making your choices for you? Doug Firebaugh, author and multilevel marketing expert, says, Winning in life is more than just money its about winning on the inside and knowing that you have played the game of life with all you had and then some.

Character Follow the Golden RulePeople Matter Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Teach Only What you Believe-Passion Matters What is a speaker who teaches what he doesnt believe? - A hypocrite! Everything rises and falls on leadership Borrowed beliefs have no passion, therefore no power. Value Humility Above All VirtuesPerspective Matters The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he hoped to make it. - J. M. Barrie Ive concluded that while nobody plans to mess up their life, the problem is that few of us plan not to. That is, we dont put the necessary safeguards in place to ensure a happy ending.

Remember the Big PictureOh God, thy sea is so great and my boat is so small. - President John F. Kennedy

Be teachable I love being around people who have a beginners mindset. They think of themselves as apprentices instead of experts and, as a result, have a humble, teachable posture. They try to see things from others perspective. They are open to new ideas. They possess a thirst for knowledge. They ask questions and know how to listen. And they gather as much information as possible before making decisions. I admire such people and try to be like them.

Gratitude Be willing to serve others Few things are better for cultivating character and developing humility than serving others. Putting others first right-sizes our egos and perspective. Be grateful Gratitude expresses our vulnerability, our dependence on others. Those who drink the water must remember those who dug the well.- Chinese Proverb Everything we do, every accomplishment we have, every milestone we pass has come in part because of the efforts of others. Gratitude expresses our vulnerability, our dependence on others. Confucius asserted, Humility is the solid foundation of all the virtues. In other words, it paves the way for character growth. And that sets us up for personal growth.

CharacterStrive to Finish Well- Faithfulness Matters

Emotion follows motion. Do the right thing and you feel right. Do thewrong thing and you feel bad. If you take control of your behavior, youremotions will fall into place.

If you want a better world, composed of better nations, inhabited bybetter states, filled with better counties, made up of better cities,comprised of better neighborhoods, illuminated by better churches,populated by better families, then youll have to start by becoming abetter person. Pastor and radio broadcaster Tony Evans:

Thats always where it startswith me, with you.The Stronger Your Character, the Greater Your Growth Potential The object of life is not prospering as I had grown up believing, but thematuring of the soul. (Winning author Alexander Solzhenitsyn spenteight years in prison during the Soviet era)

Orison Swett Marden - Physician and author Some people are born mud and remain mud. Sadly, some are born marble and die mud; some are born mud, dream of marble, but remain mud. But many persons of high character have been born mud and died marble. Isnt that a wonderful thought? I hope that can be said of me at the end of my life, and I hope the same for you.

The Stronger Your Character, the Greater Your Growth Potential Habit is the daily battleground of character. - Dan Coats Your character isnt set. You can improve it. Its never too late. You can change who you are and your overall potential by becoming a better person. Seize opportunities& accept the challenge

10. The Law of the Rubber Band Growth stops when you lose the Tension between where you are & where you could be. Only a mediocre person is always at his best. -W. Somerset Maugham. Gods gift to us: potential. Our gift to God: developing it. - Author unknown Focus on Building a Legacy Few People Want to Stretch Most people use only a small fraction of their ability and rarely strive to reach their full potential. Forty-two percent of college graduates never read a book after college. Being Average To be average is to be forgotten once you pass from this life. The successful are remembered for their contributions; the failures are remembered because they tried; but the average, the silent majority, is just forgotten.

AverageThe best organizations dont pay for average. Mediocrity is not worth shooting for.The real tragedy is the tragedy of the man who never in his life braces himself for his one supreme effort, who never stretches to his full capacity, never stands up to his full stature. We must be aware of the gap that stands between us and our potential, and let the tension of that gap motivate us to keep striving to become better.

Settling for the Status Quo Ultimately Leads to Dissatisfaction

If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being,you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life. - Abraham MaslowFor all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: It might havebeen. -John Greenleaf Whittier(Poet)Stretching Always Starts from the Inside OutYou cannot travel within and stand still without. - James AllenIts wise to remember that our situation in life is mainly due to thechoices we make and the actions we do - or fail to-take.

The older we are, the more responsible we are for our situation.Measure what youre doing against what youre capable of.Measure yourself against yourself.

Jim Rohn Every life form seems to strive to its maximum except human beings. How tall will a tree grow? As tall as it possibly can. Human beings, on the other hand, have been given the dignity of choice. You can choose to be all or you can choose to be less. Why not stretch up to the full measure of the challenge and see what all you can do?

Stretching Always Requires ChangeYesterday ended last night.To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. Your history is not your destiny. - Chicken Soup for the Soul series Alan CohenMonotony is the awful reward of the careful. A. G. Buckham The greatest stretching seasons of life come when we do what we have never done, push ourselves harder, and reach in a way that is uncomfortable to us. That takes courage. But the good news is that it causes us to grow in ways we thought were impossible.

Its never too late to be what you might have been.-George Elliot

Stretching Sets You Apart from Others Your goal, in other words, should be to make your bosses smarter, your team more effective, and the whole company more competitive because of your energy, creativity, and insights. - Winning: The Answers, by Jack and Suzy Welch Improving yourself is the best way to help your team. Successful people set themselves apart because they initiate the improvement others need. When you get better, those around you benefit. Stretching Can Become a Lifestyle When we stop stretching, I believe we stop really living. We may keep on breathing. Our vital life signs may be working. But we are dead on the inside and dead to our greatest possibilities.

Stretching Can Become a Lifestyle Nature has everywhere written her protest against idleness; everything which ceases to struggle, which remains inactive, rapidly deteriorates. It is the struggle toward an ideal, the constant effort to get higher and further, which develops manhood and character. - James Terry White ( editor) If you wont be better tomorrow than you were today, then what do you need tomorrow for? - Rabbi Nachman of Bratslav Im not where Im supposed to be, Im not what I want to be, But Im not what I used to be. I havent learned how to arrive; Ive just learned how to keep going.

Stretching Can Become a Lifestyle The greatest enemy of tomorrows success is todays success. No one has ever made a significant impact after they won the Nobel Prize. - Peter Drucker

Stretching Gives You a Shot at SignificanceIndian statesman Mahatma Gandhi stated, The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the worlds problems.That difference is the gap between good and great. And what closes the gap is our willingness to stretch. A possibility is a hint from God. One must follow it. - Philosopher Sren Kierkegaard We may appreciate what we did yesterday, but we dont put it on a pedestal. It looks small in comparison to the possibilities in the future.Growth stops when you lose the tension between where you are and where you could be. But having less tension makes people less productive.

11. The Law of Trade-Offs You have to Give up to Grow up

People will cling to an unsatisfactory way of life rather than change in order to get something better for fear of getting something worse. -Eric Hoffer Life has many intersections, opportunities to go up or down.

At these intersections we make choices. We can add something to our life, subtract from it, or exchange something we have for something we dont.

The most successful people know when to do which one of those three. Trade-Offs Are Available to Us Throughout Life

We Must Learn to See Trade-Offs as Opportunities for Growth

While we dont always get what we want, we always get what we choose. Trade-Offs Force Us to Make Difficult Personal Changes

The difference between where we are and where we want to be is created by the changes we are willing to make in our lives.

Will I go through this change or grow through thischange? A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences - Author Denis Waitley You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.

ChangesChange is PersonalTo change your life, you need to change.Change is PossibleEveryone can change.Change is ProfitableYou will be rewarded when you change.When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. - Victor Frankl The Loss of a Trade-Off Is Usually Felt Long Before the GainThe in-between periods of transition can be a real challenge.The change feels like a loss. Most Trade-Offs Can Be Made at Any Time Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, my friend, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. - Carl Bard A Few Trade-Offs Come Only Once There is at least one point in the history of any company when you have to change dramatically to rise to the next performance level. Miss that moment, and you start to decline.-Former chairman and CEO of Intel

The Higher You Climb, the Tougher the Trade-Offs

Each success only buys an admission ticket to a more difficult problem. - Henry Kissinger When were at the bottom, we make trade-offs because of desperation. We are highly motivated to change. As we climb, we change because of inspiration. At this higher level we dont have to anymore. We get comfortable. As a result, we dont make the trade-offs.

One of the dangers of success is that it can make a person unteachable. However, the skills that got you here are probably not the skills that will get you there. The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it. - Henry David Thoreau Trade-Offs Never Leave Us the Same Dont fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. - Louis Boone

Trade-Offs Never Leave Us the Same We all have the power of choice, but every time we make achoice, our choice has power over us. It changes us. Eventhe bad choices can ultimately help us to change for good, because they clarify our thinking and show us ourselves.

Some Trade-Offs Are Never Worth the PriceNot everything in your life is on the trading block.Its important to create systems and draw lines to keep ourselves safe make choices and use systems to keep ourselves grounded and on track.

Trade-Offs Worth Making 1. I Am Willing to Give Up Financial Security Today for Potential Tomorrow The only job security we have is our individual commitment to personal development. That is a trade-off that always brings a payoff. - Kevin Turner, the COO of Microsoft 2. I Am Willing to Give Up Immediate Gratification for Personal Growth There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going. Instant gratification and personal growth are incompatible. Our need for immediate gratification can turn us into the most reactive, non-thinking animals around.3. I Am Willing to Give Up the Fast Life for the Good Life The great secret of success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up.4. I Am Willing to Give Up Security for Significance Every trade-off is a challenge to become what we really are. The great men and women of history were not great because of what they earned and owned, but rather for what they gave their lives to accomplish.

Trade-Offs Worth MakingDelegate so youre working smarter, not just harder.Do what you do best and drop the rest.Get control of your calendar; otherwise other people will.Do what you love because it will give you energy.Work with people you like so your energy isnt depleted.

Trade-Offs Worth Making

5. I Am Willing to Give Up Addition for Multiplication What can I do for others? But that is addition. Once I began to learn leadership, my question changed to, What can I do with others? Thats multiplication. Your investment in others will have a multiplying effect, and you wont regret the time you give. Surrender one to take two; dont make two moves at one time; move up, not down; and when you reach the top, you have the freedom to move as you like. He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much. - James Allen

12. The Law of CuriosityGrowth Is Stimulated by Asking Why?Some men see things as they are and ask why. Others dream things thatnever were and ask why not.- George Bernard ShawAll meaningful and lasting change starts first in your imagination and thenworks its way-out. - Albert Einstein

How to Cultivate Curiosity1. Believe You Can Be Curious The single greatest difference between curious, growing people and those who arent is the belief that they can learn, grow, and change.2. Have a Beginners Mind-Set My greatest strength as a consultant is to be ignorant and ask a few questions. - Peter DruckerThe direct opposite of people who have a beginners mind-set are the know-it-alls.Anytime a person is answering more than asking, you can be sure theyve sloweddown in their growth and have lost the fire for personal growth.3. Make Why Your Favorite Word Albert Einstein said, The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity hasits own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplatesthe mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough ifone tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holycuriosity.

How to Cultivate Curiosity A major stimulant to creative thinking is focusedquestions. There is something about a well-wordedquestion that often penetrates to the heart of the matter and triggers new ideas and insights. - Brian Tracy

How to Cultivate Curiosity Ones first step in wisdom is to question everything-and ones last isto come to terms with everything. -George Christoph Lichtenberg (Scientist and philosopher) Anyone who knows all the answers is not asking the right questions.4. Spend Time with Other Curious People5. Learn Something New Every Day Most successful people seize their day, focusing in, ignoringdistractions.Experience is not the best teacher; evaluated experience is.6. Partake in the Fruit of FailurePeople who grow and develop see failure as a sign of progress.7. Stop Looking for the Right Answer

How to Cultivate Curiosity Almost every advance in art, cooking, medicine, agriculture, engineering, marketing, politics, education, and design has occurred when someone challenged the rules and tried another approach. -Roger von Oech 8. Get Over Yourself If we never tried anything that might make us look ridiculous, wed still be in caves. Roger von Oech Its better to look uninformed than to be uninformed. Curb your ego and keep asking questions.- Richard Thalheimer

9. Get Out of the Box There aint no rules around here! Were trying to accomplish something! Thomas Edison Most revolutionary ideas were disruptive violations of existing rules. They upset the old order. All life is an experiment. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

How to Cultivate Curiosity 10. Enjoy Your LifeWhen you enjoy your life everything becomes a learning experience.The real secret to his growth and success was an insatiable curiosity. - Richard Feynman a lifelong learner The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity. - Dorothy Parker

13. The Law of ModelingIts hard to improve when you have no one butyourself to follow.The most important personal-growth phrase you willever hear a good leader say to you is follow me.If you follow only yourself, you will find yourself goingin circles.Most people who decide to grow personally find theirfirst mentors in the pages of books.Be selective

Finding a mentor1. A Good Mentor Is a Worthy ExampleScrutinize their personal lives as carefully as their publicperformance.2. A Good Mentor Is AvailableAs I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watchwhat they do. Andrew Carnegie 3. A Good Mentor Has Proven ExperienceTo know the road ahead, ask those coming back. - Chinese proverb All leaders are influenced by those they admire. Reading aboutthem and studying their traits inevitably allows an inspiring leader todevelop his own leadership traits. -Rudy Giuliani Former, New York City mayor

Finding a mentor4. A Good Mentor Possesses WisdomTheir understanding, experience, and knowledge helpus to solve problems.They help us to see opportunities we would otherwise miss. They make us wiser than our years and experience.

5. A Good Mentor Provides Friendship and SupportGreat things happen whenever we stop seeingourselves as Gods gift to others, and begin seeing othersas Gods gift to us. -James S. VuocoloGrowth comes from both the head and the heart.Only supportive people are willing to share both withyou.

Finding a mentorPeter F. Drucker was driven not by the desire to saysomething but the desire to learn something from every student he met - and that is whyhe became one of the most influential teachers most ofus have ever known.6. A Good Mentor Is a Coach Who Makes a Difference in Peoples Lives

14. The Law of ExpansionGrowth Always Increases Your CapacityThere is no finish line. - Nike Commercial

No LimitsThe potential that exists within us is limitless and largely untapped when you think of limits, you create them. - Robert J. Kriegel & Louis Patler

How to Increase Your Thinking Capacity

1. Stop Thinking More Work and Start Thinking What WorksDont value effort over effectiveness.Ask yourself:-What am I required to do?-What gives the greatest return?-What gives me the greatest reward?

2. Stop Thinking Can I? and Start Thinking: How Can I?The most common reason people dont overcome the odds is that they dont challengethem enough.Everything looks like a failure in the middle. That doesnt matter. Dont give up.

Learning is discovering that something is possible. - Fritz Perls

How to Increase Your Thinking Capacity3. Stop Thinking One Door and Start Thinking Many DoorsKnowing the future is difficult; controlling the future is impossible.Knowing today is essential; controlling today is possible.Its said that one day the great artist Michelangelo went into the studioof Raphael. He looked at one of his early drawings, considered it a moment, thentook a piece of chalk and wrote the word Amplius, which meansgreater orlarger, across the entire drawing. Michelangelo wasencouraging Raphael to think bigger. Thats what we need to do.Mans mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its originaldimensions. - Oliver Wendell Holmes

How to Increase Your Capacity for Action1. Stop Doing Only Those Things You Have Done Before and Start DoingThose Things You Could and Should DoApprentice Journeyman Master2. Stop Doing What Is Expected and Start Doing More Than Is ExpectedWe live in a culture that awards trophies to people for simply showingup, regardless of their contribution.Former General Electric CEO Jack Welch calls this getting out of thepile. To distinguish yourself, get noticed, and advance your career, you needto do and Be more. You have to rise above average.3. Stop Doing Important Things Occasionally and Start Doing ImportantThings Daily

Expansion would mean leaving your comfort zone.

I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order to learn how to do it.

Going far beyond that call of duty, doing more than others expect, this is what excellence is all about! And it comes from striving, maintaining the highest standards, looking after the smallest detail, and going the extra mile. Excellence means doing your very best. In everything! In every way. - Jack Johnson (boxer)

Doing more trains you to develop a habit for excellence

Henry David Thoreau If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings.

15. The Law of ContributionGrowing Yourself Enables You to Grow Others.If youre not doing something with your life, it doesnt matter how long it is!Contributors take the stuff they own and use it as an asset to make this world aBetter place to live. I would rather have it said he lived usefully than he died rich. -Benjamin FranklinFranklin didnt see the world in terms of how much he could make from it. He saw it in terms of how many people he could help.

Every day Ben Franklin asked himself in the morning, What good shall I dotoday? and in the evening, What good have I done today?

Be a River, Not a Reservoir

A river flows. Whatever water it receives, it gives away.

1. Be GratefulPeople who arent grateful are not givers2. Put People FirstWhat you give to help others builds them up enough that they are able to give to others.Its a cycle that can continue on long after youre dead and gone.The measure of success is not the number of people who serve you, but the number ofpeople you serve.3. Dont Let Stuff Own YouOwning things doesnt bring real satisfaction.The life of a wealthy person should have two periods: a time of acquiring wealth and atime of redistributing it. The only way to maintain an attitude of generosity is to make ityour habit to give-your time, attention, money, and resources. - Andrew Carnegie4. Dont Let People Own You

5. Define Success as Sowing, Not ReapingI consider the success of my day based on the seeds I sow, notthe harvest I reap.- Robert Louis Stevenson If you are sowing only for quick returns in life, then you willusually be unhappy with the outcome and unable to keepgiving and living while waiting.

After sowing there is a period of time when it looks like nothing is happening.All the growth is below the surface. - Nabi Saleh

6. Focus on Self-Development, Not Self-Fulfillment Self-fulfillment thinks of how something serves me. Self-development thinks of how something helps me to serve others. Self-development means doing what I am talented and uniquely fit to do, and that becomes my responsibility. 7. Keep Growing to Keep Giving If you dont grow- you decline & lose your passion

Jim Rohn- A Legendary ContributorWork harder on yourself than you do on your job; your income is directlyrelated to your philosophy, not the economy; for things to change, you mustchange.The greatest gift you can give to someone is your own personal development.

This is the true joy of life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community, and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations. - George Bernard Shaw Nobel Prize for literature in 1925