The Power of Focus How to Exceed Your Own Expectations in Life

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The Power of Focus

How to Exceed Your Own Expectations in Life, Love, Health, Career, Spirituality,Finances, Recovery, Attitude and ore

David Essel, M.S.

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Cha!ter &' -h" (his Boo* and -h" No

Cha!ter $' -hat Does it Mean to )e 9ull" 9ocused in Life>

Cha!ter ?' (he /ne (hin# (heor"@, the /nl" Hi#h29ocused oal2Achievement S"stemou -ill Ever Need

Cha!ter ' 9ocus !lus Accounta)ilit" euals Eceedin# /ur /n E!ectations in Life

Cha!ter 6' Ho to Manifest our oals in a 9ocused -a"

Cha!ter F' :arma' Enhance it -ith Dail" 9ocus

Cha!ter G' (he Ei#ht :e" (i!s to Hel! ou Sta" 9ocused in Life

Cha!ter ' -h" Do -e Shoot for Less (han -e Deserve in Life, and -hat to Do A)out0t

Cha!ter 5' A 9e of the Man" 8eo!le -ho Have Hel!ed Me to Sta" 9ocused in Life sothat 0 Can Eceed M" /n E!ectations

Cha!ter &%' 9inal (hou#hts on (he 8oer of 9ocus

A!!endi & -here do e #o from here> our net ste! to create the life "ou desire.

A!!endi $' Resources to Hel! ou Sta" 9ocused in Life and Eceed our /nE!ectations

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to m" )rother (err",

ho has )een a source of stren#th

in m" life in man", man" a"s.

(he !aths e choose to al*

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ho ill al*

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for me,

man" times over,

and to man" other !eo!le

in this orld, as ell.

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0 have come to reali<e that e #et out of life hat e focus our thou#hts on, and +ust as

im!ortantl", hat e focus our actions on, on a dail" )asis. /ver the "ears man" !eo!lehave !ut the em!hasis for our success on the !oer of thou#ht, from )oo*s to DJDs andmovies. So much that "ou see toda" in re#ards to #oal achievement and #oal settin# isa)out focusin# our thou#hts. -hile this is incredi)l" im!ortant, hat "ou are #oin# tofind out in this )oo*, and hat 0 thin* se!arates this )oo* from so man" other of the !roducts on !ersonal #roth and motivation, is that e are #oin# to loo* not +ust at hatour mind is doin#, )ut hat our actions are doin#, or not doin#, on a dail" )asis as ell.-hen 0 loo* at m" life tent" "ears a#o, 0 can tell "ou that 0 fell victim as ell to all ofthe h"!e and hoo!la around the teachin# that sa"s if e +ust focus our mind in a certaina", life ill dramaticall" chan#e. 9or "ears, 0 even tau#ht this theor" a)out Kfocusin#our mind, focusin# our mind, focusin# our mind, )ut hat ha!!ened in m" life, andhat has ha!!ened to millions and millions of other !eo!le, is that this conce!t can onl"#et us so far. Eventuall" the mind is either #oin# to retreat into old )ehaviors and old )elief s"stems, )ecause it actuall" does not )elieve it hen e sa" that, K0 on sevenhomes around the orld toda", hen in actualit", e are rentin# a mo)ile home. (hereis nothin# ron# ith rentin# a mo)ile home, )ut 0 thin* "ou #et the !icture. (his )oo* is#oin# to offer a different loo* at focus. (he mind is im!ortant, )ut there is much, muchmore that e are #oin# to cover in re#ards to this and the overall #oal of achievin# morein life.

(he other thin# that is #oin# to se!arate this )oo* from man" other conce!ts re#ardin#success is that e are #oin# to focus on a sim!le formula, an etremel" uniue #oalachievement s"stem, that if folloed, "ou ill )e finall" a)le to eceed "our on

e!ectations in ever" area of life. 0 am so ecited to introduce this s"stem via this )oo* tothe orld. -e have )een or*in# ith this success conce!t since &55F, and no, after"ears of chan#in# thousands of !eo!les lives from all over the orld throu#h our &2on2&sessions and !rivate class settin#s, e are sharin# this success secret no, so that the !oer of this s"stem can hel! millions of more !eo!le to focus and eceed their one!ectations in life.

0f "ou a!!l" the !rinci!les in this )oo*, "ou ill )ecome an ama<in# !ositive force in"our life. ou ill see "our life chan#e, and then as im!ortantl", "ou ill start to see thelives of those around "ou shift as ell. (he orld ill chan#e hen "ou a!!l" these !rinci!les. No some !eo!le, the" mi#ht sa", K-o; (his #u" is an e#omaniac. He istellin# me that if 0 follo the !ro#ram in this )oo*, that 0 m"self can chan#e the orld.

And the anser is, a)solutel" "es. ou see, e have condensed some of the most !oerful teachin#s since the )e#innin# of time into this )oo* to hel! "ou focus. (here isno need to recreate heels. (here is no need to #o out and continue to search and loo*, )ecause in our searchin# and in our loo*in# e often overloo* one ma+or tenet to success,and that is the focus of our dail" actions. -e are #oin# to dee!l" e!lore the si#nificanceof our dail" actions in this )oo*. At the end of this )oo*, 0 onl" ant one thin# for "ou' 0ant "ou to see that "ou hold the !oer in "our on life, and that )" a!!l"in# certaintechniues in a s!ecific a", "ou ill )e a)le to eceed "our on e!ectations. 0 have



seen it ha!!en ith thousands of !eo!le that e have or*ed ith. 0 *no it can ha!!enith "ou. Lets #et read" to roc*, and find out +ust ho !oerful the conce!t of focus isin )ecomin# more successful in life.




The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 1

Wh Th*s Boo+ #&) Wh Now

“!ou are orthy of every goal you desire.”

Let me #o )ac* in time. 9or the !ast thirt" "ears, 0 have had the o!!ortunit" to !racticethese !rinci!les that e are ritin# a)out, and 0 have also had the o!!ortunit" to !racticeman" other !rinci!lesO some successful, some not. 0 have hit #reat set)ac*s in life. Li*eman" of "ou readin# this )oo*, 0 thou#ht that 0 as hi#hl" focused and on a !ath ofsuccess, onl" to have somethin# ha!!en ith m" health, finances, relationshi!s, or m"s!iritual !ath, that *noc*ed me off trac*.

0n these thirt" "ears, 0 have had a chance to intervie some of the most ama<in# minds inthis orld. 0 mean incredi)le )rains, !eo!le hi#hl" successful' in the orld of s!orts, )usiness, !ersonal #roth, and in the orld of s!iritualit". Ever"one from Dee!a*Cho!ra, to Su<e /rman, to Lama Sur"a Das, an ama<in# s!iritual leader, to 9ather Ron,from the Hanle" Center. 0 have had a chance to interact ith !eo!le li*e MaharishiMahesh o#i, hom 0 ill tell "ou an ama<in# stor" a)out later, and authors li*e Jir#in, -a"ne D"er and the sin#ers :enn" Lo##ins and Meatloaf. All of these !eo!le,have somethin# in common ith other hi#hl" successful individuals, li*e Donald (rum!and Harv E*er, the financial teacher, and that Ksomethin# in common is hat "ou illfind out in this )oo*. (he" are all hi#hl" focused !eo!le.

(his is actuall" a follo2u! to our ver" successful )oo* ith Ha" House 8u)lishin#

called KSlo Don' (he 9astest -a" to et Ever"thin# ou -ant. 0n the )oo* KSloDon, 0 offered hundreds of success stories of clients that 0 had or*ed ith over the"ears as a master life coach. -e also shared stories from listeners ho had called in foradvice on our nationall" s"ndicated radio sho, onl" to call )ac* to, or three, or fourmonths later to share their incredi)le success stories, and it as all )ecause the" finall"#ot focused in life.

0 remem)er as a *id hearin# over and over and over a#ain m" !arents sa"in#, KDavid ,ould "ou +ust do one thin# at a time. ou *no, 0 lau#h no thin*in# a)out that. Eveninto m" adult life, 0 have )een someone that has ala"s anted a lot of dail" stimulation.(o have five2hundred !ro+ects #oin# on at the same time. (rust me, there is a !ositive tothat, )ecause hen "ou have so man" !ro+ects #oin# on, "ou are #oin# to )e introduced

to man" different !hiloso!hies, teachers and t"!es of !eo!le. ou ill also )e introducedto a lot of success, and a lot of failure. -hat 0 have found, +ust li*e in the ritin# of this )oo*, is that hen the time is ri#ht, and 0 a!!l" m" focus, miracles ha!!en. And 0 antthe same to ha!!en for "ou.

9ocus, "ou see, is the *e" to lon#2lastin# success. -e can onl" +u##le so man" )alls at atime )efore e fi#ure out that livin# life li*e this is not #oin# to or*. -e can onl" for solon# sa" to ourselves that e are Ka +ac* of all trades, )ut a master of none until e



reali<e that this a!!roach mi#ht actuall" )e hurtin# us in life. At some !oint, e have #otto #et focused. 0 *no that if "ou reall" a!!l" the !rinci!les as e are settin# them out inthis )oo*, that "our dreams a)out achievin# s!ecific levels of success in life no lon#erhave to )e +ust dreams, the" can )ecome "our realit". ou ill see that "ou ill )e a)leto eceed "our on e!ectations, )ut it ill ta*e, and 0 sa" this to "ou ith an o!en heart

and an o!en mind, it ill ta*e "ou doin# thin#s differentl". 0t ill ta*e "ou surrenderin#to a ne a" of thin*in# and actin#.

-hen 0 as stru##lin# financiall", 0 had to surrender to a financial coach, and have herta*e me )" the hand don her !ath to success. -hen 0 have anted to radicall" chan#em" )od", 0 have had to surrender to someone elses a" of thin*in#. As a matter of fact,#oin# )ac* fifteen "ears a#o no, 0 surrendered to a #u" named Bill 8hilli!s, ho rotethe )oo*, Bod" 9or Life. Even thou#h 0 did not a#ree initiall" ith the s"stem that herote a)out in his )oo*, hen 0 anted to radicall" chan#e m" )od", and )ecome !art ofa )od" scul!tin# contest, 0 had to thro out m" old )elief s"stems, and follo someoneelses to #et the success that 0 had anted. (hat is called focus. -hen 0 have anted to#et so)er in life, hich 0 ill tell "ou a)out at the end of the )oo*, 0 had to thro out m"

)eliefs of hat it meant to #et so)er and follo someone elses !ro#ram. 0n other ords,focus ri#ht no. 0f e can #et this into our mindset, focus means that if "ou are not#ettin# hat "ou ant out of a certain area of life, ith "our mind, "our )od", "ourrelationshi!s, "our career, "our finances, and "ou trul" ant to see a radical shift in thatone area of life, "ou are #oin# to have to surrender and focus to someone elses !ro#ramthat has hat "ou desire. 0t is that sim!le.

So, h" is no the time that this messa#e a)out focus is so needed in our orld toda">9irst, e have to a#ree that e are hi#hl" distracted in life. Life is movin# so fast.Beteen all of the different technolo#" that is availa)le, the five thousand channels ontelevision, the hi#h e!ectations e have for our children, to not +ust )e in soccer and doell in school, )ut to )e in soccer, and theatre, and !olitical clu)s, and volunteer onee*ends. All of a sudden, if "ou loo* around, e see harried !arents drivin# theirchildren to a m"riad of events, and losin# themselves in the !rocess. 0n other ords, ourdesire for success has #otten so out of control, that e have lost the conce!t of focus. -ecannot even sit don at lunch ith a friend ithout havin# our i8hone #o off ith tetsand calls, and ho *nos hat else. (his time in our lives, more than ever, e need toslo don and focus. 9ocus on hat e desire. 9ocus on hat is meanin#ful in life.

/ur desire for instant #ratification destro"s our focus, as ell. -e ant the )i# hit. -eant to lose the thirt" !ounds toda". -e ant to ma*e the hundred2thousand dollars no.-e ant to )u" the homes and fli! them, and )ecome a millionaire in to "ears. Do "ousee hat 0 am sa"in#> -e are so distracted ith technolo#"O e are so distracted ith

instant #ratification, e have lost the conce!t of the !oer of focus. 1ntil no. (hrou#hthis )oo*, e ill )rin# )ac* the !oer of focus, and finall" #et hat e desire in life.-e need to slo don. -e need to sit )ac*. -e need to focus, or our life is #oin# to !assus )", and e are #oin# to sa", K-as that all it as a)out> Here is the #ood nes' oucan chan#e all of this toda" )" #ettin# focused and folloin# the s"stem in this )oo*.(hen atch "ourself month )" month eceed "our on e!ectations.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew



(a*e a moment ri#ht no, ithout #oin# an" further, to slo don and focus on hatas in im!ortant in the !revious cha!ter. (hese ritin# eercises are the a)solute #emsof this or*, hich hen done ill hel! "ou to #et the most out of "our time and this )oo*. Remem)er, do not trust "our )rain to )e a)le to recall this life chan#in#information. (he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus

on hat as im!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at thistime in "our life. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in theuestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, tocreate the life "ou desire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same onesthat 0 have used since &55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach. Slo don,focus, rite, then act to )ecome ho "ou trul" ant to )e in life.

&7 -hat as covered in detail, in this cha!ter>

$7 -hat as of most interest to "ou and h">

?7 -hat ould )e & or $ actions ste!s, relevant to the information in this cha!ter, that "oucould ta*e ri#ht no to hel! "ou to focus more in life> Be s!ecific, and also !ut the eact

da" and time that "ou ill ta*e these ste!s.



The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 0

Wh#' (oes *' Me#& 'o $e Fu%% Focuse) *& L*fe


So, hat are the )enefits of a focused life> 9irst of all, e are #oin# to sto! +u##lin# allthose !lates in the air. -e are #oin# to sto! s!innin# five thousand !lates in order to tr"to feel successful in life. -e are #oin# to #et clear. (he )enefit of a focused life is clarit".(he )enefit of a focused life is a shar! mind. -e finish !ro+ects that e start, and e aredisci!lined role models for our friends, our coor*ers, and our famil". 0n other ords,ma")e for the first time in our life !eo!le ill sa", KM" Lord, this #u", or this oman, isfinishin# the !ro+ects the" are startin#; A hu#e )enefit of #ettin# focused is that e ill

dro! the chaos and the drama. -e dro! the ecuses. -e dro! the )lame #ame on the#overnment, on the econom", or on our #enetics. -e are #oin# to dro! )lamin# all ofthese outside forces, and e are #oin# to ta*e res!onsi)ilit" for movin# our lives forard. No, some !eo!le ma" sa", K0 dont *no if that is a )enefitO 0 *ind of li*e !ro+ectin# )lame out there, and sa"in# that 0 am not the reason that 0 do not have the mone" 0 ant,the )od" 0 ant, the love 0 ant, the relationshi! ith od 0 ant. ou see, ithoutfocus, it is ver" eas" to sta" stuc* in the )lame #ame, )ut ith focus, choosin# one #oal,hich 0 ill #et to later on in the )oo*, and #oin# after it full force, e can start to seeour life radicall" chan#e. But it ill not ha!!en, 0 !romise "ou, until e sto! ma*in#ecuses for the reasons that e do not have hat e ant in life.

Another )enefit of focus is that e ill )e filled ith confidence and inte#rit". -h" isthat> -ell, thin* a)out it. -hen "ou are focused, "ou !ic* a #oal that "ou ant, one #oalat a time, and "ou #o after it, until "ou accom!lish it. (hat is #oin# to increase "ourconfidence in life. (hat is #oin# to ma*e "ou feel )etter a)out "ourself. 0t ma*es sense,doesnt it> 0nstead of sa"in#, K0 am #oin# to do this, and do this, and do this, and at theend of telve months, "ou havent done an" of it, "ou are #oin# to slo don andchoose one #oal. ou are #oin# to attac* it ith a s"stemi<ed a!!roach that e ill teach"ou in this )oo*, and "ou ill com!lete it )efore "ou start another #oal. ou ill increase"our confidence in life.

Net is "our inte#rit". 0nte#rit" is al*in# "our tal*. 0nte#rit" is the )asis of confidence.-hen e are constantl" sa"in#, K0 am #oin# to ma*e this amount of mone", and 0 am

#oin# to lose this ei#ht, and 0 am #oin# to do this, and 0 am #oin# to do that, and eare +ust )loin# smo*e. 8eo!le around us thin*, K-hatever; (here he #oes a#ainO thereshe #oes a#ain. So, the )enefit of inte#rit" is that "ou ill al* "our tal*, and "ou illfinish "our !ro+ects. 8eo!le ill res!ect "ou, and once a#ain, "ou ill )ecome a rolemodel to "our famil" and friends, and most im!ortantl" to "ourself. (his is the )e#innin#of the !atha" to eceedin# "our on e!ectations in life. As "ou can ima#ine, it o!ens adoora" that man" of us have never e!erienced throu#hout our entire lives.

No, hat are the challen#es of livin# this a"> -hat are the challen#es of livin# a life



that is full" focused> Num)er one is that e have #ot to let #o of the ecuses, the +ustifications, and the rationali<ations that e use to *ee! us !la"in# small in life. Soman" times !eo!le ill sa", K-ell, "ou *no, 0 ould have more mone" in the )an*, if itasnt for the meltdon of the housin# mar*et. /r, Kou *no, as soon as m" *ids #etout of the house, or as soon as m" *ids #raduate, or as soon as m" *idsP. and the list

#oes on, and on. K0f it asnt for m" #enetics, 0 ouldnt )e carr"in# this etra ei#ht.Here is the truth a)out #enetics and ei#ht. A 1niversit" of 9lorida stud" a num)er of"ears a#o concluded that even thou#h sit"2five to sevent"2five !ercent of the 1nitedStates of America is overei#ht or o)ese, onl" si !ercent of these !eo!le could use#enetics as a reason for their )ein# overei#ht. ou see, the challen#e of livin# a focusedlife is sa"in#, K0 have to al* throu#h the resistanceO 0 have to al* throu#h the )loc*sO 0have to al* throu#h the )arriers to #o after m" #oal. K 0 have to dro! the ecusere#ardin# #enetics and m" ei#ht and ta*e !ersonal res!onsi)ilit" for m" health ha)its ifan"thin# is #oin# to chan#e.

0ts li*e hen e loo* )ac* at the stor" of -alt Disne", ho ent )an*ru!t seven times )efore he )ecame a hu#e success. (he !erson ho is not focused on their end result,

choosin# onl" one ma+or #oal to or* on at a time, ould not have the resolve that -altDisne" had. After their first, or second, or third )an*ru!tc", the"d #ive u! on theirdreams. But hen e are livin# a focused life, the o!!osite occurs. Challen#es are #oin#to come u!. (hin#s are #oin# to tr" to #et in the a" of "ou accom!lishin# "our #oal.Ri#ht u! front, 0 am tellin# "ou this. 0 am not tellin# "ou that livin# a focused life is eas".0 am tellin# "ou it is orth it. (here ill )e )loc*s. (here ill )e rain" eather. (hereill )e children #ettin# sic* on the da" "ou are su!!osed to start or*in# out in the #"m.(here ill )e all *inds of )loc*s that are #oin# to come u!, and e have to al* throu#hthe resistance. -e have to )e illin# to sa", K0 am not #oin# to let this *noc* me off m"course.

No, another challen#e that ma" arise is that our friends, our famil", and our coor*ersma" not li*e the fact that "ou are chan#in#. 0t is so true. 9or the tent"2five "ears that 0have or*ed as a master life coach, and 0 cannot tell "ou ho man" times a cou!le illcome in, or an individual, and declare that the" are #oin# to ma*e a ma+or chan#e in life.(he" are #oin# to #et so)erO or #o )ac* to school. (he" are #oin# to start or*in# outith a trainer in the #"m. And, their friends and their !artners initiall" are ver" ecited.

0ma#ine this. A cou!le comes in and sits don, and sa"s that the" are loo*in# atim!rovin# their financial future. (o#ether e ma*e a decision, that in order for them toaccom!lish the #oals that the" ant to accom!lish, that num)er one, the" have #ot tostart savin# no, even thou#h the" dont thin* the" can. So e or* throu#h that hurdleOand life is #ood. -eve #ot them on that !atha" to success. Net, the ife decides that

she has #ot to #o )ac* to school to #et a de#ree in order to #et a )etter +o) and moveforard in life. Ever"one is ecited. (he first cou!le of ee*s #o )"O and hen the"come )ac* in, all hell is )rea*in# loose. Ever"one is u!set ith the ne #oals. -h" isthat> Because, no that the ife is not home three ni#hts a ee* until &%'%% or &%'?% atni#ht, it is disru!tin# their normal routine. So, hile the hus)and initiall" as reall"ecited a)out his ife #oin# )ac* to school and their future )ein# more secure ith her +o) chan#e, no it is interferin# ith his life. Not onl" does he have to ma*e dinnerni#htl", )ut he has to ta*e care of the *ids those three ni#hts )" himself. 0f e are not



focused, and e are standin# in the ifes shoes, it is ver" eas" to )e sa"ed, and for herto sa", Kou *no hat, hone"> ou are ri#ht. (his is too much on "ou. 0 am #oin# touit school, and e ill fi#ure out another a".

But, that is not the anser an"more. -hen e #et focused, e sa", K0 *no there are#oin# to )e challen#esO 0 am not #oin# to hide )ehind the faQade that sa"s, KNo that e

have decided that e are #oin# to ma*e more mone", no that e have decided e are#oin# to lose the ei#ht, no that e have decided e are #oin# to for#ive someone hohas hurt us in the !ast, that its #oin# to )e eas". Resistance, )loc*s, and )arriers illoccurO )ut, in our or*, and )" hat "ou are readin# ri#ht no, e are !re!arin#ourselves, so that hen the rationali<ations and +ustifications to dro! the #oal come u!,hen the ecuses arise, or hen the #oin# #ets tou#h, e sta" focused an"a".

/ur famil" and friends and coor*ers ma" thin* initiall", 0 am #oin# to re!eat this, thathat "ou are doin# is #reat. But hen it starts to affect them, the" ma" not )e in "ourcorner. And that is o*a". 0 have or*ed ith man" !eo!le ho have made the decision to#et so)er, and at first their friends are all ecited a)out them doin# this, until it starts toaffect the relationshi!. 0 have seen relationshi!s )rea* u! )ecause one !artner #ot sofocused on their recover", and the other one tried to sa)ota#e it. -e have to ma*edecisions for ourselves on the !ath to real success and reali<e that not ever"one is #oin#to )e in our corner for the lon# run, and thats o*a".

Lets loo* at the conce!t of focus as it relates to Kleft2)rained and Kri#ht2)rained !eo!lein life. 0f "oure a left2)rained !erson, Kleft )rains are lo#ical. (he" are anal"tical. (he"are intellectual. 9or these t"!e of individuals readin# this )oo*, hen e #et to thes"stems, the formulas, the action ste!s, and the ritin# eercises, "ou ill love it. 0 !romise "ou that this ill ecite "ou, )ecause these conce!ts are stren#ths of "ours.-hen 0 have "ou or#ani<in# five da"s a ee* doin# certain tas*s on a dail" )asis to sta"hi#hl" focused in' ritin# the )oo*, losin# the ei#ht, ma*in# more mone", findin# "our

lover, or recreatin# a dee! love relationshi!, Phen e #et to all of that s"stemi<edstuff, "ou are #oin# to love it. Hoever, hen e #et to some of the softer !arts of life,li*e meditation, or li#htin# a candle in the mornin# to #et focused, those thin#s "ouould li*e to sh" aa" from, dont sh" aa". -al* into the uncomforta)le. Do thosetas*s that e recommend in this )oo* that are not the easiest to do, )ecause thats heresuccess lies.

No, hat a)out our Kri#ht2)rained friends readin# this> (he Kri#ht )rains are thecreative !eo!le, the s!ontaneous !eo!le, the Kfree s!irits. 9or "ou, hen e #et to thecandle li#htin#, or )urnin# incense, or hen e tal* a)out folloin# some of the !ractices of meditation and o!enin# our hearts to the orld, "ou ill love it. ou illimmerse "ourself in it. ou ill ant to sta" in that atmos!here of freedomO that

atmos!here of a s!iritual a!!roach to sta"in# focused in life. Hoever, hen e starttal*in# a)out the dail" structured s"stem, the ritin# eercises to *ee! us on !ath, thosethin#s that demand of "ou to do hat is not natural, "ou ma" ant to sh" aa" fromthese !rocedures. Li*e 0 mentioned a)ove, dont. -hatever it is that "ou dont feelcomforta)le ith is usuall", for )oth the left2)rained and the ri#ht2)rained !erson, the *e"to success. 0snt that interestin#>

-e ant "ou to stren#then "our stren#ths, to #et hi#hl" focused on hat "ou do ell,



)ecause there are #oin# to )e !lent" of thin#s in this )oo* for )oth the left2)rained andthe ri#ht2)rained !erson to attach to that ill )e eas", that ill )e +o"ful, and that the"ill connect ith effortlessl". And do that. Connect. et focused. En+o" it. Hoever, as 0have seen in m" life, and in the thousands of clients that 0 have or*ed ith over the"ears, its hen e delve into the uncomforta)le, hen e hold ourselves accounta)le to

certain dail" !ractices that arent natural, e see the #reatest success. :ee! that in mindas e #o throu#h the )oo*. -hen somethin# doesnt feel ri#ht, hen e are tal*in#a)out doin# a dail" !ractice, and "ou sa", K/h, that is not for me, +ust remem)er, thatits eactl" for "ou. 0f "ou follo throu#h ith this s"stem, "ou ill a)solutel" eceed"our on e!ectations in life.

As "ou read this )oo*, "ou can !ro)a)l" see that most of us live in a hi#hl" unfocusedeistence, and that is the reason h" e dont have hat e ant in life. Let me #ive "ouan eam!le of hat this loo*s li*e. 9irst of all, if "ou ant to *no the classic a" todefeat "ourself in life, loo* at the !ractice of our Ne ears resolutions. /n Ne earsEve, !eo!le ma*e these resolutions for the "earO that K0 am #oin# to lose ei#ht, uitsmo*in#, save more mone", find the love of m" life, save m" marria#e, and the" #o on,

and on, and on, ri#ht> 0t is !ro)a)l" one of the )i##est reasons h" e never eceed ouron e!ectations in life, )ecause e are not focused. (he Ne ears Eve resolutions"stem is the most unfocused form of #oal settin# *non to man. And ho do e *nothis> Because telve months later, for ninet"2five !ercent of !eo!le ho still set their Ne ears resolutions, most of those resolutions are re!eated. So, e *no it doesntor*.

Another eam!le of ho e *no that most of us live an unfocused life is the startin#and the sto!!in# of !ro+ects. And this is classic. Ho man" times have e started to loseei#ht, and then e sto!!ed> Ho man" times have e #otten ecited a)out #oin# )ac*to church, or tem!le, or s"na#o#ue, and then e sto!!ed> Ho man" times have emade a decision that, this is itO K0 am finall" #oin# to #o )ac* to school, 0 am finall"#oin# to ta*e care of m"self, 0 am finall" #oin# toP, fill in the )lan*. And e started,and e sto!!ed. (his unfocused a!!roach to life destro"s our on confidence. oin# )ac* to confidence and inte#rit", this is eactl" hat e are tal*in# a)out. 0n theunfocused life, e are not al*in# our tal*. (hat destro"s our internal confidence.

0f e reall" ant to see another eam!le of ho unfocused man" of us are, e +ust haveto loo* in our closets. /ur closets are so cluttered. (here as a client that 0 recentl"or*ed ith ho had tent"2to !airs of +eans, ei#hteen !airs of fli!2flo!s, thirt" +ac*ets, and fift" !urses. No, this mi#ht seem etreme, ri#ht> But, 0 ould li*e "ou ri#htno to !ut the )oo* don and #o into "our closet and count ho man" !airs of shoes and +eans and dresses that "ou have that "ou reall" dont need. See that clutterin#> 0t mi#ht )e

a #u" ith ten fishin# !oles. 0t mi#ht )e a oman ith fifteen etra )lan*ets or thirt"toels in the closet, +ust in case com!an" comes. 0 remem)er once or*in# ith aoman ho on avera#e ould have fifteen )ottles of sham!oo and thirt" rolls of toilet !a!er in her house, hen it as +ust her and her dau#hter ho lived there. 1nnecessar".(otall" unnecessar". (his clutterin# of our !h"sical s!ace continues to *noc* us off ofour focused !ath. Most of us live a ver" unconscious eistence, and this )oo* is sa"in#,KLets reel it in. Here is the tas* to do in "our home' #o throu#h "our closets. An"thin#that "ou havent orn for telve months, )o it u!, ta*e it out, clear it u!. Do "ou reall"



need ten !airs of +eans> Do "ou reall" need tent", thirt", or fort" !airs of shoes> (heanser is no. 0f "ou are familiar ith the conce!t of fen# shui 3if "ou are not familiarith it, oo#le itO or #et the )oo*, K9en# Shui for Dummies7, e *no !h"sical clutteralso clutters the mind. o throu#h "our house and clear out the clutter, )ecause all of thisecess of material #oods is destro"in# "our a)ilit" to focus. 0t is ro))in# "ou of ener#". 0t

is clutterin#, not +ust "our !h"sical s!ace, )ut "our )rain as ell. No, lets +um! to the office, and it is the same thin#. 0 have or*ed ith clients hohave offices at or* and at home, and )oth of them are totall" disheveled. 0 ould as*"ou to do eactl" hat e do ith the clothes' )o u! all of the files that "ou dont needfor toda", and !ut them in a corner. (elve months from no, !ut them in stora#e, andtelve months from then, if "ou still dont need them, let them #o. Move them out or !utthem in a stora#e facilit" so the" are not !h"sicall" ithin "our e"esi#ht. (hese sim!leeam!les are shoin# ho unfocused man" of us are. Remove the ecess. 0t mi#ht even )e an ecess of )oo*s in "our office, or )oo*s at home. ive them aa" to oodill orthe Salvation Arm". Start to #et focused. et clear to find the ener#" that "ou are loo*in#for.

(he last thin# 0 ant to tal* a)out in this cha!ter is the !oer of ritin#, and ho e canfocus our mind throu#h ritin#. Remem)er this, KDont trust "our )rain. -herever inthis )oo* that "ou see a need to sto! readin# and to rite don somethin# that iscruciall" im!ortant for "our #roth, dont trust "our )rain and sa", K/h, that is a !oint 0am #oin# to remem)er. Never trust "our )rain. -rite it don. -hen e do rite our#oals don on !a!er, e )e#in to #et more focused. -hen e rite our #oals don, e#et ver" clear on hat it is that e are #oin# to do on a dail" )asis to chan#e our lives.Also, hen e rite, messa#es from the su)conscious can come to the surface to #ive ussolutions to challen#es. -hatever the )loc*s or the ecuses are, hen e rite themdon, solutions can start to come to the surface, risin# from the su)conscious, hel!in# usto sta" focused and on our !ath. -ritin# is an aesome form of accounta)ilit".

esterda", as a matter of fact, a client came in, and 0 as*ed him hat he anted toaccom!lish. He re!lied that he anted to rite his first )oo*. 30 love hel!in# !eo!le rite )oo*s. 0t ta*es a hi#hl" focused a!!roach, and e have a s"stem e teach !eo!le on hoto do it.7 0 said, KHo lon# have "ou )een !lannin# on ritin# this )oo*> (he res!onseas, KA)out four "ears no. 0 said, KAesome; 0 ould love to see "our outline. Heta!!ed the side of his head, and said, K0t is ri#ht here. 0 said, KRi#ht here> He said, K0tis in m" )rain. 0 then re!lied, KAnd that is eactl" h" "ou havent acted on it in four"ears. 0t needs to )e in ritin#. Remem)er, our ritten !lan is a form of accounta)ilit".(hat ritten !lan no sa"s, K0t is in the !h"sical orldO lets start movin#. /therise,e can sta" in our little fantas" land. -hen e !ut all of that in ritin#, it )ecomes real.

-hen it is in ritin#, e have a chance, the ver" first chance in our lives to actuall"eceed our on e!ectations.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew

(a*e a moment ri#ht no, ithout #oin# an" further, to slo don and focus on hatas in im!ortant in the !revious cha!ter. (hese ritin# eercises are the a)solute #emsof this or*, hich hen done ill hel! "ou to #et the most out of "our time and this )oo*. Remem)er, do not trust "our )rain to )e a)le to recall this life chan#in#



information.

(he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat asim!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "ourlife. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "ou

desire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since&55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach.

Slo don, focus, rite, then act u!on "our ansers to )ecome ho "ou trul" ant to )ein life.



?7 -hat ould )e & or $ actions ste!s, relevant to the information in this cha!ter, that "oucould ta*e ri#ht no to hel! "ou to focus more in life> Be s!ecific, and also !ut the eactda" and time that "ou ill ta*e these ste!s.




The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 2

The O&e Th*&3 Theor4 The O&% Go#%-Ach*e/e5e&' Ss'e5 You

W*%% E/er Nee)


0n this cha!ter, 0 am #oin# to share ith "ou the most !oerful #oal achievement s"stem"ou have ever seen. But 0ll also sa" ri#ht u! front, this !ro#ram ma" seem )i<arre to a lotof !eo!le. And h" is that> Because, over the "ears e have )een conditioned. -e have )een )rainashed. -e have )een convinced that life )alance is !ossi)le, and if e #oafter multi!le #oals at the same, a little )it ever" da", life ould )ecome !erfect. 0t isho#ash. 0t is nonsense. 0t has never or*ed since the )e#innin# of time, and "et e are

still )ein# attracted to !ro#rams that !romise it ill or*. 0t ill never or*. -hat 0 am#oin# to share ith "ou ri#ht no, and 0 ill tell "ou the stor" of ho e came to createthis !rocess, is somethin# that ill radicall" chan#e "our life. 0t ill hel! "ou to )ecomehi#hl" focused and hi#hl" successful, and there are millions of !eo!le in this orld thatfollo it ever" da", )ut man" dont reali<e the" are actuall" doin# it. /ne #oal at a time,is the #oal. Nothin# more. Nothin# less. Man" of the most common #oal settin# !ro#ramsthat are availa)le toda" have #reat intentions in re#ards to hel!in# "ou to accom!lish"our #oals, )ut the" rarel" or*. 1nless e are tal*in# a)out the hi#hl"2disci!line,alread" internall"2motivated individuals. And, accordin# to m" e!erience, that is !ro)a)l" a)out one !ercent of the orlds !o!ulation. 0n other ords, one !ercent of theorlds !o!ulation are so hi#hl" internall" driven that no matter hat #oal s"stem the"

follo, it ill or*. 9or the rest of us, it hasnt, it ont, and it never ill.

-hen 0 first started doin# this or* thirt" "ears a#o, 0 as introduced to the Kuadranttheor" of #oal settin#, hich is hi#hl" common and tau#ht ever"here, even at thefinest schools. Some of the most successful individuals in the orld !romote these to !ro#rams that 0 am #oin# to share ith "ouO the Kuadrant !ro#ram and the K!ie theor"of #oal achievement. -hile the" can offer some success alon# the a", the" are hi#hl"limited. -hen 0 first started teachin# as a master life coach, hen 0 first started hel!in# !eo!le to transform their lives, 0 used either the Kuadrant theor" or the K!ie charttheor". And for a lon# !eriod of time, e did see some !ro#ress ith clients. And letsface it, if "ou are not focused in life, an" t"!e of a !ro#ram ill hel! "ou, ri#ht> 0f "ou

are +ust sort of #oin# throu#h the motions of #oal settin#, )ut "ou dont have a dail" !lan,and "ou dont have a dail" !ro#ram, if someone #ives "ou somethin# to follo, "ou illsee some )enefits. (hat is hat ha!!ened hen 0 )ecame an official life coach in &55&.30n &55F, 0 altered all of m" or* to follo hat e have created no called (he /ne(hin# (heor"@.7 0 used the uadrant and the !ie chart to hel! m" clients )ecome moresuccessful. 0 even used these !ro#rams on m"self to )ecome more successful. Hoever,heres the caveat' 0 never as a)le to reach the hi#hest level of )rea*throu#hs in m" !rofessional, !ersonal, career, and finances until 0 )ecame hi#hl" focused, and started



folloin# the !ro#ram e created.

Let me )ac* u! and define )oth the uadrant and !ie theor" !ro#rams in #oal settin#. (heuadrant theor" sa"s that e are #oin# to )rea* our life into four ma+or #oals' 9inances,health, relationshi!s, and s!iritualit". (hen, ever" ee* e ill choose somethin# to doithin each of those areas to hel! them all im!rove. 0n other ords, it is *ind of li*e "ou

are +u##lin# four )alls in life, and "ou are tr"in# to *ee! them all #oin# at the same time.-e do a little )it of or* on our od !ath, e do a little )it of or* in re#ards to ourfinancial status, e do a little )it of or* ith our health, and e do a little )it of or*ith our relationshi!s. -e *ee! tr"in# to +u##le multi!le #oals at the same time. No,li*e 0 said, 0 tau#ht this theor" for a ver" lon# !eriod of time. 0 sa m"self and m" clientsreach some measura)le levels of success. So, a#ain, 0 ill remind "ou, an"thin# is )etterthan nothin#. Hoever, the uadrant s"stem falls short of deliverin# the success edesire. (he other t"!e of s"stem, hich is ver", ver" similar, is called the !ie theor", orthe !ie chart s"stem of #oal achievement. Here, instead of havin# four areas of life, edivide life u! into si slices of !ie. So, e are +ust #ettin# a little )it more s!ecific.0nstead of sa"in#, +ust finances, e are #oin# to sa" finances and career. 0nstead of +ust

sa"in# our relationshi!s, e are #oin# to sa" relationshi!s ith ourselves andrelationshi!s ith others. 0n other ords, e add a cou!le of ne cate#ories, )ut it is thesame !ro#ram. -e end u! ever" ee* sa"in#, K/*a", 0 am #oin# to do a little )it in eachof these si cate#ories of life. 0 have even seen some #oal achievement teachers that ill )rea* it u! into ei#ht, ten, or telve slices of the !ie, and #et ver" s!ecific, )ut it is thesame )ottom line. 0nstead of four )alls of life to tr" to *ee! ever"thin# #oin#, "ou are +u##lin# si, ei#ht, ten, or telve different cate#ories of life. Ever" da" "ou are loo*in# at"our chart and sa"in#, K/*a", did 0 do a little )it here ith m" eercise> Did 0 do a little )it here ith od> A little )it ith relationshi! ith self> A little )it ith relationshi!sith others> As "ou can ima#ine, it eventuall" ill drive "ou insane. ou ma" seenominal success, if "ou havent had an" t"!e of or#ani<ed a!!roach to #oal settin#, )ut it

is not #oin# to )e an"thin# near hat it could )e if e )ecame hi#hl" focused, and +ustent after one #oal at a time.

0 am no #oin# to #ive "ou the definition of (he /ne (hin# (heor"@, and then 0 illtell "ou ho it came into eistence. (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ is the most hi#hl"2focused,#oal2achievement !ro#ram availa)le toda". No, "ou ill notice, 0 didnt sa" #oal2settin# !ro#ram. 0t is the most hi#hl"2focused, #oal2achievement !ro#ram that the orldhas ever seen. 0 am #oin# to sa" that em!haticall" )ecause there is nothin#, in the thirt""ears of m" doin# this or* in the orld of motivation and !ersonal #roth on m"self,and then eventuall" hel!in# millions of other !eo!le, 0 have seen so radicall" chan#e !eo!les lives. 0 ill also #ive "ou multi!le eam!les to !rove this to )e true. (he /ne(hin# (heor"@ states that at an" #iven time in life, there is onl" one ma+or #oal to #o

after. 0t is often the one that e have denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated ta*in# care of. 0tis the one that, hen e loo* at it on !a!er e sa", Kou *no, 0 dont reall" have thetime to do this. 0 dont have the mone" to do this. 0 dont have the education to do this. 0could never for#ive that !erson. 0 could neverP, fill in the )lan*s for "ourself. (he /ne(hin# (heor"@ states that if e ere to attac* the one ma+or #oal that e dont ant to,if e ere to finall" #o after it five da"s a ee* for tent" minutes to to hours !er da",for a minimal of ninet" da"s, our life ould radicall" chan#e.





hat it is for "ou, )ut 0 can tell "ou this' 0f "ou are illin# to do a little )it of or*O if "ouare illin# to #et focused to #o after and attac* this one thin#, "our life ill radicall"chan#e. /n the other hand, if e *ee! avoidin#, den"in#, or !rocrastinatin# ta*in# care ofthat one issue that has )een holdin# us )ac*, that has )een na##in# us, that is ala"ssittin# in the su)consciousO if e do not #o after and attac* this, e ill never reach the

hi#hl"2focused end result that "ou and 0 ant, that is in the title of this )oo*. 0n otherords, e ill never eceed our on e!ectations.

9or some !eo!le, (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ ill lead "ou to a ne )elief s"stem a)outmone". (his )elief s"stem a)out mone" mi#ht )e ra!!ed u!, as Harv E*er sa"s inKSecrets of the Millionaire Mind, in the fact that mone" is the root of all evil, that rich !eo!le are #reed", and that it is )etter to #ive than receive. All of those ridiculousstatements, that have no )asis in realit", are holdin# "ou )ac* financiall". 0t is ama<in#ho (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ or*s. Lets #o to the Bi)le for a minute. -hen e tal*a)out multi!le #oalsO hen e tal* a)out the uadrant theor" or the !ie chart theor" of#oal settin#, +ust thin* a)out hat esus said in the Bi)le, hen he refers to the fact that"ou cannot serve to masters at once. So, "ou cannot serve mone" and love. -hat is the

correct uote out of the Bi)le> 0t is not that mone" is the root of all evil. (he correctuote out of the Bi)le is, K(he love of mone" is the root of all evil. 0n other ords, if"ou !ut mone" u! on a !edestal, and "ou love it so much, "ou are illin# to do hateverit ta*es that ma" even )e a#ainst "our morals and ethicsO cheatin# on "our taes, for aneam!le, not re!ortin# all of "our income, or fa)ricatin# e!enses. /*a", ell "ou have +ust created another master. So love is not "our masterO s!iritualit" is not "our master, andod is not "our master, )ecause love, s!iritualit", and od are all )ased in honest". Do"ou follo me here> So, all of a sudden "ou are servin# to masters. our #reed, "ourlove of mone", has overcome "our moral and ethical decision ma*in#, hich is #oin# tocome )ac*, and its #oin# to )ite "ou in the )utt. Later on e ill tal* a)out *arma, to seeho e can clean our lives u! at an even dee!er level.

Lets #o )ac* to the statement' Kou cannot serve to masters at the same time. (hatfalls !erfectl" into (he /ne (hin# (heor"@. 0n our )elief s"stem, "ou cannot serve to#oals at the same time. No one has the ener#" to !ut one hundred !ercent effort into to#oals. So, in other ords, if someone comes to me and sa"s, Kou *no hat, David> 0reall" need to lose tent"2five !ounds, and 0 ant to for#ive m" !arents for some t"!e ofa)use, or K0 ant to earn one hundred thousand dollars a "ear, and at the same time, 0ant to create this ama<in# !atha" to od, or, K0 ant to find the love of m" life, andat the same time, 0 ant to find a ne career !ath, 0 ill or* ith those !eo!le andthe" ill uic*l" see that e can onl" serve one #oal at a time. (he /ne (hin# (heor"@is un)elieva)l" !oerful. (he" ill see for themselves that e cant serve to masters,that the" are #oin# to have to ma*e a decision on hich of the #oals in front of them ill

have the most !oerful effect on their life. -hich of the to #oals have the" denied,dela"ed, or !rocrastinated the lon#est> Sometimes !eo!le come in ith three, or four, orfive #oals. -hich of those three, or four, or five #oals have e denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated or*in# on the lon#est that ill radicall" chan#e our eistence> (hat is themaster e ant to serve. (hat is the one #oal, the one master that e ant to #o after.

0 had an intervie in &55F that led to me create this hole !rocess around focus and (he/ne (hin# (heor"@ that radicall" chan#ed ever" area of m" life forever. 0 ill never



for#et the intervie. At that time, 0 hosted a nationall" s"ndicated radio tal* sho ith-estood /ne. -e ere in a)out $?% cities across the 1nited States. 0t had +uste!loded. /ur audience )ase as hu#e. -e ere interviein#, +ust li*e e are toda"ith m" radio sho on XM Satellite Radio, the #reatest minds, the most incredi)l"successful !eo!le in this orld in the realm of finances, s!iritualit", fitness, career,

relationshi!s, love, "ou name it. -e had the most !ositivel" outra#eous intervies )ac*then, +ust li*e e do no. Durin# that "ear, e had an o!!ortunit" to intervie anindividual named Maharishi Mahesh o#i. Maharishi Mahesh o#i as the founder oftranscendental meditation. 0f "ou remem)er in the late fifties and earl" sities, the Beatles )ecame hu#e !ro!onents of transcendental meditation, and s!read the messa#e around theorld, as the" still do toda". As a matter of fact, several "ears a#o, 8aul McCartne"offered a free concert in Central 8ar*, and the !ur!ose of the concert as to continue to !romote the )enefits of transcendental meditation. /ur on #overnment, as ell as soman" other or#ani<ations, have done studies, dou)le2)lind !lace)o2controlled studies onthe !oer of (ranscendental Meditation and its !ositive effects on our mind, addictionrecover", reversin# the a#in# !rocess, attitude, and so much more. (his stuff or*s.

Maharishi, ho has since !assed, as )ased then in Holland, ith his 1niversit" in9airfield, 0oa. 0 had )een doin# (ranscendental Meditation for a num)er of "ears, and 0as )lon aa" at the chan#es that had ha!!ened in m" life due to this dail" !ractice.-hen 0 had the chance to intervie the founder of (M, 0 as ecstatic. 0t as the fortiethanniversar" of transcendental meditation, and Maharishi and his or#ani<ation searchedacross America for one media outlet to do an intervie ith to cele)rate this milestone,and the" chose our sho, David Essel AL0JE; in order to do that. M" team at DavidEssel AL0JE; as ama<ed that, of all of the other avenues that Maharishi had, televisionshos and radio shos other than ours, that the" selected us. -e ere hi#hl" honored.As e ent throu#h the intervie, Maharishi as ama<in#, +ust un)elieva)l" ama<in#.(he intervie as so much fun. 0t as filled ith lau#hter and +o", and also some hi#hl"

esoteric !rinci!les. -hen he ould start to discuss them, uite fran*l" at that time, man"ere #oin# over m" head. -e ould then #o to another uestion, and e ould )elau#hin#, and 0 ould )e s!ell)ound. He ould e!lain these incredi)l" difficultconce!ts of h" e are here, includin# evolution, aa*enin#, and enli#htenment. 0ould +ust sit there and sa", K/h m" Lord. (his #u" is incredi)le.

(hree ee*s later, 0 am in /rlando, 9lorida, s!ea*in# at a convention, and as 0 come offsta#e, a oman came u! to me and as*ed me if she could )u" me coffee and tal* a)outm" !resentation. As e are havin# coffee, she said, KListen, 0 ant to as* "ou a)out anintervie "ou did a cou!le of ee*s a#o ith Maharishi Mahesh o#i, hich 0 asmore than ecited to discuss. -hen 0 as*ed her h", she said, K-ell, 0 have )een ithMaharishi for thirt"2si of his fort" "ears, since he created (ranscendental Meditation

and started !romotin# it around orld. (hen she ent on to as* me hat 0 remem)eredfrom the intervie. 0 could not remem)er an"thin#, other than the fact that this man asfilled ith so much +o" and love. 0t as ver" eird )ecause, hen 0 ould intervieDee!a* Cho!ra, or -a"ne D"er, or Su<e /rman, or athletes, or movie stars, li*e ennaElfman, or incredi)le authors, li*e Mar* Jictor Hansen, from KChic*en Sou! for theSoul, 0 ould ala"s remem)er the four ma+or !oints the" covered, or the si ma+or !oints the" covered, or the one ma+or !oint the" covered. 0 ala"s had a #reat memor" ofstories that !eo!le ould share ith me, and 0 could easil" sa" to this oman sittin# in



front of me, K/h, "ou *no, hen 0 intervieed so and so, this as their main !oint, )uthen it came to her uestion re#ardin# Maharishi, 0 had no anser. 9inall" 0 loo*ed ather, and 0 said, Kou *no, 0 dont reall" remem)er an"thin# other than +o" and lau#hterfrom Maharishi, and it is *ind of stran#e that thats all 0 can remem)er. She smiled andsaid, KDavid, thats )ecause "ou dont have an" +o" in "our life. 0 loo*ed at her, and 0

as a#hast at her re!l". M" small e#o started #oin# on and on in m" head, K-ho doesthis oman thin* she is> She doesnt even *no me. 0 have )een tal*in# to her for fifteenminutes. She doesnt have a clue of ho 0 am, and she is tellin# me 0 have no +o". ouve#ot to )e *iddin# me. 0 continued s!ea*in# to her, )ut in the )ac* of m" mind 0 amsa"in#, K0m #oin# to #et out of this conversation ver" uic*l", )ecause this omano)viousl" doesnt *no me. As e tal*ed more, 0 finall" said that. Kou *no, 0 thin*"ou have come to a conclusion, and that "ou reall" dont *no hat "ou are tal*in#a)out, )ecause "ou dont *no me, and "et "ou are ma*in# this claim that 0 dont have +o". M" feathers ere ruffled. M" small e#o as hurt. She ent on then to e!lain her !oint. KDavid, listen, !lease dont ta*e it !ersonall". 0t is +ust the truth. -henever m"selfand other folloers of Maharishi ould )e ith him, e mi#ht )e sittin# in a room and

he ould s!ea* for four, five, si, seven, or ei#ht hours. -e ould al* out of the roomand collectivel" start as*in# each other hat e #ot out of the !resentation, and almostever" time it as the same thin#. 8eo!le ould tal* a)out different to!ics that hecovered, and the rest of us ould sa", 0 dont remem)er him even coverin# that to!ic.(he !oint, David, is this' -hatever it is that "ou al* out remem)erin# that Maharishisaid, is hat is lac*in# from "our life.

ou can ima#ine that 0 as not a )i# fan of hers. 0 as sittin# there thin*in#, KHo canshe sa" no that 0 have no +o" in m" life, +ust )ecause these thin#s ha!!ened to her andher collea#ues hen the" ere sittin# ith Maharishi. -ell, needless to sa", 0 ra!!edu! the conversation !rett" uic*l". 0 as ver" !olite and ver" nice, )ut 0 reall" asnt )u"in# it. -ee*s #o )", and the thou#ht *e!t comin# throu#h m" mind that she had +ust

shared' KDavid, the onl" thin# "ou ill ta*e out of an intervie or a conversation ithMaharishi, is that hich is lac*in# from "our life. So, 0 continued to run that throu#h m" )rain, and 0 sat there tr"in# to intellectuall" understand it. 0 said to m"self, KBut ait aminuteO 0 host the most !ositive and the most !o!ular !ositive radio sho across the1nited States of America ever" ee*. 0 have +ust ritten m" first )oo*. M" client )asefrom m" &2on2& coachin# clients is off the allO 0 have a aitin# list. 0 live on the )each.0 have a Mercedes converti)le. 0 ent don this list of all of this stuff, and 0 said, Kou*no, 0 +ust dont see it. Ma")e hat she is sa"in# is true for other !eo!le, )ut it is notfor me. 0t as a)out si ee*s later that 0 o*e u! one da" and 0 #ot itO she as ri#ht. 0had ver" little +o" in m" life. 0 as addicted to multi!le thin#s' Num)er one 2 or*,num)er tofame, num)er threemone", num)er fouralcohol, and num)er five, 0

as a )in#e cocaine addict. No, all of those thin#s ra!!ed to#ether ould ma*e it o)vious to an"one in the outsideorld that ma")e she as ri#ht, that +ust ma")e 0 didnt have the +o" 0 thou#ht 0 had. Asthe da"s continued to #o )", the e!i!han" of understandin# that she as ri#ht asim!ossi)le to i#nore and 0 *ne 0 had to start or*in# on somethin# to radicall" chan#em" on life. So 0 started loo*in# at it. -hat is m" one thin#> -hat is the thin# that 0have denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated or*in# on for the lon#est> -hat is the thin# thatis a)solutel" destro"in# me> -hat is the thin# that 0 need to let #o of ri#ht aa" in order



to feel +o"> As 0 loo*ed at this list of all of these thin#s that 0 eventuall" had to attac*, 0*ne 0 could onl" do one at a time. (his as the )irth!lace of (he /ne (hin# (heor"@.(he ver" first thin# 0 had to attac* as m" )in#e cocaine addiction. No, 0 had thisaddiction since colle#e, and even thou#h 0 as or*in# ith addicts and hel!in# !eo!leto #et clean, ever" several months 0 ould hide aa" ith a several2da" )last, a )in#e of

m" addictive !rocess ith cocaine. 0 ould )e #one from societ" for several da"s. 0n that !rocess, 0 ould )e u! all ni#ht. 0 ould )e tr"in# to reach that level of Kconnection that !eo!le e!erience ith a cocaine addiction, or an" addiction for that matter, that e )elieve can onl" )e reached ith an outside su)stance. 0 needed an aa*enin#. And itcame on a (uesda", in &55F, after the intervie ith Maharishi, after the connection iththis oman ho as one of his collea#ues. A (uesda" afternoon at $'?% !.m.O 0remem)er it li*e it as "esterda". 0 had onl" )een to slee! for a)out four hours, and 0ao*e in so much !ain from m" latest )in#e from the several da"s )efore, and 0 *nethat 0 could not carr" on li*e this an"more. M" +o" as a)solutel" ri!!ed out of m" life.She as ri#ht, and Maharishi as ri#ht. /n that ver" da", 0 screamed out to od for theone thousandth time to ta*e this addiction aa". 0 have no idea ho it ha!!ened, other

than m" intense !ra"er, on m" *nees, screamin# for salvation, screamin# for recover".Somethin# clic*ed at that time, an aa*enin# and aareness. 0 do !raise od from thatda" forard, )ecause m" first Kone thin# as healed.

-hen 0 reali<ed that the aareness of the addiction as a !atha" to freedom, +o" andsuccess, 0 literall" chan#ed m" life on that da". 0 also started or*in# on chan#in# m" !hiloso!h" ith coachin# m" &2on2& clients, throin# out the !ie charts and the uadranttheor", and or*in# on (he /ne (hin# (heor"@. 0t as also in that "ear, &55F, that m"life coach certification !ro#ram as created, here 0 started to certif" !eo!le to )ecomelife coaches. /ut of that, KLife Coach 1niverse@ ould )e )orn, an officialor#ani<ation that trains !eo!le to )ecome coaches. 0n that !rocess, +ust li*e in this )oo*,the anchor, the one thin# that e train our coaches on to #o and hel! others ith, that

se!arates our life coach trainin# certification from all other certifications in the orld, isthe !rocess of (he /ne (hin# (heor"@. 3-e #o into intense detail ith this !ro#ram inour certification !ro#rams. /ur online !ro#ram, K(he /ne (hin# (hat -ill Radicall"Chan#e our Life 9orever;@, hich consists of three videos and a tent"2one !a#emanual, ill ta*e "ou dee!er into (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ !rocess, is availa)le at oure)site' .davidessel.com.7 -hen this )rea*throu#h occurred in &55F, 0 *ne that 0had to share this ith the orld, hich e have )een doin# since then. Ever"thin#chan#ed in that "earO ever"thin# a)out the a" 0 or*ed &2on2& ith m" clients and thea" that 0 lived ith m" on life. As 0 #o throu#h m" eistence, 0 continue to *noc* offm" one2thin#s, the thin#s 0 have denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated or*in# on in m"on life, li*e m" various addictions. (here as one time 0 had to reall" focus on

finances. (here as another time that 0 had to reall" focus on m" health. (here asanother time that 0 had to focus on m" code!endenc" ith others, m" cravin# to )eacce!ted )" ever"one 0 met. Ever" time 0 do this, 0 see m" life #o to a hole ne level, +ust li*e it has )een ha!!enin# since &55F ith all of m" clients. (his s"stem is so !oerful. (his s"stem ill )lo aa" "our )eliefs in re#ards to hat "ou are ca!a)le ofachievin#. 0 *no, since it has or*ed for thousands u!on thousands of !eo!le since estarted it, that it ill or* for "ou as ell.

So, hat is "our one thin#> -e have created a list of si areas of life for "ou to choose

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"our one thin# from'

(he first area of life is relationshi! ith self.

(he second area of life is "our career.

(he third area of life is "our health.

(he fourth area of life is "our s!iritual !ath or reli#ious !ath.

(he fifth area of life is "our finances.

(he sith area of life is "our relationshi! ith others.

Loo* at the list, consider each of these areas and sa", K-hich of these have 0 denied,dela"ed, or !rocrastinated or*in# on> -hich of these areas have 0 not anted to face>-hich of these areas, that if 0 ere to move throu#h and accom!lish, ould 0 )reatheeasier, slee! )etter, feel )etter, ould 0 create more success in m" life> (hat is the areae ant "ou to focus on. Remem)er, "ou cannot eceed "our e!ectations in life if eare not illin# to remove those anchors that are holdin# us )ac*. (his is the *e" to our

or*. 0n other ords, some !eo!le ill sa", K0 *no that if 0 as free financiall", if 0 +ustearn $6% thousand dollars a "ear, m" life ould )e so radicall" chan#ed. -e *no thatis not true. (he eam!le that !roves this is erroneous thin*in# that is so often used is ithlotter" inners. Accordin# to a allu! !oll, a)out fort" !ercent of individuals ho inthe lotter" are )an*ru!t ithin four to five "ears. So this tells us that mone" isnt theanser. (here is somethin# dee!er that has to )e ta*en care ofO and that usuall" is )eliefsa)out mone", )ein# orth" of receivin# from this orld. Remem)er that old ada#e, Kit is )etter to #ive than to receiveO ell, it is not true. 0t is )etter to #ive and to receive.1nless e have this clear )elief s"stem around mone", no matter ho much mone" "ouma*e, "ou ill ala"s lose it. 0t ill )e rollercoaster, the "o2"oO ma*e mone" and losemone", out of de)t and in de)t. 0t #oes )ac* and forth constantl". So, hat e ant to do

ith (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ is sa", K-hat is this thin# a)out mone"> and #o dee!erinto it. Hire someone, or use our !ro#rams, to hel! "ou see hat "ou cannot see )""ourself re#ardin# resentments, re#ardin# )elief s"stems a)out "our )od", mone",addiction, or hatever it mi#ht )e. (his is the *e" to our !ro#ram. 0 +ust ant to sa" thisa#ain' 0f it asnt so effective, e couldnt )e doin# this since &55F. 0t reall", reall"or*s.

Here are some eam!les of +ust a fe of our clients ho have mastered their life, hohave eceeded their on e!ectations )" focusin# on (he /ne (hin# (heor"@.

(rac" lost ei#ht" !ounds and has *e!t it off for four "ears alread". -hen e or*edto#ether, her one thin# as health, ithout a dou)t. She had three "oun# *ids. She asor*in# and her hus)and or*ed, and their relationshi! as strained at the time. /fcourse, she as one of those !eo!le ho ere ala"s doin# for others, )ut her one thin#asnt findin# more time in the da". 0t asnt ma*in# more mone". 0t as her health. So,she ent on this incredi)le !ro#ram, hi#hl" focused, to lose this ei#ht. -ithin ei#htee*s, she had lost tent"2four !ounds. -ithin a "ear, she had lost ei#ht" !ounds, andshe has *e!t it off. Her life has radicall" chan#ed. (hat is li*e losin# almost a full !ersonthat "ou are carr"in# around, ri#ht> Can "ou ima#ine someone ho needed to lose ei#ht" !ounds, ho much )etter the" ould feel a)out themselves )" losin# that ei#ht> (heother thin# that (rac" did hile she as losin# the ei#ht, in our or* to#ether, is that



she #ot to the core )eliefs a)out orthiness of losin# the ei#ht and ho to create that !atha" to success that she could sustain. Man" !eo!le ho dont fi#ure out the conce!tof self2sa)ota#e and #oal settin# ill lose the ei#ht and #ain it )ac*. (rac" has still *e!tthe ei#ht" !ounds off, and her life has radicall" chan#ed.

0 or*ed ith a cou!le once ho ere tr"in# to recover from an affair. -hen the" came

in, of course, the one thin# that the" ori#inall" thou#ht as #oin# to )e the core of theiror* as ho as Kreall" to )lame. KHe did this to me, Kshe did that to me. But, theirreal one thin# is #oin# to )e shoc*in# to man" !eo!le. -hen the" focused on, K-hat asm" role in this affair> KHo did m" lac* of communication lead to this affair>, -hatas it that 0 did that !ushed m" hus)and out of m" house to have an affair ith someoneelse> and, K-hat as 0 not communicatin# to m" ife, that 0 held resentments a)out,that led me to have the affair> (heir one thin#, is called self2res!onsi)ilit". -hen the" )oth found their one thin#, and the" )oth )ecame res!onsi)le for their actions that led tothe affair, their marria#e healed. No, this is a cou!le 0 or*ed ith four "ears a#o, andtheir marria#e and their love is more solid and dee!er than the" had ever had in theei#hteen "ears of marria#e !rior to findin# their one thin#. So the one thin# ith this

cou!le, hich is ver" difficult to admit and honestl" deal ith hen there has )een anaffair, as sim!le, !oerful, and difficult' K-hat as m" role in this affair, and ho do 0admit it and release it> (hat is hat each of those !eo!le had to do in order to create thedee!est love the" have ever e!erienced. No, for most !eo!le, after an affair, hoevercheated, hoever ent out and had the !h"sical contact ith someone else, is ho e )lame. (he victim is the !erson ho is !ointin# the fin#er. (he !erson ho actuall" hadse ith someone else is the one ho e ant to han#. 0t is +ust the )ottom line, it is thea" life or*s, even thou#h it doesnt Kreall" or* that a". 0n actualit", hat thiscou!le did as ver" )rave, stron# and !oerful. 0 have or*ed ith man", man" cou!lesover the !ast tent"2!lus "ears that have had to come to this conclusion, that if 0 dontta*e m" res!onsi)ilit", loo* at, and release it, for ho this relationshi! crum)led, 0 am

#oin# to re!eat the !attern, hold the resentment, and re!eat it in the future. (he" attac*edtheir one thin# and, o)viousl", the result is ama<in#.

Another #reat eam!le of someone ho ent after the one thin# as An#ela. 0n ninet"da"s, An#ela dou)led her income, even thou#h she did not have a colle#e education. 0nher case, her one thin# as mone", )ecause she as ma*in# so little that it as a stressorin ever" area of her life. Her one thin# as increasin# her income. So, e ent throu#hall of her )elief s"stems around mone", or*ed throu#h them, and then e created a !lanof attac*. Her one thin# as to dou)le her income. No, she has said to me, and 0 havere!eated this thousands of times to audiences 0 have s!o*en to, that she as notconvinced it as !ossi)le. ust li*e a lot of !eo!le 0 or* ith ho dont thin* thatso)riet" is #oin# to )e !ossi)le )ecause the" have )een drin*in# for so lon#, or dont

thin* that for#iveness is #oin# to )e !ossi)le )ecause the"ve held resentments for solon#, or ho, li*e An#ela, dont thin* the" are #oin# to actuall" )e a)le to dou)le theirincome. So, e or*ed on An#elas )eliefs, and then e #ot into the !lan. 0n ninet" da"s,she dou)led it, )ut it even #ets )etter. 0t as ninet" da"s, to the da", hen she #ot theoffer that dou)led her income, and ouldnt "ou *no it, three da"s later she called me )ac* and said, KDavid, 0 am so stressed. ou are not #oin# to )elieve hat ha!!ened. 0#ot another offer at more than dou)le m" income. (hen a cou!le da"s later, ell "ou#uessed it, she #ot another offer that as even hi#her than that. Her income continues to



s*"roc*et. She is doin# ama<in# thin#s in life, and it is all )ecause she focused on herone thin#.

(he last little stor" 0 am #oin# to share ith "ou is a)out someone ho achieved #reatsuccess ith (he /ne (hin# (heor"@ is a client named Hoard. Hoard came to meith thirt"2!lus "ears of heav" alcohol addiction. He as a hi#hl"2functionin# alcoholic.

He as a)le to on his home and *ee! a +o), )ut a serious alcoholic nonetheless. -ithinei#ht ee*s of intense or* to#ether, Hoard as a)le to #et into recover" and toe!erience so)riet". (hat as a num)er of "ears a#o, and he is still so)er toda".

0 ant to sa" this a#ain' -hen most !eo!le come in to or* ith our !ro#ram, the" arenot aare of (he /ne (hin# (heor"@. (he" are not aare of choosin# one #oal and#oin# after onl" one #oal at a time. (he" are onl" aare that life is not or*in#. -hene e!lain the s"stem that "ou are readin# a)out ri#ht no, hen e e!lain the !oerof focus, and hen e e!lain that if the" ere to #et the focus, find the one thin#, anddo the or*, the" ould eceed even their on e!ectations in life. -ell, sometimes !eo!le honestl" are s*e!tical. -e have thousands of stories !rovin# this s"stema)solutel" or*s. (hrou#h our com!an" and this )oo*, e have so man" different !ro#rams availa)le, hether "ou ant to or* ith me &2on2&, or if "ou ant to ta*e ouronline course, (he /ne (hin# (hat -ill Radicall" Chan#e our Life 9orever;@, or +oinone of our #rou! courses throu#h LifeCoach1niverse.com. (here are all *inds of a"s to#et even more in tune ith "our one thin#, more in tune ith findin# the !atha" to hel!"ou eceed all of "our e!ectations in life. And that, is m" onl" #oal for "ou.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew

(a*e a moment ri#ht no, ithout #oin# an" further, to slo don and focus on hatas im!ortant in the !revious cha!ter. (hese ritin# eercises are the a)solute #ems ofthis or*, and ill hel! "ou #et the most out of "our time and this )oo*. Remem)er, do

not trust "our )rain to )e a)le to recall this life chan#in# information. (he act of ritin#allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat as im!ortant to "ou inthe !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "our life. As sim!le asthese eercises are, the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "ou desire. (hese uestionsare so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since &55& in m" or* ithclients as a Master Life Coach. Slo don, focus, rite, then act u!on "our ansers to )ecome ho "ou trul" ant to )e in life.







The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 6

Focus #&) Accou&'#$*%*' ow 'o E7cee) Your Ow& E7,ec'#'*o&s *&

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-e rarel" accom!lish an" ma+or #oals in life )" ourselves. Did "ou ever reali<e that>/ne of the reasons that this is true is )ecause of the conce!t of accounta)ilit". -ith our !ro#ram on focus, accounta)ilit" is ever"thin#. 0t is actuall" uite the o!!osite of hatthe human )rain ants to do. 0n other ords, hat e ould reall" li*e to )e a)le to do islose the ei#ht, ma*e the mone", #et so)er, find the love of our lives, enhance ourcurrent relationshi!s, save our marria#e, or #et closer to od, all )" ourselves. Most of us

dont ant to )e held accounta)le. -e do not ant someone to )e sa"in#, KDid "ou dothis toda"> KDid "ou follo throu#h ith those calls toda"> Did "ou #et into the #"mtoda"> Did "ou atch hat "ou ate all da" lon#> KDid "ou deal ith the aniet",instead of #oin# and havin# a drin*> -hatever e ant to accom!lish in life, first, eneed to first #et focused, and then, e need to )e held accounta)le to chan#e.

/ne of the reasons that there are life coaches and athletic coaches, counselors, thera!ists,and ministers, is )ecause of the im!ortance of accounta)ilit". /ver the "ears, in the orldof life coachin#, e have reall" fine2tuned this conce!t of accounta)ilit" to ma*e it muchdifferent than an" other forms of &2on2& !ersonal #roth or self2hel! !ro#rams. 0f "ouloo* )ac* "ears a#o, hen e ould or* ith counselors, or thera!ists, or ministers,

the normal scenario ould )e, K(his as a #reat session. 0 loo* forard to seein# "ou inseven da"s. :ee! in mind ever"thin# that e tal*ed a)out. (hat as it. No it hasradicall" chan#ed. 0n our life coach certification courses, e em!hasi<e the need to holdour clients accounta)le. -e train our teachers ho to do that throu#h ritin# eercises,and throu#h uestions that #o dee! into the as!ect of h" e ant to chan#e and ho eare #oin# to chan#e. And, the net ste! is crucial. (he coaches that e train, as ell asthe clients that 0 or* ith, have certain deadlines to hit in their accounta)ilit" !rocess inorder to accom!lish hat the" ant in life. (here is no more of the Kold2da" a!!roach tocoachin#, here e ould sa" to someone, K(hat as a #reat session. 0 cant ait to see"ou net ee*. (hat doesnt or*. 0t reall" never or*ed. No hat e sa" is, K(hatas a #reat session. Here are the assi#nments to do over the net seven da"s. 0 ant "ou

to anser these uestions in ritin#. 0 ant these homeor* assi#nments to )e sent to meithin tent"2four hours, or fort"2ei#ht hours, or sevent"2to hours. :ee! a diar" or alo# of all of the tas*s that "ou have done to accom!lish "our #oal for the net seven da"s.Brin# all of this in net ee*, and e ill #o over it. (hat is called accounta)ilit"O andthis is an im!ortant !art of all !oerful #oal achievement !ro#rams.

-hen e add this com!onent of accounta)ilit", and "ou follo hat e are encoura#in#"ou to do in this )oo*, "ou can a)solutel" eceed "our on e!ectations in life. But eneed to find someone to hold us accounta)le. -e need an accounta)ilit" coach or an



accounta)ilit" !artner. -e need an accounta)ilit" !rofessional ho is #oin# to )e thereith us ste!2)"2ste!. 0f e do not follo throu#h on tas*s that e sa" e are #oin# to do,e have to have someone callin# us out on the ta)le, and sa"in#, K0f "ou are serious and"ou ant to *ee! or*in# to#ether, "ou have to do the or*, !eriodO or "ou ma" ant tofind someone else to or* ith. No, that is hat 0 call a true accounta)ilit" coach.

Remem)er, e rarel" accom!lish an" #reat thin#s in our life )" ourselves. 0 dont *notoo man" !eo!le over the histor" of time that are incredi)l" focused and successful hodo it )" themselves. Ste!hen :in# has or*ed ith editors and !u)lishers to )ecome oneof the most !rolific authors of all time. Michael ordan, 0 remem)er in an intervie onetime, hen someone said, K-hat does it feel li*e to )e called the #reatest )as*et)all !la"er of all time, to )e a)le to do this )" "ourself ith "our od2#iven talents> Heloo*ed at the intervieer and said, K0 ish 0 could sa" that is the case, )ut it is not. 0 havesurrounded m"self ith the )est coaches, the )est nutritionists, the )est !ersonal trainers,and the )est mental tou#hness coaches that 0 can find to )e a)le to do hat 0 have doneon the )as*et)all court. Do "ou see hat 0 mean> -e dont do these thin#s alone.

-hatever it is that "ou ant to accom!lish in life, "our Kone thin#, "ou ill definitel"need an accounta)ilit" !artner to ma*e it ha!!en. ou mi#ht )e thin*in# ri#ht no' K0f 0could +ust for#ive this !erson, or Kfor#ive m"self. K0f 0 could +ust ma*e X amount ofdollars. K0f 0 could +ust lose this ei#ht. K0f 0 could +ust o!en m" on )usiness that 0have dreamt a)out for "ears, or Krite that )oo*. K0f 0 could +ust save m" marria#e, orKre)uild m" relationshi! ith m" children. K0f 0 could +ust #et so)er, or Kfind thatincredi)le lovin# relationshi! 0ve ala"s anted. /r ma")e, K0f 0 could +ust find inner !eace )" develo!in# a dee!, a)idin# relationshi! ith od. -hatever "our #oal is,"oure #oin# to have to find someone to hel! "ou accom!lish it. A#ain, let me re!eat this'-e rarel" accom!lish an" su)stantial #oals in life alone, hich means, "ou !ro)a)l" illnot eceed "our on e!ectations if "ou tr" to do it )" "ourself.

ou see ith accounta)ilit", e cant hide. Ever"thin# is out there. -e cant sa" that eare eatin# !erfectl" and e are eercisin# as e need to, hen e have an accounta)ilit"coach ho is ei#hin# us or measurin# our )od" ever" four ee*s. Ma")e there is nomovement on the scale, or there is no movement on the ta!e. (he" ill loo* at us andsa", K/*a", ait a second. (here is somethin# "oure not doin#, or this scale ouldvemoved )" no, or Kthese measurements ouldve chan#ed. Do "ou *no hat 0msa"in#> -e need an accounta)ilit" !artner to ma*e these dreams our realit".

0m #oin# to #et "ou involved ri#ht no in findin# "our accounta)ilit" !artner. 0 ant"ou to rite this don' -ho do "ou need to reach out to in order to accom!lish "our )i##est #oal in life> Loo* at the list )elo, choose ho "ou need to or* ith. -ho ill )e "our accounta)ilit" !artner in order to accom!lish "our #reatest #oal in life>

-ill it )e'

&. A life coach>

$. A minister>

?. A counselor or a thera!ist>

. A financial adviser>



6. A mentor>

F. A !ersonal trainer>

G. A massa#e thera!ist, or some t"!e of ener#" healer>

No, hen "ou loo* at that list, 0 ant "ou to +ust !ut a chec* mar* in the )oo* net to

ma")e one or to of those t"!es of individuals that "ou *no "ou need to contact to as*them to )e a !art of "our accounta)ilit" !rocess. -ho do "ou ant to )e "ouraccounta)ilit" !artner in order to achieve "our #reatest #oal>

Do not, 0 re!eat, do not trust "our )rain hen it sa"s, Kou *no hat, David, thats#reat for most !eo!le, )ut 0 *no 0 can do this on m" on. 0f "ou couldve done it on"our on, "ou alread" ould have. (he fact that e still have hu#e #oals to accom!lishsa"s e are not #oin# to )e a)le to do it on our on, and e need to reach out for hel!.

(he net ste!, after "ou choose ho "ou are #oin# to or* ith, is to #o ahead and fi#ureout a date and time e are #oin# to )e#in the !rocess. -rite that don no. -hat da"and hat time ill "ou hire this !erson, or ill "ou trade services and )arter ith this

!erson, to )ecome "our !rofessional accounta)ilit" !artner> Dont +ust read this )oo* andnod "our head and sa", K/h this is #reat, and K(hat ill or*. 0t is more im!ortant thanever for us to slo don toda" and to ma*e the decisions in order to, "es, eceed ouron e!ectations.

/n a side note, 0 ant to ma*e a comment a)out friends and famil" mem)ers asaccounta)ilit" !artners. -e rarel" recommend doin# this. Most of the time, hen ehave friends or famil" mem)ers ho )ecome our accounta)ilit" !artners, it leads tonothin# )ut chaos and drama. Even thou#h the" have their )est intentions at heart, tooman" times famil" mem)ers or friends ill fall into one of to cate#ories. (he" ill )ecome the drill ser#eant. Because of their desire to hel! "ou succeed, and also )ecauseof their lac* of trainin# in *noin# ho to !ush !eo!le to certain limits and hold them

there, the" could #o over the to! and actuall" dama#e the friendshi! or relationshi!. (hesecond a" that individuals ho are friends or famil" mem)ers mi#ht sa)ota#e "oursuccess, un*noin#l", is that the" do not hold "ou accounta)le enou#h. (he" are notstron#l" )ased in accounta)ilit" !rinci!les, so the" let "ou #et aa" ith more thin#sthan a !rofessional ould. 0 ould hi#hl" recommend that "ou loo* at the list once a#ainand find !rofessionals, and actuall" hire them to hel! "ou achieve "our #reatest #oals.

0n the realm of mentorshi!, there are mentors around the orld that "ou ma" )e a)le toor* ith at no char#e. (here are man" !eo!le that 0 *no that have mentored me )ecause the"ve anted to see m" level of success rise dramaticall". (he" )elieved inme. And, over the course of "ears, 0ve done the same. (hat is an avenue "ou ma" antto !ursue, as ell as !ursin# a !rofessional to hire. 0n this ver" moment, as 0 rite this )oo*, 0 can tell "ou 0 have multi!le accounta)ilit" !artners in m" lifeO some that 0 !a",and some that 0 ill do an echan#e of services, offerin# them the same su!!ort in their#roth that the" offer to me. Re#ardless of ho it is done, there is no a" in m" life that0 am #oin# to eceed m" e!ectations, even thou#h 0 or* in this field, ithout !oerfulaccounta)ilit" !artners.

0 ant to share a fe more stories of individuals hom 0 have or*ed ith ho )ecamever" focused and successful in life. (he" as*ed to )e held accounta)le for their on



!ersonal #roth, throu#h the various !ro#rams e offer, and have once a#ain eceededtheir on e!ectations. -hile 0 love to tal* a)out the Donald (rum!s, and the HarvE*ers, and the Michael ordans, the -alt Disne"s, and the Su<e /rmans of the orld, 0also ant to share ithin this )oo* !eo!le that are achievin# ece!tional levels of successthat "ou ma" never hear of, )ut nonetheless, the" are ins!irational to me toda", and 0

ho!e to "ou as ell.0n the orld of s!iritualit", 0 met a client named L"nne, ho came in loo*in# forassistance ith her marria#e. -hen she first al*ed in the door, and she ould admit thisto this da", her real !ur!ose as to see if 0 ould a#ree ith her that, in her mind, herhus)and had dro!!ed the )all in their relationshi!, and it mi#ht )e time for her to leave.-e or*ed for multi!le ee*s on this ver" to!ic, and )" doin# intense eercises that 0had #iven her after ever" session, she came to the reali<ation that ma")e it asnt herhus)ands fault entirel" for the )rea*don of their relationshi!, for the disinte#ration oftheir marria#e. She also found out that, if she ere to a!!l" !rinci!les that e eretal*in# a)out in the sessions in her marria#e, that she mi#ht )e a)le to resurrect it. L"nneeceeded her on e!ectations )" doin# the most incredi)l" challen#in# or* that

an"one in relationshi!s ill do, and that is to loo* at her role in the d"sfunction. She notonl" loo*ed at her role, )ut she too* an accounta)ilit" a!!roach to it, chan#ed her role,and ultimatel", not onl" saved, )ut created a love and a marria#e she never *ne !ossi)le.

-hen e or*ed throu#h that, e came u! to her net Kone thin#. L"nnes desire asto )ecome one ith the divine, to )ecome one ith od, and to e!erience od on adail" )asis. An aesome #oalO one that "ou can ima#ine offers incredi)le )enefits in an"and ever" area of an individuals life. As e ent throu#h and decided u!on hatL"nnes dail" rituals ould )e and the !ractices to o!en her heart and to )ecome closer tood, e came to this K)loc* re#ardin# time. 9indin# the time to do this as a realchallen#e for her. She not onl" as or*in# ver" dee!l" on her marria#e, andsuccessfull" so, )ut she had several children and a )usiness she as runnin#. She couldnot find the time in her da" in order to create this s!ace to dee!en her s!iritual !ath.(hrou#h our or* to#ether and holdin# her accounta)le, one of the eercises 0 #ave heras to #o and )loc* out her da"s, and to come )ac* ith one hour !er da" that she *neshe ould )e a)le to devote to her !ractice of s!iritualit". Seven da"s later, she comesal*in# in, smilin# and sha*in# her head, and sa"in#, K(he onl" time, David, that is even !ossi)le is 6 a.m., and 0 dont even *no if 0 can do that. As her accounta)ilit" coach,there as onl" one thin# for me to sa" to her, KLets #o. Her e"es #ot reall" )i# as shereali<ed it as the onl" ste! she needed to ta*e in order to )rin# this #oal to her onreali<ation and to eceed her e!ectations. -ell, e are tal*in# five or si "ears laterno, and L"nne continues to #et u! earlier than the )irds ever" mornin#, and her s!iritual

!ath has )ecome her foundation for her on !ersonal success in life. And "es, herrelationshi! ith od has dee!ened so #reatl" that she has no used this as ano!!ortunit" as a !rofessional master life coach to !oerfull" affect the lives of thousandsof !eo!le in this orld toda".

L"nne ould )e the first one to share ith "ou ri#ht no that ithout an accounta)ilit" !artner, hether it as me or someone else, the odds of accom!lishin# this #oal ouldnot have )een !ossi)le.



Net, ill )e Lisa, ho came to me as a heav" lon#2term addict of alcohol and dru#s,from !ain !ills to heroin to crac* cocaine. She as also a heav" smo*er and drin*er. 0cant ima#ine a su)stance that she had not )een )attlin#. Lisa came to me a fe monthsafter endin# a reha) !ro#ram and as in des!erate need of dail" accounta)ilit", even if atthat moment she didnt *no ho radicall" her life ould chan#e. (he accounta)ilit"

factor, hen 0 or* ith someone five da"s a ee*, is intensel" hi#h. (he" *no that thenet da" hen the" call me on the !hone, or the" come into m" office, that the" haveor* that needed to )e done since the end of our session tent"2four hours earlier. Lisahad never e!erienced this form of accounta)ilit" )efore. -hen "ou loo* at someoneith thirteen "ears of heav" dru# and alcohol addiction, ho is onl" thirt" "ears old atthe time, ith to "oun# children, the odds of succeedin# are incredi)l" small, unlessthe" are illin# to hold themselves accounta)le and surrender one hundred !ercent tosomeone elses !ro#ram. 9or tent" "ears !rior to meetin# and or*in# ith Lisa, efound that our !ro#ram, hich is holisticall" )ased 3meanin# that e or* from a mind, )od", s!irit, nutrition, eercise !ers!ective, as ell as dee! emotional healin#7, e *nethat if an"one ere to a!!l" the !rinci!les that e offered them the" could )ecome

successful, re#ardless of ho intense or ho lon# their addiction had )een #oin# on for.-ithin da"s, Lisa, a lon#2time smo*er, had dro!!ed her nicotine ha)it. She had lost hercravin#s for the needles and the dru#s. 0t ouldnt )e that the cravin#s didnt come )ac*don the road, )ut in her e"es, she as ama<ed that ithin a !eriod of seven da"s, thenfourteen da"s, then tent"2one, that for the first time in her life that she can ima#ine, she )e#an to feel free. 0 loo* at !eo!le li*e Lisa as a)solute miracles in life. (he eercisesthat 0 #ave her on a dail" )asis ere ala"s com!leted one hundred !ercent. She has )ecome one of the shinin# stars of our holistic addiction recover" !ro#ram. /f the man",man" !eo!le eve or*ed ith, and the man" successes e have, Lisa is )" far ri#ht u!at the to! of the list, )ecause she had such a lon# histor" of intense dru# and alcohol use,and such a lon# histor" of emotional issues that had not )een dealt ith. 9rom that timeforard, hen she com!leted our !ro#ram, she has #one on to in )ac* the custod" ofher children that she had lost durin# her dru# a)use "ears, as ell as !ass medical )oardsand )ecome a healthcare !rofessional. 0t is un)elieva)le the success she has achievedthrou#h the !oer of an accounta)ilit" !ro#ram.

(he last stor" 0 am #oin# to share ith "ou is a fun one in re#ards to accounta)ilit", and asur!risin# one as ell. A num)er of "ears a#o a oman came in and sat doneas!erated. She had read all of the to! )oo*s on findin# her soul mate. She had rittenout all of the eercises on hat to loo* for. She handed me her sheets, and the soul mateof her dreams as si2foot2to, )londe hair, )lue e"es, and made $6% thousand dollars a"ear. (he list ent on and on and on. 0 loo*ed at this and 0 started smilin#. She said,K-hat> Have "ou not seen this )efore> 0 said, K/h, "es, "es, "es. 0 have seen this t"!e of

list )efore, 0 +ust ha!!en to not )elieve in them. -ell, her face )ecame hite as sheloo*ed at me and said, KHo could "ou not )elieve in this t"!e of list, hen the" areritten a)out in all of the to! soul mate )oo*s in the orld> 0 loo*ed at her ith a smile,and 0 said, Kou *no, 0 +ust dont )elieve in the conce!t of one !erson ho is our soulmate and the" have to have certain characteristics )ecause e *no ho e are attractedto. KLove is a little )it more challen#in# than that. 0f it ere that sim!le, it ould almost )ecome ro)otic. KBut, if "ou ould li*e to follo an accounta)ilit" s"stem that e havecreated to hel! !eo!le create dee! love, 0 ould )e more than illin# to or* ith "ou.



Be#rud#in#l", she continued to sta" ith me for the rest of that session.

-ith her homeor* assi#nment in hand, she returned the net ee*. 0 had as*ed her,instead of ritin# a)out all of the !h"sical characteristics of the !erson that she anted tomeetO 0 anted her to rite a)out the !ersonalit" characteristics. 0 *no that this as notan eercise that she had a lot of fun ith. She as used to that fantas" conce!t of soul

mates, here, if e +ust visuali<e hard enou#h, and reread the list of !h"sicalcharacteristics that e are loo*in# for, this !erson ill !o! into our life. 0 dont )elievethat to )e true. -hen she )rou#ht in her characteristics, she had ritten this don' thatthe" ould )e honest, funn", a #reat communicator, trustorth", and the list ent on andon and on. 0 loo*ed at her and 0 said, KNo e are #ettin# somehere. (his is incredi)le.0 ant "ou to #o home and do this eercise and even fine tune it a little more. At the endof our or*, she said, Kou *no, this isnt an"here near as fun as the other stuff 0vedone, and 0m not reall" sure it is #oin# to or* for me. (he ver" last time that 0 saher, 0 said, K0 understand that this isnt eactl" hat "ou ere thin*in# of doin# durin#"our or* ith me, )ut 0m +ust #oin# to as* "ou to trust the !rocess.

9or the net several "ears, she ould read her list re#ardin# the t"!e of !ersonalit"characteristics that she anted in a man, )ut there as still some hesitation in her fallin#in love ith the conce!t 0 as sharin#. ears later at a conference 0 s!o*e at, there as aline of !eo!le as*in# uestions, and at the ver" end of the line this oman comes u!, andshe sa"s, K0 dont *no if "ou remem)er me, )ut "ou or*ed ith me a num)er of "earsa#o. 0 said, K/h m" Lord; (he soul mate oman. She started lau#hin#, and she said,Kes. Can 0 )u" "ou coffee> 0 ould love to share the end of m" stor". So, e hadcoffee and she shared the stor", hich is the !oer of accounta)ilit". She said that sheleft the office not convinced that all of the or* that she and 0 had done to#ether on !ersonalit" characteristics for findin# her lover as #oin# to actuall" or*, )ut she asillin# to tr" it at least, )ecause her other !ro#rams from the K)est sellin# soul mate )oo*s did not or*.

A num)er of months after e or*ed to#ether, she ent to lunch ith a friend of hers. 0tas a #entleman that she ent to lunch ith once or tice a month. (he" had )een #oodfriends for a num)er of "ears. -hen he #ot u! from lunch to #o to the restroom, one ofher friends, that she had no idea as in the restaurant, came over and said, K/h m" Lord;-ho is the #u" "ou are ith> M" former client loo*ed u! and said, K-hat do "oumean> 0t +ust ha!!ens to )e a friend. She said, K-ell "ou and "our friend have thisama<in# chemistr". Have "ou )een seein# each other for lon#> M" client sa"s, KNo. -eare not seein# each other at all. As a matter of fact, li*e 0 said, e +ust #et to#ether forlunch, and it is no )i# deal. Her friend re!lied, K-ell, 0d loo* into that a little dee!er. 0thin* "ou #u"s have somethin# #oin# on here that "ou ma" not reali<e. -ith that she

al*ed aa" and her male friend came )ac* to the ta)le. /ver the net cou!le of ee*s,m" former client continued to run throu#h her mind hat her friend had said, that this#u" had a #reat ra!!ort ith her, that their ener#" at the ta)le as ma#netic, that it asaesome, )ut she *e!t sha*in# her head, )ecause she said, K(his isnt the #u" that 0mloo*in# for. He is not tall. He is not in sha!e. He doesnt have a lot of mone". She *e!trunnin# throu#h that list, until one da" she ent )ac* to the list she had created in re#ardto !ersonalit" characteristics, and as she read the list, her +a dro!!ed. Ever"thin# thatshe had done in our or* to#ether as her accounta)ilit" coach, as*in# her to #et clear



a)out the !ersonalit" characteristics she as loo*in# for, as dead on. He as incredi)l"funn", trustorth", a #reat communicator, and honest. 0n other ords, the #u" that shehad loo*ed at as onl" a friend, someone ho didnt meet the !h"sical characteristics, hitever" one of her !ersonalit" characteristics dead on. So, as she is tellin# me this stor",she starts smilin#, and then she holds u! her hand and sa"s, KDavid, e have )een

married for a num)er of "ears no, and 0 couldnt )e ha!!ier. (han* "ou so much forholdin# me accounta)le to doin# the eercises e did to#ether. Even if it didnt loo* li*e0 a#reed ith "ou durin# our sessions, 0 too* it to heart, and it has chan#ed m" lifeforever.

0f "ou, as "ou read this )oo*, trul" ant to chan#e "our life and eceed "our one!ectations, it ill have to )e done throu#h the hel! of an accounta)ilit" !rofessional, acoach, or a !artner ho ill )e illin# to as* "ou to do the uncomforta)le, to hold "ourfeet to the fire, to do hat "ou ma" not ant to do on "our on to create the life "ou trul"ant.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew

(a*e a moment ri#ht no, ithout #oin# an" further, to slo don and focus on hatas in im!ortant in the !revious cha!ter. (hese ritin# eercises are the a)solute #emsof this or*, hich hen done ill hel! "ou to #et the most out of "our time and this )oo*. Remem)er, do not trust "our )rain to )e a)le to recall this life chan#in#information.

(he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat asim!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "ourlife. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "oudesire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since

&55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach.








The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 8

ow 'o M#&*fes' Your Go#%s *& # Focuse) W#


No, here do e #o from here> ou mi#ht )e thin*in#, ri#ht no, K-hat do 0 do tosta" focused> -hat t"!e of a s"stem can 0 follo> /nce 0 find that one area of life that 0have denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated, once 0ve found m" accounta)ilit" !artner, hatdo 0 do net> oin# )ac* once a#ain to &55F, hen 0 started to do all of m" lifecoachin# in a radicall" different a" in order to hel! m" clients eceed their one!ectations, e created somethin# called the ? :e"s to Manifestation. 0n other ords,the three *e"s to creatin# the life that "ou ant. 0 am #oin# to #o throu#h these each ri#ht

no.

(he ver" first *e", num)er one, is intention. 0ntention is a statement of affirmation. 0t is astatement that sa"s, K(his is hat 0 desire to accom!lish. No, e doaffirmations=intentions, 0 use those ords interchan#ea)l", ver" differentl". -e dont )elieve in !ie2in2the2s*" affirmations or intentions. -e dont )elieve in sa"in#, K0 earnone hundred thousand dollars a "ear, if e are currentl" earnin# tent" thousand dollarsa "ear. (he su)conscious does not )u" into it. 0t sa"s, Kouve #ot to )e *iddin# me.-ho are "ou to re!eat ever" mornin# that "ou are earnin# one hundred thousand dollars a"ear, hen "ou are earnin# tent" thousand dollars a "ear, and "ou are not doin#an"thin# different to create this added income> (hat is the a" the su)conscious ta*esthese ridiculous affirmations that e have all )ou#ht into over the "ears, ritten )" someama<in# authors and ell2meanin# teachers, that +ust dont or*. So, lets instead createan intention, an affirmation that is ecitin#, that is !assion2driven, and that ill )eaccom!lished in ninet" da"s. 0n other ords, the su)conscious can ra! its head aroundthat. Lets sa" that e are a si<e tent" dress, and e ant to )e a si<e ten, and so e sa"to ourselves, K/n or )efore ninet" da"s from toda", 0 am no earin# a si<e siteen dress )" doin# the eercises necessar" on a dail" )asis and eatin# a ver" clean diet. No, if"ou #o from a si<e tent" to a si<e siteen, "ou are #oin# to feel !rett" darn #ood a)out"ourself, and that is hat e ant "our intentions or affirmations to )e )ased on.

(hese affirmations or intentions ill )e stated at least to times ever" da"O in themornin#, the first thin# hen "ou a*e u!, and in the evenin#, ri#ht )efore "ou #o to

)ed. (he *e" is to re!eat these affirmations or intentions ith emotion and see that endresult in "our mind. So, if e loo* at so)riet", e ould )e#in it ith somethin# li*e, K0am a so)er, ha!!", health" !erson, attendin# events free of the need of alcohol, on or )eforeP, and e ould state the date. 0f it is a lovin# relationshi!, K0 am in the !rocessof for#ivin# m" hus)and=ife=)o"friend=#irlfriend for events that have occurred in the !ast. 0 am holdin# them in love, movin# forard in our relationshi! ever" da" )eteenno andP, and sa" the date. 0n other ords, hatever "our Kone thin# is, hatever"our one #oal is, if it is financial, if it is for#iveness, if it is so)riet", if it is al*in# "our



!ath ith od, hatever the one thin# is, e ant that to )e the focal !oint of "ourintention.

(his )rin#s me to the area of cancelin# out ne#ative thou#hts. All of us, on our !ath to#reatness, ill have thou#hts of insecurit", +ealousl", resentment, or dou)t, and thosethou#hts are o*a". (he" ma" often arise in the )e#innin#, es!eciall" around "our one

thin#. ou ma" )e tal*in# a)out "our mone", and even thou#h "ou are doin# all of thisor*, "ou are not seein# "our income increase. ou can fall into dou)t. So, as "ou fallinto dou)t, and those thou#hts come u! sa"in#, K0 dont have the mone" 0 anted to. 0have )een or*in# reall" hard. Mone" is hard to create. Ri#ht aa", sa" the ordCANCEL, and then restate "our affirmation, K0 am in the !rocess dail" of doin# the or*necessar" to increase m" income )" one thousand dollars a month on or )eforeP, andstate the ninet"2da" time !eriod. 0n other ords, e ant to attac* the ne#ative thou#ht !rocess ith the ord CANCEL, and follo that thou#ht !rocess ith the !ositiveaffirmation or intention "ou desire. (his ste! is so im!ortant )ecause e are retrainin#the )rain, )ut, and 0 sa" this as a ma+or arnin#, if "ou are tr"in# to feed the )rainnonsense, li*e, K0 am a si<e to, hen "ou are actuall" a si<e tent", or, K0 am earnin#

one hundred thousand dollars a "ear, hen "ou are onl" earnin# tent" thousand dollarsa "ear, or, K0 on five homes around the orld, hen "ou are rentin# a one2)edrooma!artmentP -hatever the fantas" intentions are, the" are automaticall" thron out )"the su)conscious. /ver time these fantas" statements detract from our ener#" to do theor* necessar" on a dail" )asis.

(he second *e" to manifestation are statements of #ratitude. No, e are #oin# toa!!roach the #ratitude statements a little differentl" too. 0 do stru##le ith #ratitudestatements such as, K0 am #rateful for m" ne income of one hundred thousand dollars a"ear, hen "ou are onl" earnin# tent" thousand dollars a "ear. 0 dont see them as !roductive. /nce a#ain, +ust li*e #oin# )ac* to the intention or affirmation statements, 0see this as the )rain sa"in#, K-h" are "ou astin# our time havin# #ratitude for all of thismone", hen "ou dont have it> 0nstead, hat e teach in our courses is, to create a#ratitude statement from a totall" different !ers!ective. Lets #et focused on hat ehave ri#ht no re#ardin# "our one thin#, and have #ratitude for it, even if it isnt !erfect,even if it isnt eactl" hat "ou ant. So, e mi#ht sa", K0 have intense #ratitude for m" )od", ri#ht noO m" a)ilit" to al* and to see. 8eriod. K0 have #ratitude for the mone" 0am earnin# ri#ht no. 8eriod. K0 have #ratitude for the home 0 am in, and that 0 haveshelter and food. 8eriod. 0n other ords, as Ec*hart (olle stated so elouentl" in his )oo* K(he 8oer of No, ever"thin# is ha!!enin# onl" in this !resent moment.Miracles ha!!en in the !resent moment, hich means that if e ant to eceed our one!ectations, e )etter )e a!!reciative of hat e have ri#ht no, #rounded, ha!!",health", even thou#h it ma" not )e ideal. 0f e can )e ha!!" no for our )od", our

mone", our relationshi!, even for the stru##les that e have, e ill )e ece!tionall"ha!!" hen life chan#es. But if e are livin# in denial, and e ant to ma*e u!statements that are not true, that means that e are livin# in the future, and e cannotchan#e the future. But if e have #ratitude for the !resent, e can radicall" chan#e the !resent.

(he last ste! is the action ste!. (his is ste! num)er three of the ? :e"s of Manifestation.Ho do "ou eceed "our on e!ectations in life> 0t is all a)out action. -e call this in



our courses, the Kseven thousand !ound hammer for success, and it is reall" true. 0f !eo!le ant to radicall" chan#e their lives, it all comes don to action. our mind is !oerful, "esO "our #ratitude is !oerful, "es, )ut nothin# can reach the !oer of hat"ou do on a dail" )asis to retrain the su)conscious and to create success in "our life. So,hen "ou find "our one ma+or #oal to #o after, hen "ou #et hi#hl" focused and find

"our one thin#, e recommend that "ou then create a s"stemO five or even si da"s aee* of action ste!s to )rin# "ou closer to "our #oal. 0f it is a)out mone", "our actionste!s could )e trac*in# "our income, or trac*in# "our e!enses. our action ste!s could )e increasin# income or decreasin# e!enses. our action ste!s could )e decreasin# de)t.9ive da"s a ee* in ritin#. (hese action ste!s must )e s!ecific, measura)le, and time2lined. 0n other ords, if "ou anted to lose ei#ht, Monda" throu#h 9rida", from F a.m.in the mornin# until G'?% a.m. in the mornin#, "ou are #oin# to al*. So, here e have as!ecific, measura)le, and time2lined action. -e *no the eact activit" e are #oin# todoO e *no the eact time of da" e are #oin# to do it, and e *no the eact len#th oftime e are #oin# to do it for. S!ecific, measura)le, and time2lined. 0f it comes tofor#ivin# someone, or ma")e for#ivin# "ourself, "ou mi#ht sa", five da"s a ee* "ou are

#oin# to rite letters of for#iveness to "our !artner or to "ourself, or to someone hoa)used "ou in the !ast. 9ive da"s a ee*, "ou are #oin# to rite letters of an#er, or an#st,or +ealousl", or insecurit", to #et those emotions out of us, and then follo that u! oncea#ain ith letters of for#iveness. 0n other ords, the action ste!s are the *e" to lifechan#e.

/ver time, the action ste!s ill chan#e "our )elief s"stems. -e do not )elieve thatthin*in# !ositive thou#hts has a lon#2term effect on chan#in# "our )eliefs a)out )ein#orth" of mone", or love, or a )etter )od", or a )etter +o). -e +ust dont )elieve that ithas that !oer lon#2term. -e )elieve !ositive thin*in# is crucial and im!ortantO aninevita)le !art of someone )ecomin# more successful in life. -e )elieve and have seen,in our or* of thirt" "ears, that !eo!le chan#e their )eliefs a)out themselves )" )ein#

illin# to do the action ste!s that are often uncomforta)le five to si da"s !er ee*.Dail" action is hat chan#es )elief s"stems, and that is hat is #oin# to hel! "ou toeceed "our on e!ectations in life.

(here is also somethin# that e call Kum)rella #oals that 0 am #oin# to discuss )riefl"ri#ht no. 0 *no a lot of !eo!le love to have those #oals that sa", K0 am earnin# amillion dollars a "ear, or K0 on seven homes around the orld. (hese are the #oalsthat 0m not a hu#e fan of, )ut 0 *no a lot of !eo!le are. Lets !ut these )i# #oalsunderneath the cate#or" of Kum)rella #oals. 0f 0m or*in# ith someone ho ants toeceed their e!ectations in life, 0 ill sa" to them, K0f "ou ant to rite an um)rella#oal, #o ahead. Lets sa" the" are earnin# tent" thousand dollars a "ear, and the" antto earn one hundred thousand dollars a "ear. 0n their ritin#, the" ill !ut don, K0 am

earnin# in telve months, or tent"2four months, one hundred thousand dollars !er"ear. 0 ill have them rite that don in a time frame that is realistic, and then !ut thataa". No, lets !ut our focus on our ninet"2da" #oals and atch the um)rella #oal )ecome a realit" don the road.

(he net incredi)l" im!ortant to!ic 0 ant to share ith "ou is the most !oerful a" tostart and end ever" da". 0n a focused a!!roach to life, these to !eriods of our dail"eistence have )een shon to )e the to most im!ortant times of the da". 9or man" of



us, this is #oin# to call for us to )e#in livin# our lives in a radicall" different a". So,here e #o.

Mornin# routines. -e need thirt" minutes ever" mornin# to a!!l" this ne !ractice offocus. 8lan on #ettin# u! thirt" minutes earlier ever" da" and find a s!ace in "our homethat is uiet. our com!uter can ait. (he e2mails, tets and !hone messa#es can ait.

Some clients ill sa", KDavid, 0 alread" #et u! at 6 a.m. 0 couldnt ima#ine #ettin# u! an"earlier; But, ith our hi#hl" focused a!!roach to life, this is an incredi)l" crucial ste! tota*e in order to )rin# into "our eistence hat "ou trul" desire. Sit in a comforta)le chair.Li#ht a candle, and even incense, in order to set the mood for our ne mornin# ritual.

No, #ra) "our coffee, "our tea, or +uice, and sit. -atch the candle, or if "oure at aindo, stare at the outside orld. 0f "ou do have a indo, or "ou have a )alcon", !uta )irdfeeder u!, or if "ou have a )ac*"ard, "ou could s!rin*le )irdfeed in the "ard. Brin#in the a)undance of ildlife, the ener#" of ildlife. Brin# in the ener#" of candles andincense. ou mi#ht even have statues of reli#ious fi#ures or saints that "ou loo* at. Some !eo!le ill ma*e an altar. Some !eo!le, on this altar or in a corner of a room, ill !uttheir favorite !aintin#s, or their favorite color. 0f "ou can, #et a small ta)leto! aterfountain to have on durin# this time of da" as ell.

No, earlier in the )oo*, 0 said, K(here are #oin# to )e areas of this s"stem that ri#ht2 )rained !eo!le are #oin# to love, (his section is for all of "ou ri#ht2)rainers. ou illreall" en+o" the hole s!iritual, ener#etic a!!roach to livin#. (he lo#ical left2)rained !eo!le readin# this are !ro)a)l" sha*in# their heads and sa"in#, KNot more of this !ooh2 !ooh s!iritual stuff. 0t is not !ooh2!ooh s!iritual stuff. All of these ste!s that 0 amrecommendin# ri#ht no to start "our da" ith, allo "ou to )e#in it in a hi#hl" focuseda". 9or the first five minutes, +ust !a" attention to "our surroundin#s. et centered.Have "our coffee, or tea, or +uice. Listen to the ater. Loo* at the flames. Smell theincense. Loo* at the )irds on the outside. 0n other ords, e are #ettin# focused in the

!resent momentO hich is crucial to the start of ever" da". Net, ith a small !ad of !a!er, rite don a cou!le of thin#s that "ou did ell the da" )efore. 0t +ust mi#ht )e one or to. 0t doesnt have to )e com!licated. Ma")e "ou stuc*ith "our eercise !ro#ram, or chose not to "ell at "our children hen "ou usuall" ouldhave for somethin# the" did. /r ma")e "ou sta"ed late at or* to com!lete a !ro+ect.(hen, underneath that, rite somethin# that "ou did "esterda" that "ou ould li*e tochan#e. Ma")e "esterda" "ou said "ou ere #oin# to al*, )ut "ou didnt, so toda" "ouare #oin# to al* tice as far. 0n other ords, e ant to follo a "in2"an# a!!roach.(he ver" net thin# 0 ant "ou to do as "ou sit and )reathe, is loo* at one ma+orchallen#e that "ou have in "our life. 0f "ou notice, this is all #oin# alon# ith (he /ne(hin# (heor"@. -hat is the one ma+or challen#e that "ou have #oin# on that "ou are

focused on, that "ou need ansers for> ot that don. 0t mi#ht )e losin# ei#ht, ma*in#more mone", or for#ivin# someone. 0t mi#ht )e stic*in# ith a s!iritual !ro#ram. 0tmi#ht )e findin# time to volunteer in "our communit". ust rite don the one thin# thatis most crucial for "ou to fi#ure out a a" to accom!lish toda". (hen +ust as* for hel!O"ou mi#ht )e as*in# the internal self, "ou mi#ht )e as*in# od, or "ou mi#ht )e as*in#"our #uides around "ou. ust as* for hel! to solve this !ro)lem, to find the motivation tocom!lete this tas* toda". -hatever "our #reatest challen#e is, do that. (hen, !ut "our !addon and +ust focus on "our )reathin#. Continue to as* for #uidance. Durin# this thirt"2



minute !eriod, !eriodicall" )rin# "ourself )ac* into the room. Loo* at the candle. Listento the ater. Loo* out the indo. (hese thirt" minutes of a hi#hl"2focused a!!roach tostartin# "our da" ill offer )enefits far )e"ond an"thin# that "ou mi#ht ima#ine.

(he ver" last thin# to do )efore "ou end this thirt" minutes of solitude and focus in themornin#, and this is here e #et to have some fun, is to see, ith a vi)rant vision or

feelin# in "our )od", the end result of the life "ou desire. See "ourself livin# in themountains, or ith an incredi)l" dee! love relationshi!. See "ourself at !eace durin#times of challen#e, or ith a radicall" different )od". See "ourself so)er, or ma")eonin# "our on )usiness. 0 ant "ou to ta*e the last five minutes of this thirt"2minute !eriod ever" mornin#, and immerse "ourself in hat "ou desire. As "ou can ima#ine,#ettin# u! from "our chair after the contem!lation, the focus, and then endin# it ith avision of all that "ou desire, is #oin# to )e one of the most !oerful a"s to start the da".ust )efore "ou #et u! and leave, thro a thou#ht out to the universe or a !ra"er that sa"s,KAnd 0 as* "ou to )rin# this same feelin# of success to ever"one else in the orld. No"ou are read" to start "our da" in an etremel" focused a". -ithin ninet" da"s offolloin# this mornin# s"stem, "ou ill automaticall" *no that "ou are on a !ath of a

hi#h2focused a!!roach to life, meanin# that the end result ill )e that hich "ou desire.

0n the evenin#, e are #oin# to have "ou end "our da" in a ver" similar a". Jer"sim!le. ou can do this in )ed. ou can do it in a chair. Before "ou #o to )ed, #ra) "our +ournal or a note)oo*, and +ust rite don one or to thin#s "ou did ell that da". ust acou!le of thin#s that "ou sa", K0 am reall" !roud of this. A#ain, e are #oin# to re2encoura#e "ou to im!rint in "our )rain that hich is #oin# ell. (hen rite don one orto thin#s that "ou have #ratitude for. ou mi#ht sa", K0 am reall" #rateful that someonelet me into traffic. K0 am #rateful that, 0 for#ot m" lunch and someone had etra foodith them at or*. -hatever "ou are #rateful for. K0 am #rateful that m" !artner did not#ive me a hard time for trac*in# mud throu#h the house. -hatever it is, +ust rite acou!le of statements of #ratitude, and then "ou are read" for "our rest.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew


(he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat asim!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "ourlife. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "oudesire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since&55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach.









The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 9

K#r5# E&h#&ce *' W*'h (#*% Focus


:arma is a !assionate to!ic of mine. -hen it comes to #ettin# hi#hl" focused in life, oneof the most im!ortant thin#s e need to reali<e, and learn, and understand, is the holedefinition of *arma. -hat is it> -hat is this *arma> 8eo!le tal* a)out it all of the time,ri#ht> ou rea! hat "ou so. -hat #oes around comes around. All of those statementsor definitions of *arma are true, )ut 0 ant to ta*e it to even a dee!er level, )ecause if estart to reall" focus on hat the true meanin# of *arma is, e ill )e a)le to radicall"chan#e our lives and ma*e healthier decisions dail", hich ill )rin# a different end

result to our life.

Lets #o )ac* a#ain to &55F. 0t as a ma#ical "ear for me. 0 remem)er m" ver" firstcoachin# client that 0 trained to )e a life coach. Durin# the ver" last !art of the course,hich 0 still teach identicall" toda", e ent over hat is called the Kri!!le effect. (heri!!le effect is *arma. (he definition that 0 used )ac* then, e still use toda"' KEver"thou#ht, ever" ord, and ever" action that "ou do or have #oes out into the universe andreturns in *ind. Reread that statement. (his is one of the most !oerful understandin#sof the a" life or*s. 0f e can #ras! its meanin#, it ill hel! us ma*e totall" differentdecisions on a da"2to2da" )asis, ma")e even a minute2to2minute )asis, ultimatel" hel!in#us to eceed our on e!ectations and create the life that e totall" desire and deserve.

(hin* a)out it. (his is !oerful. Ever" thou#ht, ever" ord, and ever" action "ou have is#oin# out into the universe and returnin# in *ind. (hou#hts of +ud#ment li*e, K(he" areso luc*" that the" have all of that mone". K(he" are so luc*" ith their #enetics thatthe" dont have to or* out to have that )eautiful )od". K (he" have it made and 0dont. Hoever e are +ud#in# the orld, e are +ud#in# ourselves. -hen e !ut thatne#ative ener#" out )" +ud#in# other !eo!le, that ne#ative ener#" is comin# )ac*.Sometimes it comes )ac* )" other !eo!le +ud#in# us and sa"in# un*ind thin#s to us, )utsometimes it comes )ac* +ust ithin our on internal lac* of self2confidence. ou canima#ine, that if "ou sto!!ed +ud#in# others, "ou ould sto! +ud#in# "ourself. ou ouldhave more ener#", )e more creative, and )e more in love ith "ourself no and ala"s.-hat an ama<in# a" to focus "our ener#". (here is no more diversion ith our

thou#hts. No this ta*es focus. 0 admit that initiall", it ta*es a lot of focus to )e hi#hl"aare that our thou#hts, our ords, and our actions #o out into the universe and come )ac* to us in *ind. 0t means e have to )e on to! of our #ame, hich is hat this )oo* isall a)outO hel!in# "ou to #et focused.

-e ant for "ou to aa*en and sa", K(he reason h" 0 am stru##lin# ith finances isthe fact that 0 havent ala"s )een honest ith m" ta returns. (his is true. Sometimes !eo!le, durin# our or* to#ether, ill onder, K-h" am 0 ala"s stru##lin#financiall"> K-h" am 0 ala"s stru##lin# in love> K-h" am 0 ala"s stru##lin# inP



hatever it mi#ht )e. -e ill loo* at *arma. Lets ta*e "our mone". 0 mi#ht as*, K0n thelast ten or fifteen "ears, have "ou not re!orted all of "our income to the 0RS> (he" illloo* at me and sa", K-ell, "eah. 0 dont ant to re!ort it all. 0 ill sa", KHave "ouem)ellished an" of "our e!enses> K0n other ords, do "ou ta*e "our famil" out todinner and rite it off as an e!ense> K K-ell, "eah, )ut ever"one does that. -e ill #et

throu#h this hole list, and all of a sudden at the end of it, the" ill loo* at me and sa",K/h m" Lord; 0t is *arma isnt it> 0n other ords, 0 am stru##lin# financiall" )ecause 0mnot honest in m" financial life. Bin#o; Li#hts #o off. No, the cool thin# is, e canchan#e that. Someone else mi#ht )e stru##lin# in love. (he" mi#ht )e in a relationshi!,here the" are ala"s )ic*erin#, ala"s ar#uin#. (hen the" reali<e throu#h theseeercises that the"re constantl" #ossi!in# a)out their lover to their famil" or to theirfriends. (he"re constantl" thin*in# ne#ative thou#hts that Khe or she isnt livin# u! tom" e!ectations, or Khe or she is doin# that a#ain. And all of a sudden it dans onthem, K/ur relationshi! is in total hell )ecause of the fact that 0 am constantl" tal*in#a)out m" !artner in ne#ative a"s. -ell, the thou#hts, ords, and actions #o out intothe orld, and the" come )ac* to us, ri#ht> So, *arma is sim!le. 0t is eas" to understand.

And, the )est nes, it is reversi)le.So, ho do e reverse *arma> Ho do e actuall" ta*e hat is not #oin# ell ith ourlife, find the startin# !oint and chan#e it> ra) a !iece of !a!er, or a small note)oo*, andever" time "ou +ud#e "ourself or someone else, +ust !ut an X don. ou mi#ht +ud#esomeone ho is a terri)le driver in traffic. ust !ut an X. ou mi#ht +ud#e "ourself as"ou loo* in the mirror and sa", Kouve #ained more ei#ht. ust !ut don an X. oumi#ht loo* at a oman ith an incredi)le )od" and lots of +eelr", and sa", KShes sucha sno). 8ut an X don. 0f someone mentions somethin# a)out the administration, the8resident of the 1nited States, our econom", or hatever it mi#ht )e, and "ou add "ourto cents, "ou are a !art of the #ossi!. 8ut an X don. 0 thin* "ou #et the !oint here.-hen e start to see ho often our mind is ra!!ed in ne#ativit", our ords are

ra!!ed in #ossi!, or our actions are not as lovin# and *ind as the" need to )e, e canthen #et a #ras! of here our *arma is comin# from.

(he net thin# e need to do is to for#ive ourselves. So, ste! num)er one is to #et an ideaof ho man" times a da" all of these ne#ative thou#hts, and ords, and actions are #oin#on. Ste! num)er to, at the end of ever" da", +ust rite a statement, or "ou could evenmentall" sa", K0 for#ive m"self for all thou#hts, ords, and actions that ere un*indtoda". Cancel these out, )rin#in# in onl" ords, thou#hts, and actions that are *ind andlife2su!!ortin#. 8eriod.

Net, "ouve #ot to chan#e "our actions. 9or#ive "ourself for hat "ouve done, then eneed to )e loo*in# for a"s to hel! others in order to reverse our *arma. (here are man"

aesome )oo*s that tal* a)out this in #reat detail. /ne that comes to mind is calledK:armic Mana#ement. (he more that e as* others, KHo can 0 hel! "ou>, the moree loo* for a"s to hel! others dail", the faster e reverse our ne#ative old *arma andsu!!lant it ith !ositive ne *arma. -hat e so, e ill rea!. So, hat e do, e ill#et in return. But, e dont do this ith the return in mind. -e dont sa", K/*a", 0 seethat m" !artner is overhelmed ith laundr" toda", so 0 am #oin# to do the laundr", andthen tomorro, shed )etter hel! me ith this. (hat +ust doesnt or*. -e need to do itfree of a desired end result in order for it to )e !ure *armic )ased.



Another thin# e can do in re#ards to *arma, is )efore "ou #o an"here, )less the orldahead of "ou. As "ou #et in the car, )less "our car. ou )less "our travels to "our enddestination. Before "ou #o into the health clu), "ou send a )lessin# to the health clu), ora )lessin# to "our )usiness, or a )lessin# to "our church. Before "ou enter "our home,"ou )less "our home. our thou#hts are !recedin# "ou in )lessin# the a" ahead. (his is

a ver" sim!le eercise to do. A lot of times !eo!le for#et to do this eercise in the )e#innin#, so "ou ma" ant to +ot "ourself a note ever" da" to remind "ourself to do it.Before "ou #o an"here, )less that hich is ahead of "ou.

(he net thin# e can do in order to )ecome more focused on *arma, ould )e to )less"our friends and famil" ever" da". (he ver" first thin# 0 do hen 0 #et u! in the mornin#is to sa" a !ra"er to )less and to relieve all sufferin# amon#st all livin# )ein#s in thisorld. (hen 0 #o ahead s!ecificall" and mention m" famil", and m" friends, and those !eo!le 0 *no ho are sufferin#. -e are !lantin# !oerful *armic seeds )" #ettin#outside of ourselves and )lessin# the orld around us. Net, and this is a #reat challen#e, )less those !eo!le "ou do not care for. 0 am #oin# to re!eat this. Bless those !eo!le "oudo not care for. (hose !eo!le ho have hurt "ou, ho have lied to "ou, or ho have )een

un*ind to "ou. (a*e moments ever" da" to s!ecificall" thin* of those !eo!le and )lessthem. (his is a )eautiful *armic seed for "ou to !lant. Also, )less those !eo!le ho dontcare for "ou. Ma")e "ou dont even *no ho the" are, )ut +ust send a #eneral )lessin#out for all !eo!le ho s!ea* un*indl" of "ou toda", or thin* un*indl" of "ou toda", orho ma" act un*indl" toards "ou toda". Bless them, and allo them to )ecomea)undant and ha!!" toda". -e are !lantin# *armic seeds that ill come )ac* and )e ofsuch #reat )enefit for us, in the !resent and in the future. et focused on "our *arma. -ehave so much more control in life than e could ever ima#ine, if e are activel" involvedin this conce!t of !lantin# !ositive, !oerful *armic seeds. ou can eceed "our one!ectations in life hen "ou set "ourself u! dail" ith acts of !ositive *arma.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew













The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er :

The E*3h' Ke T*,s 'o e%, You S'# Focuse) *& L*fe


Here are ei#ht of the *e" ti!s to continue to loo* at, in order to sta" hi#hl" focused in life,to assist "ou in eceedin# all of "our on e!ectations.

Nu5$er O&e 0 cannot sa" enou#h a)out our mornin# and evenin# rituals that erecentl" ent over in this )oo*. (here is this incredi)le o!!ortunit", if "ou follo thoseto rituals, to #et etremel" focused ever" mornin#, to start "our da" off ith ener#",ith o!!ortunit", and then to end "our da" ith #ratitude. (hese to !oints are so crucial

to follo that, for those ho mi#ht )e readin# and sa"in#, K0 dont have time to addan"thin# more to m" da", 0d love for "ou to reconsider. A#ain, al* into theuncomforta)le. Doin# those thin#s that e sa" e Kdont have time for is eactl" hatthe ultra2successful !eo!le have )een doin# in life since the )e#innin# of time. ou and 0can do the same.

Nu5$er Two Meditation. /ne of the most !oerful a"s for us to sta" focused in lifeis throu#h the dail" use of meditation. -e hi#hl" recommend, for those ne tomeditation, dont tr" to learn ho to meditate via a )oo*. -e dont )elieve for most !eo!le that the art of meditation is !ossi)le to learn, unless "ou follo a CD, or if "ouhave the o!!ortunit" to +oin a class. (he Buddhists sa" our mind is li*e Kten thousandmon*e"s in a cell. And it is reall" true. /ur minds are ired, es!eciall" no, ith all of

the technolo#" that is )om)ardin# us, from the com!uter to )ill)oards, to (J, to radio, tosatellite radio, and more, ith so man" thou#hts and activities, +ud#ments, and )eliefs,that it is almost im!ossi)le for the avera#e !erson to learn ho to mediate )" themselves.(here are #reat CDs on the mar*et ri#ht no that "ou can !urchase to train "ourself hoto meditate. 0f "ou #o to ou(u)e and oo#le KDavid Essel=meditation, e have a freemediation video for "ou to follo alon# ith. 0t doesnt matter here "ou #o to learn.Meditation is one of the most !oerful a"s for us to #et focused and in ali#nment ithour !ur!ose in life.

Nu5$er Three' o#a or 8ilates, or some form of meditative movement. Here e focusthe )reathO e focus the mind, and e focus the )od", all in one activit". (hese mind2 )od" eercise !ro#rams can )e incredi)l" !oerful in hel!in# "ou to focus in life.

Nu5$er Four Eercise. An" t"!e of eercise, includin# runnin#, al*in#, aero)icclasses, or stren#th trainin#. 0f e can )rin# our mind into the !resent moment, it illhel! us to focus. Man" !eo!le, li*e m"self, ho run ever" ee*, can #et hi#hl" focuseddurin# their runs. Several se#ments of this )oo* ere created durin# m" re#ular runs. 0have also come u! ith ideas and conce!ts for this )oo* durin# m" al*s on thetreadmill in the #"m, hich 0 do ever" da" as ell. Eercise flushes the stress2!roducin#chemicals out of the )rain, and allos the endor!hins to come in to calm, to center, and to





Nu5$er E*3h' ratitude for hat e have ri#ht no. 0 *no 0 mentioned this earlier, )ut it is so im!ortant to sa" it a#ain. (o )e #rateful for the home, the mone", the )od",the relationshi! "ou have ri#ht no, even if it isnt o!timal, is a *e" com!onent of #ettin#focused and movin# forard in life. Live in the !resent moment ith #ratitude.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew(a*e a moment ri#ht no, ithout #oin# an" further, to slo don and focus on hatas in im!ortant in the !revious cha!ter. (hese ritin# eercises are the a)solute #emsof this or*, hich hen done ill hel! "ou to #et the most out of "our time and this )oo*. Remem)er, do not trust "our )rain to )e a)le to recall this life chan#in#information.










The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er ;

Wh We Shoo' for Less Th#& We (eser/e *& L*fe< #&) Wh#' 'o (o

A$ou' I'


-h" do e settle for less than hat e desire in life> -hat #ets in our a" of sta"in#focused and accom!lishin# our )i##est #oals in life> 9rom a mental !ers!ective, it has todo ith our )elief s"stems.

9irst, e have to loo* at orthiness. Man" of us have #ron u! ith, sometimes ell2meanin#, sometimes not2so2ell2meanin# !arent fi#ures or role models, sa"in#, K-e

need to )e ha!!" ith less, or, K-e are not orth" of #reatness, or, K-e are notorth" of #reat success, or, K(he !eo!le orth" of #reat success have 8hDs, or, K(he"come from the other side of the trac*s, or, K(he"P, and the list #oes on and on and on.So, the ver" first thin# that )loc*s us from shootin# for hat e reall" ant in life is thefact that e dont feel orth" of it. And, that can )e chan#ed. Do "ou *no ho that ischan#ed> B" the dail" action ste!s that e ill ta*e to !rove e are orth", even henlife isnt or*in# the a" that e ant it to. And hat does that mean> uite sim!l", itsthis' 0f "our Kone thin# is "our health, and "ou *no "ou need to lose ei#ht, in order tofeel orth" of a )od" that "ou desire, "oud have to #et u! ever" da" and do the or*necessar". -e cannot allo ecuses to #et in the a". -e cannot allo rationali<ationsor +ustifications to #et in the a". 9or man" of m" clients over the "ears, 0ve seen that all

it ta*es is ninet" da"s. Ninet" strai#ht da"s of #ettin# u! and eercisin#, es!eciall" hen"ou dont ant to, ma" )e all that is needed to chan#e the )elief s"stem that "oure notorth" of this massive, )eautiful, im!ortant #oal.

Another reason e shoot for less, is the conce!t that Kit is )etter to #ive than receive. 0mentioned this earlier in the )oo*. 0 am re!eatin# it a#ain for a ver" #ood reason. Man"times in life, hen !eo!le are stru##lin# financiall", or in love relationshi!s, it is often )ecause of )elief s"stems that sa", K0t is )etter that 0 do for "ou than do for m"self. -esee that ith a lot of omen in marria#es ith families, or even in marria#es ithoutchildren. (he" )elieve that it is )etter to #ive than receive, that, K0t is )etter for me to*ee! doin# all of these thin#s to ma*e m"self availa)le for m" famil", m" friends, or m"church, )ut not to ta*e the time for me. -hat ha!!ens net> 0t is called resentment. -e

start shootin# for less than e !ersonall" deserve )ecause of the )elief that Kit is )etter to#ive than receive. 0n realit", it is the )est of )oth orlds, to )e a)le to #ive and receive,hich is hat this !ro#ram is all a)out.

-h" do e shoot for less hen it comes to mone"> Because of those conce!ts li*e,KDont )e #reed". KDont ever ma*e more mone" than "ou need. As lon# as "ou haveenou#h to #et )", )e ha!!" ith that. -ell, that is nonsense. 0t is not necessar" to +ust )ea)le to scra!e )" ever" da". 0f "ou desire a #reat income, "ou deserve the #reat income.



-e have alread" setu! the !rocess throu#hout this hole )oo* on ho to hel! "ou #etthere.

Sometimes !eo!le shoot for less )ecause the" have a fear of success. 9ear of successmeans that, K0f 0 lose this ei#ht, 0m #oin# to have to *ee! or*in# out si da"s a ee*for the rest of m" life. 0 dont *no if 0 ant to )e successful and have to )e that

accounta)le. /r ith mone"' K0f 0 ma*e the mone" 0 ant, that mi#ht mean 0 have toor* si da"s a ee* to ma*e it. (hat mi#ht mean there are #oin# to )e times in m" lifehen 0 dont ta*e time off, hen 0 dont even ta*e vacations, and 0 dont *no if 0 antto )e that successful and have to )e that accounta)le in life. Do "ou see hat 0msa"in#> So, sometimes it is the fear of success that is the reason )ehind us shootin# forless than e desire in life. -hat a)out the fear of failure> -e sa", K-hat ould m"famil" thin* if 0 ent after this hu#e #oal and didnt ma*e it> K-hat ould m" friendsthin*> K-hat ould m" coor*ers thin*> So, this fear of failure, the fear of )ein# +ud#ed )" others mi#ht )e somethin# that holds us )ac*, alloin# us to shoot for less inlife, and )ein# totall" unha!!" alon# the a". -e need to shift this. -e a)solutel" needto chan#e this.

Lets do this ri#ht no. 0 ant "ou to rite out hat "our e!ectations are for ever" areaof "our life. ra) a !iece of !a!er, or "ou can do it ri#ht here in this )oo*. 0 am #oin# tocreate a hole list for "ou, ith a line net to it for "ou to rite don hat "oure!ectations are, and 0 ant "ou to )e s!ecific.

-hat are "our e!ectations re#ardin#'

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5. Career. -hat is it that "ou ould li*e to see in re#ards to "our on !ersonale!ectations for "our career !ath> -here ould "ou li*e it to #o from here it is ri#ht

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No, in this net section, e are #oin# to #o a little hi#her. -e are #oin# to do the samecolumns, and 0 am #oin# to as* "ou to rite don net, hat it ould loo* li*es!ecificall" to eceed each of the e!ectations ritten a)ove. As "ou loo* at each ofthese cate#ories of "our life, 0 ant "ou to #o )i#. 0 ant "ou to rite out ho "ou ouldeceed "our e!ectations in re#ards to mone". Lets sa" that on the first eercise a)ove,"ou rote don that it ould )e #reat if "ou earned sevent"2five thousand dollars a "ear.0f "ou are currentl" earnin# fort" thousand dollars a "ear, "ou mi#ht sa", K0f 0 could earn

almost dou)le it, that ould )e #reat. But, hat ould it loo* li*e s!ecificall" for "ou toeceed the e!ectations "ou rote a)out a)ove> 0 mean reall" eceed it. -ould it )e onehundred thousand> &6% thousand> $%% thousand> -hat ould !ut "ou at the )rin* here"ou sa", K0 dont even *no if that is !ossi)le. 8lease dont aste "our time here and !ut a )illion dollars a da", or somethin# ridiculous li*e. Be realistic, )ut )e outra#eousl"ecited in "our res!onse.

-hat ould it loo* li*e to s!ecificall" eceed each of "our on e!ectations in life>

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Net, choose one of those cate#ories, the one that "ou have denied, dela"ed, or !rocrastinated or*in# on, the one that needs the most attention in "our life, and the onethat if "ou ere to #o after ould radicall" chan#e "our hole eistence. Choose one ofthose cate#ories, and rite it in the line in this )oo* ri#ht no.

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No, hat s!ecific actions ste!s do "ou need to ta*e on a dail" )asis in order toaccom!lish this one #oal listed a)ove that ould eceed "our on e!ectations> TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

As e continue to move forard in life, 0 ant to #o )ac* and revie a fe reall" *e"



com!onents in this !ro#ram of focus.

&. -e need to choose one #oal at a time, and onl" one #oal at a time.

$. -e need to #et read" to al* throu#h an" resistance or ecuses that come u! alon# thea" of accom!lishin# this one #oal that ill eceed our on e!ectations.

?. -e need to rite a dail" s"stem to sta" focused on, actions ste!s five da"s !er ee*.

. -e need to as* to )e held accounta)le )" an accounta)ilit" !rofessional or a !artner ona dail" )asis.

6. -e need to clear our mind ever" mornin# and see ith !assion hat "ou ant out oflife.

F. -e need to #et or sta" involved ith courses and )oo*s in order to increase our focuson a dail" )asis. At the end of this )oo*, 0 ill #ive "ou a list of a fe resources that illhel! "ou do +ust that.

Ch#,'er "e/*ew


(he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat asim!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "ourlife. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "oudesire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since

&55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach.








The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er =

A Few of 'he M#& Peo,%e Who #/e e%,e) Me 'o S'# Focuse) *&

L*fe so 'h#' I C#& E7cee) M Ow& E7,ec'#'*o&s


0n this cha!ter, 0 ant to #ive some credit to +ust a fe of the man" !eo!le ho havehel!ed me to sta" hi#hl" focused in life to accom!lish the thin#s that 0 have, man" ofhich have eceeded m" on e!ectations. No, 0 ta*e credit for the #ifts od has #ivenme, and 0 ta*e credit for the or* that 0ve !ut in here, )ut 0 also must #ive credit to these !eo!le, )ecause for ithout them, 0 ould not )e here 0 am. And 0 surel" ouldnt havea chance to continue to eceed m" on #oals and m" on e!ectations in the future

ithout a team of !eo!le to hel! me.

As an introduction to this section, 0 ant to mention that almost ever"thin# that 0 haveaccom!lished in life, and 0 lau#h as 0 sa" this, has had ver" little to do ith m" academic,intellectual, or scholastic trainin#. 0n other ords, hen 0 loo* at some of the thin#s thathave reall" )lon o!en m" career !ath, such as hostin# national television se#ments ith9o (J, Lifetime (J, --/R (J, or hostin# nationall" s"ndicated radio shos ith-estood /ne, and no currentl" ith XM Satellite Radio=8remier Radio netor*s, allof these have ha!!ened )ecause of the !eo!le around me ho have )elieved in me, anddue to m" desire to ma*e a difference in this orld. 0 sa" this hum)l", hoever, )ecause 0have no )ac*#round, schoolin#, or education in +ournalism or in communications, "et

much of m" career has )een )ased on or* in the field of communications. (elevisionand radio entre!reneurs, television and radio hosts, or se#ment hosts, most of the time are#roomed to #o into those !ositions throu#h their academic endeavors. et in m" case,and there are man" !eo!le li*e me around the orld, e accom!lish thin#s in life )ecause e )elieve in ourselves and e surround ourselves ith !eo!le ho )elieve in usas ell. 0f an"one ould have as*ed me "ears a#o, KDo "ou thin* that )" $%&$, that "ouould have seven )oo*s !u)lished, that "ou ould have had the e!eriences on nationaltelevision as a host and se#ment re!orter, or "ou ould have, for the !ast tent"2one"ears, )een involved ith national tal* radio shos> 0 ould have said, KA)solutel"not. 0 mean these are eam!les here 0 have so far eceeded m" on e!ectations inlife )ecause of the hel! and the )elief of others.

Let me run don a list of some of these !eo!le and, of course, 0 am #oin# to leave a lot ofindividuals out, for hich 0 a!olo#i<e. 0f "ou dont see "our name here, *no in m" heartthat 0 love "ou. 0 +ust anted to !ic* out a fe !eo!le ho have had a #reat im!act in m"life in re#ards to focus.

9irst are m" famil"O m" mom and m" dad, 8at and Ed Essel, and m" sister, Mar"diane,and )rother, (err". (he" have hel!ed me immensel". 0 ould sa" that one of the #reatestthin#s in re#ards to focus that m" famil" has )rou#ht to me is the focus on faith, the focus



on od. M" famil" has surrounded me ith the a)solute love of themselves to me, andalso the a)solute love of od, as e *no od to )e. So, 0 *no that m" focus and m"faith in life have come from m" famil" roots, hich are so ama<in# and so incredi)le.(hrou#h all of m" u!s, m" famil" has )een there, and throu#h all of m" incredi)lechallen#es, m" famil" has )een there. (he" have hel!ed me to sta" focused, on m" !ath

to hel! others.Maharishi Mahesh o#i as hu#e in m" lifeO from the intervie that 0 mentioned in &55Fto toda", in hel!in# me to #et focused in attac*in# life, +ust one ma+or #oal at a time.

oe Cirulli has )een a #reat friend of mine and a mentor since &5F. oe has hel!ed mefocus immensel" in so man" different arenas, from radicall" chan#in# m" )od", as heintroduced me to somethin# called the Su!er Slodon (rainin# Method, to the conce!tof )ein# a)le to do hat "ou love and earn #reat mone" at the same time. Durin# one ofm" #reatest trials in life, hen 0 ent throu#h a ver" difficult divorce, he hel!ed mefocus. -hile 0 as in #reat !ain, oe hel!ed me focus on the )eaut" that 0 )rou#ht to thisorld. He has )een immense in m" life in re#ards to focus.

Renee Bledsoe has )een a friend of mine for over thirt" "ears, a confidant, and anaccounta)ilit" !artner. Renee has hel!ed me focus in so man" a"s. A num)er of "earsa#o, after she came and atched me do a sermon at a church, she #ra))ed m" hand, andsaid, KSeetie, its time for "ou to have "our on church. 0t as one of the mostama<in# e!eriences 0 have ever had in m" life. As an all2faith minister, o!enin# ourchurch to#ether, could have never ha!!ened ithout Renees focus and seein# in mesomethin# that 0 had never seen in m"self. 0 had never reall" ima#ined m"self )ein# the !astor of an all2faith church, )ein# a minister that ould freel" #o around and hel! !eo!leto the #reatest of m" a)ilit", re#ardless of hat reli#ious !ath the" came from. Renees )elief in me, as she herself is an all2faith minister, has led me to this incredi)lee!erience of co2foundin# a church to ma*e a difference in our communit". (o this da",

it is one of the #reatest thin#s that 0 have e!erienced. Renees a)ilit" to hel! me focus onm" s!iritual #ifts led to that, hich 0 ill forever )e #rateful for.

ohn Biffar, a orld acclaimed international film director, has )een a friend of mine forover thirt" "ears. ohn as the !roducer of m" first eercise video, K(he Beach-or*out. He is an individual ho has hel!ed me focus on deliver" s*ills, )oth ontelevision and on radio. (o this ver" da", ohn )rin#s an a)ilit" to hel! me focus on m"#ifts and m" talents throu#h his e!erience in front of the camera. His advice hel!s mereach !eo!le at a dee!er level throu#h deliver" as ell as content. He is a )lessin#.

Harv E*er, Adam Mar*el, and Marleen 8a"ne have )rou#ht to me, in their on a"s, anama<in# a)ilit" to focus on mone". 0 sa" that from a ver" !roud !ers!ective, that the"

have hel!ed me to elevate m" aareness and understandin# of the a" mone" or*s, ofma*in# mone", of savin# mone", and of s!endin# mone" as ell, in order to have )eliefs"stems around mone" that are etremel" #rounded and health". (he focus 0 have #ottenfrom all three of these !eo!le has )een incredi)le.

Caroline Ravelo. Here is a oman ho )elieved in me so dee!l" that hen she o!enedher !u)lishin# com!an", she came to me and said, K0 ant "our )oo*, UHeaven /nEarth, to )e the first )oo* m" com!an" !u)lishes. Caroline, for "ears no, has )een anama<in# source of s!iritual stren#th and entre!reneurial stren#th in m" life, and has



hel!ed me to sta" focused on )ein# a)le to do )oth, to )e )oth s!iritual and successful asan entre!reneur.

9ather Ron at the Hanle" Center for addiction recover" is someone ho 0 met hen 0 asin the center to recover from alcoholism. 9ather Ron came u! to me on da" three andsaid, KDavid, if "ou surrender to od, if "ou focus solel" on "our al* ith od, "ou

ill never, ever, for the rest of "our eistence, ever have a cravin# for alcohol or cocainea#ain. 9ather Rons ords ere so !ro!hetic that, that evenin#, 0 had an immenses!iritual aa*enin#, and from that moment forard, re#ardless of ho difficult life has )een, his ords have run# true. 0f 0 surrender, minute )" minute, da" )" da", m" life andill to od, 0 ill forever )e so)er and ha!!". 0t is un)elieva)le, the effect that he had onm" life.

Ardith Bissin#er has )een another !erson ith a hu#e s!iritual effect on m" life. 0 call herone of m" s!iritual coaches. -ithout a dou)t, she is so #rounded in the love of od, thatdurin# one of m" most difficult e!eriences, hich ha!!ened to also )e durin# m"divorce, she hel!ed me focus on for#ivin# m"self and m" former ife in the middle ofm" dee!est, dar*est !ain. -ithout Ardith, durin# that e!erience, 0 ould have neverunderstood that "ou can #o into for#iveness at the same moment that "ou are in dee! !ain. An incredi)le e!erience.

8e##" Solomon, ith -estood /ne Radio. 8e##" hel!ed me hen the rest of-estood /ne didnt )elieve that a focused sho on health and !ersonal #roth couldma*e it in the earl" nineties on nationall" s"ndicated radio. 8e##" as so focused onhat 0 as a)le to )rin# to the netor* and to )rin# to Americas radio airaves, that shehel!ed )uild m" faith in m"self, even hen other eecutives at the netor* didnt thin* itould or*. 8e##" as focused on m" #ifts and talents to the orld, hich made oursho a hu#e hit ith -estood /ne.

ar" Lou#hlin, m" cousin, ho has )een a real estate mentor, a )ro*er, and an a#ent for

thirt"2!lus "ears, in $%%% o!ened the doora" for me to #et into )usiness coachin# in theorld of real estate )" sim!l" #ivin# me a call and sa"in#, K0 have a client for "ou toor* ith, a ne real estate a#ent. 0 )elieve "ou can hel! him as he starts his career.-hen 0 called )ac* and tal*ed to ar", 0 said, K0 have or*ed ith !eo!le from alldifferent al*s of )usiness, )ut never real estate. Do "ou thin* 0 can actuall" do it> Hisanser as, K/f course "ou can; 9rom $%%% to this da", 0 have or*ed ith hundredsu!on hundreds of real estate a#ents from around the orld, hel!in# them to maimi<etheir !otential in )usiness. M" focus in the orld of real estate at one time had meor*in# ith sevent" a#ents a ee* as clients, and it all started ith ar"s )elief in meand the focus that 0 could ma*e a difference in that industr".

Richard erson as an ama<in# mentor of mine, ho as*ed me one da" in &5 hat 0anted to achieve out of life. -hen 0 told him 0 anted to )e reco#ni<ed as one of the to!health, fitness, and !ersonal #roth e!erts in the orld, he loo*ed at me and said, K(hen#o )ac* to school and #et "our masters de#ree. 0t as those ords, and his hel! to #etm" masters de#ree, that o!ened the doora" for me to )e a)le to create the or* and there!utation that 0 ould have never )een a)le to do ithout furtherin# m" education.

(revor /liver, ith 8remier Radio Netor* and XM Satellite Radio, had so much faith inme from m" or* ith -estood /ne, that he encoura#ed me to +oin him at 8remier



Radio Netor* and XM Satellite Radio. He anted me to )rin# m" uniue messa#e tothe national audience that is dee!l" needed toda"' /ur need to focus on eceedin#e!ectations, overcomin# challen#es, and creatin# the life that ever"one desires. (hismessa#e, )ac*ed ith (revors ecitement a)out m" !ro#ram, )rou#ht us )ac* tonational s"ndication. -e are ma*in# a difference in the media landsca!e, hich is often

)ased on sensationalism and ne#ativit", throu#h our !ositive tal* radio sho.Steve Bloc*, one of m" earlier mentors, had so much faith in me in )usiness, that he hiredme as a s!o*es!erson for his eercise eui!ment com!an", S8R0 8roducts. /ur focusas )ased on hel!in# aero)ics instructors and !ersonal trainers to maimi<e their !otential in fitness. Steves faith in me as so #reat that it o!ened u! doora"s to successthat 0 still )enefit from toda".

Carol"n ill ala"s hold a s!ecial !art in m" heart )ecause of her a)ilit" to hel! mefocus on m" so)riet". A num)er of "ears a#o, durin# a conversation e had to#ether, sheo!ened u! a)out her life. At that time e had )een datin# for several months, and thereas somethin# that she needed to tal* to me a)out that as ver" scar" for her to share. 0thad to do ith her so)riet". As she ent throu#h the stor" and told me ever"thin# a)outher life and her or* on #ettin# so)er, she said she as afraid that hen she told me thisthat it mi#ht end our relationshi!. 0n other ords, 0 mi#ht not ant to )e ith someoneho as in recover". At that time, 0 as a full2)lon alcoholic, a functionin# alcoholic, )ut an alcoholic nonetheless. M" evenin#s consisted, from !.m. on, drin*in# ine as 0com!leted m" or*, until 0 com!leted enou#h of the ine itself, here 0 ould fallaslee!, )etter *non as !assin#2out. 0t as durin# this incredi)l" heart renchin#conversation ith Carol"n, hen m" mind as tri##ered, and m" focus finall" turned tom" so)riet". At the end of this evenin#, hen she had shared such vulnera)ilit" and suchhonest", ithout ever as*in# me to #et so)er, 0 ent to )ed thin*in#, K(his is the time,and this is the messa#e. (he net da", a*in# u!, the same thou#ht as in m" head' 0need to focus on m" on recover", as alcohol as interferin# ith ever" area of m" life.(he ver" net da", 0 called and did the inta*e !a!eror* over the !hone ith the Hanle"Center for recover" in -est 8alm Beach, 9lorida. -ithout Carol"ns vulnera)le, o!en,and lovin# communication a)out her life, 0 ma" have never ta*en the ste! to save m"on. (he focus on m" recover" has )een reardin# ever since, and 0 oe that to Carol"n.

(hese are +ust a fe of the man", man" !eo!le ho have hel!ed me to sta" focused in the !ast, in the !resent, and ho ill continue to do so in the future. 0 share these stories ith"ou )ecause, 0 *no that, li*e the sa"in# #oes, Kno man is an island, and that if "ou antto eceed "our e!ectations, "ou are #oin# to have to surround "ourself ith !eo!le hoare doin# hat "ou ant to do, ho are )etter than "ou, smarter than "ou, more ins!iredthan "ou, and most im!ortantl", ho )elieve in "ou. (a*e a moment ri#ht no, and as an

eercise, rite don ho has ins!ired "ou, ho has hel!ed "ou focus in the !ast and inthe !resent. 1se the lines )elo +ust to rite don a fe of these !eo!le.

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Net, ho do "ou need to as* to hel! "ou toda" to #et to the net level in an" and allareas of life, to hel! "ou to sta" focused on "our !ath of eceedin# "our one!ectations> -rite don +ust a fe of the names of these !eo!le ri#ht no.

(he third !art of this eercise is to contact the a)ove list. 0 ant "ou to !ic* a date and atime that "ou ill e2mail or call this list of !eo!le, as*in# them to hel! "ou sta" focused

and to eceed "our on e!ectations. -e ill never, ever do this aloneO so, lets do itto#ether.

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(he act of ritin# allos "ou to delve dee!er into "our mind, and to focus on hat as

im!ortant to "ou in the !revious !a#es that is relevant to "our #roth at this time in "ourlife. As sim!le as these eercises are, 0 thin* the act of fillin# in the uestions here could )e one of the most !oerful ste!s that "ou can ta*e, ri#ht no, to create the life "oudesire. (hese uestions are so !oerful, that the" are the same ones that 0 have used since&55& in m" or* ith clients as a Master Life Coach.








The Power of Focus

Ch#,'er 1>

F*&#% Thou3h's o& The Power of Focus

”!ou are orthy of every goal you desire.”

0 ant to end this )oo* ith +ust a cou!le of thou#hts to !re!are ourselves for hat isahead. 0f e are not !re!ared, it ill )e ver" eas" to once a#ain fall off the !ath of focusand accom!lishment, +o", success, and ha!!iness, and )ac* into our old a" of livin#. Ase tr" this ne attem!t at livin# a hi#hl" focused life, there ill )e fears that ill riseinto our mindset. (here ill )e resistance. (he resistance ill sa" thin#s li*e, K(his ma" )e #ood for other !eo!le, this conce!t of focusin# on one #oal, )ut 0 am onderful as amultitas*er. 0 am #oin# to *ee! doin# hat 0 am doin#. Even thou#h it is not #ivin# "ou

the end result "ou ant. (hese ecuses ill rise u! dail". K0 dont have the time or themone" to reall" focus on ma*in# mone", Kto reall" focus on findin# a relationshi! form" love life, Kfocus on recover", or, Kto focus on losin# ei#ht. (he ecuses ill #oon and on and on, and thats h" 0m )rin#in# it u! ri#ht no. 0 ant "ou to understandthat all of this is normal. Sa"in# that 0 dont have the su!!ort s"stem that someone has, or0 dont have the education that someone has, are +ust ecuses e use to sta" safe andcomforta)le, even thou#h our safe and comforta)le life is not #ivin# us hat e ant.Remem)er )ac* hen e tal*ed a)out cancelin# ne#ative thou#hts> Ri#ht no, 0 ant"ou to revisit that !rinci!le, that hen dou)t comes u!, insecurit", +ealous", resentment,an#er, ra#e, or ecuses come u!, immediatel" cancel those thou#hts. o )ac* to "ourfocused a!!roach to accom!lishin# the one ma+or #oal in "our life that needs "our

attention ri#ht no. As "ou do this, "ou ill consistentl" eceed "our on e!ectations.

(here is another tra! that comes into !la" that can also sa)ota#e our success. -e mi#htsa", Keah, 0m stru##lin# financiall", )ut no that 0ve read this )oo*, and there areother )oo*s 0 can !ic* u!, 0m #oin# to fi#ure this out on m" on. /r, K0 *no thatalcohol is not a health" thin# in m" life, and it actuall" mi#ht )e holdin# me )ac* in m"career or m" love life, )ut 0 thin* 0m +ust #oin# to moderatel" drin* on m" on, or,K0ll #et so)er )" m"self. (he list #oes on and on and on. 0 am #oin# to tell "ou to sto!the thou#hts ri#ht no. -e need our accounta)ilit" !rofessionals or !artners to hel! usma*e these ma+or chan#es. 0ts eas" to fall into the tra! of denial )" thin*in# e canma*e these chan#es, and accom!lish these #oals )" ourselves. (his is an im!ortantstatement' ou have the mone" "ou have ri#ht no )ecause "ouve done the )est "oucan )" "ourself. 0f "ou ant more mone", "ou need more hel!. ou have the )od" that"ou have ri#ht no )" doin# the )est "ou can. 0f "ou ant a )etter )od", "ou need morehel!. ou have a relationshi! ith od, or "our hi#her !oer, that "ou have ri#ht no, )" doin# the )est "ou can )" "ourself. 0f "ou ant a dee!er relationshi! ith od or "ourhi#her !oer, "ou need someone else to hel! "ou alon# the a". 0 thin* "ou #et the !icture. -e need to )e held accounta)le.

0 also ant "ou to focus on this )oo*. 0t is a short )oo*. 0t is a small )oo*. Reread it ever"



ee*. Ma*e a decision that for the net thirt" da"s "ou ill read this )oo* once a ee*. 0sa" this to "ou o!enl" and honestl", not +ust )ecause its m" )oo* that 0 ant "ou toreread, )ut this !rinci!le of rereadin# the same )oo* for thirt" strai#ht da"s, once a ee*,has hel!ed me hen 0m tr"in# to inte#rate ne chan#es, !hiloso!hies, and educationfrom other authors. Readin# it once throu#h is not #oin# to do it. Readin# it once a ee*

for four ee*s, 0 !romise "ou, ill hel! "ou on "our !ath to eceed all of "oure!ectations.

Net, e need to share the messa#e of ho!e and success ith others dail". (here is a a"to eceed our on e!ectations in life. 1se this )oo* as an o!!ortunit" to !ractice ne*arma )" sharin# it ith ever"one "ou *no. (a*e the lin* and send it to "our friendsOsend it to "our classmates, "our old schoolmates, "our co2or*ers. Send it to !eo!le that"ou dont li*e. Send it to !eo!le that dont li*e "ou. 0n other ords, #et the messa#e out.Be the )earer of #ood nes. Let !eo!le *no throu#h "our actions that "ou ant them tosucceed. o )ac* and read the cha!ter on *arma. B" hel!in# other !eo!le, e hel!ourselves, even if that isnt our sole intention. ou can hel! chan#e the orld )"s!readin# this messa#e ith ever" !erson "ou can thin* of. -e are )lessed to live in the

a#e of the 0nternet, here "ou dont have to !rint this off and !ut it in an envelo!e andmail it. A uic*, sim!le clic* could send it to ever"one in "our data)ase. S!read the love,the ho!e, the freedom, the +o" and success that comes from a s"stem that has "ears ofe!erience )ehind it, validatin# its effectiveness.

Lastl", if "ou follo ever"thin# that e have ritten a)out, "ou ill find in a short !eriod of time that "ou are totall" orth this ne eistence, that "ou "ourself are orth"of eceedin# "our on e!ectations. (hat "ou "ourself are orth" of a life ith a )eautiful )od", free of addictions, and more mone" than "ou need, mone" that "ou canshare, to #ive aa", to hel! others ith. ou can feel orth" of e!eriencin# dee! loveith a !artner, of for#ivin# those !eo!le in the !ast ho have ron#ed "ou, as ell asfor#ivin# "ourself for an"thin# "ou have done harmful to "ourself or an"one else. 0nother ords, the !ur!ose of this )oo* is the !ur!ose of "our life. (o find "our lifes !ur!ose can )e done )" eceedin# our on e!ectations. As "ou follo the !rinci!les#iven here, 0 onl" have one ish for "ou' (hat "ou ill e!erience life at such a hi#hlevel, a free level, a level here "ou are fallin# dee!er in love ith "ourself ever" da".ou aa*e ever" mornin# and #o to slee! ever" ni#ht *noin# that the net da" )rin#s"ou one more chance to ma*e a difference in "our life, as ell as a difference in otherslives. 0 !ra" that "ou ill ta*e the seriousness of this messa#e into "our heart and soul,and e!erience hat 0 and thousands of other !eo!le have e!erienced' ou are orth"of all "ou desire.

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