What to Expect When Expecting Desire ?
SexualFocus.com.auWhat to Expect When Expecting Desire ?
What to Expect When Expecting Desire ? SexualFocus.com.au
Take a deep warm breath in, as deeply as you can, as if you can’t take in any more and then I want you to let it all out. This deep breath is all about you. As you luxuriously inhale and exhale, your mind will start to bring your awareness back into your body, into this moment, now. As you con>nue to breathe with conscious awareness no>ce how you are feeling and at the end of the next deep breathe I’d like you to smile. Just a li@le. Feels light -‐ right. I’d like you to journey back in >me to a >me when desiring touch, in>macy, sexual a@en>on and sex with your partner was desired by you. A >me when responding to them happened with ease. A >me when you craved to spend more >me together, when you longed for their touch, their breath, their kiss, their a@en>on. To a >me when you wanted them to want you
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Can you take yourself to a place where you can feel as you once did? Close your eyes and spend a few moments recalling those memories. ~~~ As you open your eyes and recall those moments, those memories, How do you feel in your body? Was there at >me when you experienced desire for your partner? Where you able to tap into those feelings, now? Are you feeling warm and fuzzy? Are you feeling turned on? ~~~ When you think about desiring sex these days what thoughts come? Do you spend your >me thinking about your evening with them in the way that you use to?
What to Expect When Expecting Desire ? SexualFocus.com.au
If you find it difficult to tap into your sexual desire I’m wondering if you know why that might be?
Life Kids Work Stress Finances Laundry Family dramas Not communica>ng well Your partner is driving you nuts?
When we are s>ll forming a@achments we can find it so much easier to priori>se >me with our partners but as >me passes and life gets hec>c our focus can shiS elsewhere. It can become even harder to push life stressors and other commitments aside as we try to pause our lives so that we can refocus and reconnect with our partner.
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So when you think about your libido and desiring sex what do you expect to be feeling?
Whatever your answer might be, most will want it to be as it used to be? What’s on your list?
o I used to think about them all day o I used to dress in things that would come off easily, just in case! o I used to sit there hoping that they would lean over and touch you o When we weren’t in>mate I would wonder if everything was OK o I expected us to be in>mate when we got together o It used to be easy o My body always responded o My body was always ready o It felt so good o It felt natural o It happened spontaneously
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Whatever your story, whatever your memories are, if you find it difficult to
get into the mood for sex then you can’t help but wonder what happened and how to get it back. Not feeling the way you used to tells you that you don’t want sex because you remember what it felt like when you did and this is not how you used to feel. So let me throw some ques>ons your way… What is your defini>on of desire? When you don’t desire sex what isn’t happening?
What are you not feeling? What are you not thinking? What are you not able to do?
Most people will say that they just don’t feel like it. Whatever you are meant to feel, well it’s not there.
What to Expect When Expecting Desire ? SexualFocus.com.au
Ok so
does you brain want sex but your body can’t respond Or
does your brain not want sex and your body definitely can’t respond. What we expect to be feeling can affect whether or not we engage with our partner in that moment and whether or not we allow ourselves to move towards sexual in>macy. To decide to yes to sex. To help you delve a li@le deeper into this I have created two quick videos for you. Well actually I did two takes and I have decided to share both of them with you. It would be amazing if you could share your thoughts about what you can relate to bellow the videos on the website. I can’t wait to hear from you.