FEARLESS CONVERSATION™
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C o N T E N T SLesson 1: Why did God come as a baby? (Luke 2:1-20) 7
Lesson 2: Can we really beat temptation? (Matthew 4:1-11) 15
Lesson 3: What does it really mean to follow Jesus? (Matthew 4:18-25) 22
Lesson 4: How can I tell if Jesus cares enough to act in my situation? (Matthew 9:18-26) 29
Lesson 5: What does it mean if Jesus really is God’s Son? (Luke 9:18-36) 36
Lesson 6: Why did Jesus tell such confusing stories? (Matthew 13:24-45) 43
Lesson 7: Was Jesus racist, or sexist—or both? (Matthew 15:21-28) 49
Lesson 8: What’s Jesus got against grown-ups? (Luke 18:15-17) 55
Lesson 9: What was really going on at Jesus’ “Triumphal Entry” into Jerusalem? (Luke 19:29-44) 62
Lesson 10: What if God wants more than I want to give? (Matthew 26:36-55) 69
Lesson 11: Did God really disown Jesus on the cross? (Matthew 27:32-55) 75
Lesson 12: Resurrection seems so impossible… how can I believe in a literal “Easter” story? (Matthew 27:62–28:15) 81
Lesson 13: How can I know Jesus is really alive today? (Luke 24:36-53) 88
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LESSon 3: WHAT DoES IT REALLY MEAN To FoLLoW JESUS?
G R E E T I N G
Behind the SceneSWhen we meet Jesus in Matthew 4:18, he’s left Nazareth for Capernaum,
and then he continues through Galilee. Verse 23 indicates he taught
in synagogues and healed every sickness among the people. His
ministry wasn’t reserved for those who had the most teaching. It wasn’t
reserved for Jews. He reached beyond the expectations of others as
he connected with the Gentiles. People from many surrounding areas
reached out to him, trusting him to teach and heal (verse 25). Jerusalem
and Judea were Jewish regions, while Decapolis was primarily Gentiles,
and Galilee was a region with a mixture of Jews and Gentiles. Jesus
attracted and ministered to them all. He walked among all classes of
people. He healed every disease (verse 24). Jesus didn’t meet people’s
expectations. He exceeded them.
How does this challenge the social boundaries of life today?
WhY iS JeSuS So radicaL?
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Extend your arm on a flat surface with your wrist extended just beyond
the edge with the index finger and thumb positioned as if they’re ready
to clamp together and grab something. Your partner will hold the ruler (or
other object provided by your leader) vertically above your hand. Make
sure the end with zero on it is just above your finger and thumb, but make
sure it’s not touching. Your partner will drop the ruler, and you should
catch it as soon as possible. Write down the centimeter mark from the
ruler where your finger and thumb clamp onto the ruler. (If you’re using
something other than a ruler, just write the approximate length where it
was clasped from the end of the object.) Repeat this three times; then
switch so that each person gets to test his or her reaction time.
My reaction times:
What surprised—or didn’t surprise—you about your reaction time?
When you have the opportunity to lead, what do you expect of those who follow you?
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G R o U N D I N G
God’s Word: Matthew 4:18-25
18 As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers,
Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net
into the lake, for they were fishermen. 19 “Come, follow me,” Jesus
said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” 20 At once they left
their nets and followed him.
21 Going on from there, he saw two other brothers, James son of
Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father
Zebedee, preparing their nets. Jesus called them, 22 and immediately
they left the boat and their father and followed him.
23 Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues,
proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease
and sickness among the people. 24 News about him spread all over Syria,
and people brought to him all who were ill with various diseases, those
suffering severe pain, the demon-possessed, those having seizures,
and the paralyzed; and he healed them. 25 Large crowds from Galilee,
the Decapolis, Jerusalem, Judea and the region across the Jordan
followed him.
What are the first questions that come to mind about this passage? What sort of jumps out at you and catches your attention? Capture those thoughts here.
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G R A P P L I N G
GoinG deeperSome questions are left unanswered, and that often makes us
uncomfortable. We want to understand. We want the “411.” our
desire to understand may cause us to explain something the best
we can and call it truth because it’s the best we can do. But we’re
never going to have all the answers. If we did, we’d be equal to God.
He wants us to seek him, but let’s trust him through the process.
God knows what we need to know and when we need to know it.
Behind the SceneSMatthew 4:18-25 describes Jesus’ calling of four men (Simon Peter,
Andrew, James, and John) into ministry with him. Jesus didn’t wait to
see who would come to him. He met them where they were. Jesus
didn’t go to the Temple and get the experts of the Law to follow him.
Jesus knew he needed people who could minister to, relate to, and
provide for people in practical ways. He wanted people who could fish,
as these men could. He promised them he’d teach them a different kind
of fishing, but he would build on what they already knew to develop
them into the disciples he knew they could be.
As you read this passage from Matthew, how would you describe the way the disciples followed Jesus?
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When Jesus calls followers today, does he expect them to react by dropping everything immediately and following him on the spot? Explain your answer.
INTERESTING THoUGHTS SPARkED BY oTHERS IN MY GRoUP:
Behind the SceneSThis wasn’t the first experience Andrew and Simon Peter had with Jesus.
Andrew was one of John the Baptist’s disciples who encountered Jesus
as John identified him as the Lamb of God (John 1:35-40). The first thing
Andrew did was tell his brother, Simon Peter, and take him to Jesus,
where Simon Peter had his first interaction with Jesus (John 1:41-42).
There are two primary words translated into “know” in our English Bibles.
one (ginōskō) indicates an insight, awareness, and understanding. It’s
what God gives us. We might not be aware of every bit of knowledge
he’s given us, but it’s something we don’t have to actively learn or
experience. He gifts it to us, and it’s as if we know it by intuition. The
other kind of knowing (nous) is what we acquire by learning. We have
to experience it somehow—through hearing, reading, doing, and so
on—in order to gain the knowledge. Just because we know about
Jesus doesn’t mean we know Jesus.
How do you know him?
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What does the variety of Jesus’ actions and interactions in Matthew 4:18-25 tell you about his ministry—and what it might look like for you to follow Jesus?
G R o W I N G
Behind the SceneSWhen Jesus commanded Simon Peter, Andrew, James, and John to
follow him, it wasn’t a passive invitation. They left what they knew
to follow who they wanted to know. Jesus wouldn’t just teach them
what he knew; he taught them who he was. Following him involved
more than accompanying him; it required sacrifice and commitment.
It required setting themselves aside and emulating Jesus.
“Then he said to them all: ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny
themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever
wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me
will save it’ “(Luke 9:23-24).
How has your reaction time changed, and why?
Write your observations here.
How would you describe your reaction time to God? What influences how quickly you respond to God?
Write your reflections here.
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Behind the SceneSMatthew tells us that the first disciples immediately followed Jesus
when he called them. But that immediate response to Jesus’ calling
didn’t mean that they followed him without questions or problems. Far
from it. In fact, the Gospels indicate that the disciples wrestled with
their commitment, even after Jesus’ resurrection from death. Even at
the end of Matthew, the 11 remaining disciples went to the mountain
where Jesus told them to meet him. When they got there, “they
worshipped him; but some doubted” (Matthew 28:17). Nonetheless,
Jesus commissioned the disciples to go and make disciples of all nations.
How has a mixture of belief and doubt marked your own discipleship?
As we move through this quarter, we’ll continually be wondering on the question, Why is Jesus so radical? Based only on what we’ve discussed today, what’s one sentence that might answer that question?
Write your thoughts here.
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