Thank you! Family Food Love

Lori Jean Glass Executive Director of

Clinical Operations Five Sisters Ranch

CRC, CPC, CBC

Dr. Louise Stanger Ed.D, LCSW, CIP, CDWF-Candidate

Robyn Cruze National Recovery

Advocate Eating Recovery Center

Family…

•  Turn to your neighbor

•  Introduce Yourself

•  Say one or two words that pop in your head when you say the word FAMILY.

Greeting…

To All of You

To Be Courageous

To Engage in The Conversation

What do your clients do?

 

Non Linear - Collaborative

Importance of Understanding The Narrative

Family Mapping

Our Work gets Messy

Live with Possibility

The Work Is Not Done

Relationship with Food …

It’s all about Relationships…

Food…

Culture Body Ideal…

  Diet mentality: “The Paleo diet is the only way for me.”

  I’ll get fat if I eat what my body asks me to eat.”

  “If I eat sugar I won’t be able to stop.”

  “If I loose control of my food, I’ll become addicted to food like I did substance.”

  “I’ll be judged if I eat what I want.”

Can you think of any other beliefs?

Additional Belief Obstacles…

How do we form our relationship to food?

  Family

  Peers

  Media

The Relationship with Food…

Rebuilding a Relationship with Your Body and The Food You Put in It

The Body Conversation ™�

1.  Listen

2.  Connect

3.  Respond

�The Body Conversation ™ --

1. Listen:

Rebuilding the foundation. A safety structure to explore our relationship.

Time and portions No “good”/”bad” foods Can you hear your body signals?

The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d) 2. Connect:

Taking queues from body signals and responding thoughtfully and considerately. Learning to communicate

3. Respond:

Deepening the connection with your body. Listening, honoring and loving for optimum health. A new inspired relationship

The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d)

Connection

  Connection to food is the connection to life

  Connection of life is the connection to others

  Connection to intimacy and love

Positive Loop of Recovery

Connection to Love…

Love…

Living

Wound Pain-body

Learn to Tolerate

and Manage “Self Management”

Origin: Attachment Addiction Trauma

Experiences: Process Addictions

Addictions Protest Behavior

Secretive Behavior

Anxious Frozen

Depressed Fearful

Not Enough Invisible

Feel

Self-Awareness Self-Care

Social Awareness

Relational Wounded Cycle…Family – Food - Love

Relational Alignment

The Cake! The Pain…

Original Wound… “Origin”

•  Obsessive … experience is the deep desire to be in a relationship or the fantasy of falling in love (from feeling the un-met longing) Clinging – Obsessing

•  Avoidance … experience is not letting anyone too close. Close is uncomfortable - pulls you out of the relationship -escape (from the feeling of engulfment) Avoiding – Hiding

How we love… adaptation to attachment wound

•  Ambivalent … experience keeps you in and out of relationship. Questioning everything… unable to decide (from the feeling of un-met longing and engulfment) Push - Pull

How we “attach” with the wound

Avoidant Attachment Anxious Energy

Un-Met Longing

Binge Eating - Bulimia Anxiety Disorder Love Addiction Codependency Alcoholism – Drug Addiction Work . Work . Work

Tolerance for High Risk Behavior

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Anxious Attachment Avoidant Energy Engulfment Food Restricting

Love Avoidance Depression Pills / Drug Addiction Sex/ Porn Addiction Cutting

Secretive Behavior

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Anxious/Avoidant Attachment Ambivalent Energy

Sex AND Love Addiction Depression AND Anxiety Food Restricting AND Bingeing Borderline Personality Disorder Alcohol/Drug Addiction Smoking

FREEZE

Not Knowing

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Healing the “Love”…

Understand the “phases”…

Relational Realities

Understand the “phases”…

Relational Realities

Ours

TheirsMine

Honeymoon…

Come Together…

Settling…

Celebration…

What to do? •  Attachment Work Family mapping Understand messages… Understand Patterns •  Be the Good Student

of Self

Identify Core Belief, Original Wound, Painbody

•  Self-Efficacy Apply systems: Listen, Connect,Respond/ Think, Feel Do

Don't think Control, think Connect (Get Curious) Don’t think Rules, think Equations If you do this… this is will happen (Accountability) Don’t think Lecture, think LAB (Experiential)

  “When our mind thinks in alignment with how our heart feels and we have the courage to take proper action with our feet – we have achieved a verticality t h a t i s h e a l t h y , responsible, and results in finding our true self.” Lori Jean Glass

Copyright 2016 Lori Jean Glass LLC

Thank you!

Lori Jean Glass Executive Director of Clinical Operations Five Sisters Ranch

CRC, CPC, CBC

Dr. Louise Stanger Ed.D, LCSW, CIP, CDWF-Candidate

Robyn Cruze MA., National Recovery

Advocate Eating Recovery Center