4/8/2015 Top 25 Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright 1 WHCA/WiCAL 53 rd Annual Spring Conference Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME” Rev. Scott Cartwright, MDiv., BCC Director of Spiritual Care Cerenity Senior Care of White Bear Lake 651-232-1842 [email protected]Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME” Outline 1. Presentation Description & Goals a. Elder’s and Chaplain’s Stories b. Identifying & Answering the Big Question Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME” Outline 2. Homing in on “HOME” – Hindrances & Nurturances a. Elders’ Views b. Your View c. The “ Institution’s” View Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright
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Top 25 Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright 1
WHCA/WiCAL 53rd Annual Spring Conference
Top 25
Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME”
Rev. Scott Cartwright, MDiv., BCC Director of Spiritual Care
Cerenity Senior Care of White Bear Lake 651-232-1842
Spiritual Equivalencies of HOME, Rev. J. Scott Cartwright
Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME”
Outline
1. Presentation Description & Goals a. Elder’s and Chaplain’s Stories
b. Identifying & Answering the Big Question
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Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME”
Outline
2. Homing in on “HOME” –
Hindrances & Nurturances
a. Elders’ Views
b. Your View
c. The “ Institution’s” View
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Top 25 Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME”
Outline
3. Top Twenty Five Countdown – Vital Spiritual
Equivalencies of “HOME”
4. Personal and Professional Integration
5. HOME Blessing
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An Elder’s Story:
Facing Reality
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“What is the matter with us,
that when you need home the most – when you need community the most,
when you need choice the most, when you need self-confidence the most, when you need relationships the most –
you don’t have it?
It never even occurred to us that where you live
could be a home.”
Steve Shields, nursing home administrator
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Introducing The Big Question
A Chaplain’s Story:
Realizing
the Big Question
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Am I willing to make this my HOME?
Am I
willing
to live in
my Care Center?
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Am I willing to make this my home?
“We must learn to see ourselves
in the faces of elders if we are to cultivate the empathy needed
to create a real home with them.
Imagine yourself as a resident.
What if it were you?”
(Shields, Norton, Sunbeam, p. 8)
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Your Story:
Let’s ask
the Big Question
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Am I willing
to make my Care Center HOME?
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Homing in on “HOME” –
Hindrances & Nurturances
Elders’ Views
Your View
The “ Institution’s” View
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Homing in on “HOME”
Top Twenty-Five
Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of
“HOME”
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“HOME” is…
#24
...Journey or Pilgrimage fueled by a universal longing.
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Homing in on “HOME”
“Classically, the understanding of life, the
unfolding of identity and creativity, the notion of growth and discovery were articulated through the metaphor of the journey…Each human life is the journey from childhood to a realized adult life. Each day is a journey out of darkness into light. Each friendship and love is the intimate journey where the soul is born and grows. The journey is the drama of the heart’s voyage into the tide of possibilities which open before it.”
(O’Donohue, Beauty, 25)
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Homing in on “HOME”
“HOME” is…
#23
…Paradox/Contradiction/
Perplexity/Not Knowing
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“The very contradictions in my life
are in some ways
signs of God's mercy to me.”
Thomas Merton
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“HOME” is…
#22
…Wildness
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“…in Wildness
is the preservation of the world.”
(Thoreau, Collected Essays and Poems,
“Walking,” p. 239)
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“HOME” is…
#21
…Solitude
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Margaret, out on the Veranda, early in the morning one day last summer… “I love the quiet, the solitude. It helps me think about my life, put things together…get things into perspective.”
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“HOME” is…
#20
...Belonging in a Community
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“In and through community lies the salvation of the world.”
(M. Scott Peck, The Different Drum, p. 17)
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Homing in on “HOME”
“HOME” is…
#19
...Body
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“The body is your only home in the universe. It is your house of belonging here in the world.”
(O’Donohue, Anam Cara, 48)
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“HOME” is…
#18
...Strength found in Brokenness/
Weakness/Disability
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Adam: God’s Beloved
Through embracing Adam’s brokenness, Henri Nouwen came to be able to embrace his own brokenness, and to become more human, and to find himself finally at “home.”
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Adam: God’s Beloved
Through embracing Adam’s brokenness, Henri Nouwen came to be able to embrace his own brokenness, and to become more human, and to find himself finally at “home.”
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Homing in on “HOME”
“HOME” is…
#17
...the power of Gentleness/Tenderness
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“Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.”
(Matthew 5:5)
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“Everywhere there is tenderness, care and kindness, there is
beauty.”
(O’Donohue, Beauty, 12)
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“HOME” is…
#16
...experiencing Beauty
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“The human soul is hungry for beauty; we seek it everywhere – in landscape, music,
art, clothes, furniture, gardening, companionship, loved, religion and in
ourselves. No-one would desire not to be beautiful. When we experience the
Beautiful, there is a sense of homecoming.”
(John O’Donohue, Beauty, 2)
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“HOME” is…
#15
…having Time
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"Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be" …"Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now"
(Tolle, The Power of Now, p. 41)
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“HOME” is…
#14
…Radical Hospitality /
Welcoming the Stranger
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“HOME” is…
#13
…Surprise!!
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“I would say about individuals, an individual dies when he ceases to be surprised. I am surprised every morning that I see the sun shine again. When I see an act of evil I’m not accommodated – I don’t accommodate myself to the violence that goes on everywhere. I’m still surprised. That’s why I’m against it, why I can fight against it. We must learn how to be surprised. Not to adjust ourselves. I am the most maladjusted person in society.”
Abraham Joshua Heschel, On Being with Krista Tippett
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“HOME” is…
#12
...Play
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Question
Do you play at home?
At your work home?
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“To play is one of the most precious ways of being together and creating
human fellowship. To play is the affirmation of the goodness of the
here and now and the celebration of the moment. We play not because we
want to accomplish something, but simply because we are alive…life is a playful dance in the presence of God.”
(Nouwen, Care and the Elderly)
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“HOME” is…
#11
…Meaning and Purpose
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“HOME” is…
#10
…Remembering
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“Everybody needs his memories. They keep
the wolf of insignificance
from the door.”
Saul Bellow
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“HOME” is…
#9
…Someone’s Waiting for Me
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“HOME” is…
#8
…Love/Compassion
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“…and the greatest of these is love.”
(1 Corinthians 13:13b)
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“HOME” is…
#7
…Family
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“HOME” is…
#6
…Friendship/Anam Cara
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“In everyone’s life, there is great need for an anam cara, a soul friend. In this love, you are understood as you are without mask or pretension. The superficial and functional lies and half-truths of social acquaintance fall away, you can be as you really are. Love allows understanding to dawn, and understanding is precious. Where you are understood, you are at home.”
“…The anam cara is God’s gift.” (O’Donohue, Anam Cara, 14,15)
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Homing in on “HOME”
“HOME” is…
#5
…Generosity/Kenosis
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Christian tradition – the Kenosis of Christ Philippians 2 5 Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God as something to be exploited, 7 but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, being born in human likeness. And being found in human form, 8 he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death— even death on a cross.
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“HOME” is…
#4
…Elderhood
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“elderhood noun The state of being and living as an elder. It is founded on the developmental potential that is latent in late life, and is as distinct from adulthood as adulthood is from childhood.” (Thomas, What Are Old People For?, 226.)
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Truly
“Verily”
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“HOME” is…
#3
…Seeing/Being Seen
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“Peek-a-boo.
I see you!”
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1 When Jesus saw the crowds, he went
up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him. 2 Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying: 3 "Blessed are…” (Matthew 5)
“But while he was still far off, his father
saw him and was filled with compassion..” (Luke 15:20b)
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“HOME” is…
#2
...My Self / My Human Being
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“What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves? This is the most important of all voyages of discovery, and without it, all the rest are not only useless, but disastrous...”
There is in us an instinct for newness, for renewal,
for a liberation of creative power. We seek to awaken in ourselves a force that really changes our lives from within. And yet the same instinct tells us that this change is a recovery of that which is deepest, most original, most personal in ourselves. To be born again is not to become somebody else, but to become ourselves. Thomas Merton
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“HOME” is…
#1
…the end of my days - Dying/Death
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“Lord,
show me the end of my days, that I might gain
a heart of wisdom.”
Psalm 90:12
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“HOME” is…
#0
…God/Blessing/
Healing/Wholeness
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"You have made us for yourself,
O Lord,
and our heart is restless
until it rests in you.“
Saint Augustine
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“HOME” is…
+?
…What would you add?
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“HOME” is…
+?
…What would you add?
…What is a vital spiritual equivalency
of “Home” to you?
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”Responses to “HOME”
Personal?
Professional?
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HOME BLESSING
For a New Home
May this house shelter your life. When you come in home here, may all the weight of the world
fall from your shoulders. May your heart be tranquil here,
blessed by peace the world cannot give. May this home be a lucky place,
where the graces your life desires always find the pathway to your door.
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HOME BLESSING
May nothing destructive ever cross your threshold. May this be a safe place
full of understanding and acceptance, where you can be as you are, without the need of any mask
of pretense or image. May this home be a place of discovery,
where the possibilities that sleep in the clay of your soul can emerge
to deepen and refine your vision for all that is yet to come to birth.
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HOME BLESSING
May it be a house of courage, where healing and growth are loved,
where dignity and forgiveness prevail; a home where patience of spirit is prized,
and the sight of the destination is never lost though the journey may be difficult and slow. May there be great delight around this hearth.
May it be a house of welcome for the broken and diminished. May you have the eyes to see
that no visitor arrives without a gift and no guest leaves without a blessing.
John O’Donohue, To Bless the Space Between Us: A Book of Blessings
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Thank you.
May God bless you
and those you work with
in such a way
that you are each
at HOME.
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WHCA/WiCAL 53rd Annual Spring Conference
Top 25
Vital Spiritual Equivalencies of “HOME”
Rev. Scott Cartwright, MDiv., BCC Director of Spiritual Care
Cerenity Senior Care of White Bear Lake 651-232-1842
