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Attitudes Are ContagiousPERMA- A New Theory of Well-being

Walk Garden Hunt Fish Paint Travel Hike Shop Movies Sports Music Meditation Yoga Spring Forest Qigong Prayer Coffee with a friend 4 wheeling

Emotions are Contagious and Pass Quickly and Subtly from Person to Person

“Emotional contagion happens withinmilliseconds, so quick you can’t control it, and so subtly that you’re not really aware it’s going on.”

Dr. Elaine Hayfield, Psychologist, University Hawaii 1991

Our Attitude is the Doorway

This is sooooooo hard

How Does Stress Effect our Resilience?

Stress is: When perceived demands exceed perceived capabilities.

Demands > Capabilities = STRESS Demands < Capabilities = STRESS Demands = or slightly > Capabilities = Flow,

Success, Happiness “You want me to do what! Think of something that was once stressful but no

longer is stressful because you now think. “I’ve got it! “The best thing about…” Change how you think, feel or act to decrease or increase demands or capabilities

What Do You Know Naturally To Take Care of Yourself Under Stress?

Mental

Physical

SocialEmotional

Spiritual

Walking

Attitude

“ To respond in a consistently favorable or unfavorable manner with respect to a given object. “Attitudes are the enduring positive or negative feeling about some person, object, or issue.”

Flourishing Adults Deposit into their Positive Bank

Positive Emotion ----Happiness, Optimism

Engagement----------Flow, Signature Strengths

Relationships---------Social Connectedness

Meaning----------------Purpose for a Higher Good

Accomplishments'---Grit and Determination

Flourish – Martin Seligman https://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/perma-a-well-being-theory-by-martin-seligman/

Positive People Practice Self-Awareness

Set intention in the morningReview day and nightMake tiny adjustments

Positive/Optimism/Hopeful

Reacting to setbacks from a presumption of personal power and desire the best possible outcome.

Explanatory Style and Beliefs of Optimistic Person

Bad events are temporary setbacks

Isolated to particular circumstances

Can be overcome by my effort and abilities

My Outcome

Happiness and Attitude Set Point

Human Beings have an attitude and happiness set point

If we have a gain moment in life our bodies will naturally return to its set point

If we have a loss moment in our life it takes more energy for our bodies to return to its set point

It is even more draining if we ruminate or engage in continued thinking about the loss

YES I CAN! REFRAME TO POSITIVE

Placebo Effect – The belief that something positive will happen has proven effective 33%-50% of the time using the Scientific Method.

“When you cross that finish line it willchange your life forever.” Dick Beardsley

Pessimism/Hopeless/Helpless

Reacting to setbacks from a presumption of personal helplessness.

Learned Helplessness

Bad events will last a long time

Will undermine everything I do

Are my fault

STOP THE ANTS!

Automatic Negative Thoughts

“AMP” it UP!!!-Automatically Mentally Positive

“RAMP” it UP!!!!

Set Boundaries with Your Thoughts

No means no

Map of Consciousness 0-1000

Joy 540

Humor 540

Gratitude 540

Simplicity 530

Erase the NegativeReplace with a Positive Thought (499),Peace (405), Love (500), Kindness,Gratitude (540), Generosity (535)

Yes I Can!

Circle of Influence

Practice Humor (500)

Engagement- State of Flow

Happy (300+)

Boredom

Anxiety and Worries(100)

Apathy (50)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8h6IMYRoCZw

One with the music! (300-700)

Call on your Signature Strengths for Engagement

http://www.authentichappiness.org

If we were going to make a big pot of positive soup today what ingredient would you bring?

Signature Strengths that Rate High for Happy!

Gratitude (540) – Write down 3 things that went well

today and why they did.

Curiosity (310)

Kindness (405)

Sense of Humor (540)

Capacity to Love and be Loved (500)

Activity in a Normal Brain Activity in a Worried Brain Activity After Gratitude

Amenclinic.com

-Write down 3 things you are grateful for-Say The Serenity Prayer

-Write down action steps for what you can change-Take action on what you can change

-Use positive presuppositions

Control, Change, or Let Go process (250).

-Ask yourself these questions: Can I control it? Can I change it? If not, how can I let it go?

Change What They Can and Let Go of What They Can’t Control

Meaning – “Everything happens for a reason and a purpose and it serves us.”

Ways to Help “Let Go”

Fishing Hiking Gardening Movie Mowing the lawn Hunting Crafts Shopping Exercise – Walking –Yoga- SFQigong-Biking-Swimming Meditation Prayer Sports Cards – Table games Puttering in the garage Cooking Music Reading 4 Wheeling

RelationshipsPositive : Negative Ratio For Success

For business meetings to be successful the ratio of positive to negative emotion needs to be 3:1, Authentic Happiness

For marriages to be successful the ratio of positive to negative emotion needs to be 5:1, blink

The best thing about…

Ask For and Accept Help

Seek and Maintain Social Support

Meaning and Life Purpose

Know who you are

What you love to do

Who you do it for

What those people want or need

What they get out of it. How they change as a

result

-Optimistic People people are outward facing people.

Plus they live longer – Men 11% Women 15% How to Know Your Life Purpose in 5 Minuteshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ViaCs0k2jM

Attitudes Are Contagious

“ That the birds of worry and carefly above your head, this you cannot change. But that theybuild nests in your hair, this youcan prevent.”

-Chinese Proverb

Self-efficacy through positive role-modeling

Accomplishments – Grit and Determination

Pathways Thinking

Pathways thinking means that when the first route you try is blocked, you can think of and try other routes to get to your goal.

Plan A Plan B Plan C

I Hope this Information Increases Your Optimism

So…. When life gives you a challenge you are able to use your positive influence and gain or restore the life that you want to live.

YES I CAN!!!

Ann Dolence