The Call to LeadershipThe Ateneo Graduate School of Business

Session 4: Transformation & Self AwarenessJanuary 15, 2014

The Prayer for Generosity

Dearest Lord,

Teach me to be generous.

Teach me to serve you as I should:

To give and not to count the cost,

To fight and not to heed the wounds,

To toil and not to seek for rest,

To labor and ask not for reward;

Save that of knowing that I do Your Most Holy Will.

Mary Seat of Wisdom. Pray for us.

Recap & Re-entry

‣ Last time we watched a docu on Ninoy & asked the question how do we become leaders?

‣ What important ideas to you remember from last week?

How do we become leaders?

We grow up and become unique individuals.

At young adulthood, we become responsible, develop passions/interests, expertise, talents.

We are moved to make a difference, answer a need/call.

In the process, we inspire others to follow or work with us.

Part of that growing up has significant experiences & transforming experiences.

The Hero’s Transformation

Ninoy St. Ignatius Mulan

Present TRAPO & ambitious

Soldier & bad boy

Who am I?Torn by duty

Transformation & Call

Imprisoned by dictatorship

Cannon ball & convalescence

Duty as a soldier

Hero/Leader Fight for Freedom

God’s solider Icon of Duty

Present

Happy go-lucky. Attached to the Shire. Doesn’t like conflict.

Clark KentYoung Bruce

Wayne

Transformation & Call Bring the ring & the journey

Discovering his identity & powers

Parents murdered

Seeks justice as mercenary

Hero The Ring Bearer Superman Batman

Frodo Lord of the

Rings

Superman BatmanBatman Returns

Present Slave boy but talented

Jedi & Young man in love

Darth VaderRight hand of

Emperor

Transformation& Call Jedi training

Slowly being corrupted by Emperor who

uses love

Luke appeals to love

Hero Jedi Darth VaderAnakin, Luke’s

father

Paduan Anakin SW Ep 1 & 2

Anakin SkywalkerSW Ep 3

Darth VaderSW Ep 4 - 6

Transformation begins from within

And the first step is to know ourselves & our many layers more completely

Intro to the Self-awareness

Self-Awareness

Family Structure& History

Personal History

Personality

Genogram

Lifebook

Enneagram

Thesis Statements

1. Leadership requires knowing and managing oneself in order to know and manage others better.

2. Leadership creates change. It requires influencing others to work towards a shared vision and a purpose larger than themselves. So that they appreciate their role as change agents in whatever context they find themselves.

3. Defining one’s purpose for leadership is an interplay of self and context: your personality, your history and family influence.

4. Leaders need to be aware of their social, economic and environmental context in order to effectively respond to the challenges of today’s world.

Self Awareness

What is self-awareness?

‣ There are things that happen on the outside of us & inside of us. We want awareness of stuff inside of us.

‣ Awareness of who I am - strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats

‣ Emotional self-awareness.

‣ Current emotions.

‣ Gut level reactions

‣ Awareness of patterns of thinking, reacting, and behaving.

‣ 2 kinds of pyschosis: neurotic & character disorder

1. Stimulus

2. Sense stimuli

3. Interpret stimuli

4. Feel

5. Decide on response

6. Response/Behavior

Behavior Pattern

SELF

+ CONTEXT

CALLTO LEADERSHIP

THE WORK OF LEADERS

The nature of leadershipWhat it entails

The development process

There is behavior that we do that is subconsciously motivated. (i.e, that we may not be aware of)

Some hungers critical to leaders

Power & control

Affirmation & importance

Intimacy & delight

Hunger for Power & Control

Has a disproportionate need for control

Requires to know everything

Tends to take over when things become confusing or ambivalent

Gets angry when things don’t turn out as they wanted

In wanting power, loses sight of the work/goals

Focuses on maintaining order as an end undo itself

Hunger for Affirmation & Importance

You believe all the good things said about you

Strong need to hear from others that they did well

Cannot accept criticism and negative feedback

Driven to meet all the expectations & hopes of subordinates

Does not communicate bad news

Think they are the only ones who can save the day, that everything will fall apart without them

Hunger for Intimacy & Delight

Finds it difficult to be alone

Has deep fear of abandonment

Crosses boundaries inappropriately (ex. too touchy)

Strong need to get close to others

Feels power is a great aphrodisiac

Through power, they take advantage of others

Small Group Discussion

1. Find 4 or 5 people around you.

2. Sharing rules: Use “I, me, my” & “What happens in Boracay stays in Boracay.”

3. Answer the question:

1. What is my more dominant hunger: power & control, affirmation & importance, intimacy & delight

2. Try to look for examples in your life?

3. How is it good? How is it bad?

Homework

Take the free RHETI personality test on www.enneagraminstitute.com & read up on your top 3 results. Next we we start talking about your personality by using the Enneagram.