The Science Behind Coaching -By Ram Srinivasan Agile Coach and Trainer amvasan, http://linkedin.com/in/ramvas
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The Science Behind Coaching -By Ram Srinivasan Agile Coach and
Trainer @ramvasan, http://linkedin.com/in/ramvasan
About This Session Is not a Learn about Coaching 101 session.
Brain Science is an evolving field, multiple models exist for
complex processes Though I explain a process by itself, the brain
parallelizes a lot of processes at the same time Same brain regions
can be active during different processes
How It Works- You Choose Or1. 2. Or Or 3. Or
The Basics Triune Brain Theory
Brains Braking System and Emotional Regulation
What different strategies do you use to regulate your own
emotions (as coaches)? Lets Talk About Emotions What different
strategies do you use with your clients to regulate their
emotions?
The Thinking vs. The Feeling
The Thinking vs. The Feeling (Thinking) (Feeling) Slow Accurate
Rational(Thinking) vs. Fast Approximate Action(Feeling)
An Quick Example If a bat and a ball together cost $1.10, and
the bat costs a dollar more than the ball, what does the ball
cost?
The Negative Limbic Arousal are Faster, Longer and
Stronger
Would You Buy a Car If The brakes are fragile, get worn out
easily Works only now and then and is temperamental Capacity to
apply brakes decrease each time you use it? Consumes a lot of fuel
when you use the brake?
Our Brains Braking System Motor (associated with movement) Self
Control Cognitive (thinking) Self Control
Talking About Emotions Would you feel better or worse if you
talked about your emotions? Labeling vs Venting Labeling with
Symbolic Language (metaphors, metrics, simplification of the
experience) Ironic inference after Affect Labeling experiments
Labeling / Naming Emotions HELLO My emotional state is Certain
intentional activities have incidental or unintentional effect on
emotions
Exercise: What questions can you ask your coachee so that
he/she can label emotions? Example: In a word or two, how would you
describe that experience?
Labeling Tips and Tricks Disentangling input from
interpretation of input (feelings) makes it easy to label emotions
and makes it easy to identify them when they arise An emotionally
rich vocabulary will help someone label emotions better Ability to
observe our own thoughts, feelings and behaviors will help us be
more aware of our emotions I.e. Merely seeing yourself promotes
self-restrain Affect labeling also promotes decentering (ability to
perceive thoughts and feelings as both impermanent and objective
occurrences in the mind)
Intentional Emotional Regulation Would you rather have $5, no
strings attached, or instead flip and coin and win $10 or
nothing?
Intentional Emotional Regulation I give you $10, you can give
me $5 back, or we can flip a coin and can lose $10 or nothing
Intentional Emotional Regulation Would you rather have $5, no
strings attached, or instead flip and coin and win $10 or nothing?
I give you $10, you can give me $5 back, or we can flip a coin and
can lose $10 or nothing Our Feeling Brain is more sensitive to
framing whereas our Thinking Brain is more sensitive to facts
Intentional Emotional Regulation Cognitive Reappraisal: Our
realities derives from the stories we tell ourselves, at least the
ones we believe Works when we are not in the most intense part of
our emotional reaction Some cognitive clarity needed Depends on
other people in the room
Intentional Emotional Regulation Perspective Taking: Ability to
think in terms of what the other person might be thinking Empathy
kicks in before perspective taking Taking a third person
perspective and first person perspective activate different regions
of the brain Shaking off and physically moving (to a different
perspective) help brain get more oxygen and also generate new
thoughts
Mirror Neurons Mirror System in monkey and humans
Counter Mirroring - Mirror Neuron Intervention Identify what
you are feeling Entertain the idea that your brain may be mirroring
others feeling Stop negative self-talk, attacks and complaints
temporarily Your emotions also reflect the sum total of other
peoples emotions Think about a complementary feeling or action