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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
Let’s cut to the chase.
Conflict is an inevitable
part of life.
We either cause it or
are victims of it.
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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
Whether it’s at home
or in the workplace,
conflict can erode
relationships, spread to
others who were not
originally part of the
conflicting situation
and cause so much
disharmony,
that business is
adversely affected.
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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
Let me shoot some facts at you, which will hopefully
whet your appetite to know how to tackle
conflict head-on
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Unresolved conflict represents the largest reducible cost in many businesses, yet it remains largely unrecognized
2 The total value of lost work time due to stress is estimated to be $1.7 billion
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Chronic unresolved conflict acts as a decisive factor in at least 50% of departures. Conflict accounts for up to 90% of involuntary departures, with the possible exception of staff reductions due to downsizing and restructuring
4 Up to 30% of a typical manager’s time is spent dealing with conflict
If you are a manager – the last fact is a scary statistic and really underlines the need to get a better grip on dealing with
conflict.
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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
With this in mind, let’s take a look at
some golden rules when approaching conflict
and the first top tip is this:
Conflict doesn’t
necessarily have to be a
bad thing!
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This piece of enlightenment should be embraced as most of us invariably shy away from conflict or relish the prospect of going toe-to-toe with our nemesis. We’ll consider this passive or aggressive stance a little later. For now, understand and accept this simple truth…
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It’s not the conflict that’s the problem, it’s the way we deal with it that is. If you see conflict as an opportunity that presents a chance to enter into good dialogue, then you’re half-way there. This positive attitude really does make a difference psychologically and will subconsciously spread to all those involved.
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How to resolve conflict in the workplace
STRATEGIZE
Managers who are adept at dealing with conflict often make it look easy.
What is it about their laid back, self-confident and approachable demeanour?
Consider these three steps:
Diagnose the
Problem
Strategize for it
Solve it
1 2 3
So let’s consider what each stage entails…
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STRATEGIZE
Rest-assured, under that veneer of calm – there lies an individual who has invested time studying the magic of interpersonal effectiveness.
Good managers make it look easy because they have put all the right mechanisms into place in the first instance.
Consider these three steps:
Diagnose the
Problem
Strategize for it
Solve it
1 2 3
So let’s consider what each stage entails…
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Firstly, it’s critical to understand the conflict in the first place.
Ask yourself some questions:
What’s going on?
Why has this happened? Is there a history to this conflict?
Who are the main players?
How am I perceiving this conflict?
What is the balance of power?
What is the scope of the conflict now? What about tomorrow?
In what direction will the escalation go? Up, down, across or every which way?
1.
Diagnose the Problem
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Managers who take the time to diagnose conflict have invested
their time wisely.
Having a better appraisal of the situation allows you to facilitate
the right dialogue.
1.
Diagnose the Problem
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In the 1970s, Kenneth W. Thomas and Ralph H. Kilmann identified five styles of dealing with conflict.
They argued that people typically have a preferred style, ranging from a more assertive to passive style of conflict management.
They also noted that different styles were most useful in different situations.
They developed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument.
The styles are as follows:
2.
Strategize for it
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2.
Strategize for it CO
OPERATIV
E
UN
CO
OPERATIV
E
ASSERTIVE
UNASSERTIVE
Competing
Collaborating
Avoiding
Accommodating
Compromising
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People who have a preference for a competing style take a firm stance and know exactly what they want.
These individuals tend to operate from a position of power drawn from expertise or persuasive ability. This style can be useful when there is an emergency and a decision needs to be made fast, also when the decision is unpopular or when defending against someone who is trying to exploit a situation.
However it can leave people feeling resentful when used in less urgent situations and when applied for every situation.
2. Strategize for it
COMPETING
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People who have a tendency to employ a collaborative style try to meet the needs and expectations of all individuals involved.
This style is useful when you need to bring together a variety of viewpoints to get the best solution, when there have been previous conflicts in the group, or when the situation is too important for a simple trade-off.
However, one disadvantage is that the collaborative approach can be time consuming when trying to meet everyone’s needs.
2. Strategize for it
COLLABORATIVE
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People who prefer a compromising style try to find a solution that will at least partially satisfy everyone.
Everyone is expected to give up something and the compromiser him- or herself also expects to relinquish something.
This style is useful when the cost of conflict is higher than the cost of losing ground, when equal strength opponents are at a standstill and when there is a deadline looming. However, the disadvantage of compromising is just that. When you compromise you have to be prepared to sacrifice something.
2. Strategize for it
COMPROMISING
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With the accommodating style, you try to meet the needs of others at the expense of your own needs.
The accommodator often knows when to give in to others, but can be persuaded to surrender a position even when it is not warranted. This person is not assertive but is highly cooperative.
Accommodation is appropriate when the issues matter more to the other party. This is a nice style to use when you want to generate good will, but if you accommodate all the time, you will be taken advantage of.
2. Strategize for it
COMPROMISING ACCOMMODATING
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People who use this style tend to dodge the conflict entirely.
This style is typified by delegating controversial decisions, accepting default decisions and not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings.
It can be appropriate when victory is impossible, when the controversy is trivial, or when someone else is in a better position to solve the problem. However in many situations this is a weak and ineffective approach to take and if you choose to always employ this style, you’ll be perceived as weak and incapable of managing situations.
2. Strategize for it
AVOIDING
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2. Strategize for it
The key to using these conflict management styles is by
understanding that if you predominantly use the same style all
the time, you’re probably using the wrong style, most of the
time.
A good conflict handler has the ability to flex their style,
knowing which one to use given the situation they are
confronted with.
This brings us to the third and final element of effectively
strategizing for greater conflict management.
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This stage looks at actually having the conversation and that conversation could be structured in the following way:
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Solve it
1 Opening
2 Inquiry
3 Acknowledgement
4 An invitation to partner
5 Problem solving
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Opening Offer a few of these openers and then ask for some input:
I need your help understanding what just happened. Can we talk?
I have something I’d like to discuss with you that I think will help us work together more effectively.
I’d like to talk about…, but first I’d like to get your point of view.
3. Solve it
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Inquiry 2 Get the facts and feelings.
Beware of assumptions, preconceptions and your emotion.
Be curious rather than furious. Learn about the other person’s point of view, how do things affect them, and what are their values and priorities?
Let the person talk until they’re finished. Don’t interrupt except to acknowledge. You’ll get your turn. Don’t rush. Whatever you hear, don’t take it personally.
3. Solve it
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Don’t argue about who’s right, explore each other’s stories.
Arguing without understanding their perspective is unpersuasive.
When the person has expressed all their energy on a topic, it’s your turn.
What can you see from your perspective that they have missed? Help to clarify your position without minimizing theirs.
Draw the person into seeking a mutually beneficial solution.
3. Solve it
Acknowledgement
An invitation to partner
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Problem solving When it comes to problem solving,
take the lead.
Ask the other person what they think would work.
Whatever they say, find something you can work with and build on.
If the conversation becomes adversarial, go back to inquiry.
3. Solve it
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Before we conclude this article on how to manage conflict, I mentioned that we’d consider the issues of passivity and aggression.
I’d like you to reflect on what your natural orientation would be.
You may well be a more aggressive individual, ready to stand their ground and not shy of getting into conflict.
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Conversely, you may find this uncomfortable – preferring to avoid conflict at all costs.
Neither position helps you deal with conflict. The only way to we effectively manage conflicting situations is to learn the skill of assertiveness.
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For it is a skill – rather than something we are born with.
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You may argue that by being aggressive, you will get what you want.
Well – very possibly, but only in the short term and in the meantime you will build up a great deal of resentment from those you bully and cajole into doing what serves you best.
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Equally, passive people may keep their heads below the parapets and acquiesce when pressed – thus avoiding conflict, but ultimately they will be overburdened with tasks.
Effectively, they will become the proverbial office beast of burden.
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Being assertive will give you the
tools to cope with conflict far more
effectively.
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Specifically, if aggression equals
my needs are greater than your
needs and passivity equals
your needs are greater than my
needs, then assertiveness is my
needs are equal to your needs.
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In conclusion, adopting these
best practices will not
guarantee that you will gain a
favourable outcome each and
every time, but it will
guarantee that you have done
everything possible to have
better conversations and that
in itself, will make you feel
better about dealing with a
part of life that can cause so
much stress.
Conclusion By learning to be assertive, you’ll:
Avoid finger pointing
Do your part in fostering a blame-free culture
Communicate in a respectful way – thus initiating a respectful transaction of views
Be confident that you have conducted yourself in a professional manner.
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