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True or False?
The breadth of information you self disclose is related to the person with whom you are talking.
The depth of information you self disclose is related to the reason you are disclosing and the level of intimacy in the relationship.
Relationships
STAGES Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Integrating Bonding Differentiating Circumscribing Stagnating Avoiding Terminating
Are always changing Movement is always to
a new place
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How do listening skills relate to healthy relationships?
What can happen when there are differences in communication styles and listening styles in relationships?
Four Personal Listening Styles
CONTENT ORIENTED: Focus on issues and arguments
PEOPLE ORIENTED: Focus on feelings and emotions
ACTION ORIENTED: Impatient and often finish speakers’ thoughts – tend to second guess
TIME ORIENTED: Prefer bulleted talking points quickly and briefly.
FAULTY LISTENING
Yes you can go to the concert, but I want you to call me when you get there, and I want you to take out the trash before you go, and you need to be home before 11:00 p.m.
I don’t think you understand what I’m saying.
I heard you.
I heard you say that you want me home by 11:00 p.m.
I heard what you said.
Here we go again with the trash!
Uh huh.
I heard exactly what
you said.
LISTENING
What do good listeners look like? Verbally Nonverbally
Listening is not a natural process. Listening requires effort (active not passive) All listeners do not receive the same
message. We hear uniquely different messages Physiological factors, social roles, cultural
background, personal interests, and needs.
Listening Stages
Attending –Mindfulness. Understanding/Interpreting Responding Remembering
Male and female intimacy styles
Cultural influences on intimacy
INTIMACY INTIMACY IN INTERPERSONAL IN INTERPERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
INTIMACY INTIMACY IN INTERPERSONAL IN INTERPERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
Intimacy
Physical intimacy Intellectual exchanges Emotional disclosure Shared activities
Characteristics of Self-Disclosure
Influenced by Culture Usually occurs in dyads Usually symmetrical Occurs incrementally FEW transactions involve high levels of self-
disclosure
Reasons for Self-Disclosure
Catharsis Self-Clarification Self-Validation Reciprocity Impression management Relationship maintenance and enhancement Control
Alternatives to Self-Disclosure
Lies White Lies
Equivocation Hinting
Face Saving
Perspectives & Tensions
ConnectionPredictabilityOpenness
AutonomyNoveltyPrivacy
Guidelines for Appropriate Self-Disclosure Is the other person important to you? Is the risk of disclosing reasonable? Are the amount and type of disclosure
appropriate? Is the disclosure relevant to the situation at
hand? Is the disclosure reciprocated? Will the effect be constructive? Is the the self-disclosure clear and
understandable?
MetacommunicationMessages (usually relational) that refer
to other messages: communication about communication.
CHARACTERISTICS OF CHARACTERISTICS OF INTERPERSONAL INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
CHARACTERISTICS OF CHARACTERISTICS OF INTERPERSONAL INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
SELF-DISCLOSURE IN SELF-DISCLOSURE IN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
SELF-DISCLOSURE IN SELF-DISCLOSURE IN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
A Helical Model of Relational Cycles(figure 6-3)
CLASS ACTIVITIES:CLASS ACTIVITIES:
Self-DisclosureSelf-DisclosureJohari Window Johari Window
CLASS ACTIVITIES:CLASS ACTIVITIES:
Self-DisclosureSelf-DisclosureJohari Window Johari Window