Train Up a Child

Proverbs 22:6

By giving instruction

• Proverbs 1:8-9 “My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother; For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck.”

By giving instruction• Genesis 18:19 “For I have known him, in

order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him.” – Known—intimate relationship– Command…that they keep the way of the

Lord– Do righteousness– Receive the promise

By giving instruction

• Proverbs 3:1-2 (Ephesians 6:1-3) “My son, do not forget my law, But let your heart keep my commands; For length of days and long life And peace they will add to you.”

By giving instruction

• Proverbs 4:1-5, 13 “Hear, my children, the instruction of a father, And give attention to know understanding; For I give you good doctrine: Do not forsake my law. When I was my father’s son, Tender and the only one in the sight of my mother, He also taught me, and said to me: ‘Let your heart retain my words; Keep my commands, and live. Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth’….Take firm hold of instruction, do not let go; Keep her, for she is your life.”

By giving instruction

• Proverbs 13:1 “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke….He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.”

By warning about evil

• Proverbs 1:10 “My son, if sinners entice you, Do not consent.– 11-12 “If they say, “Come with us, Let us

lie in wait to shed blood; Let us lurk secretly for the innocent without cause; Let us swallow them alive like Sheol, And whole, like those who go down to the Pit;”

– 13-14 “We shall find all kinds of precious possessions, We shall fill our houses with spoil; Cast in your lot among us, Let us all have one purse”—

By warning about evil

• Proverbs 1:15 “My son, do not walk in the way with them, Keep your foot from their path;”– 16-18 “For their feet run to evil, And they

make haste to shed blood. Surely, in vain the net is spread In the sight of any bird; But they lie in wait for their own blood, They lurk secretly for their own lives.”

– 19 “So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners.”

By warning about evil

• Proverbs 4:14-17 “Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil. Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on. For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall. For they eat the bread of wickedness, And drink the wine of violence.”

By encouraging them to listen to God

• Proverbs 1:33 “But whoever listens to me will dwell safely, And will be secure, without fear of evil.”

• Proverbs 2:1, 5-7 “My son, if you receive my words, And treasure my commands within you,…Then you will understand the fear of the LORD, And find the knowledge of God. For the LORD gives wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly;”

By encouraging them to listen to God

• Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”– 7-8 “Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD

and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, And strength to your bones.”

– 9-10 “Honor the LORD with your possessions, And with the firstfruits of all your increase; So your barns will be filled with plenty, And your vats will overflow with new wine.”

– 11-12 “My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD, Nor detest His correction; For whom the LORD loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights.”

By encouraging them to listen to God

• Proverbs 9:10-11 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. For by me your days will be multiplied, And years of life will be added to you.”

• Proverbs 14:26-27 “In the fear of the LORD there is strong confidence, And His children will have a place of refuge. The fear of the LORD is a fountain of life, To turn one away from the snares of death.”

By encouraging them to listen to God

• Proverbs 22:17-19 “Incline your ear and hear the words of the wise, And apply your heart to my knowledge; For it is a pleasant thing if you keep them within you; Let them all be fixed upon your lips, So that your trust may be in the LORD; I have instructed you today, even you.”

By teaching proper treatment of neighbors

• Proverbs 3:27-28 “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, When it is in the power of your hand to do so. Do not say to your neighbor, ‘Go, and come back, And tomorrow I will give it,’ When you have it with you.”– Galatians 6:10– Matthew 25:31-46

By teaching proper treatment of neighbors

• Proverbs 3:29-30 “Do not devise evil against your neighbor, For he dwells by you for safety’s sake. Do not strive with a man without cause, If he has done you no harm.”

• Proverbs 11:30 “The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, And he who wins souls is wise.”

By teaching how to keep the heart

• Proverbs 4:20-23 “My son, give attention to my words; Incline your ear to my sayings. Do not let them depart from your eyes; Keep them in the midst of your heart; For they are life to those who find them, And health to all their flesh. Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”

By teaching how to keep the heart

• Watch your mouth– Proverbs 4:24 “Put away from you a

deceitful mouth, And put perverse lips far from you.”

– Proverbs 10:19-21 “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. The tongue of the righteous is choice silver; The heart of the wicked is worth little. The lips of the righteous feed many, But fools die for lack of wisdom.”

By teaching how to keep the heart

• Proverbs 4:25-27 “Let your eyes look straight ahead, And your eyelids look right before you. Ponder the path of your feet, And let all your ways be established. Do not turn to the right or the left; Remove your foot from evil.”

• Choosing friends wisely– Proverbs 12:26 “The righteous should choose his

friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.”

– Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.”

By teaching about purity• Proverbs 5:1-6 “My son, pay attention to

my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding, That you may preserve discretion, And your lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life—Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.”

By teaching about purity• Proverbs 5:15-20 “Drink water from your own

cistern, And running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?”

By teaching about purity• Proverbs 6:20, 24-29, 33-35 “My son, keep your

father’s command, And do not forsake the law of your mother…. To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, And his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent.”

• Proverbs 7:1, 5, 6-27

By teaching how to live• Do not be a co-signer

– Proverbs 6:1-5 “My son, if you become surety for your friend, If you have shaken hands in pledge for a stranger, You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth. So do this, my son, and deliver yourself; For you have come into the hand of your friend: Go and humble yourself; Plead with your friend. Give no sleep to your eyes, Nor slumber to your eyelids. Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter, And like a bird from the hand of the fowler.”

– Proverbs 11:15 “He who is surety for a stranger will suffer, But one who hates being surety is secure.”

By teaching how to live

• Work hard– Proverbs 6:6-11 “Go to the ant, you sluggard!

Consider her ways and be wise, Which, having no captain, Overseer or ruler, Provides her supplies in the summer, And gathers her food in the harvest. How long will you slumber, O sluggard? When will you rise from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, A little folding of the hands to sleep—So shall your poverty come on you like a prowler, And your need like an armed man.”

– Proverbs 12:11

By teaching how to live

• Be diligent, not lazy– Proverbs 10:4-5 “He who has a slack hand

becomes poor, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. He who gathers in summer is a wise son; He who sleeps in harvest is a son who causes shame.”

– Proverbs 10:26 “As vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes, So is the lazy man to those who send him.”

– Proverbs 13:4 “The soul of a lazy man desires, and has nothing; But the soul of the diligent shall be made rich.”

By teaching how to live

• Walk with integrity– Proverbs 10:9 “He who walks with integrity

walks securely, But he who perverts his ways will become known.”

– Proverbs 11:1, 3 “Dishonest scales are an abomination to the LORD, But a just weight is His delight….The integrity of the upright will guide them, But the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them.”

By teaching how to live

• Be generous—Proverbs 11:24-25 “There is one who scatters, yet increases more; And there is one who withholds more than is right, But it leads to poverty. The generous soul will be made rich, And he who waters will also be watered himself.”

By teaching how to live• Avoid Alcohol

– Proverbs 20:1 “Wine is a mocker, Strong drink is a brawler, And whoever is led astray by it is not wise.

– Proverbs 23:29-35 “Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has contentions? Who has complaints? Who has wounds without cause? Who has redness of eyes? Those who linger long at the wine, Those who go in search of mixed wine. Do not look on the wine when it is red, When it sparkles in the cup, When it swirls around smoothly; At the last it bites like a serpent, And stings like a viper. Your eyes will see strange things, And your heart will utter perverse things. Yes, you will be like one who lies down in the midst of the sea, Or like one who lies at the top of the mast, saying: ‘They have struck me, but I was not hurt; They have beaten me, but I did not feel it. When shall I awake, that I may seek another drink?’”