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Guard your HeartChapter 12
Liz Casteel, M.A., LPC Counselor and Founder, Nikao Counseling Center
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I. Overview
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I. Overview• How can you “live pure” in an impure
world?
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I. Overview• How can you “live pure” in an impure
world?• You would come to understand WHY
you have made some of the decisions you have regarding your purity
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I. Overview• How can you “live pure” in an impure
world?• You would come to understand WHY
you have made some of the decisions you have regarding your purity
• Proverbs 2:7-11
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I. Overview• How can you “live pure” in an impure
world?• You would come to understand WHY
you have made some of the decisions you have regarding your purity
• Proverbs 2:7-11– Discretion will protect you…
understanding will guard you.
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion• A – Accept your call to be HOLY
(…to be set apart)
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion• A – Accept your call to be HOLY
(…to be set apart)
• B – Be aware(…of your mind and your motives)
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion• A – Accept your call to be HOLY
(…to be set apart)
• B – Be aware(…of your mind and your motives)
• C – Community(…allow yourself to be in community with people)
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
A. Accept the call to be holy
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes– Check what you watch
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes– Check what you watch
• You may have to “narrow” your road to be “set apart”
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
B. Be aware of your mind and your motives
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
B. Be aware of your mind and your motives– What is it in your mind that is causing you
to do what you do? Think about these thoughts…
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
B. Be aware of your mind and your motives– What is it in your mind that is causing you
to do what you do? Think about these thoughts…
– Are you motives attention driven?
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B. Be aware of your mind and your motives– What is it in your mind that is causing you
to do what you do? Think about these thoughts…
– Are you motives attention driven?
• Go back and look at the Wounds chapter in this workshop
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
C. Get in community
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
C. Get in community- Authentic
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff- July 4th party
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II. The ABC’s of Discretion
C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff- July 4th party- Be willing to USE your community – i.e.,
ask them what they think…go to them for feedback…get help.
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Guys vs. Girls
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Guys vs. Girls
– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness
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Guys vs. Girls
– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness
– Guys crave physical intimacy vs. girls crave emotional intimacy
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Guys vs. Girls
– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness
– Guys crave physical intimacy vs. girls crave emotional intimacy
– Guys are stimulated by what they see vs. girls are stimulated by what we feel
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Guys vs. Girls
– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness
– Guys crave physical intimacy vs. girls crave emotional intimacy
– Guys are stimulated by what they see vs. girls are stimulated by what we feel
– Guys give love to get sex vs. girls will typically give sex to get love
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Guys vs. Girls
– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness
– Guys crave physical intimacy vs. girls crave emotional intimacy
– Guys are stimulated by what they see vs. girls are stimulated by what we feel
– Guys give love to get sex vs. girls will typically give sex to get love
THIS IS WHY WE MUST GUARD OUR HEARTS
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
1. Avoid “faux intimacy”
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart– Understanding the differences will help you
avoid experiencing these new wounds
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart– Understanding the differences will help you
avoid experiencing these new wounds– Above all else guard your HEART!
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
2. The 3 nothings:
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck– Nothing lying down
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck– Nothing lying down– Nothing taken off
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
3. Make pure decisions in advance
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before
hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before
hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.
– Recognize the “inertia” of sex
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3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before
hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.
– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example
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3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before
hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.
– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example• The SLIDE example
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3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before
hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.
– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example• The SLIDE example
– YOU MUST MAKE THE DECISION BEFOREHAND!
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
4. Watch yourself and your surroundings
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear– Evaluate the music you listen to
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear– Evaluate the music you listen to
• Music triggers things in us
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III. How do we guard our hearts?
4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear– Evaluate the music you listen to
• Music triggers things in us• Are you listening to the right stuff?
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IV. Keep a Journal
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IV. Keep a Journal
• What are the things that you are doing that lack discretion?
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IV. Keep a Journal
• What are the things that you are doing that lack discretion?
• What are some things that you have been doing or have done that have created wounds?
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IV. Keep a Journal
• What are the things that you are doing that lack discretion?
• What are some things that you have been doing or have done that have created wounds?
• What are the things you can do today that will cause you to be set apart?
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V. Closing Thoughts
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V. Closing Thoughts
• Remember, you will swimming up stream…but God will give you the strength to do it.
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V. Closing Thoughts
• Remember, you will swimming up stream…but God will give you the strength to do it.
• God is in the business of helping people become victorious…God wants you to experience Nikao in your life.
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Guard your HeartEnd: Chapter 12
Liz Casteel, M.A., LPC Counselor and Founder, Nikao Counseling Center