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THE POWER OF margin
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THE POWER OFmargin
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is ”love of oneself.” ~Charles Chaplin
What is margin?To put it simply, it’s the extra.
is the room on the side of your “life script” that you can fill with anything. If there’s no margin, you’re STUCK in your current script.
Human beings have a bad habit of writing a script that prioritizes the urgent and neglects the important. Without margin you feel constantly bogged down and tired and unwilling to give attention to things that truly matter in life.
Even if you have the best of intentions, without margin there is nothing you can do to close the intention-behavior gap.
MARGINyour needs & dreams
go here.
Too often, we lack MARGIN in key areas of life. This lack of extra space manifests as
problems and stress.
WITH…
RelationshipsFulfillmentCareer
StructureFinancesHealthGrowth
outlook
LACK OF MARGIN
UNFULFILLED LIFE
Eventually…
DISTRACTION
an unfulfilled life disorders yourRELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD
AND
Often, those who have an obsession with food
are really hungering for a greater connection to
life, love, people, & purpose.
TRUTH
“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
~Confucius
MARGINis the foundation of happiness.
…so let ’s Make More!
TAKING ACTION
There are eight key areas of life where a lack of margin sabotages your happiness and connection. You can use a lifestyle audit to identify where you’re lacking margin and then come up with a game plan to add margin, which offers you flexibility, decreased stress, and increased happiness. !This also starts the process of repairing your relationship with food, your body, and other people. !!Let ’s get started.
LIFESTYLE AUDITCareer.
A Gallup survey showed that 71% of Americans are not engaged-with or passionate about their work. Most are over-stressed and working 40+ hours per week. By contrast, they’re lucky to spend 10 engaged hours per week with family or friends.
LIFESTYLE AUDITCareer.
Do you — without a doubt — love your job?
Does your work offer you enough flexibility?
Do you make enough money to cover the essentials?
Would you accept your current job again if you had the choice?
Do you feel stuck?
QUESTIONS
yes no
LIFESTYLE AUDITCareer.
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your career. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your career is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “career” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to either:
a) Create margin in your career.
b) Change your career completely.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
LIFESTYLE AUDITCareer.
IDEAS
Margin in your career looks like…
✓ Asking for a raise (use the briefcase technique).
✓ Negotiating better benefits.
✓ Reducing the amount of hours you work.
✓ Negotiating working from home part-time.
✓ Taking immediate action toward finding a new job if necessary.
LIFESTYLE AUDITEnvironment.
The city you live in, the condition of your home, the amount of stuff you have, the car you drive — it all plays a role in stress and happiness. All of these things can have or lack margin and simple changes can make a world of difference in your life.
LIFESTYLE AUDITEnvironment.
Do you love the city you live in?
Is your environment clean and organized?
Do you have adequate transportation?
Does the state of your home provide for your needs?
Do you actively practice contentment?
QUESTIONS
yes no
LIFESTYLE AUDITEnvironment.
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your environment. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your environment is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “environment” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to either:
a) Create margin in your environment.
b) Change your environment completely.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
LIFESTYLE AUDITEnvironment.
IDEAS
Margin in your environment looks like…
✓ Organization and clarity in your home and office.
✓ Living in a city that fulfills your needs and desires.
✓ A vehicle that serves you and doesn’t drain other key areas.
✓ Few distractions in your home and work.
✓ Feeling content — avoiding a constant search for more.
LIFESTYLE AUDITFinances.
Divorce rates are skyrocketing and the #1 cause is money fights and money problems. The average household has thousands of dollars in consumer debt. Many houses are over-leveraged. Our retirement accounts aren’t as big as they should be. Too many people are living paycheck to paycheck. This serious lack of margin is sabotaging your life.
LIFESTYLE AUDITFinances.
Do you have enough money each month to save and invest?
Is your mortgage payment less than 30% of your income?
Do you own your vehicles outright?
Does your income reflect your skills and value in the marketplace?
Do you have a cash emergency fund?
QUESTIONS
yes no
LIFESTYLE AUDITFinances.
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your finances. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your finances are putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “finances” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your finances.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
LIFESTYLE AUDITFinances.
IDEAS
Margin in your finances looks like…
✓ Following a zero-based budget every month.
✓ Having a cash emergency fund of 3-6 months of expenses.
✓ Being completely debt free, even mortgage-free. (how)
✓ Having more money (start a side project or ask for a raise).
✓ Canceling subscriptions and reducing expenses.
LIFESTYLE AUDITRelationships.
Fulfilling relationships are a core human need. Social isolation or a discontentment with relationships in general (which can occur even when you’re surrounded by other people) puts you in a sympathetic system response (low grade fight or flight) that causes both short term and long term problems to physical and mental health.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
Do you have more than two very close friends who you see regularly?
Is your marriage an eight or higher on a scale of one to ten?
Do you feel you communicate effectively and honestly with people?
Have you protected yourself from those who drain you or use you?
Do you have healthy boundaries? (click for details).
QUESTIONS
yes no
Relationships.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your relationships. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your relationships are putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “relationships” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your relationships.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
Relationships.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
IDEAS
Margin in your relationships looks like…
✓ Cutting off people who drain you, use you, or who complain too much.
✓ Experiencing legitimate intimacy on a regular basis.
✓ Spending time with close friends and laughing on a regular basis.
✓ Meeting new people.
✓ More open and honest communication. Avoiding passive-aggression.
✓ Improving boundaries.
✓ Getting your core needs met. Feeling fulfilled. Not constantly wanting.
Relationships.
LIFESTYLE AUDITHealth.
“Health is wealth” is a popular saying. Yes, it’s cliche. And yes, it’s enormously important. Unfortunately, it’s hard to quantify its importance until we no longer have it. Then, life becomes a nightmare. Getting your health in order and keeping it that way is essential for a happy life.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
Have you had your blood tested? Do you know where you stand?
Are you consistent with food choices?
Do you exercise regularly and stay active? Do you limit sitting?
Do you get at least 8 hours of quality sleep per night?
Do you prioritize health enhancing behaviors and limit destructive ones?
QUESTIONS
yes no
Health.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your health. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your health is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “health” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your health.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
Health.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
IDEAS
Margin in your health looks like…
✓ Getting a comprehensive blood test (go here — choose the baseline panel).
✓ Improving your cholesterol panel for better heart health.
✓ Making sure other key markers are in order (Vitamin D, Thyroid, etc.).
✓ Getting an extra hour of sleep per night or rebooting your sleep completely.
✓ Supplementing for the most common deficiencies.
✓ Transforming your eating by avoiding ANTI foods.
✓ Completing a comprehensive health overhaul program like Total Body Reboot.
Health.
LIFESTYLE AUDITPersonal Development.
Life is growth. Too often, we’re living an existence of stagnation and flying on autopilot. Actively pursuing personal development is a dedication to improving awareness and identity, developing talents and potential, building human capital, enhancing quality of life and contributing to the realization of dreams and aspirations. It’s another essential ingredient for happiness.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
Do you regularly learn new, valuable skills?
Do you embrace change?
Do you read at least at least six non-fiction books per year?
Do you intentionally improve areas of your life, even challenging ones?
Do you routinely set and achieve personal goals?
QUESTIONS
yes no
Personal Development.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your personal development. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your personal development is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “personal development” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your personal development.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
Personal Development.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
IDEAS
Margin in your personal development looks like…
✓ Taking action instead of procrastinating.
✓ Actively pursuing education through reading, writing, & experiential learning.
✓ Refusing to blindly accept the status-quo.
✓ Routinely challenging your comfort zone.
✓ Traveling and meeting new people.
✓ Exposing yourself to new ideas and putting yourself in other people’s shoes.
✓ Practicing empathy.
Personal Development.
LIFESTYLE AUDITFun & Hobbies.
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, right? Inherently, you know this. You want to have amazing hobbies. You want to laugh, spend hours doing nothing, and you want to travel the globe. But… Exactly. But. You don’t do it. A lot of it is because you’re working on building margin in other areas. And some of it is because you’re afraid. It’s time to fix that.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
Do you have a hobby that fulfills you in which you actively participate?
Do you play and laugh often? With friends and family?
Do you travel for fun and adventure on a regular basis?
Do you schedule frequent boy’s/girl’s nights out?
Do you consider life to be more fun than stressful?
QUESTIONS
yes no
Fun & Hobbies.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your fun and hobbies. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your lack of fun and hobbies is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “fun and hobbies” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your fun and hobbies.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
Fun & Hobbies.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
IDEAS
Margin in your fun and hobbies looks like…
✓ Prioritizing the hobbies you already have so you can spend more time on them.
✓ Developing a new hobby, especially one that requires learning a new skill.
✓ Bonus points if you can choose a hobby that your spouse or children are interested in.
✓ Scheduling a trip that’s centered around adventure and exploration.
✓ Scheduling a boy’s/girl’s night out.
✓ Making a list of five things you loved to do for fun as a child or teen and do one per week for the next five weeks, no matter how silly or outlandish.
Fun & Hobbies.
LIFESTYLE AUDITStructure.
Do you often say, “I’m too busy.” Are you over-scheduled? Are you unorganized, either physically and mentally? Mental disorganization creates a messiness in life, similar to physical disorganization, that increases stress and decreases margin in other areas. Structure doesn’t mean life is a boring routine, it means using organization to increase freedom.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
Do you have a schedule or calendar to help stay organized?
Do you utilize to-do lists?
Do you respect others by not missing engagements and being on time?
Is your physical life — house, car, office, etc. — organized?
Are you mentally & emotionally flexible when things don’t go as planned?
QUESTIONS
yes no
Structure.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
I checked all the “yes” boxes…
ACTIONI Missed a few…
Congratulations, you’ve likely got enough margin in your structure. Though, if for some reason you feel you need more, follow the instructions in the box to the right.
Your lack of structure is putting your dreams and your greatness in jeopardy.
Immediately grab a sheet of paper and write “structure” at the top. Then list out clear action steps you’re going to take to create more margin in your structure.
Do not write goals on this sheet, only actions you intend to take, with specificity, and by a certain deadline.
Structure.
LIFESTYLE AUDIT
IDEAS
Margin in your structure looks like…
✓ Mastering Evernote (click here). Seriously, do this now.
✓ Using a calendar and to-do list to keep track of engagements.
✓ Planning out the three most important things you want to do each day and doing them first.
✓ Organizing your physical work and living spaces.
✓ Having a loose 3, 6, and 12 month plan for what you want to accomplish in your personal and professional life.
Structure.
WRAPPING UP
This workbook won’t help you if you don’t actually check off the boxes and do the worksheets. It’s easy to nod your head as you flip through it and then say, “yep, he’s right” as you stuff it into a folder on your hard drive. You deserve a better life and it starts right here, right now.
!
I know how you operate. Go back and do the work.
A DIFFERENT WAY OF THINKING
The Rebooted Body project and the Total Body Reboot program are not interested in short-term weight loss, gimmicks, or magic pills. !You deserve to live the rest of your life at a healthy weight, free of nagging ailments, with boundless energy and full mobility. And that’s what we’re dedicated to helping you achieve. !This guide contains actionable psychology advice that has helped hundreds of my clients over 17 countries succeed with that mission and create a permanent lifestyle change. !Of course, these tips aren’t the entire story. If you‘re someone who values help and coaching, wants a clear roadmap for getting from point A to point B, and would like having a supportive community to back you up then Total Body Reboot is waiting for you. !Men and women who have been struggling for most of their life find success inside of this personalized program that combines an unconventional approach to nutrition and exercise with modern psychology.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
In 2009 I weighed more than 220 pounds (60 pounds overweight) having just relapsed from a conventional calorie-restriction, exercise-heavy diet. I was a sugar addict and borderline diabetic with high blood pressure. !This was the third or fourth struggle (and failure) with trying to lose fat and maintain my progress and I was fed up. !Instead of trying yet again, I decided to radically change my approach by challenging the conventional wisdom I was following. I came across a few authors talking about ancestral health, followed their advice and saw great initial success. I was amazed at how easy it was and how great I felt. !During my journey, I continued to run into psychological roadblocks and finally was derailed after getting all of the way down to 170 pounds. After another relapse, I decided to reorganize how I was approaching eating based on things I had learned through personal testing, and most importantly I started focusing on the mindset and psychology of the process. !After finding the right mix of nutrition and psychology I dropped to 162 pounds (my current weight) and haven’t looked back. I enjoy a better body, better sleep, better skin, and better performance and I’m committed to helping thousands of other people do the same.
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