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Welcome to Day Two
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  • Slide 1
  • Welcome to Day Two
  • Slide 2
  • Follow Up from Day One Warm -up What is one thing you think you might need on a Kinship Support Plan? OR Comment on one thing you learned yesterday. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
  • Slide 3
  • Agenda Child-Rearing Practices Parenting Plus Working with Child Intervention Services Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Child-Rearing Practices 4 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Whats Changed Since You Parented? previous role of parent as disciplinarian now is as teacher/nurturer safe sleep practices issues about immunizations/vaccinations 5 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Whats Changed Since You Parented? contd technology children using it at an early age access to information web, social media access to support may be less family support if families are smaller and more distant from one another 6 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 to
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  • Safe Sleep Practices always put babies to sleep on their backs a crib is the safest place for a baby to sleep do not let a baby sleep for extended periods of time in a car seat, swing, playpen, or stroller do not expose the baby to second hand smoke do not share the bed
  • Slide 8
  • Parent as Teacher 8 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 Identifying long term goals Understand how children think and feel Problem solving Provide warmth
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  • Long Term Goals vs Short Term Goals Identify five things you need your child to accomplish before you leave the house in the morning. These are short term goals things that need to accomplish now. NowImagine your child at 20? What kind of person do you want your child be? What kind of relationship do you want to have with your child? These are long term goals things that take years to accomplish they are the heart of parenting. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Providing Warmth be kind and caring even when your child does something wrong listen to them look at the situation from their point of view laugh and play with them support them when they are facing challenges encourage them when they have to do something difficult tell them that you believe in them recognize their efforts and successes show them you trust them Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Providing Structure We are all more successful when: we are given the information that we need the rules or expectations are appropriate for our skills and abilities the reason for the rule is explained in an age appropriate way someone talks calmly with us about our mistakes someone shows us how to improve next time everyone follow the rules Punishment makes us afraid to try and doesnt teach us what they need to know to do better. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Physical Punishment Hitting is an ineffective discipline measure because it often inhibits rather than promotes learning. When a child is being hit, it is not possible to focus on what was wrong and on ways to do better. Instead, the child who is being hit is busy feeling fear, pain, resentment, and humiliation. Since their energy is being used to understand and cope with these feelings it cannot be expended on ways to fulfill the parents instructions. Physical punishment cannot be used on children in care. 12 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Understanding How Children Think and Feel the adult is responsible for considering the big picture expectations, childs skills and abilities, how the child learns best, the childs stress and insecurities, and the childs previous experiences success is challenged when our expectations do not match our childrens abilities Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Understanding How Children Think and Feel contd it is sometimes easy to believe the child is being intentionally bad this may be very short-sighted when we see the world through the eyes of a child we can begin to understand the real reasons for their behaviour Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Imagine car seat is uncomfortable needs to be readjusted not dressed for the weather afraid of the appointment needs to pee doesnt think he has to listen you missed breakfast tired lonely or sad missing his parents, friends feeling sick Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 Youre hurrying out the door to an appointment and your 3 year old is refusing to get in the car seat. What might he be thinking and feeling?
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  • Imagine Your 9 year old is acting out a lot lately and now you have found out he deliberately didnt tell you about a meeting with the teacher last night. What might he be thinking and feeling? in trouble at school being bullied at school afraid you will give him up missing his regular school may have learning difficulties missing his family or friends he may be afraid of your reaction based on experience with other adults Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Imagine Your 14 year old wants you to extend curfew to 11:00 p.m. on weekends. You have resisted because you are afraid it will lead to getting in trouble. Tonight she was due back at 10:00 but is already an hour late. What might she be thinking and feeling? first issue is we dont even know it was deliberate but that is often our first assumption could be a power play - showing she can stay out late and not get in trouble missed bus trying to establish her independence conflict with parents rules and your rules Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Problem Solving Including the child in the discussion about what to do teaches them to: collaborate compromise see the relationship between the rules and the consequences learn there are always multiple ways of responding to problems Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Parenting Plus 19 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Why does he do that?? There are many reasons for a childs behaviours and some children will need assessments and support from professionals. Some reasons may include: temperament personality differences prenatal exposure to alcohol or drugs exposure to family violence trauma from emotional, physical, or sexual abuse or neglect attachment or grief and loss 20 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Behaviours Underlying Emotional Problems 21
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  • When is a behaviour a concern? What behaviours are the hardest for you to deal with? they can all be normal at various developmental stages they may be of concern when the behaviours are frequent are severe interfering with daily life dont improve as the child ages dont respond to a nurturing supportive environment resistant to change 22 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Our Reaction we may take it personally we feel the child is deliberately acting out we feel the child challenging our authority we feel overwhelmed we may yell, punish we may push the child away emotionally 23 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Temperament whats it all about? Temperament describes how we approach and react to the world. it is our personality we are born with our temperament temperament is not right or wrong Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 24
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  • Temperament - contd our temperament may change slightly from one situation or environment to another we can learn to adapt to different situations as we mature temperament can be impacted by trauma we cannot deliberately change another persons temperament Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 25
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  • Aspects of Temperament AspectLow levelHigh level Activity Levellikes to be quiet and calm likes to be on the go Response to new shy and/or anxiousloves new experiences/people Adaptability to change needs warning of changed plans goes with the flow Distractibilityable to focus for a long time needs to change activities frequently Persistenceloses interest quicklysees things through until they are completed Intensityunexpressive emotionally extremely expressive Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 26
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  • Prenatal Exposure to Alcohol or Drugs Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • FASD: Whose Fault is it? FASD is a diagnosis for two Mom and child. Admitting that I drank while I was pregnant can be too hard to bear. Maybe I cant admit itnot yet. Let it go. Forget about fault, its in the past now; Dont blame yourself; Dont blame the childs mother; Dont blame the child its not that they wont behave, its that they cant. Remember the child comes first. Thats why were here. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • FASD UMBRELLA FAS - Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Full syndrome; growth deficiency; classical facial features, significant dysfunction. 29 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 PFAS - Partial Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Does not portray all the physical features but still has disability. ARND - Alcohol Related Neurodevelopmental Disorder Significant brain dysfunction but no physical defects. ARBD - Alcohol Related Birth Defect Development of heart, kidney, eyes, and auditory system as well as brain function are affected.
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  • The FASD Brain Drinking alcohol while pregnant does physical damage to the babys brain. Primary disabilities are a direct result of the damage done to the brain Secondary characteristics can occur because the person has FASD Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Primary Disabilities memory problems intellectually impaired issues with fine and gross motor skills language delays and deficits impaired social and emotional development 31 DRAFT Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 impaired executive functioning (day to day functioning) problems with attention and/or learning behaviour regulation challenges sensory impairments
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  • Secondary Characteristics mental health issues substance abuse trouble with the law dependent living or homelessness 32 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 disrupted school experience inappropriate sexual behaviour problems with employment This is the area where positive caregiving can potentially influence outcomes.
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  • Parenting the Child with FASD give one instruction at a time use lists and pictures to help the child be organized prepare the child for changes have consistent routines use simple rules that are concrete limit choices to two keep them simple watch for signs the child is tired or frustrated and intervene Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Parenting the Child with FASD contd decide what is most important and focus time and energy on that use the when/then rule -- when you clean up then you can watch TV expect to teach the same things many times talk about them, demonstrate them, help the child do them, etc. avoid overstimulation set realistic expectations based on ability not age Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Impact of Drug Exposure Depends on the drugs used: withdrawal low birth weight prematurity delayed speech and motor skills sensory impairments possible long term developmental effects problems with attention, hyperactivity, and mood control Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Exposure to Family Violence Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Exposure to Family Violence prenatally, the brain structure is altered by the Cortisol production of the mother Cortisol is produced when the person is stressed and is more damaging to the developing brain than is alcohol families typically are isolated from helpful social support 37 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 37
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  • Impact of Exposure to Family Violence skills may regress when exposure begins at risk for bullying or being bullied school issues - problems learning or become the perfectionist parentified child takes responsibility for younger siblings unhealthy expression of anger mental health issues anxiety, depression are common as the child ages stress related health issues often continue through life at risk for unhealthy coping as teens alcohol/drugs, gangs Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 38
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  • 39 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 First Impressions
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  • Keep in Mind all children in care have faced challenges and some may have had little support from their parents they may have learned that adults are not to be trusted our expectations may be totally unlike those of their parents and we cannot assume they know our expectations punishment pushes the child away without discussion of how they are feeling what are they thinking? 40 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Effect of Abuse & Neglect on the Brain Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • The Amazing Brain! Sophisticated Social - Emotional Safety Sensory (Doesnt look like this at all) Brain Facts: Develops from bottom to top 90% of the size of the adult brain by age of three Brains have sensitive periods Brains start pruning during adolescence The brain has plasticity Brains arent finished developing until the mid-twenties (It looks like this:) Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • What Happens in the Brain Sophisticated Social - Emotional Safety Sensory Blood pressure Heart rate Body temperature Sleep Appetite Arousal Attachments/Relationships Emotional reactivity Large/fine motor skills Reward Logical thinking Planning Socialization/affiliation Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Repeated exposure to abuse: I WILL SURVIVE Sophisticated Social - Emotional Safety Sensory TERROR ALARM FEAR ALERT CALM Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • EXERCISE: Where are you? CALM ALERT ALARMFEAR TERROR Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Helping the Child with their Trauma Regulate Calm voices, calm touch, sensory items Regulate Walking, swinging, rocking Relate Side by side and one-on-one Reason Problem-solving and self-talk Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Neglect and Children Neglect can occur in a variety of ways: not enough food, clothing or shelter not keeping the child safe enough not meeting their emotional needs not meeting their cognitive needs not meeting their social needs There is a lot that goes into creating a healthy person! Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Neglect and the Brain Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Helping the Neglected Child nutrition is very important routine, rules and boundaries good sleep habits lots of positive attention rich environment reading to the child, listening to calming music limit TV and video games involvement in outdoor activities recreation swimming, biking, (non-competitive) Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Recommended Training Safe Babies Caring for Prenatally Exposed Infants; Working with ADD, ADHD, ODD and other Diagnoses; Understanding FASD, Child Sexual Abuse, etc. Parenting Our Special Needs Children; Parenting Tool Box; Goals of Misbehaviour, etc. Courses on Maintaining a Childs Culture Contact your kinship worker about the Core Caregiver training available in your area. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • The Goal of the Kinship Parent To provide a child with a safe, nurturing environment where she can experience physical and emotional growth and a feeling of security and self-esteem. 51 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Building the Childs Tool Kit Resilience - the ability to survive and thrive despite experiencing trauma. Self-confidence - a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. Security trust, safety, dependable, reliable. Attachment builds strong emotional bonds with others. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Resiliency Children need your help developing these seven qualities of resilience: 1. relationships with healthy adult role models 2. self-confidence 3. feeling in control of their lives 4. problem solving skills solve problems 5. equal opportunities for success 6. safe places to sleep, healthy food, clothing and more 7. a feeling of belonging within their community Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Self-Confidence Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. Ralph Waldo Emerson help the child try new things without fear of failure or making a error role model how you react when a mistake is made be specific in talking about their strengths avoid you are a good boy instead try you are so helpful when you make your bed you are so kind when you share your toys Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Security dont assume their trust plan to earn it keep your promises be consistent discuss rules/expectations that may be different than at home keep them informed in an age appropriate way avoid surprises when it directly affects their life be honest Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Attachment attachment is critical to healthy child development having a warm, trusting relationship with an adult predicts future healthy relationships throughout the childs life attachment begins at birth lack of attachment will require the caregiver establish trust through consistent, loving parenting trust must be earned in the new relationship with the child 56 Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • The Arousal-Relaxation Cycle Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 57 Relaxation Need Displeasure TrustSecurityAttachment Needs Satisfied 57
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  • Positive Interaction Cycle Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014 58
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  • Child Intervention Services (the System) Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Myths and Facts - Criteria MythFact Being a kinship care provider has stricter rules and requirements than a foster or adoptive home. While there are rules and requirements in place to make sure the children are safe, the requirements are the same as for foster and adoptive homes. An individual is not eligible to be a kinship caregiver if they have a criminal record or if they have a child intervention history. Each applicant is assessed on an individual basis and applicants should not rule themselves out before applying. A kinship caregiver must provide a bedroom for each child or youth in their home. Expectations are reasonable and focus on the importance of each child having his or her own bed but not their own room. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Myths and Facts contd MythFact Kinship caregivers must maintain a spotless home, free from clutter and mess. Homes that house children are full of activity which can lead to disorder. While it is necessary to maintain a cleanly home, we know busy, happy children dont worry if the laundry isnt put away. Kinship caregivers must be employed. Kinship caregivers do not differ from other Alberta families. Sometimes both parents are employed, sometimes one parent is employed, and sometimes parents rely on other sources of income. What is important is that kinship care should not be considered as a source of income and caregivers must have the ability to provide for the needs of their family. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Myths and Facts contd MythFact The sexual orientation of kinship caregivers is a consideration. The most important factor to consider when making a placement is meeting the needs of the child or youth. Any home where the child will be safe, supported, and cared for will be considered in the application process. Kinship caregivers are not eligible to access relief/respite supports. Relief/respite care is available to assist kinship caregivers. As part of a team, kinship caregivers are supported to take a break when necessary. Kinship care support workers, along with caseworkers will assist caregivers in accessing respite care. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Supports Children in care receive therapeutic supports, education supports and recreation funds as well as vacation/camp allowances. Childs parents receive therapeutic supports, for example, family support, parenting support, etc. Kinship caregivers receive basic maintenance, child care (babysitting, relief), start up and ongoing supports, & supports to attend training. A Kinship Care Support Plan is negotiated to provide the supports and services kinship caregivers need. Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Who Can You Call for Support? Kinship Care Support Worker Childs Caseworker or Casework Supervisor Alberta Foster Parent Association Other Kinship families Office of the Child and Youth Advocate, to advocate for the child Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014
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  • Next Steps Review the Kinship Care Guidebook for Caregivers with your kinship support worker. Consider the supports your family will need to provide good care for the child and advocate for your child. Dont forget to ask for help if you need it. Thank you for becoming a kinship caregiver!! Kinship Orientation Training Alberta 2014

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