Hadith Session 4 – Part 2Ramzan Shahid
Surah Hujaraat (49), Ayat 12“O you who believe! Avoid much
suspicion (assumptions). Indeed some assumptions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it, and fear Allah. Verily Allah is the one who forgives and accepts repentance, most merciful.”
Making AssumptionsNever make a bad assumption
about another personAlways give them the benefit of
the doubtExample
◦Didn’t see a brother in the masjid for prayer
◦We assume he must have missed skipped prayer
◦Instead we should give benefit of the doubt – he probably prayed at another masjid
Judging Others/CriticizingBeing able to complain and
criticize is human natureWe all have this in us, we cannot
get rid of itWhat we need to do is channel it
in the right direction
Criticizing OthersChannel complaints and criticism
away from other people and towards our own selves
We are always complaining about our circumstance, our situation, our interactions with other people
Criticizing OthersWe should criticize/critique
ourselves insteadProphet Yousuf’s dua, indeed I
have wronged myselfI have not worshipped Allah the
way He deserves to be worshipped
I have not thanked Allah the way He deserves to be thanked
ComplainingIt is easy to complain about
everything around usIt is hard to direct those
complaints against us.In reality we have no reason to
complain◦Need to make more money, nicer
car, bigger house◦My internet connection is slow, my
food had too much salt, my xbox is not working
◦I don’t have good reception on my cell phone
ComplainingSo many people around the world
are suffering and here we are complaining of our insignificant things
Complaining means you are not thankful for what Allah has given you
ComplainingIf we have some complaint, it
should be about our inability to be who we should be as a Muslim
Inability to reach a level a worship worthy of being presented to the most perfect Being
Being PositiveAlways pick out the positive in a
personNever pick out their faults
HadithA companion asked who is better,
me or Hadrat Abu Bakr, Hadrat Umar
The companion asked this because the Prophet always made him feel special, Prophet treated him that way, always found the positive in him
Being PositiveWe want Allah to deal with us
positively on the Day of Judgment.
We want Him to find the positive in us
We want him to find a positive deed (even though we have so little of them and they are hard to find)
We want this deed to be an excuse for forgiveness and be put into Heaven due to this deed
Being PositiveIf we desire to be dealt with in
this positive manner on the Day of Judgment, then we must deal with others in a positive way first in this world.
We must find the positive in others
We must not look for faults in others, otherwise Allah will find faults in us on the Day of Judgment
Being PositiveWe have a tendency to look for
faults in others, look for the negative in them
We see the 20 things that are bad in them on overlook the one good thing in them.
Instead we should overlook the 20 bad things and focus on the one good thing
Being PositivePeople will be attracted to you if
you always positive and find the positive in every situation and every person
Best way to do DawahPeople will follow you, respect
you, want to be with you, want to spend time with you
Hadith“A Mu’min is one who is sociable
with others. There is no good in one who is not sociable with others nor in one who is not met sociably with them.”
Correcting Others with KindnessA man came to Madinah from the
desert, and he did not know that it is forbidden to speak during the salaah. He said: “Whilst I was praying behind the Messenger of Allah (SAW), a man sneezed, so I said ‘Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you).’
Correcting Others with KindnessThe people glared at me, so I
said, ‘May my mother lose me! What is wrong with you that you are looking at me?’ They began to slap their thighs with their hands, and when I saw that they were indicating that I should be quiet, I stopped talking.
Correcting Others with KindnessWhen the Messenger of Allah
(SAW) had finished praying – I have never seen a better teacher than him before or since – he did not rebuke me or hit me or put me to shame. He just said, ‘This prayer should contain nothing of the speech of men; it is only tasbeeh and takbeer and recitation of the Qur’aan.’”
Correcting Others with KindnessGod’s messenger was sitting in
the mosque with some of his companions when a Bedouin urinated inside the mosque. The Prophet’s companions said: ‘What is going on?’ ‘What are you doing?’ The Prophet said to them: ‘Do not interrupt him.’
Correcting Others with KindnessHe subsequently called the man
and said to him: ‘These mosques are not the place where one can throw any dirt, urine or stools. They are meant for reciting the Qur’an, glorifying God and prayer.’ He then called for a bucket of water and he poured it over the urine.”