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Difficult Conversations:How to talk to your loved ones
about your health
Dana Nolan MS, LMHC, NCCLicensed Mental Health Counselor
Talking about…
Conversations to have when you are well:• Living Will• Last Will and Testament• Organ Donation/anatomical donation
Conversations when you are ill:• Diagnosis of Life Threatening Illness• Prognosis• Do Not Resuscitate (DNR)
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Why can conversations about our health be difficult
Denial of our mortality Hard to imagine ourselves or
our loved ones sick Societal pressure to only think
about positive outcomes
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Why are these conversations necessary?
Elephant in the room YOUR wishes will be carried out Your family members KNOW your
thoughts/feelings and don’t have to guess Your family has the knowledge to plan
their lives and get support if needed No one has ever died from hearing the
news that a loved one has a potentially life threatening illness
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What are Advance Directives? Conversations about your Advance Directives are
best had when you are well. If Terry Schiavo had completed an advance directive
in writing, she would have had her wishes known and carried out.
Living Will - a legal statement about what kind of medical care you want or don’t want if you become unable to make your own decisions. • Difference between a living will and DNR• You do not need an attorney to complete a living
will
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Advance Directives (con’t)
Health Care Surrogate legal document naming another
person as your representative to make medical decisions for you if you are not able to make them yourself. • You do not need an attorney
to help you with this process
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What if you don’t have a Health Care Surrogate?
Next of kin:• Legal Guardian, Spouse, Adult Children of patient,
Parents of patient, oldest sibling/majority of siblings, close relatives involved in care, close friends involved in care.
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Difference between Power of Attorney and Healthcare Surrogate Designation
Durable power of attorney allows for much broader powers than a Healthcare Surrogate Designation
No limitations on the decision making.
Strongly recommended that an attorney assist with this process
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What a Health Care Surrogate can provide consent for:
Decide on the patient’s level of care when the patient cannot
Consult with caregivers and give informed consent for treatment
Have access to medical records and authorize release of information as needed
Apply for benefits & avoid cost of an attorney
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What a Health Care Surrogate cannot provide consent for:
Abortion, Sterilization, Electroconvulsive therapy, Psychosurgery, Experimental treatments or therapies, Voluntary admission to a mental health facility
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Advance Directives (con’t)
Anatomical Donation Legal document that indicates your wish to donate,
at death, all or part of your body.
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Talking about your illness
Adjusting to news of your own serious diagnosis Telling others can be challenging
• Emotions of co-workers, parents, friends, children, siblings, neighbors
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Talking about your illness (con’t)
What to tell and when?• Cost/benefit analysis
Children/grandchildren• To tell or not to tell
Boss/co-workers
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Prognosis
Asking your physician “How long do I have?” is a tough question• Our physicians don’t give their opinion on
prognosis unless you ask
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Prognosis (con’t)
Disclosing a limited prognosis to loved ones
Deciding to decline further curative treatment….Is this giving up?
End of Life discussions…Is talking about what kind of funeral/burial you want being pessimistic?
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Do Not Resuscitate Order
What is this and who can enact one? Discussion with your treating physician
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Conclusion
Gone are the days when Cancer was whispered about.
We know that having difficult conversations reduce anxiety about the unknown for patients and family
Lots of resources to help with having those conversations
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Contact Information
1-800-615-2270
(800) 615-2270