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Volume November 2018

Email articles to:

office@carolinechurch.net

The Carillon

Our Caroline Church Vision Statement: To help people encounter the living God together and live

transformed lives for Christ.

Our Mission Statement * We, the parishioners of Caroline Church of Brookhaven, are committed to Jesus Christ, to His teaching, His life, death and resurrection, in our call to serve and worship Him, in the tradition of the Anglican Communion. * We strive to share our faith and blessings for the furtherance of His king-dom in an environment of love, understanding, and support, through prayer, worship, Christian education, and fellowship.

My Dear Friends in Christ,

Fall is upon us as we give thanks to God for the many bless-ings we have received as His children and recognize that He has given us so much. This year's financial stewardship cam-paign as you know was to, "Grow as Stewards through Faith, Love, and Hope." Of course, stewardship involves honoring, witnessing and partnering.

We have been given the opportunity to give back to God a percentage of what he has blessed us with. To all those who have followed the biblical and Episcopal standard of giving of 10%, the vestry and I give you our heartfelt thanks. When you establish a tithe, you are saying, yes! Lord, I want to be in partnership with you. Your tithe is our human way of making a covenant with God, a tangible covenant with our heavenly Father.

God has given us so much in his covenant through the years. With Abraham it was a promise, then it was the blood of the lamb, and finally the new covenant, the blood of Jesus. Yes, God has given us a blood covenant, which is a firm covenant (like blood brothers), and he did this with his own Son. Who of us would give so much, to give us eternal life? Who of us would give our own child to save a bunch of sinning ungrate-ful people such as us? Do we always put the Lord first? Have we all accepted Jesus as our savior? Have we all asked for forgiveness and repented of it? How many of us have always put our Heavenly Father above all, family, friend, work, and play? That is a great deal to ask from anyone. Yet God held us most high when he gave his son for us... no ifs, ands or buts. He saw what needed to be done to save his people, and out of great love he did it.

After we all meditate on this, what a small thing giving a tithe to our Lord seems. However, it is a way to say "Yes, Lord, here I am. I accept Jesus as my savior, and I put God above all! What a wonderful gift, and the best part is that it is free. What is a mere 10% compared with what our Heavenly Father has done for us. How can we say we are good stew-ards if we cannot give with a joyful and happy heart?

I wonder when it came time for the sacrifice of His only Son if God stopped and said, "Well, I don't know if I want to give all." No, he was fully committed and gave His only begotten son for us. Isn't a tithe a tiny thing compared to forgiveness of sins, healing, prosperity, life in abundance, and love for all time! What is a mere tithe compared to all He has given us. How many of us would do that, so loving, caring, faithful, and always with a happy heart.

My friends, your tithe is much needed to keep his house in good shape. It is not enough to say, "Oh I will donate some

time to the Lord." Yes, your time is precious to you and to the Church. However, how is donated time going to keep the Lord's house open, in good repair, and running? Just like at home, it costs to keep our buildings in good repair and do the ministry we have been called to do in the Three Village com-munity.

We need to know how much the Lord has put on your heart to tithe. Budgets need to be made so that the Church can plan for the coming year. Will we have enough to pay utilities, grounds keeping, supplies, salaries, outreach, to keep educating our youth in what a wonderful friend, counselor, and partner we have in our Lord? That is why your pledge to support Caroline Church in the year 2019 is so important. Many thanks to all who have already done so and an anticipatory note of gratitude to those who will be doing so in the coming weeks.

Our Lord will never leave us or forsake us; this is a promise from Him. It is a promise we can count on daily. You never again should feel lonely, shut out, unworthy, ashamed. He is here with us through Jesus our intercessor and the Holy Spirit for our guidance and protection. He has left us well protected.

Your 10% or somewhat less, pledges of support, is so im-portant. Our ingathering for your pledges will be November 4th. We will hold our heads up high and proud, as our pledges are blessed on the altar that Sunday. Here it is, Lord. This is our way of giving thanks, praising and holding our Heavenly Father higher than all things, people, and our wants. What a glorious feeling this will be. He will be right by your side as the usher brings up your pledge to the altar at Caroline Church to honor him. What a wonderful feeling. Keep Saturday, No-vember 3 for a Celebration dinner and November 4th in your heart for a glorious experience in doing your part to help our parish grow in Faith, Love, and Hope.

With heartfelt gratitude, Cn. Richard+

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Caring for the Caregiver

Support Group

Caring for the Caregiver Support Group meets every second and fourth Saturday of the month from 9:30 – 11:00am in the Parish House. There is no cost for participating. The group is non-sectarian, non-denominational and is not disease specific; all caregivers are welcome.

Our next meetings will take place November 10 and 24

Supermarket Gift Cards Purchase your Stop ‘n Shop or King Kullen gift cards through the church. You pay face value, and Caroline Church receives a percentage. King Kullen cards can also be used at Wild By Nature. Cards can be purchased in the church office during regular business hours, as well as at Coffee Hour on the 3rd, 4th and 5th Sundays. In an effort to make them easier to purchase, the first Sun-day of the month will be “Supermarket Sunday”. Mark your calendar for Sunday, November 4 – bring cash or a check and plan to purchase cards. For your convenience, we will be selling them outside the church at all services, You have to shop anyway, so why not make your money work for you and for Caroline Church! P.S. Gift cards also make great gifts!

Parish Family News

Do you have some fun, interesting or exciting news you would like to share with our Caroline Family? If so, please send it along so we can include it in the next issue of the Carillon!

Parishioner News Events: Please send items of interest

(weddings, births, accomplishments etc.) to Maritza Groth at mlgroth@aol.com

or Catherine Horgan at:office@carolinechurch.net

150th Anniversary Celebrations of the

Diocese of Long Island The 150th Anniversary Celebrations for the 152nd Convention of the Diocese of Long Island takes place this month.

Our celebrations and Convention will take place from Thursday November 15 through Saturday, November 17 at the Uniondale Marriott Long Island. Our special guest this year will be the Most Rev. Michael Curry, Presiding Bishop of the Episcopal Church. The schedule is as follows: Thursday, November 15: 12:30 PM - 4:00 PM Clergy Day with the Presiding Bishop, starting with lunch. Friday, November 16: 9:00 AM - 5:00 PM Diocesan Convention 7:00 PM - Evening Banquet Saturday, November 17 - 10:30 AM - 150th Celebration Eucharist with the Presiding Bishop followed by a lunchtime reception.

Calling New Confirmands!

A new confirmation community is forming to explore our Episcopal tradition and help students articulate their Christian faith. Students will be prepared for the sacramental rite of Confirmation in 2019 through specially designed classes, worship experiences, field trips, and retreats. All young people in the 10th Grade who are fifteen or sixteen by the fall of 2019 and their parents are cordially invited to an orientation session with the clergy. Please let Cn. Richard or the parish office know of your interest as either a student or mentor. We look forward to hearing from you!

OPERATION SHOEBOX IS UNDERWAY! 2018 marks the 25th year in which “Operation Christmas Child” gift-filled shoeboxes will be shipped to children in need around the world. Please help us continue to spread joy and hope to children around the world who find themselves in desperate situations. Fill your shoebox with small toys and other gifts, label it for a boy or a girl, and include your check for $9 made payable to “Operation Christmas Child”. Please, NO CASH and no toothpaste! Your gift will help spread the Good News of God’s love. If you haven’t already done so, please pick up your empty boxes as soon as possible; boxes are available either at the office during the week or at church and Marco Smith on weekends. Please note that they must be MUST returned to the office no later than Friday, Nov. 9. Directions on how to fill the shoeboxes can be found on the boxes themselves. Thank you in advance for your support.

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Book Club Meeting We are on winter “hiatus”! The next meeting of our book club will take place in February, 2019 with the actual date and title of our

next book TBA.

Best wishes to all for a wonderful holiday season!

Senior Choir

Do you like singing? Wish you could do more of it? There's an answer: join the choir! The Senior Choir sings at the 9:30am Service every Sunday, and we rehearse on Thursday evenings at 7:00pm and Sundays at 8:45am in the upper Parish House. We sing a wide variety of music, ranging from hymns in LEVAS to renaissance music to modern choral anthems. Anyone interested in singing with us can contact Sammy via phone at 802-238-3608 or via email at: sammy.angstman@me.com. If you're interested but aren't sure you would be able to commit to every week, contact Sammy anyway!

“Whatever gift each of you may have received, use it in service to one another…”

1 Peter 4:10

Parish Ministry Opportunities

Eucharistic Ministers

One of the ministries that all of us participate in every Sunday is Lay Eucharistic Ministry. Either we take a sip or intinct from the consecrated wine or we are administering that Holy Sacrament to our fellow parishioners. The 69 th General Convention of the Episcopal Church authorized a form of lay ministry titled Lay Eucharistic Minister (LEM), formerly known as Chalicist, Chalice Bearer, or Chalice Administrator. This Canon of the Church provided for the laity to administer the Eucharistic Elements in “the absence of sufficient number of Priests or Deacons assisting the Celebrant” (1988). Ever since the early 1970’s the Episcopal Church has authorized laypersons to administer the Chalice at the Holy Eucharist services. Our Diocesan Bishop Provenzano made some changes in the preparation and administration of the sacraments. First, the ministerial office is now simply known as Eucharistic Ministry. Second, this liturgical office should be utilized even if tare a sufficient number of priests at a given service. Third, the training will now take place in the local parish instead of at Mercer School in Garden City and upon certification by the clergy; a license will be issued by the Rector. We have a need to expand our numbers. I would like to invite all Caroline parishioners to consider assisting at the altar in this important and holy ministry. We have a fine core of Eucharistic Ministers who have embraced their calling by Our and have been gifted with the tools to participate in our worship services through this particular altar ministry. Do consider joining this group of dedicated ministers. Please speak with Cn. Richard or call the parish office.

Sunday School Administrator We have a great team of dedicated church school teachers and substitute teachers who really care about the faith development of our children. What we need is some parishioner who will on Sunday mornings welcome new families, register new children, collect and tally classroom attendance, direct the children to appropriate classrooms, and be of support to any teacher in need. If you feel called by God to volunteer to help Administer our Church School program on Sunday mornings, please speak with Cn. Richard.

2018 Adopt a Family

Caroline Church will once again take part in

the diocesan “Adopt a Family” program, designed to help make the upcoming holi-day season more joyous and blessed for

families in need.

This year, we will provide a young immi-grant family with two children, a very spe-cial Christmas. Yolando and Roberto are

raising a 5 yr old daughter and year old son, whose needs are basic - clothing, some toys for the children and a few house hold items. Please take a tag as you leave church, pur-chase your item, wrap it for Christmas, and

attach the tag to the outside of the gift. All gifts can be returned to the church

vestibule or to the parish office, no later than December 9.

Thank you in advance for your generosity.

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Our Anglican Heritage

Hugh Bishop of Lincoln Hugh of Lincoln was the son of William, Lord of Avalon. He was born at Avalon Castle in Burgundy and was raised and educat-ed at a convent at Villard-Benoit after his mother died when he was eight. He was professed at fifteen, ordained a deacon at nine-teen, and was made prior of a monastery at Saint-Maxim. While visiting the Grande Chartreuse with his prior in 1160. It was then he decided to become a Carthusian there and was ordained. After ten years, he was named procurator and in 1175 be-came Abbot of the first Carthusian monastery in England. This had been built by King Henry II as part of his penance for the murder of Thomas Becket.

His reputation for holiness and sanctity spread all over England and attracted many to the monastery. He admonished Henry for keeping Sees vacant to enrich the royal coffers. Income from the vacant Sees went to the royal treasury. He was then named bishop of the eighteen year old vacant See of Lincoln in 1186 - a post he accepted only when ordered to do so by the prior of the Grande Chartreuse. Hugh quickly restored clerical discipline, labored to restore religion to the diocese, and bcame known for his wisdom and justice.

He was one of the leaders in denouncing the persecution of the Jews that swept England, 1190-91, repeatedly facing down armed mobs and making them release their victims. He went on a diplomatic mission to France for King John in 1199, visiting the Grande Chartreuse, Cluny, and Citeaux, and returned from the trip in poor health. A few months later, while attending a national council in London, he was stricken and died two months later at the Old Temple in London on November 16. He was canonized twenty years later, in 1220, the first Carthusian to be so honored. His life and ministry is remembered throughout the Episcopal Church every November 17.

A Call for Acolytes! All those entering 6 Grade or above, are invited to serve on the Altar at Caroline Church. This is a great opportunity to serve your parish community by help-ing the priest and the people worship Our Lord at our weekend services. Also our Acolyte Corp have a fun

time together with BBQ’s, game days, and a yearly Paint Ball outing. Acolyte training sessions for new acolytes will be orga-nized as signups come in. Call the parish office and let Cn. Richard know you would like to join the Acolyte Corp!

Annual Acolyte Recognition

Day

We are planning once again to hold our Annual |Acolyte Recognition Day on Sunday, November 4 at the 9:30 am Service. This is a wonderful occasion for all acolytes to renew their commitment to this vital ministry of service at the altar of Caroline Church. The day will include a special brunch and an annual meeting held directly after the service in the Marco Smith building. You will have an opportunity to ask about the requirements to become a Master Acolyte. All acolytes should pray that Our Lord will inspire other teens to join our Acolytes Corp. Your Acolyte Director Mr. Duy Nguyen, and I are looking forward to this special day in your honor. RDV

Caroline Conversation On-line The Caroline Conversation, started in June of 2009, is an on-line discussion group for members and friends of Caroline Church. The format is a weekly consideration of the Gospel for the week ahead. Many of our discussions have been wonderfully thought provoking, and we look forward to hearing from more Carolinians. All you need is an e-mail address to sign-up! If you would like to join the Conversation, just send an email

to Cn. Richard at:carolinerector@gmail.com from the e-mail

address where you would like to receive messages, and you

will receive an “invitation” to the Conversation with

directions for joining and a covenant shared by participants.

Hope to hear from you soon!

Christmas Decorations

Christmas is coming up very quickly and as we begin to think about Christmas presents, let us not forget about adorning our church with the beauty of Christ-mas flowers. If you would like to make a gift of flow-ers for the altar on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, please fill out the form on Page 11 and return it to the Parish Office, One Dyke Road, Setauket, NY 11733, no later than December 9th, 2018 Please make checks payable to CAROLINE CHURCH, with “Christmas Flowers” noted in the memo portion of the check. Let us not only remember our loved ones who have gone before us, but let us be thankful for the loved ones in our midst now, and for the joy of family and friends around us.

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Vestry Highlights (October)

Moving forward on the disposition of the

Rookery

Approved fundraiser for local girl scout project

Budget Committee in place

Stewardship update, and Nov 3rd dinner planned

DON’T FORGET!!

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS

TIME IS ENDING!

TURN YOUR CLOCKS BACK ONE

HOUR BEFORE GOING TO BED ON

SATURDAY NOVEMBER 3

“Grow as Stewards in Faith, Love and Hope!”

The theme for this year’s stewardship program beginning on October 14 was titled “Grow as Stewards through Faith, Love and Hope!” In St. Paul’s letter to the people in Thessalonica, he wrote, “We continually remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ”

(1 Thessalonians 1:3). God graciously gives us faith, love, and hope – virtues essential for our lives as Christians and as God’s stewards. Each week during this three-week program, we focused on one of the triads of faith, love, and hope.

In week one, we were reminded that it is through faith that we have access into God’s grace and a new relationship with

him. Not only does faith justify us and give us peace with God (Romans 5:1), we are told by St. Paul in our theme verse that faith produces works. Faith leads to action. Through faith, we are empowered to fulfill God’s purposes. Our deeds as stewards are evidence of our faith.

During the second week we focused on the virtue of love. Love seeks the welfare of others “. . . since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made

complete in us” (1 John 4:11-12). God’s love in Christ will compel us to do things that appear foolish to unbelievers. God’s love prompts us to give freely of our time, talents, and treasures to help others and extend his kingdom.

In the third and final week we focused on the virtue of hope. Through the resurrection of Jesus, we, as believers, are given

the victory over death and the assurance of our salvation. Filled with the hope of eternal life with Jesus, we “give [ourselves] fully to the work of the Lord, because [we] know that our labor in the Lord is not in vain” (1 Corinthians 15:58).

To date we have received 60 pledges for our parish ministry in 2019. As we bless those Pledges for the ministry at Caroline Church in the coming year on Sunday November 4th and enjoy on Saturday, November 3 a Celebration Dinner in the MCS building, may each of us grow in our relationship with Our Lord and one another.

Join us for another FREE concert by the

Three Village Chamber Players

Saturday, November 17

7:30 pm in the church

The Three Village Chamber Players exhibit their broad range of expertise by performing on period instruments in their November micro festival featuring baroque music. Friday November 16 will include morning presentations in locals schools as well as a private evening house concert for 3VCP donors (interested in becoming a donor and attending this private event? Please contact us at hello@3vcp.org! Space is limited). Saturday 11/17 will include an Art+Music interactive children's concert at Artelier Art Studio in Port Jefferson at 11:30am, and an evening concert at Caroline Church at 7:30pm. On Sunday November 18 there will be a matinee concert at First Presbyterian Church of Southold at 4pm. Performers will include Natalie Kress (baroque violin), Elena Smith (baroque cello), and Robert Warner (harpsichord). All concerts are free and open to the public (donations accepted). For more information visit 3vcp.org or contact hello@3vcp.org.

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Caroline Church Pie Order Form

2018 On Sunday, November 11th, we will host “coffee Hour”

with samples of these delicious holiday pies. Please come buy to taste and place your order!

All pies are 10” in size, unbaked, frozen and will be available for

pick up on November 18th after the 9:30am Service. Cost is $17.00 per pie. Orders must be in by November 14th.

Make checks payable to Caroline Church.

Pie Qty Total Cost

Apple Pie ___ x $17.00 = $________

Pumpkin ___ x $17.00 = $________

Coconut Custard ___ x $17.00= $________

Strawberry Rhubarb ___ x $17.00 = $________

Fruit of the Forest ___ x $17.00 = $________

Lemon Meringue ___ x $17.00 = $________

Total: ___ x $17.00 = $________

Name: _______________________________________

Phone: _______________

Paid: Cash ____ Paid Check #_____

Pay at time of Pick Up: _____

For further information contact: Virginia Cash, 751-3541 or email at:

Vcash5msw@aol.com

If you would like to purchase and donate a pie(s) to the Welcome Friends, Soup Kitchen, please indicate the type of

pie below:

Yes! I want to donate a ____________ pie to the Welcome Friends Soup Kitchen

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All proceeds from this year’s fund raiser will go towards the purchase of new acolyte robes and to replenish the “Angel Bags”

in our church.

The Historic and Cultural

Artifacts Commission

cordially invites you to attend the

Costume Coffee Hour and Pie Tasting in the History Center,

Veterans Day, November 11, 2018 after the 9:30 service

and the National Ringing of the Bells of Peace at

11:00 AM celebrating the centennial of the

Armistice of World War I the 11th hour of the 11th day

of the 11th month. The bells will toll 21 times.

It would be delightful to see the proud wearing of hats, medals and military attire from any era and the Costume Corner near the library has an assortment of fun outfits and accessories for ladies, gents and wee folk.

A prayer for veterans…..

Dear God,

Please bless the veterans who wore

the faded uniform. May they know

the peace of a career well-served,

and service completed. Give them

our thanks for the doors opened,

paths paved, and battles fought.

Give them our thanks for the

freedom preserved, future

defended, and the ideals embodied.

Bless the veterans who defended our

country with strength and selfless devotion.

Amen.

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CAROLINE CHURCH WREATH SALE

Our Wreaths are florist quality, double-faced and made of balsam pine. They are offered in two sizes – 2’ and 3’ wide. Your beautiful Wreath will be decorated with either a red, ivory or burgundy velvet bow, pinecones and seasonal picks and/or ball clusters. Grave Pillows are 20” by 30” and are dec-orated with a red velvet bow, pinecones and ball clusters. American flags can be added for honoring our Veterans. Samples of our wreaths will soon be hanging on the Slype. The last day to pre-order is Sunday, November 25th. All greens will be available for pick up on Saturday, December 1st (10AM-12 Noon and after the 5:ooPM Service) and Sunday, December 2nd (after both services.) Please contact Susan Rydzeski (631-751-7693) if you have any questions or have any special-order requirements.

Name____________________________________________________________________ Tel. No. ________________________________________

I would like to pick up my order on: __________ Saturday, December 1, 10am-12noon __________Saturday, December 1 after 5pm service __________Sunday, December 2 after 8am or 9:30am services

Qty. in

Red Qty. in Ivory

Qty. in Burgundy

2’ Wreath #________of 2’ Wreaths @ $26 = $

3’ Wreath #________of 3’ Wreaths @$37 = $

Grave Pil-low

#________ of Pillows @ $27 = $

Total Amount Due

Please make your check payable to Caroline Church. Check #________________

$

Remember, the last day to pre-order is Sunday, November 25th

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Coffee Hour and Fellowship

Thanks to those who have already signed up; two dates at

the end of the year are still available, so please check the

sign up sheet in the kitchen or call the parish office, or, call Len Calone at 631.928.2019

Be sure to take advantage of this special time to share your “host/hostess” gifts with your fellow parishioners

after the 9:30 service on Sunday.

November Birthdays

11/1 Patricia Brush Eileen Hull Mark LaSorsa 11/2 Theresa Williams Margaret Wisniewski 11/3 Ryan Granger 11/4 Sarah Keck 11/5 Daniel Groth Marian Haubold Arline Irving Marc Lindemann Patricia McGuigan Duy Nguyen 11/6 John Cincotta Jill D’Aleo Deanna Lopez 11/8 Jessica Esernio Irene Gwinnett Bill Shane Dan Wueste 11/9 Eileen Davenport 11/10 James Esernio 11/11 Arleen-Spence Gonzalez 11/12 Kelsey6 Butruch Leah Grace Savage John Worrell 11/14 Laura Haring Cyrus Lindeman 11/16 Joseph DiSclafani 11/18 Madeleine Rampone

11/19 Cristian Davis 11/20 Henri Buchet 11/21 Roger Reyes 11/24 Emily Bishop Richard Flynn Christopher Nguyen 11/25 Joseph D’Aleo Michael Granger 11/27 Nancy O’Neill 11/28 Alfredo Sobalvarro 11/30 Matthew Dattwyler Brian Hazell Ruth Strassle

Grief Support Group

Our November social meeting will take place on November 15 at 5:30pm at the Stony Brook Yacht Club.

Anyone who has lost a loved one is cordially

invited to join us, even if your loss was years ago. Your attendance may be the spark to help some-

one else.

We follow a basic structure and all sharing or discussions are held in confidence.

For additional information, please contact

Cn. Richard at the parish office, or Don Muffly at 689-8804.

Liturgical Calendar

Baptisms: October 1 - Remington Cincotta

October 6-Harper Ann Trahan

*** Funeral Service October 6-Lillyan Antoinette

Spadaro

News from the Brotherhood of St. Andrew

Join us for an Open House on Saturday,

November 10 at 8:00am The Brotherhood of St Andrew is an international ministry to men and boys (16 years and older) within the Episcopal Church, which focuses on the disciplines of prayer, study, and service. It was established in Chicago in 1883, and a chapter was formed here at Caroline Church around 1983. On Saturday, church for us to share with the men and boys of the parish, what the Brotherhood at Caroline is all about. There will also be a church service, bagels, coffee, and fellowship. We look forward to seeing many of you there. Len Calone Vice President BSA

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Enjoy the Convenience of

Electronic Giving!

For the past couple of years here at Caroline Church, electronic giving has been available for all parishioners. This form of giving to the ministry of the Church offers church members a convenient, safe and simple way to make regular church offerings without the need to write checks, carry cash or prepare envelopes. Some statistics: 74% of Americans say they write no more than one check per month, 59% of donors over the age of 65 gave a gift online last year, and 57% of all internet traffic will come from mobile devices by 2018. The benefit for you is that it provides convenience, keeps you on track with financial stewardship, guarantees your uninterrupted support and provides you today’s most popular payment methods. Electronic giving is good for Caroline Church in that it provides much-needed donation consistency, saves the church staff time, adds greater security in the church office and has a positive impact on the environment. The easiest way to start is to go online from your computer to our church web page, enter donation information on our church’s online donation page once in gets you to Vanco Payment Solutions. You can use any credit or debit card, or checking or savings account. From here you can manage recurring donations and view your online giving history. Electronic giving is actually safer than writing checks or carrying cash. Secure donation services are provided by Vanco Payment Solutions. Vanco processes electronic donations for more than 15,000 churches and nonprofit organizations. A report of your giving is sent to Caroline Church. We hope this fast, convenient and consistent way of giving to the ministry at Caroline Church is something that you will embrace and support.

Updated Parish Directory - LAST

CHANCE!

The new Parish Directory will be published this month; thanks to all who have taken the time to send in their updated email addresses and phone numbers which has enable me to adjust information as it comes in. For those who still need to submit their updated information, please contact the office no later than Monday, November 5; we regret that any information received after that date will not appear in the 2019 Parish Directory. New members of the Caroline Church Family are also encouraged to contact the office to complete a member profile form to be sure you are included in all parish related correspondence.

Order of St. Luke – Theophilus Healing

Mission Chapter In an effort to meet the needs and challenges of some of our older members, some of whom find it difficult to drive at night, we are starting our services with change this year. Our services at night will be held at Bethel AME Church at 7:30 pm, on Nov. 2 and our meetings at 10:00 am will be times of prayer and study. During the winter months, we will hold our services during the time of the Thursday noon Eucharist at Caroline Church. Please join us as we open our lives to the healing power of Jesus who desires us to be made whole in body, mind and spirit. We also offer prayer for healing and thanksgiving after every 9:30 am Sunday service. ***

Upper Room Bible Study

Bible Study meets every Monday at 7:00 pm (for refreshments); study will begin at 7:30. Dianne and Wayne have returned from their travels and are ready to continue studying the Book of Matthew. All are welcome! ****

2018 Annual Community Interfaith

Thanksgiving Service

The Three Village Interfaith Clergy Assoc. will offer it’s annual Community Interfaith Thanksgiving Service on Tuesday, November 20 at 7:00 pm at North Shore Jewish Center, located at 385 Old Town Road, Port Jefferson Station. (across from Ward Melville High School) Pack up your Thanksgiving visitors and family, and come join us to celebrate the gifts of our religious diversity. We hope you will be able to stay for a while after the service to enjoy refreshments and conversation.

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Caroline Church Tricentennial Commission Being Formed

This newly formed commission will create a year of events that will have a positive and lasting impact on our commu-

nity, showcasing our special Anglican character, while furthering our legacy. Caroline Church’s 300th Anniversary

will be an opportunity to discover our shared heritage, commemorate our storied history, recognize our development,

and collaborate on our bright future.

The Caroline Church Christmas Fair is quickly approaching. Mark your calendars now! Saturday, December 1st from 9:30 – 3:00.

Please prayerfully consider how you can help make this year’s fair a great success. Below are some suggestions on ways you can contribute your time and talents:

Bake Cookies for the Cookie Walk. Please note that all cookies should be home-baked; they don’t have to be home-made.

Donate any new items that you have around the house for the “new gifts” table. Many of us have “that” closet or drawer where these items seem to accumulate. Do you?

Shop on the day of the fair and bring a friend (s) with you! Make sure to pre-order your Christmas wreath. Contact Susan Rydzeski at 631-751-7693. Drop off your gently used Christmas ornaments and decorations so that the tables will be overflowing with Christmas cheer for our eager shoppers. Do you make a good pot of soup? Volunteer to prepare a pot or to make a kid friendly tray of macaroni and cheese

for the Lunch Room. Contact Lainey Cash at 631-428-0475. Help to set-up for the fair on the evening of Thursday, November 29th. This involves setting up tables and moving

furniture. Help needed during the day on Friday, November 30th, to set up the merchandise to be sold. Help to break down the fair on Saturday, December 1st at 2:45. Plastic bags are needed. If you have any, please bring them in. Bake anything that you want that can be sold! There is always a bake sale section at the Christmas Fair. Many people are needed to help staff the tables the day of the fair. You could help for an hour or the whole day! The Thrifty Boutique wants your donations of jewelry, clothing (clean, wearable, and on hangers please), accessories such as ties, belts, and scarves. Donations can be left at the Church office. Donate something special to this year’s silent auction. Contact Barbara Russell at 631-689-9434. Volunteer to prepare and move the outside portable sign providing basic fair information to the community. Are you good with children? Are you good at very simple crafts? Why not volunteer to help with the children’s

crafts tables. Santa will be making an appearance at the fair this year and will be setting up for pictures downstairs in the Marco

Smith Building. Are you the person that can transform the space into one shining with Christmas spirit? All fair proceeds, except for those from the Cookie Walk, will be distributed by the Vestry to community outreach. Proceeds from the Cookie Walk will benefit the Church School. Contact Virginia Cash at631-751-3541 or at vcash@virginiacashcares.com for more information.

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Church School News As we come into the month of November, we look forward to sharing the ‘Operation Shoe Box’ collection with those less fortunate than us. Please remember to bring your Shoe Boxes in by Friday, November 9th so they can be delivered before Christmas. We appreciate you joining with the children of Caroline Church to make a difference in a child’s life by filling one shoe box. December 2nd is the 1st Sunday in Advent. We will have a combined Sunday School for part of that day as we will make our Advent wreaths. 1 wreath per family, so brothers and sisters will be working on their family Advent Wreath together that day. Don’t be late!! We also have family devotionals and activity books for each child to bring home. Advent is a family time as we await the birth of Our Lord, a time to share together the wonderful gift of Jesus coming into our world as a baby. We encourage you to share this time daily with your family through the use of these books. November is also a time that we look ahead to our Christmas Pageant. Anyone interested in assisting in the cultivation of this pageant, please contact Cindy Schleider at schleidalu@gmail.com or 631-473-4610. You need not have a child in Sunday School to help out. We need those who can design costumes, work on props, set up the stage and breakdown and assist at rehearsals. We will start pageant sign up’s for children as well as assis-tants this month. Our pageant is scheduled for Sunday, December 16th at 9:30am. This is a wonderful time to teach our children all about ‘giving of oneself’ instead of receiving - as Jesus gave himself to us so that we will one day be with him in heaven. Don’t miss out on this wonderful opportunity to be a part of this Caroline Church event. Lot’s going on and lot’s to do with time moving fast. Let us fill that time with our thoughts on Jesus and serving Him. We can’t do it without you.

Fall College Care Packages Program is winding down for this year! Our thanks to the numerous parishioners who have responded so generously once again to this

program. We are still in need of your support so the boxes of goodies can be sent to 24 college

students this Fall. Please help us get the supplies we need to create these great boxes and let our

college kids know we are thinking of them! Here’s a list of important dates:

Oct 15-Nov 11: Drop off donations in parish office during the week or in the blue Rubbermaid container in the main

room of MCS Building on Sunday’s. During the week, your donations can be left in the Sunday School Office on the

second floor of MCS.

Sunday, Nov.11: 11:00am pack boxes in 3rd/4th grade Sunday School classroom (you are most welcome to join us!)

Sunday, Nov. 18: Boxes will be blessed at each weekend service and volunteers will be asked to mail them

Monday, Nov. 19: Volunteers mail boxes to recipients.

Any questions? Need to update your college student's address or add their name to the list of those receiving a care

package? Contact Liz Specht at:lizspecht5@gmail.com

My Offering for Christmas Memorial Flowers In memory of: _______________________________________________________________________________ As a Thank Offering for: _______________________________________________________________________ Name:_________________________________________________________________ Envelope No._________ Amount: $ ____________________________

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An Update on

the New

Columbarium at

Caroline Church

All Saint’s and All Soul’s Day

Praying for the departed appears in many places in our Book of Common Prayer. Although there is a weekly opportunity for remembering the dead in the Prayers of the People in the Holy Eucharist, our Prayer Book Calendar lists November 1st as All Saints’ Day and November 2 as Commemoration of All Faithful Departed - All Souls Day. Since our society allows less and less time for grief, the observance of these days is an important part of our pastoral care of the bereaved. We show our solidarity with one another and our love for those who have died, commending them in faith to God. We are in continuing fellowship with the faithful departed within the communion of saints and the unsearchable riches of Christ’s passion applied to their existence and ours. The first and last names of any departed you wish to be remembered will be read aloud as part of the intercessions for the Burial of the Dead at our Holy Eucharist Healing service on All Saints’ Day, Thursday, November 1 at 12:00 Noon. The names will also be reproduced in the Sunday bulletin and remembered on the Sunday after All Saints’ Day, November 4.

Presiding Bishop’s Statement on Tree of Life Tragedy

October 27, 2018: Episcopal Church Presiding Bishop Michael Curry has issued the following statement:

Dear Friends,

I’m here in Des Moines, Iowa, at the convention of the Episcopal diocese of Iowa. It’s Saturday, and several hours ago you learned, as did we all, that a gunman entered Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh. A number of people have been killed and wounded Our Jewish neighbors, our brothers and sisters, are fearful and we must stand with them and provide comfort and support for them and for all It is reported that the gunman not only ranted anti-Semitic sayings, he has also ranted and spoken against immigrants and refugees and other peoples. We must pray, we must pray for him, we must pray for the spirit of our nation, that a spirit of love and compassion and good-ness and decency would pervade and that spirits of hatred ad bigotry would be cast away. But, above all, at this time, pray for those who have died and for their families and their loved ones. Pray for t hose who are wounded. Pray for the first responders, pray for our brothers and sisters in the Jewish community. Pray for the Tree of Life Synagogue. Pray for the City of Pittsburgh. Pray for America. Pray for us all. And then, go out and do something. Do something that helps to end the long night and helps to bring in the daylight. Visit a neighbor Remind our Jewish brothers and sister that they do not stand alone. Care for someone. Love. Stand for what is right and good. Then pray. And then act. And pray the Lord’s Prayer. God love you. God bless you. And may God hold us all in those Almighty hands of love. The Most Rev. Michael Curry, Presiding Bishop and Primate, The Episcopal Church

As we have now ended our discount pricing period, we thank all who have taken advantage of securing niche spaces in our future columbarium. Having provided parishioner discounts, we are also aware that the idea of a Columbarium sparked many family end of life discussions. The response to date has been enough to financially offset the construction by nearly fifty percent. Although the discount period has passed, parishioners may still reserve niche space by making a down payment and paying the remainder over time. Please see the Columbarium Policy for additional details. Upon final approval by the Vestry, we believe construction, by Creter Vault Corp. of New Jersey, may begin in the late spring/ early Summer of 2019. The columbarium will be locat-ed in the center of our cremains area which honors past members of our congregation. As the Circle-of-Life continues the columbarium will provide a place of remembrance for families wanting that connection with Caroline Church throughout all of life's stages, from celebrat-ing births, baptisms, communion, marriage to commemorating a life once lived, and all those wonderful and challenging days in between. A columbarium will provide the congregation with that close connection to one another within a faith community. Don Muffly and Ginny Apmann remain available to answer any questions you may have

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NOMINATIONS SOUGHT FOR THE 2019 VESTRY AND

CONVENTION DELEGATES The Vestry Nominating Committee is seeking nominations for the Vestry and for Delegates to Diocesan Convention. According to our church's bylaws, this year there will be three (3) three-year Vestry positions to be filled and one (1) two-year warden position to be elected at the Annual Parish meeting held on January 30, 2019. The Vestry is the legal board of directors for The Caroline Church of Brookhaven exercising corporate and budgetary authority. The Vestry of Caroline Church is comprised of twelve (12) members. Lay members of the Vestry are elected for a three-year term. Wardens are elected for a two-year term. The Vestry will elect Three (3) At-Large Delegates to the Diocesan Convention and their alternates for one year. Two youth may also attend from each parish with voice but no vote. These delegates along with the clergy represent our parish at the annual convention that is tentatively scheduled for Friday and Saturday on November 8 and 9, 2019. If you would like to recommend yourself or someone you know to the Vestry Nominating Committee, please complete the following Nomination Form. Completed forms should be in the Church office by December 1. If you are interested in serving but are unsure if you meet the qualifications listed below, or have any questions regarding the election process, please speak with Cn. Visconti. Thank you, Mark LaSorsa, Chair

NOMINATION FORM I nominate ________________________________________ to serve God as _____ A Member of Caroline Church’s Vestry _____ An At-Large Delegate to Diocesan Convention I certify that I am a communicant of the Church, eighteen years of age or older, who has been enrolled in the Parish Register for the past twelve months and have communicated in the parish in the year preceding, and that I am and have been a stated contributor in my own name to the support of the parish for the past twelve months. _____________________________________ Signature of Nominator I accept nomination to serve God in the ministry indicated and I pledge that: I have a strong personal commitment to Jesus Christ, and to carrying out His ministry in our community. I am a confirmed or received communicant of the Episcopal Church in good standing, regular in prayer and worship. I will attend Vestry meetings at 7:00 p.m. on the third Wednesday of each month. I will attend the Vestry retreat on February 9, 2019. I will be active in the life of the parish, willing to assume leadership and other positions. I am a stated contributor of record who is working toward a tithe as minimum goal of Christian giving of time, talent and treasure. I agree with and am willing to sign the Vestry Covenant. I will be open to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. ______________________________________ Signature of Nominee

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T h e C a r i l l o n C a r o l i n e C h u r c h o f B r o o k h a v e n

The Rev. Cn. Richard D. Visconti, Rector One Dyke Road Setauket, NY 11733-3014

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C a r o l i n e C h u r c h o f B r o o k h a v e n Sunday Services: 8:00 and 9:30 am

Saturday Service: 5:00 pm Tel. (631)941-4245 Fax (631)941-0280

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November 2018

November 1- All Saints Day

November 4 - All Saints Sunday/Acolyte

Recognition Day

November 11 - Veteran’s Day

November 20 – Ecumenical Prayer Service

November 22– Thanksgiving Day

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