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Bitterness &ResentmentSchool of wisdom

Seyi Olanrewaju

24th march 2013


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Scriptures

Follow peace with all men, and

without which no man shall sLord:

Looking diligently lest any man

the grace of God; lest any ro

bitterness springing up trouble ythereby many be defiled- Heb.

KJV


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Scriptures

Try to live in peace with everyoseek to live a clean and holy l

those who are not holy will noLord.

Look after each other so that you will miss out on the special

God. Watch out that no bitterunbelief rises up among you

whenever it springs up, mancorrupted by its poison - Heb.

NLT


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what is bitterness?

Bitterness is a negative emotion

Any adverse action, reaction, situation,circumstance, etc. perceived or received

as distasteful or distressing to apersons judgment is bitterness

Bitterness is retaining the hurts thatyou feel people have visited upon youand not letting the feelings go


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what is resentment?

ill feeling: aggrieved feelings

caused by a sense of having beenbadly treated


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bitterness & resentment

Is an emotional suicide

Is a CHOICE

It affects our health, well being andrelationships (with God & man)

Because of its poisonous nature, itsa tool in devils hand

Is a sin


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where does bitterness arise?

It can arise from conflicts between

God and man Husband and wife

Parents and children

Teachers and students

Leaders and followers e.g. national leaders

& masses Arab spring Privileged and less privileged e.g. masters

& servants housemaids

Powerful and less powerful e.g. in rape


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What is the first thing that comes to your mind whensomeone wrongs you?

Anger?

Resentment?

Desire to hurt them back?

All of these are forms of bitterness


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Terry Brooks


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causes of bitterness & resentment

Hurt

Ways we are hurt:

a. By what is DONE to us

b. By what is SAID about us

c. By what is TAKEN from us


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causes of bitterness & resentment

Loss of a precious thing or death of a loved one


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Misunderstanding, Grudges & Conflict


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Rejection, Disappointment or Broken promise


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Failure


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Abuse


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Feeling of Injustice Justice Delayed

Justice Denied

Justice Diverted


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Frustration


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Illness or physical problems/limitations John FoppVelsquez


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Things not working out hardship or poverty


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effects of bitterness & resentment

On Our Bodies

Headaches, ulcers, sleeplessness, heart-attacks, anxiety, fear, tension, depression,fatigue, backache, loss of vitality and appetite

Addictive behaviours (drugs, alcohol, smoking,sex outside marriage, driving too fast)

Suicidal tendencies


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On Our Emotions

Hypercritical attitudes


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On Other People

Bitterness spreads and infects others.They either catch the critical and grouching

spirit from the bitter people, or they decide toavoid their company. And, of course, therejection caused by the bitterness leads to thepeople concerned feeling even more bitter, andso the cycle continues.

Loss of respect for person, people (e.g. tribalalienation Igbo vs. Yoruba, Ijebu vs. Ondo) orsystem


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On Relationship with God & our Eternity

Loss of Peace

Loss of Communion or fellowship with God Unanswered Prayers

Loss of interest in kingdom practices likeevangelism, giving, intercession, etc.

Hell


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way out of bitterness

Recognize and appreciate Gods love

1John 3:1 (MSG) What marvelous love the Faextended to us! Just look at it--we're called chGod! That's who we really are. But that's alsoworld doesn't recognize us or take us seriously, bhas no idea who he is or what he's up to.


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Gratitude

Rejoice and be grateful that someone could do stuyou

Matt. 5:11 NKJV - Blessed are you when they revilpersecute you, and say all kinds of evil against youfor My sake


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Self Examination

Psalm 73:21 (NLT) -Then I realized how bitter I ha

become, how pained I had been by all I had seen


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Willingness to forgive Matthew 6:14-15 ESV - For if you forgive others their tres

your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do nothers their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive ytrespasses


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Become a peace maker & loving unconditional

Heb. 12:14 - Follow peace with all men

Proverbs 10:12 ESV - Hatred stirs up strife, but lov

all offenses 1Jn 3:14-16 - We know that we have passed fro

unto life, because we love the brethren. He that lohis brother abideth in death. Whosoever habrother is a murderer: and ye know that no murd

eternal life abiding in him. Hereby perceive we thGod, because he laid down his life for us: and welay down our lives for the brethren.


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Get saturated and be controlled by the word o


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Constantly surrender to God and receive His he


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Become a peace maker & love unconditionally Heb. 12:14 - Follow peace with all men

Proverbs 10:12 ESV - Hatred stirs up strife, but love cover

offenses

Get saturated and be controlled by the word o

Constantly surrender to God and receive His he


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Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV - Let all bitterness and wrath and angclamor and slander be put away from you, along with all makind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, Christ forgave you.

Proverbs 20:22 ESV - Do not say, I will repay evil; wait for tand he will deliver you.

James 1:19-20 ESV - Know this, my beloved brothers: let evebe quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the angerdoes not produce the righteousness of God.


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finally

4 Basic Taste Sensations &

Human Tongue Sweet

Salty

Sour

Bitter


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You dont always have control what isdone to you or said about you, but you

can always control how you feel orreact to it

When life is sweet, celebrate it

When it is salty, enjoy it

When it is sour, endure it

When it is bitter, dont swallow it, spew itout

Dont always swallow it, the bitter bud ofthe tongue is most times a place of noreturn


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Thank You


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Questions &

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