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WHAT IS SOCIAL HEALTH?• SOCIAL HEALTH: your ability to get along with the

people around you.• Are able to accept differences in other

people.• Meet people easily• Can accept other people’s ideas and

suggestions when working in a group.• Are usually successful at making friends with

people of both sexes.• Continue to take part in an activity even

when they don’t get their way.

• 10 Rude Things Students Do to Teachers

1. Talk while the teacher is trying to teach.

2. Not raise their hand.

3. Not say “Please,” “Thank you” and “Excuse Me.”

4. Talk back.

5. Make no attempt to hide their boredom, irritation, or anger.

6. Not pay attention.

7. Use physical or verbal aggression to get their way.

8. Swear.

9. Continue a behavior after being asked to stop.

10. Use disrespectful body language (rolling eyes, slouching, etc.)

10 Rude Things Teachers Do to Students:

1. Make fun of them in front of the whole class.2. Deliberately ignore them.3. Give them too much work on purpose.4. Punish the whole class for something one person did.5. Call on them when they know they don’t know the answer.6. Say sarcastic things.7. Talk down to them.8. Accuse them of doing things based on suspicion, not facts.9. Not listen to their side of the story.10. Play Favorites.

People who do the following:

• Interrupt/rudeness• Appear to NOT care what you’re

saying/Don’t listen• Curse way too much• Never say: Please, Thank You, Your

Welcome, Bless You, etc.• Give you dirty looks or attitude• Talk about you behind your back

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What is a

• The connections we The connections we have with other people have with other people and groups in our lives.and groups in our lives.

3 Skills that help in 3 Skills that help in RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS

•CommunicationCommunication: Flows in : Flows in two directions.two directions.

•CooperationCooperation: Working as a : Working as a team.team.

•CompromiseCompromise: “Give and : “Give and take”take”

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• Meet someone for the first time.(Your Choice how you start the

conversation: What will you talk about?)• Who your favorite team is and why. Make

sure to defend this team and why the other person is wrong.

• SCHOOL (Salk, health class, teachers, School sports, etc.)

Possible Topics of Discussion

• A recent event; something that happened that is in the news, well-known

» Sporting events» Celebrity news or gossip» Weather» What’s happening in your school, town,

state, country» Food, restaurants, places of interest» AVOID: Controversial Topics EXAMPLES?

Elements of Conversation• Shake the person’s hand, introduce yourself, and say

“It’s a pleasure to meet you.” Follow up: “How are you?” “What are you up to today?”

*Always maintain eye contact and resist distractions.• Join in the conversation already at hand, or listen.

While listening, think of ways to respond or follow-up questions to ask and wait to enter the conversation.

• Ask questions to keep the conversation “flowing” (open-ended questions) and address the topics at hand.

(What do you think…?, How do you feel…?, Tell me more about…?)

• When concluding the conversation, shake again and repeat how nice it was to meet that person, leave the door open for future conversation.

Be a Good LISTENER:The PASSIVE LISTENER

•Make Eye contact•Nod your head•Reflect your feelings with

facial expressions.•Use short, encouraging

verbal responses (“mmm; ahh, yes, uh-huh”).

Be an Active Listener Be an Active Listener too!too!

• Use short verbal responses (“Really?,” “I see,” “What happened next?”)

• Comment directly on what is being said.• Use the “Echo Effect”: “So what you’re saying

is…” (Repeat what they said)• Restate the speaker’s ideas in your own words

or “CLARIFY” (“Do you mean…?”) (“Correct me if I’m wrong…”)

• Encourage the person to express feelings “EMPATHY” (“I guess you must have felt…”)

• Encourage more information (“Tell me more about…”).

• Don’t pass judgment or criticize; just listen!

• Passive: Allowing things to just happen. Not taking initiative; letting things come as they may. A “don’t care” attitude.

• May be taken advantage of.• Aggressive: Speaking up in an overbearing or

harsh way. Can be taken as rude and confrontational.

• Assertive: Speaking up/stating the truth; staying calm, yet not allowing others to take advantage. Taking initiative in a positive way.

• Passive-Aggressive: the "unassertive" expression of negative sentiments, feelings of anger, and resentfulness.

“I”Messages• I believe…• I would like…• I would appreciate…• I feel…• I am confident…• I wish…• I’m upset because…• I want…• I think…• Avoid “you” or “you in disguise”:Ex: I think you should…Saying “You” sounds like you are accusing the other person & can be

perceived the wrong way.

Rules of GOOD COMMUNICATON,

so far…• Use “I” statements and not “you”

statements.• Stay calm, collect thoughts, think

before you speak.• Avoid “fillers” (Like, OK, Umm, ya’

know).• Try to avoid controversial topics and

offensive language.• Choose the right time and place.• Watch for non-verbal messages.• Stick to the Point.• Use Active and Passive listening skills.

• What is a BULLY? A bully is anyone who targets others with negative actions.

• What are these NEGATIVE ACTIONS?• Hitting/physical violence• Practical jokes• Making fun of someone• Isolating/shunning others• Talking badly behind others backs• Cyber bullying• Dirty looks• Calling others names

Why do People BULLY?

• To make themselves feel betterTo make themselves feel better• JealousyJealousy• To show offTo show off• For popularityFor popularity• For revengeFor revenge• Problems with family/friendsProblems with family/friends• To uphold their reputationTo uphold their reputation• They’ve been bullied in the pastThey’ve been bullied in the past• Other unresolved issuesOther unresolved issues

• Hurt others physically, mentally, emotionally.• Affect others self-esteem, confidence, self-worth.• May result in drug abuse, physical violence

and/or suicide.• May result in victim’s seeking “REVENGE”.• Allows for an unsafe learning environment

making it more difficult to concentrate and learn.• Results in stricter policies and rules within a

school limiting freedoms for students.• Years of professional mental and social health

counseling to deal with trauma of bullying.

How to Deal with BULLYING

• It’s about ATTITUDE: Hold your head up high, show confidence, self-esteem.

• IGNORE the Bully: Old advice, but the truth is, bullies love a reaction!

• ADULTS HELP!: You’re not tattling, you’re just letting someone know what’s going on. Keep them informed, they can help!

• SAFETY in NUMBERS: The more friends you surround yourself with, the less of a chance you’ll be bullied.

Dealing with BULLYING continued…

• Be Assertive! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!:First reaction is to defend yourself physically, try

to use your words and personality to get out of the situation. Fighting satisfies the bully and will land you in trouble. Don’t back down, get help!

• Lots of times, fighting will just breed more fights!• DON’T BE A BULLY YOURSELF!Be aware of your actions; “do unto others” that’s

the GOLDEN RULE!It will save you time, grief, trouble, and maybe

even your life!

Be Assertive! Speak Up!!• Act #1: “Dude, I heard that you were the worst kid

at tryouts yesterday. I can’t believe you think you’re gonna make the team. You really stink!”

• Act #2: “Really stylin’ there, big guy! I mean, come on, dude, nice shirt! Yo! Check out this kid’s shirt. Where do you shop your grandmother’s garbage can?”

• Act #3: “ Dang yo!, them some big ol’ ears you got rockin’. Are you Dumbo’s distant relative? What radio stations you pick up with those things?”

• Act #4: “Listen, no one likes you because you are such a loser. Don’t try to act cool because you are so not.”

Social Health Quiz• Definitions for Social Health &

Relationships• Communication DO’s and DON’TS• Proper introduction• Open-Ended Questions• Passive/Assertive/Aggressive• “I” statements and “You” statements• Bullying Actions• Bullying Prevention• How to deal with Bullying

SOCIAL MEDIA

• Texts on mobile devices• Twitter• Facebook, Myspace, Formspring• Youtube• ANY SOCIAL MEDIA based website

where people can interact with one another.

What are the POSITIVES and NEGATIVES with SOCIAL MEDIA?

POSITIVE (+)

• Interact with friends/family

• “Catch up” with old friends, family haven’t seen in a while.

• Stay “in the loop” Know what’s going on

• Easy way to communicate/convenient

NEGATIVES (-)

• Words can be “misconstrued” and taken the wrong way

• Make people jealous/envy

• Deliberate bullying/cyberbullying

• Neglect family and other friends

Everyone needs: FRIENDS

•Friends are people with whom we can share a common interest or hobby.

•Friends provide us with companionship, and they can be a source of help when we have a problem.

Qualities of a GOOD FRIEND

• LOYALTY: Friends are there when you need them.

• CARING:Value each other’s feelings.

• RELIABILITY: Able to be counted on.

• SYMPATHY: Aware of how you are feeling at any given moment.

• Peer Pressure is the influence of others, usually friends or those your own age, who influence/encourage you to do something against your will.

• Positive and Negative Peer Pressure?• Positive: Influences you to do something good

for your health. EX: ?• Negative: Influences you to do something that

may be harmful to you or to others. EX: ?• Does Peer Pressure really exist?