The Gentleman Concept

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CONCEPTUL $E GENTLE!AN

Can%i%a& Pro'e(or coor%ona&or

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Ta4le o' con&en&

Cha5&er I1i(&or6 o' gen&le*an

070 The !i%%le Age07. The ,ic&orian Age078 The !o%ern Age

Cha5&er IIThe co*5le&e gen&le*an

.70 9arrior

.7. Co%e( o' 1onor

.78 !on:

.7; Lo)er

.7< Gen&le*an No=a%a6( > Chi)alr6 in *o%ern age

Cha5&er IIIE&i?ue&&e 'or gen&le*en no=a%a6(

;70 General e&i?ue&&e

;7. Ta4le e&i?ue&&e;78 Par&6 e&i?ue&&e;7; E&i?ue&&e =i&h a la%6


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In&ro%uc&ion

The no=a%a6( gen&le*an i( )er6 *uch li:e &he *e%ie)al :nigh& an% &he,ic&orian gen&le*an- e+ce5& &ha& he ha( a *ore reali(&ic )ie= o' &he =orl%7 1e i( acon(er)a&i)e li4eral- a *an e%uca&e% in &ra%i&ion- 4u& no& 4oun% &o i&7 1e i( li=arrior- 4ecau(e he :no=( &ha& &here are &hing( =or&h 'igh&ing 'or- 'or =hich he =ill'igh& un%er an6 circu*(&ance(7 1e i( a lo)er- 4ecau(e he allo=( hi( lo)e% one( &oli4era&e hi* 'ro* &he &6rann6 o' ego7 1e i( li:e a *on: 4ecau(e he e*5lo6( learning&o unloc: &he *6(&erie( o' &he hu*an hear&7 Tho(e are &he &hree *a(culine arche&6&ha& crea&e a gen&le*an > =arrior- lo)er an% *on:7 Thi( :nigh& o' *o%ern &i*e(cul&i)a&e( a *ar&ial (5iri& in %e'en(e o' &ru&h an% 4eau&i'ul7 1e &rea&( &he o55o=i&h &he re(5ec& re?uire% 46 cour&l6 lo)e7 An% he )alue( learning in &he 5ur(ui& o&ru&h7

$e(5i&e &he con'u(ion crea&e% in our &i*e(- real *anhoo% i( no& co*5lica&e%i( an ancien& i%eal 4a(e% on (er)ice &o Go%- 'a*il6 an% 'rien%(7 1e (&an%( ou& 'or h%igni&6- he re@ec&( &he no&ion &ha& one =a6 o' 4eha)ing i( a( goo% a( ano&her- h 4elong( &o an ari(&ocrac6 o' )ir&ue7

The conce5& o' &he gen&le*an ha( a long hi(&or67 The i%ea e*erge( in &he!i%%le Age( an% reache( &o=ar%( &he en% o' &he nine&een&h cen&ur67 No=a%a6(

li:e a gen&le*an *igh& (ee* o4(ole&e7 9e *igh& 'ail &o (ee &ha&- e)en no= - in a*o%ern (ocie&6- =e nee% gen&le*en7 9e are 5a((ing &hrough &i*e( in =hich &he&hing( e)er6one :no=( are &rea&e% a( unhear% o'7 To 4e gen&le*an all one ha( &o %li(&en &o &he co**on (en(e =e (o*e&i*e( &en% &o 'orge& a4ou&7 No *an 4eha)e( a(gen&le*an all &he &i*e- 4u& &he 4e(& *en ne)er cea(e &r6ing &o7

I& i( o4)iou( &ha& con%i&ion( ha)e change%- &ha& &he chi)alric i%ea i( no lo

a( cheri(he%- ei&her 46 *en or =o*en- a( i& =a( 4ac: in &he 5a(& cen&urie(7 Agen&le*an &o%a6 *a6 'in% hi( en)iron*en& le(( congenial &o hi( &e*5era*en&- he *a


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e)en encoun&er ho(&ili&67 One *a6 no& honor or un%er(&an% &he co%e o' *oral &hano&her %eci%e( &o lea% hi( li'e on7 Bu& can re(5ec& hi( %eci(ion &o li)e u5 &o i&

E%*un% Bur:e =ro&e a4ou& chi)alr6 I' i& (houl% e)er 4e &o&all6 e+&ingui(he&he lo(( I 'ear =ill 4e grea&7 The gra)e(& ri(: i( &he 4ani(h*en& o' (u4&le&6 an%(ingulari&6- &he &hing( &ha& *a:e a *an 4o&h lo)a4le an% u(e'ul7

Pr ci(

E)er (ince I =a( a li&&le girl I ha)e 4een 'a(cina&e% 46 'air6&ale(7 Each an%e)er6 'air6&ale ha% i&( 5rince(( =ai&ing &o 4e (a)e% 46 a 4ra)e :nigh&7 The :nigh&al=a6( (ee*e% &o :no= &he righ& 5a&h- &he righ& =or%( an% =oul% %o e)er6&hingor%er &o (a)e &he 5rince((7

ear( 5a((e% an% I 'oun% *6(el' lo(& in a =orl% =here a55aren&l6 no :nigh&(=ere &o 4e 'oun%7 So =ho (a)e( &he 5rince(( no= Thi( i( ho= I 'oun% a4ou&gen&le*an7 To *e- gen&le*an al=a6( *ean& a *an o' honor an% courage- =ho lea%hi( li'e on (&rong *oral )alue( an% =a( al=a6( rea%6 &o (a)e hi( la%6 2%ue &o'e*ini(*- &he &er* 5rince(( ha( o&her conno&a&ion( no=a%a6(37

I ha)e cho(en &hi( (u4@ec& 4ecau(e I &hin: all o' u( nee% &o re*e*4er =ha& i((&ill goo% in a =orl% &ha& (lo=l6 (ee*( &o lo(e all i&( )alua4le &rea(ure(7 Realgen&le*en are har% &o 'in%- 4u& %onD& i*agine &he6Dll e)er 4e gone7


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Cha5&er IThe hi(&or6 o' Gen&le*an > 'ro* :nigh& &o 5u4lic (chool 4o6

The &er* gen&le*an in i&( original an% (&ric& (igni'ica&ion- %eno&e% a =elle%uca&e% *an o' goo% 'a*il6 an% %i(&inc&ion7 The &er* gentry 2'ro* &he Ol%

rench genterise 'or gentelise 3 ha( *uch o' &he (ocial cla(( (igni'icance o' &herenchnoblesse or o' &he Ger*an Adel - 4u& =i&hou& &he (&ric& &echnical re?uire*en&

o' &ho(e &ra%i&ion( 2(uch a( ?uar&er( o' no4ili&637 The 'un%a*en&al i%ea o' Fgen&(6*4oli(e% in &hi( gran& o' coa& ar*our- ha% co*e &o 4e &ha& o' &he e((en&ial

(u5eriori&6 o' &he 'igh&ing *an7

070 The !i%%le Age(9e can no& &al: 6e& a4ou& &he gen&le*an :no=n no=a%a6(7 Bac: in &ho(e &i*

he =a( re''ere% &o a( :nigh&7 A :nigh& i( a *e*4er o' &he =arriorcla(( o'&he !i%%le Age( in Euro5e =ho 'ollo=e% a co%e o' la= calle% Fchi)alr6F7

nigh&( o' &he *e%ie)al era =ere a(:e% &o FPro&ec& &he =ea:- %e'en(ele((-hel5le((- an% 'igh& 'or &he general =el'are o' all7F The(e 'e= gui%eline( =ere &he *ain%u&ie( o' a *e%ie)al :nigh&- 4u& &he6 =ere )er6 har% &o acco*5li(h 'ull67 Rarel6coul% e)en &he 4e(& o' :nigh&( achie)e &he(e goal(7 nigh&( &raine% in hun&ing-'igh&ingan% ri%ing7 The6 =ere al(o &raine% &o 5rac&i(e cour&eou(- honora4le 4eha)iour- =hich =a( con(i%ere% e+&re*el6 i*5or&an&7 Chi)alr6 2%eri)e% 'ro* &he

rench =or% che)alier i*5l6ing F(:ill( &o han%le a hor(eF3 =a( &he *ain 5rinci5legui%ing a :nigh&D( li'e (&6le7 The co%e o' chi)alr6 %eal& =i&h &hree *ain area(> &h
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*ili&ar6- (ocial li'e- an% religion7The *ili&ar6 (i%e o' li'e =a( )er6 i*5or&an& &o :nigh&hoo%7 Along =i&h &he

'igh&ing ele*en&( o' =ar- &here =ere *an6 cu(&o*( an% rule( &o 4e 'ollo=e% a( =ell7A =a6 o' %e*on(&ra&ing *ili&ar6 chi)alr6 =a( &o o=n e+5en(i)e- hea)6 =ea5onr679ea5on( =ere no& &he onl6 crucial in(&ru*en&( 'or a :nigh&7 1or(e( =ere al(oe+&re*el6 i*5or&an&- an% each :nigh& o'&en o=ne% (e)eral hor(e( 'or %i(&inc& 5ur5o(e(7 One o' &he grea&e(& (ign( o' chi)alr6 =a( &he 'l6ing o' coloure% 4anner(- &%i(5la6 5o=er an% &o %i(&ingui(h :nigh&( in 4a&&le an% in &ourna*en&(7 9arrior( no& onl6 re?uire% &o o=n all &he(e 4elonging( &o 5ro)e &heir allegiance> &he6 =eree+5ec&e% &o ac& =i&h *ili&ar6 cour&e(6 a( =ell7

Beco*ing a :nigh& =a( no& a =i%el6 a&&aina4le goal in &he *e%ie)al era7 Tho(=ho =ere %e(&ine% &o 4eco*e :nigh&( =ere (ingle% ou&> in 4o6hoo%- &he(e 'u&ure=arrior( =ere (en& o'' &o a ca(&le a( 5age(- la&er 4eco*ing (?uire(7 Al&hough &he(e(&rong 6oung *en ha% 5ro)e% &heir eligi4ili&6- &heir (ocial (&a&u( =oul% 4e 5er*anen&l6 con&rolle%7 The6 =ere e+5ec&e% &o o4e6 &he co%e o' chi)alr6 a& all an% no 'ailure =a( acce5&e%7

Chi)alr6 co*4ine% *ili&ar6- religiou( an% (ocial conce5&( in&o a uni'ie% =a6 o'li'e7

Chi)alr6 an% religion =ere *u&uall6 in'luence%7 The earl6 Cru(a%e( hel5e% &oclari'6 &he *oral co%e o' chi)alr6 a( i& rela&e% &o religion7 A( a re(ul&- Chri(&ianar*ie( 4egan &o %e)o&e &heir e''or&( &o (acre% 5ur5o(e(7 A( &i*e 5a((e%- clerg6in(&i&u&e% religiou( )o=( =hich re?uire% :nigh&( &o u(e &heir =ea5on( chie'l6 'or &h

5ro&ec&ion o' &he =ea: an% %e'en(ele((- e(5eciall6 =o*en an% or5han(- an% o'churche(7

The Co%e o' Chi)alr6 con&inue% &o in'luence (ocial 4eha)ior long a'&er &heac&ual :nigh&hoo% cea(e% &o e+i(&- in'luencing 'or e+a*5le 0H&h cen&ur6 ,ic&oria 5erce5&ion( o' ho= a Fgen&le*anF ough& &o 4eha)e7

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The conce5& o' &he nine&een&h cen&ur6 gen&le*an i( a co*5le+ one- &houghone =hich i( F&he nece((ar6 lin: in an6 anal6(i( o' *i% ,ic&orian =a6( o' &hin:ingan% 4eha)ing7F

!e*4er( o' &he Bri&i(h ari(&ocrac6 =ere gen&le*en 46 righ& o' 4ir&h- al&houghi& =a( al(o e*5ha(i e%- 5ara%o+icall6 enough- &ha& 4ir&h alone coul% no& *a:e a *a gen&le*an7 The conce5& o' &he gen&le*an =a( no& *erel6 a (ocialor cla(( %e(igna&ion7 There =a( al(o a *oral co*5onen&- inheren& in &he conce5&-=hich *a%e i& a %i''icul& an% an a*4iguou( &hing 'or &he ,ic&orian( &he*(el)e( &oa&&e*5& &o %e'ine- &hough &here =ere innu*era4le a&&e*5&(7 !an6 o' &he* 5re%u5on &he re)i)al in &he nine&een&h cen&ur6 o' a chi)alric *oral co%e %eri)e% 'ro* &'eu%al 5a(&7

The ,ic&orian e*5ha(i( u5on &he gen&le*an (er)e% a( a *ean( o' re&ainingu55er cla(( 5oli&ical 5o=er an% :ee5ing %o=n &he *i%%le cla(( > The gen&le*anJ(aura =a( 5re%ica&e% on ?ua(i 'eu%al a55eal( &o (ocial hierarch67 In &he *i% ,ic&or 5erio% &he(e &ra%i&ional cre%en&ial( =ere %eli4era&el6 *o%erni e%- ra&ionali e

i*5ro)e% &hrough- 'or e+a*5le- ci)il (er)ice- 5u4lic (chool an% uni)er(i&6 re'or*79ha& %e(cri4e% &he gen&le*an =a( &here'ore 4o&h ra&ional e% an% e*5irical 2&h 5re%ic&a4le ou&co*e o' an eli&e e%uca&ion3 an% &horoughl6 *6(&i'ie% 2an in%e'i&one a*4iguou(l6 %eri)e% 'ro* 4loo%- 4ree%ing- or 4o&h37 In &hi( 'a(hion &he charao' &he Bri&i(h gen&le*an 4eca*e a 5o=er'ul %e(cri5&i)e 4a(i( 'or a *6&h o'%i(in&ere(&e% go)ernance 46 an O+4ri%ge eli&e- a crucial *ean( 46 =hich u55er cla(an% ari(&ocra&ic 5o=er =a( *ain&aine%7

Kohn 1enr6 Car%inal Ne=*an- &he *o(& 'a*ou( Engli(h con)er& &o Ro*anCa&holici(* o' &he nine&een&h cen&ur6- inclu%e% &he 'ollo=ing %e(cri5&ion o' &hgen&le*an in hi( &rea&i(e on uni)er(i&6 e%uca&ion 'or Ro*an Ca&holic

I& i( al*o(& a %e'ini&ion o' a gen&le*an &o (a6 he i( one =ho ne)er in'lic&( 5ain

Thi( %e(cri5&ion i( 4o&h re'ine% an%- a( 'ar a( i& goe(- accura&e7 1e i( *ainoccu5ie% in *erel6 re*o)ing &he o4(&acle( =hich hin%er &he 'ree an%
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une*4arra((e% ac&ion o' &ho(e a4ou& hi* an% he concur( =i&h &heir *o)e*en&ra&her &han &a:e( &he ini&ia&i)e hi*(el'7 1i( 4ene'i&( *a6 4e con(i%ere% 5arallel &o =ha& are calle% co*'or&( or con)enience( in arrange*en&( o' a 5er(onal na&ure> li:e an ea(6 chair or a goo% 'ire- =hich %o &heir 5ar& in%i(5elling col% an% 'a&igue- &hough na&ure 5ro)i%e( 4o&h *ean( o' re(& ani*al hea& =i&hou& &he*7 The &rue gen&le*an in li:e *anner care'ull6 a)oi%=ha&e)er *a6 cau(e a @ar or a @ol& in &he *in%( o' &ho(e =i&h =ho* he i( ca M all cla(hing o' o5inion- or colli(ion o' 'eeling- all re(&rain&- or (u(5icion- orgloo*- or re(en&*en& hi( grea& concern 4eing &o *a:e e)er6 one a& &heir eaan% a& ho*e7 1e ha( hi( e6e( on all hi( co*5an6 he i( &en%er &o=ar%( & 4a(h'ul- gen&le &o=ar%( &he %i(&an&- an% *erci'ul &o=ar%( &he a4(ur%recollec& &o =ho* he i( (5ea:ing he guar%( again(& un(ea(ona4le allu(ion(- or&o5ic( =hich *a6 irri&a&e he i( (el%o* 5ro*inen& in con)er(a&ion- an% ne)=eari(o*e7 1e *a:e( ligh& o' 'a)our( =hile he %oe( &he*- an% (ee*( &o 4erecei)ing =hen he i( con'erring7 1e ne)er (5ea:( o' hi*(el' e+ce5& =henco*5elle%- ne)er %e'en%( hi*(el' 46 a *ere re&or&- he ha( no ear( 'or (lan%er or

go((i5- i( (cru5ulou( in i*5u&ing *o&i)e( &o &ho(e =ho in&er'ere =i&h hi*- an%in&er5re&( e)er6 &hing 'or &he 4e(&7 1e i( ne)er *ean or li&&le in hi( %i(5une)er &a:e( un'air a%)an&age- ne)er *i(&a:e( 5er(onali&ie( or (har5 (a6ing( 'orargu*en&(- or in(inua&e( e)il =hich he %are no& (a6 ou&7 ro* a long (igh& 5ru%ence- he o4(er)e( &he *a+i* o' &he ancien& (age- &ha& =e (houl% e)econ%uc& our(el)e( &o=ar%( our ene*6 a( i' he =ere one %a6 &o 4e our 'rien%7 1

ha( &oo *uch goo% (en(e &o 4e a''ron&e% a& in(ul&(- he i( &oo =ell e*5lo6e%re*e*4er in@urie(- an% &oo in%olen& &o 4ear *alice7 1e i( 5a&ien&- 'or4earan% re(igne%- on 5hilo(o5hical 5rinci5le( he (u4*i&( &o 5ain- 4ecau(e i& ine)i&a4le- &o 4erea)e*en&- 4ecau(e i& i( irre5ara4le- an% &o %ea&h- 4ecau(ehi( %e(&in67 I' he engage( in con&ro)er(6 o' an6 :in%- hi( %i(ci5line% in&elle 5re(er)e( hi* 'ro* &he 4lun%er7 ro* The I%ea o' a Uni)er(i&6- 0


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Cha5&er IIThe co*5le&e gen&le*an > 9arrior- Lo)er- !on:

.70 The =arrior The chi)alric heri&age o' &he gen&le*an %e*an%( &ha& e)en &o%a6 he 5o((e((

*ar&ial (5iri&- he *u(& 4e a =arrior- a la&&er %a6 :nigh&77 One rea%6- =illing an% a(acri'ice hi( li'e in %e'en(e o' honor7

I' one &ene& o' &he con&e*5orar6 =orl%)ie= re5re(en&( a here&ical 4rea: =i&h&ra%i&ion- i& i( &he con'i%en& a((er&ion &ha& no&hing =or&h( 'igh&ing 'or- &her

no&hing =or&h( %6ing 'or7 I*5lie% =i&h &hi( i( &he a((u*5&ion &ha& 5eace i( al=a6 5re'era4le &o =ar an% li'e i( al=a6( 5re'era4le &o %ea&h- an% &here &he gen&le*an%i((en&( e)en i' he hi*(el' i( no& co*4a& rea%67 I& =oul% 'ollo= &ha&- i'- con&rar6 &&he 5o5ular )ie=- &here are &hing( =or&h 'igh&ing 'or- &hen- &here =ill 4e con'lic&- (o*e4o%6 ha( &o 4e rea%6 &o 'igh&7

All &i*eJ( =arrior 5hilo(o5h6 (a6( &he (a*e &hing > i& i( 4e&&er &o %ie

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no (u4(&i&u&e 'or (&rengh& o' charac&er7 In 4o6( or *en &hi( re?uire( &=o )er6 rare&hing( in our &i*e( > :no=le%ge o' &he 5a(& an% an% a )i(ion o' &he 'u&ure7 1i(&or6&he &he *o(& e((en&ial a(5ec& o' a (oli% e%uca&ion an% ha)ing a )i(ion o' &he 'u&uha)ing &he a4ili&6 &o a55l6 &he le((on( o' hi(&or6 &o (ha5e a 5re(en&7

I& i( 4e&&er &o 4e a li)e @ac:al &han a %ea% lion Q 'or @ac:al(- no& 'or *en7=ho ha)e &he *oral courage &o 'igh& in&elligen&l6 'or 'ree%on ha)e &he 4e(& 5ro(5eco' a)oi%ing &he 'a&e o' 4o&h li)e @ac:al( an% %ea% lion(7 Sur)i)al i( no& &he 4e allen% all o' a li'e =or&h6 *an7 So*e&i*e( &he =or(& &hing =e can :no= a4ou& a *an i(&ha& he ha( (ur)i)e%7 Tho(e =ho (a6 li'e i( =or&h li)ing a& an6 co(& ha)e alrea%6=ri&&en &he*(el)e( an e5i&a5h o' in'a*6- 'or &here i( no cau(e an% no 5er(on &he6 =ilno& 4e&ra6 &o (&a6 ali)e7 !anJ( )oca&ion (houl% 4e &he u(e o' &he ar&( on in&ellig 4ehal' o' hu*an 'ree%o*

.7. Co%e( o' 1onor Accor%ing &o 9i:i5e%ia- a co%e o' honor i( a (e& o' rule( or 5rinci5le(

go)erning a co**uni&6 4a(e% on a (e& o' rule( or i%eal( &ha& %e'ine =ha& con(&i&uhonora4le 4eha)ior =i&hin &ha& co**uni&67

The chi)alric co%e i( un%ou4&e%l6 a co%e o' honor7 9hen &al:ing a4ou& :nigh&=e *igh& a( =ell &al: a4ou& *en co**en%e% 46 %u&6 &o 'earle((l6 (ee: an%%ecorou(l6 achie)e a higher i%eal7

A& &he en% o' &he nine&een&h cen&ur6- Leon Gau&ier ca*e u5 =i&h Ten

Co**an%*en&( o' Chi)alr6 >07 Thou (hal& 4elie)e all &ha& &he Church &eache(- an% (hal& o4(er)e all i&(%irec&ion(7.7 Thou (hal& %e'en% &he Church87 Thou (hal& re(5ec& all =ea:ne((e(( an% (hal& con(&i&u&e &h6(el' &he %e'en%&he*;7 Thou (hal& lo)e &he coun&r6 in =hich &hou =a( 4orn


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7 Thou (hal& *a:e =ar again(& &he in'i%el =i&hou& ce((a&ion an% =i&hou& *er7 Thou (hal& 5er'or* (cru5ulou(l6 &h6 'eu%al %u&ie(- i' &he6 4e no& con&rar6 &

la=( o' Go%7 Thou (hal& ne)er lie- an% (hal& re*ain 'ai&h'ull &o &h6 5le%ge% =or%

H7 Thou (hal& 4e generou( an% gi)e large((e &o e)er6one0/7 Thou (hal& 4e e)er6=here an% al=a6( &he cha*5ion o' &he righ& an% &he goo%again(& in@u(&ice an% e)il

The(e co**an%*en&( %onJ& (ee* li:e *uch o' a %eal &o an6one- (&ill i& =a(e+&re*el6 har% 'or &he :nigh&( &o lea% &heir li'e( 4a(e% e+clu(i)el6 on &he*7 I' =e&hin: 'ur&her- =e can &al: a4ou& Bu(hi%o- &he honor co%e o' &he (a*urai(7 9e =ill 'in*an6 (i*ilari&ie( 4e&=een &he(e &=o7 S&ill- chi)alr6 ha% i&( roo&( in Cen&ral EuroBu(hi%o ha% i&( roo&( in Ka5an777 So ho= can =e &al: a4ou& (i*ilari&ie( =hen re''er&o &=o na&ion( =hich %i''er (o *uch 9e *igh& (a6 honor i( a uni)er(al language7

.78 The *on: The *on: i( )er6 *uch a lo)er o' learning &he &ru&h7 1e i( al(o a *an o'

(ilence- a *an reconcile% &o hi( o=n %ea&h- an% i& i( &he(e a(5ec&( o' &he *ona(&icharac&er &ha& %o)e&ail =i&h &he charac&er o' a gen&le*an7

The *on:J( 5ur(ui& o' 5er'ec&ion =a( in'luen&ial a& all le)el( o' (ocie&67Per'ec&ion- o' cour(e- i( no& gi)en &o an6 *an7 Bu& an a=arene(( o' 5er'ec&ion Q o'

&he highe(& 5o((i4le (&an%ar%( in e)er6 a(5ec& o' li'e Q i( 5o((i4le7 Once again =econ'ron& an en%uring hu*an a(5ira&ion > (igni'ican& no& (o *uch 'or our (ucce(( or'ailure in achie)ing i& a( 'or our a=arene(( o' i&7

The gen&le*an- (ee:er o' &he chi)alrou( li'e- =ill no& 'ollo= 5reci(el6 &he*on:J( in@unc&ion &o 4e in &he =orl%- 4u& nou& o' i&7 In%ee%- he =ill ra&her 4&hough& o' a( a *an o' &he =orl%- al&hough &hi( %oe( no& *ean &ha& he =ill 4e 5

o' &he =orl% in an6 4a(e (en(e7 To 4e a *an o' &he =orl% i( &o 4e one co*'or&a4le in*o(& (i&ua&ion( an% a*ong *o(& 5eo5le- &hi( i( ac&uall6 &rue o' *an6 =ho li)e


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*ona(&ic li'e(7

earing &he %ea&h i( no& co=ar%l67 Bu& %ea&h =ill co*e- an% &he ?ue(&ion1o= =ill a *an 'ace %ea&h In &hi(- &he =arrior an% &he *on: are o' a (ingle *in%7The =arrior (5ar( =i&h %ea&h- 4ro&her again(& 4ro&her7 9hen %ea&h =in(- &hegen&le*an graciou(l6 4o=( in %e'ea&7 The *on:J( =a6 i( &he =a6 o' &he cloi(&er-=here %ea&h =al: &he corri%or( an% (i&( a& &a4le an% =or:( in &he gar%en along(i%li)ing 4ro&her(7I& i( &he ?uie& gra)i&6 o' a *ona(&er6- e(5eciall6 &he *ona(&icagree*en& =i&h %ea&h =hich (e5ara&e( *on:( 'ro* o&her *en7 !on:( 5o((e( a%igni&6 &ha& roo&( &he* e)en a( i& (en%( &he* (oaring7

9e %o no& con&rol &he or%er o' &he uni)er(e- an% =e canno& :no= &he e+ac&*o*en& o' our %6ing- 4u& a gen&le*an *u(& li)e in recogni&ion o' &ha& *o*en&- inrea%ine((7

.7; The lo)er !uch ha)e change% (ince &he 4eginning o' &he gen&le*an- 4ac: in &he *i%%le

age(7 The *e%ie)al( calle% i& 'in a*our or cour&l6 lo)e7 Cour&l6 lo)e u(e% &o 4e &hacco*5ani*en& &o chi)alr6- i& in&ro%uce% ro*ance in &ho(e &i*e( an% 4egan &he

5roce(( o' &a*ing *ale (e+ual aggre((ion7The *o%el cour&l6 lo)er( are Lancelo& an% Guine)ere7 I& i( a )ie= o' lo)e an%

(e+ 'a(hione% &o an un5rece%en&e% %egree 46 =o*en- 5o=er'ul =o*en7 Cour&l6 lo)e=a( %e'ini&el6 in(5ire% 46 (o*e o' &he *o(& %6na*ic o' &ha& age7 I& =a( a re*ar:a4l*o%ern in(&i&u&ion- in &ha& i& =a( an ou&gro=&h o' lei(ure- a''luence an% li4er&6(i*ul&aneou(l6 haile% a( a :in% o' (al)a&ion an% %eri%e% a( %a*na&ion *ani'e(&7

S&ill- &ho(e %a6( are long gone an% =ha&e)er re(e*4le% 4ac: &hen &o 5o=er o=o*en- i& canJ& e)en 4e co*5are% &o =ha& =o*en in our age un%er(&an% o' i&7


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The cen&ur6J( gen&le*an i( a *o%ern :nigh&7 Chi)alr6 i( no& co*5lica&e%- no&e)en no=7 I& i( no&hing *ore &han 5u&&ing &he (el' (econ%7 In *o*en&( &ha& *a&gen&le*an *a:e( hi*(el' &he (er)an& o' Go%- hi( na&ion or hi( lo)e% one(7 1e i( a4le&o %o (o 4ecau(e he i( go)erne% 46 @u(&ice7

1e i( a =arrior 4ecau(e he =ill 'igh& 'or &he righ& =i&h hi( 4o%6 an% *in%7 A( a=arrior he canno& a4i%e in@u(&ice an% @u(&ice i( 'inall6 &he onl6 &hing =or&h 'igan% %6ing 'or7 Peace i( @u(&ice in 'oreign rela&ion(- e?uali&6 i( @u(&ice in (ocie&6 5a((ion i( @u(&ice in *arriage- =i(%o* i( @u(&ice in e%uca&ion7

To (a6 a gen&le*an i( courageou( i( &o (a6 &ha& he i( =illing &o ri(: hi( o=nli'e- (a'e&6 an% co*'or& in &he 4a&&le o' goo% )er(u( e)il7 I& i( no& enough (i*5l6 &(&rong- a gen&le*an *u(& al(o 4e 4ra)e enough an% co**i&&e% enough &o 5u& hi( la& ri(:7

1e i( a *an o' honor7

The re'ine*en&( a((ocia&e% =i&h gen&le*an are no& enough &o *a:e a *an a

gen&le*an7 Being gen&le*an i&J( no& @u(& a ?ue(&ion o' e&i?ue&&e- 4u& a ?ue(& 5rinci5le( an% honor7

I' 6ou can :ee5 6our hea% =hen all a4ou& 6ouAre lo(ing &heir( an% 4la*ing i& on 6ou-

I' 6ou can &ru(& 6our(el' =hen all *en %ou4& 6ou-Bu& *a:e allo=ance 'or &heir %ou4&ing &oo

I' 6ou can =ai& an% no& 4e &ire% 46 =ai&ing-Or 4eing lie% a4ou&- %onJ& %eal in lie(-

Or 4eing ha&e%- %onJ& gi)e =a6 &o ha&ing-An% 6e& %onJ& loo: &oo goo%- nor &al: &oo =i(e>


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I' 6ou can %rea* an% no& *a:e %rea*( 6our *a(&erI' 6ou can &hin: an% no& *a:e &hough&( 6our ai*

I' 6ou can *ee& =i&h Triu*5h an% $i(a(&er An% &rea& &ho(e &=o i*5o(&or( @u(& &he (a*e

I' 6ou can 4ear &o hear &he &ru&h 6ouJ)e (5o:enT=i(&e% 46 :na)e( &o *a:e a &ra5 'or 'ool(-

Or =a&ch &he &hing( 6ou ga)e 6our li'e &o 4ro:en-An% (&oo5 an% 4uil% Je* u5 =i&h =orn ou& &ool(>

I' 6ou can *a:e one hea5 o' all 6our =inning(

An% ri(: i& on one &urn o' 5i&ch an% &o((-An% lo(e- an% (&ar& again a& 6our 4eginning(An% ne)er 4rea&he a =or% a4ou& 6our lo((

I' 6ou can 'orce 6our hear& an% ner)e an% (ine=To (er)e 6our &urn long a'&er &he6 are gone-An% (o hol% on =hen &here i( no&hing in 6ou

E+ce5& &he 9ill =hich (a6( &o &he*> J1ol% on JI' 6ou can &al: =i&h cro=%( an% :ee5 6our )ir&ue-Or =al: =i&h :ing( nor lo(e &he co**on &ouch-

I' nei&her 'oe( nor lo)ing 'rien%( can hur& 6ou-I' all *en coun& =i&h 6ou- 4u& none &oo *uch

I' 6ou can 'ill &he un'orgi)ing *inu&e9i&h (i+&6 (econ%(J =or&h o' %i(&ance run our( i( &he Ear&h an% e)er6&hing &ha&J( in i&-

An% =hich i( *ore 6ouJll 4e a !an *6 (on

Ru%6ar% i5ling Q I'777


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Cha5&er I,Are 6ou &rue > E&i?ue&&e 'or con&e*5orar6 gen&le*en

A( au&hor Kohn Bri%ge( (a6(- 4eing a gen&le*an re?uire( Fa li&&le logic- a 4i&'ore&hough& an% a grea& %eal o' con(i%era&ion 'or o&her(7F

870 General e&i?ue&&e


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Al=a6( 4e 5oli&eE)en i' 6ou %onJ& li:e (o*eone- &here i( no nee% &o lo=er 6our(el' &o &heir le)e

Be 5oli&e an% cour&eou(7

$o no& cur(eI& i( al=a6( )er6 ru%e an% i*5oli&e &o 4e )ulgar7

$o no& (5ea: lou%l69hen 6ou (5ea: lou%l6- i& rai(e( &he (&re(( le)el a*ong co*5an67 I& al(o %ra=(

a&&en&ion nega&i)e a&&en&ion7

$o no& lo(e 6our &e*5er 9hen 6ou lo(e 6our &e*5er- 6ou are (ho=ing e)er6one &ha& 6ou canJ& con&rol

6our e*o&ion(7 I' 6ou canJ& e)en con&rol 6our(el'- &hen ho= can 6ou 5o((i4l6 con&roan6&hing el(e

$o no& (&areOgling (o*eone i( &he e?ui)alen& o' 5(6chological aggre((ion7

$o no& in&erru5&Le& 5eo5le 'ini(h =ha& &he6 are (a6ing 4e'ore a%%ing 6our co**en&(7

In&erru5&ing o&her( i( a (ign o' 5oor e&i?ue&&e an% a lac: o' (ocial (:ill(7

$o no& (5i&A lo& o' *en %o &hi( al*o(& (u4con(ciou(l67 $o no& (5i& in 5u4lic unle(( 6ou

=an& &o loo: li:e 6ou =ere rai(e% in a (e=er7

Re(5ec& 6our el%er(

In 'ac&- 6ou (houl% re(5ec& o&her( a( 6ou =oul% li:e &he* &o re(5ec& 6ou7 I a(5eci'6ing el%er( 4ecau(e i& (ee*( &ha& &o%a6- 6oung *en &hin: &he6 :no= i& all7 9


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&he6 %onJ&7 Ku(& &hin: o' 6our(el' 'i)e 6ear( ago777 6ouJre *uch (*ar&er an%e+5erience% &o%a6- arenJ& 6ou O' cour(e- 6e& 6ou &hough& 6ou :ne= i& all 'i)e 6eago7

$o no& laugh a& o&her(J *i(&a:e(Thi( i( 5erha5( one o' &he cruele(& &hing( one can %o7 9hen 6ou *e(( u5- &he

la(& &hing 6ou =an& i( 'or (o*eone no& onl6 &o 4ring i& &o 6our a&&en&ion- 4u& &ri%icule 6ou on &o5 o' &ha&7

Re*o)e 6our ha& in%oor(Thi( rule (ee*( &o ha)e gone ou& &he =in%o= &he(e %a6(7 ou (houl% re*o)e

6our hea%=ear u5on en&ering a 4uil%ing7 ur&her*ore- ne)er :ee5 6our ha& on =hilea& &he %inner &a4le7 I& re'lec&( )er6 5oor e&i?ue&&e7

$onJ& 'laun& 6our riche( No4o%6 li:e( a 4raggar&7 ee5 6our a((e&( )ague i' 6ou ha)e &o %i(cu((

'inancial *a&&er(7 ou can =ear e+5en(i)e &hing( =i&hou& 4lo=ing 6our o=n &ru*5e&

Ne)er le& o&her( (ee 6ou loo:ing a& 6our =a&ch9hen 6ouJre a*i% co*5an6- a(: 'or &he &i*e or loo: a& 6our =a&ch onl6 i'

6ouJre rea%6 &o lea)e righ& &ha& in(&an&7 9hen o&her( no&ice 6ou glancing a& &can 4e in&er5re&e% a( 4ore%o*7

Ne)er groo* 6our(el' in 5u4licThi( inclu%e( 5ic:ing 6our no(e- che=ing 6our nail( an% 5ic:ing 6our &ee&h7

The(e area( (houl% onl6 4e )en&ure% in 5ri)a&e7 Co**i&&ing &he(e ac&( o)er&l6 i(

colo((al *ar: o' a lac: o' cla((7


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Be 5unc&ualPerha5( &he grea&e(& (ign o' re(5ec&- =hich i( =ha& a gen&le*an i( all a4ou&- i

4eing on &i*e7 1a)ing 5eo5le =ai& 'or 6ou i( &he e?ui)alen& o' &elling &he* &ha& 6o%onJ& care a4ou& &he*7

Sha:e han%( 'ir*l6our han%(ha:e (houl% *irror 6our 5er(onali&67 ou =an& &he o&her 5er(on &o

&hin: o' 6ou a( (o*eone re(ol)e%- concre&e an% 5o(i&i)e7

A55l6 con(&an& )er4al graceU(e Fe+cu(e *eF or FI 4eg 6our 5ar%onF 'or all occa(ion(7 An e+&en(ion o'

5oli&ene((- 6ou (houl% al=a6( u(e &he(e e+5re((ion(- =he&her i&J( &o ge& (o*eone &*o)e ou& o' 6our =a6- &o a5ologi e 'or 6our u5co*ing @ourne6 &o &he *enJ( roo*- or(i*5l6 &o (ignal 6our in&erlocu&or( &ha& 6ouJre a4ou& &o (&ar& a (en&ence7

87. Ta4le e&i?ue&&e

Ne)er (5ea: =i&h 'oo% in 6our *ou&h No one =an&( &o (ee =ha& 6ouJre che=ing or li(&en &o 6ou &al: =i&h a *ou&h


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o' 'oo%7 I' 6ouJre a(:e% (o*e&hing an% 6our *ou&h i( 'ull- (ignal 6our a5ologie( an%-i' 6our %ining 5ar&ner( are re'ine%- &he6 =ill 5a&ien&l6 =ai& un&il 6ouJre a4le &o r

$onJ& reach acro(( (o*eone9hen %ining =i&h o&her(- %onJ& reach o)er 5oli&el6 a(: (o*eone &o 5a(( &he

4rea%7 9hen &he6 %o- &a:e &he &ra6 or 4a(:e& an% o''er &he 5a((er a 5iece o' 4rea% 4e'ore &a:ing one7

Pu& %o=n 6our :ni'eUnle(( 6ouJre e+5ec&ing an a&&ac: 'ro* a 5ac: o' *arau%ing =il% ani*al(- 5u&

%o=n 6our :ni'e a'&er cu&&ing 6our 'oo% an% 4e'ore ea&ing i&7 I& %e*on(&ra&e( g&a4le *anner(- (lo=( %o=n &he 5roce(( o' ea&ing an% allo=( 6ou *ore &i*e &o(ho=ca(e 6our &alen&( a( a (cin&illa&ing con)er(a&ionali(&7

9ai& 'or (ea&ing 4e'ore ea&ing9hen (i&&ing %o=n 'or a *eal- 6ou (houl% =ai& un&il all &he gue(&( are 5ro5er

(ea&e% an% rea%6 &o co**ence &he *eal 4e'ore ea&ing7 E)er6one (houl% (&ar& %ina& &he (a*e &i*e &hi( i( a (u4&le 4u& )er6 i*5or&an& rule7

Cough &hough&'ull6I' 6ouJre o)erco*e 46 a 'i& o' coughing or (nee ing- e+cu(e 6our(el' an% lea)e

&he *ee&ing or %inner &a4le 'or a 'e= *inu&e(7 Re&urn ?uie&l6 an% a5ologi e again

6ou &a:e 6our (ea&7

878 Par&6 e&i?ue&&e

Ac:no=le%ge 6our ac?uain&ance(


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$onJ& 5la6 hi%e (ee: =i&h &he 5eo5le 6ou :no=- e)en i' 6ou %onJ& 'eel li:e&al:ing &o &he*7

A%%re(( ne= ac?uain&ance( 46 &heir &i&le an% la(& na*e$oc&or an% *ili&ar6 ran:( are i*5or&an& &o &he 5eo5le =ho ha)e &he(e &i&le

an% !r(7 (houl% 4e u(e% 'or &he o&her( 2i' 6ouJre un(ure a4ou& a =o*anJ( *ari&al(&a&u(- u(e !(7 =hen a%%re((ing her37 9ai& un&il &he6 a(: 6ou &o u(e &heir 'ir(& na 4e'ore %oing (o7

Loo: a& 6our in&erlocu&or our a&&en&ion (houl% al=a6( 4e 'ocu(e% on &he 5er(on 6ou are &al:ing =i&h7

Al=a6( loo: a& &he* =hen li(&ening a( =ell a( =hen 6ou are in con&rol o' &hecon)er(a&ion7

A& %inner- a%%re(( &ho(e on 6our le'& an% righ&$onJ& (hou& acro(( &he &a4le- concen&ra&e on &ho(e clo(e(& &o 6ou7 Thi( =

&he 5rocee%ing( cal* an% or%erl67

Ne)er re*o)e coa& or nec:&ie =hen in co*5an6B6 :ee5ing 6our clo&he( on- 6ou (ho= &ha& 6ou con(i%er &he o&her gue(&(

i*5or&an& enough 'or 6ou &o re*ain 'a(hiona4l6 &i5 &o57

Onl6 &al: =hen 6ouJ)e 4een 'or*all6 in&ro%uce%9hich i( =h6 &he 5hra(e( F1a)e =e *e& F or F1a)e =e 4een in&ro%uce% F are

(o han%67 I' 6ou 'eel li:e (5ea:ing &o (o*e4o%6- 'in% a 5er(on &he &=o o' 6ou ha)e inco**on an% arrange a 5ro5er in&ro%uc&ion7

87; E&i?ue&&e =i&h a la%6


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Ne)er (*o:e in &he 5re(ence o' a la%6 unle(( in)i&e% &oIn &hi( age o' 5oli&ical correc&ne(( i& ha( al*o(& 4eco*e a gi)en7 9hile (he *a6

no& a(: 6ou &o- *a:e (ure 6ou %o re?ue(& her 5er*i((ion7

Re*o)e &he cigar 'ro* 6our li5( i' a la%6 5a((e( 46Thi( one i( 5ure co**on (en(e7 I&J( a (ecuri&6 *ea(ure a( =ell a( an in%ica&or

o' high regar%7

O''er 6our (ea& &o =o*enCla((ic( are al=a6( 'a(hiona4le7 So*e 'e*ini(&( =oul% cer&ainl6 ha)e a 'i&- 4u&

*o(& =o*en =ill %e'ini&el6 )alue &he ge(&ure7

Al=a6( carr6 a =o*anJ( 5ac:age(Thi( le&( her :no= 6ou re(5ec& her an% are cour&eou( enough &o in?uire a( &o

her co*'or&7

Al=a6( o5en %oor(Thi( i( 5erha5( &he *o(& 4a(ic rule o' *ale e&i?ue&&e ou& &here7 I& i( al(o one

&he ea(ie(& &o 'ollo= (o 6ou ha)e no rea(on &o 'orge& i&7 9he&her (he i( a4ou& &o e6our car- re(&auran&- clu4- or an65lace =i&h a %oor- 6ou (houl% al=a6( hol% i& o5en&here are *an6 %oor(- &hen hol% &he* o5en one a'&er &he o&her7

1el5 =i&h her (ea&I' an unacco*5anie% la%6 i( (i&&ing ne+& &o 6ou- i& i( i*5or&an& &ha& 6ou

her 4e (ea&e% 46 5ulling her chair ou& 'or her an% gen&l6 5u(hing i& 4ac: in&o 5lace=i&h &he la%6 (ea&e% o' cour(e7

Pu& on her coa&


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Al=a6( hel5 a la%6 5u& on her coa& or o)ergar*en&7 Thi( i( a (i*5le 4u& 5o=er'ul ac&ion7

Gi)e u5 6our (ea&I' a la%6 arri)e( a& &he &a4le an% &here are no a)aila4le (ea&(- 6ou (houl% (&a

u5 an% o''er 6our( &o her7

S&an% a& a&&en&ionAl=a6( (&an% =hen a la%6 en&er( or e+i&( &he roo*7 Thi( rule ha( 4een

(o*e=ha& rela+e%- (o 6ou can (&an% u5on en&rance 4u& re*ain (ea&e% u5on e+i&7

Gi)e her 6our ar*9hen e(cor&ing a la%6 &o an% 'ro* (ocial e)en&(- 6ou (houl% o''er her 6our

ar*7 Thi( i( a li&&le *ore in&i*a&e- 4u& (er)e( =ell =hen =al:ing on une)en groun%-e(5eciall6 i' (heJ( =earing high heel(7

Carr6 a han%:erchie' Plan ahea%7 1a)e a clean han%:erchie' in 6our 5oc:e&- e(5eciall6 =hen 6ou

a&&en% a 'uneral7 I&J( al(o a grea& i%ea &o ha)e a han:6 han%6 'or a la%6 'rien% &rain%ro5( or &ear(7

Share 6our u*4rella

I&J( )er6 gallan& &o o''er 6our u*4rella &o a la%67 On a chill6 e)ening or i' &heair con%i&ioning i( high- 6our =i'e or %a&e *igh& a55recia&e &he loan o' 6our (ui& @ac:e& an% o&her( =ill no&ice 6our &hough&'ulne((7

Re&rie)e %ro55e% i&e*(9hen (o*eone %ro5( (o*e&hing- 5ic: i& u5 an% han% i& 4ac:- =he&her i&J( a

glo)e- a 'ile 'ol%er or a &=en&6 %ollar 4ill7 !a:e (ure 6ou 4en% a& &he :nee(- no& 'ro&he =ai(&7


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9al: 4e(i%e a la%6 on &he (&air( Ne)er =al: 4ehin% a =o*an on &he (&air=a6- e(5eciall6 i' (heJ( =earing a

*ini(:ir&7 9al: 4e(i%e her or (ligh&l6 ahea% o' her on &he (&air(7 9hen e+i&ing a(u4=a6 (&a&ion in a cru(h o' 5eo5le- a gen&le*an =ill a)er& hi( e6e( 'ro* &he &high(ahea% o' hi*7 The (a*e 5rinci5le a55lie( i' 6ou are =al:ing on &he (&ree&( %onJ&'ollo= an6 =o*an 6ou %onJ& :no= &oo clo(el67

9al: on &he ou&(i%e o' a (i%e=al: Thi( allo=( 6our la%6 &o 4e 'ur&her 'ro* &he &ra''ic7 Thi( =a6- i' (o*eone i(

going &o 4e (5la(he%- i& =ill 4e 6ou- no& her7


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