Emma Emma EspelEspel
United StatesUnited States
Marriage for LOVEMarriage for LOVE Groom may ask bride’s parents out Groom may ask bride’s parents out
of courtesyof courtesy Wedding plannerWedding planner Bride’s family paysBride’s family pays
CeremoniesCeremonies Bridal ShowerBridal Shower Rehearsal Rehearsal
DinnerDinner CeremonyCeremony ReceptionReception *Honeymoon*Honeymoon
The WeddingThe Wedding
Usually in a religious setting Usually in a religious setting Mainly Christian in the USMainly Christian in the US White wedding dress/veilWhite wedding dress/veil Religious leaderReligious leader
The Wedding (Cont’d)The Wedding (Cont’d)
The wedding partyThe wedding party Ushers, Bride’s maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, Ushers, Bride’s maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer,
MusicMusic
Wedding vowsWedding vows Exchange of ringsExchange of rings Kiss Kiss Wheat or riceWheat or rice
ReceptionReception
GuestbookGuestbook FoodFood Greet the Greet the
couplecouple Dancing Dancing
GuestsGuests
Family and friendsFamily and friends Gifts from registries or moneyGifts from registries or money Dress up Dress up Some only come to the receptionSome only come to the reception
IndonesiaIndonesia
Each clan is different!Each clan is different! Marriage symbolizes “full adult Marriage symbolizes “full adult
status” status” Before the WeddingBefore the Wedding
Parents arrange ORParents arrange OR Marriage for loveMarriage for love Supports kinshipSupports kinship Many gift exchanges occurMany gift exchanges occur
Java, IndonesiaJava, Indonesia
•Arrangement of Marriage
•The greater the social status, the greater chance of arranged marriage.
•The groom’s family usually stays out of all of the organization.
•Sometimes there is a “make-up woman,” who is like a wedding planner (Pemaes)
CeremoniesCeremonies
Traditional engagementTraditional engagement Bathing ceremonyBathing ceremony Relatives all meet the night before at Relatives all meet the night before at
the bride’s home.the bride’s home. Wedding CeremonyWedding Ceremony ReceptionReception
The WeddingThe Wedding
The bride and groom approach each The bride and groom approach each otherother
Throw bundles of betel leavesThrow bundles of betel leaves Groom crushes an egg, and the bride Groom crushes an egg, and the bride
washes his feetwashes his feet Wedding chairWedding chair Couple sits on the lap of the groom’s Couple sits on the lap of the groom’s
father.father. Then the couple sits in the chair.Then the couple sits in the chair.
Wedding (cont’d)Wedding (cont’d)
Exchange of wedding ringsExchange of wedding rings The bride gets certain gifts from the The bride gets certain gifts from the
groom.groom. They eat and drink togetherThey eat and drink together The couple kneels and the parents The couple kneels and the parents
bless thembless them
GuestsGuests
Weddings are for everyone!Weddings are for everyone! Fancy invitations. Fancy invitations.
Asks not to bring flowers or giftsAsks not to bring flowers or gifts It is an insult not to attendIt is an insult not to attend Most people come only to the Most people come only to the
reception.reception. Guests dress nicelyGuests dress nicely
ReceptionReception
Guests arrive at the reception after Guests arrive at the reception after the wedding.the wedding.
Dancers precede the coupleDancers precede the couple Family speechesFamily speeches The guests greet the couple and eatThe guests greet the couple and eat Alcohol and dancing are considered Alcohol and dancing are considered
ruderude
Java vs. United StatesJava vs. United States
Both have:Both have: Differences across the boardDifferences across the board Bride’s family does a lot of the planningBride’s family does a lot of the planning A wedding plannerA wedding planner Parents give away the coupleParents give away the couple Wedding RingsWedding Rings
Java vs. United StatesJava vs. United States
United StatesUnited States Full adult status
at 18 No chair Gifts from registry
or money Friends and family Dancing, alcohol
at reception Many shorter
speeches
•Java
“full adult status”
Arranged marriage
Only money gifts
Everyone invited
Entertainment is dancers
Long speeches