Family Traditions Showcase

Child Development

Chapter 3

Family Traditions Showcase

We will be having a Traditions Gallery Walk!

DATE: Friday Sep 13th WRITE THIS DOWN!

Bring in a family tradition to share with the class. item to display food to share (must bring enough for 36) picture to show one of your family’s traditions.

Type or write very neatly a brief description of your family’s tradition in paragraph format.

During the Family Traditions Showcase, you will view all your classmates’ displays and write down their family traditions on the paper provided.

FamiliesWithin every culture…

There are families

Each culture is different

Some include parents and children

Others include aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins

Families are…

The foundation on which human culture is built

FamiliesWhat are some of the physical needs that

families meet?

Clothing

Shelter

Health

Safety

FamiliesBesides physical needs, what other needs do families

meet for us?

Social and emotional needs

to love and be loved

To give and receive help

Learning social skills

Sharing

taking turns, working together to achieve common goals

FamiliesWhat social skills do we learn from our families?

Manners

Sharing and taking turns

Working together to achieve common goals

FamiliesDo families meet intellectual goals too?

Strong families do

Family is a child’s first teacher

Language, numbers, colors

Does the strength and support of the family impact how a child does in school?

Absolutely

can have a direct relationship to the success of a child

FamiliesFamilies teach children how to live in society

Basics

“Share everything”

“Don’t hit people”

“Play fair”

FamiliesHow do families go about teaching these values?

Through example

Through communication

Explaining rules and why we have them

Through religious training

Families Families teach about their society’s unique way of life…

Art

Music

Cooking

Foods

Views about work and play

Holidays

Language

FamiliesWhat are the different family structures?

Nuclear Family

Single-Parent Family

Blended Family

Extended Family

FamiliesWhat is a nuclear family?

Includes mother, father and at least one child

Two parents to help raise the child

FamiliesWhat is a blended family?

Formed when a single parent marries another person, who may or may not have children

“step-parents”

FamiliesWhat is a single-parent

family?

Either a mother or father and at least one child

Absent parent may have died, left after divorce, parents never married

Extended FamilyWhat is an extended family?

Includes parent or parents, at least one child, and relatives other than the parents who live with them

For example…

Mom, dad, child and grandma or grandpa

Mom, dad, child, aunt or uncle

FamiliesHow does a child “join” a family?

Usually born into a family

Sometimes through “legal guardian”

Adoption

An adopted child has the same rights as any biological child

FamiliesHow do they match foster children with adoptive

parents?

In the past…

race

Ethnic or religious background

physical characteristics

Nowadays…

Emphasis is on finding a good home, not physical characteristics

FamiliesSome children join a family as a “foster child.”

Can be anyone

May have come from troubled family

Sometimes becomes part of adopted family or rejoins original family

- Bree is a typical 9 year old girl. She lives with Mr. and Mrs. Mason, her foster parents. When Bree was 7,her biological parents weren’t able to care for her, so they allowed her to be adopted.

- Bree lived with several families before she came to stay with the Mason’s. Many families who want to adopt are looking for a baby, and sometimes it is more difficult for an older child to be adopted.

- Moving from family to family and home to home has been hard for Bree. Sometimes she has to change schools and make new friends.

- Bree has lived with the Mason’s for a year now, and they are seeking to formally adopt her. Nothing would make her happier.

- Do you know anyone who has foster parents? What were his or her experiences like? How are they similar and different from your own?

Let’s play…

What type of family is this?

Blended Family

The Brady’s

Blended Family

The Kardashian’s

Nuclear (Adopted) Family

The Cullen’s

Extended Family

Fresh Prince of Bel Air

Extended Family

Full House

Blended Family

The Simmon’s

Nuclear (Adopted) Family

Brad and Angelina

Nuclear* Family

Rosie O’Donnell & Kelly Carpenter

Single Parent Family

Sheryl Crow

Nuclear Family

Jay-Z and Beyonce (and Baby)

Nuclear Family

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner

Single-Parent Family

Denise Richards

Blended Family

Heidi Klum and Seal

Nuclear* Family

Elton John and David Furnish

Nuclear Family

Tim McGraw and Faith Hill

Single Parent Family

Sandra Bullock

Nuclear Family

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes

Families…Some that didn’t live

happily ever after…

Blended Family

Jenny McCarthy and Jim Carrey

Nuclear Family (originally…)

The Hogan’s

FamiliesAll families go through a life cycle with six

stages

Beginning Stage

Couple works to establish a home and their marriage

Parental Stage 1

Expanding stage

Couple prepares for and adjusts to parenthood

FamiliesParental Stage 2

Developing stage

As children grow, parents work to meet their changing needs and help them develop independence

Parental Stage 3

Launching stage

Children leave home and support themselves

Parents adapt to life on their own

FamiliesMiddle age

Couple renews their relationship

Prepares for retirement

If children have left home, they are “empty nesters”

Retirement

Couple stops full-time work

Adjusts to having more free time

Trends Affecting FamiliesAll families…

are affected by the trends in society around them

Some trends support families

Some add pressure to families

MobilityWhat is mobility?

Many adults move from where they were raised

No family around

Must rely on themselves, neighbors, close friends

Aging PopulationHow has the “aging population” affected

families?

People live longer

People care for their children and their parents

Grandparents sometimes help raise the children

Economic ChangesWhat “economic struggles” are affecting families?

Many families struggle to make ends meet

Money is often the reason that both parents work

Many families are smaller

Have first child later in marriage

Demand for child care

All day, before and after school care

Workplace Changes How has the workplace changed over the years?

Many companies employ fewer people

Types of jobs available are shifting Manufacturing has declined Health and technology have grown

Layoffs are common

Often affects both income and insurance

Need to always learn new skills

Many people work outside their home

TechnologyHow has technology changed families?

Makes life easier and more complicated

Need to make sure kids are safe online

Technology can isolate

people from one another

“Silent Generation”

FamiliesWhich trends do you think affect families the

most?

Mobility

Aging population

Economic changes

Workplace changes

technology

Which family type and trend?

The Michelsons family includes a father, a mother, and one child from the mother’s previous marriage. Both parents work from offices in the family home.

Family Type?

Blended Family

Trend?

Workplace Changes

Which family type and trend?

Pete Washburn won custody of his two children when he and his wife divorced. He works two jobs to earn extra money.

Family Type?

Single Parent Family

Trend?

Economic Changes

Which family type and trend?

Alberto and Anamarie Nunez have two children. They have moved three times over a 20 year period.

Family Type?

Nuclear Family

Trend?

Mobility

Which family type and trend?

The Iversons married when they were 20 and have three children. Recently, they brought Erik Iverson’s mother to live with them because she is no longer able to care for herself.

Family Type?

Extended Family

Trend?

Aging population

Which family type and trend?

Sue Watsom is raising her daughter on her own. She and her daughter had to move to another town so she could keep her job.

Family Type?

Single Parent Family

Trend?

Mobility

Families Family life can be stressful! Who can you lean on for

support?

Friends

Relatives

Coworkers

What if you need professional help?

Counselor

Doctor

Religious leader

Families What does a “strong” family feel like?

Accepted

Loved/cared for

Sense of belonging

Support

Nurturing

Protection

Security

FamiliesWhat things do strong families do to keep close?

Spend time together

Share responsibilities

Work together to resolve differences

Listen to each other with an open mind

Allow everyone to express opinions and share feelings

FamiliesWhat are traditions?

Things that a family may do together more than once

Examples:

Family movie or game night

Making Christmas cookies or tamales

Summer vacation

Eating dinner together each night

FamiliesThree types of traditions

Celebration Traditions

Activities formed around special occasions

Birthdays

Holidays

Families Family Traditions

Special activities created to fit a family’s lifestyle

Vacations

Family meetings

Patterned Family Interactions

Centered on daily life

Dinner time

Bed time routines

FamiliesWhy are traditions so important? They create a

sense of…

Togetherness

Appreciation

Continuity

“little things” that make a big difference

Create lasting memories

FamiliesHow do we build strong families?

Forming Traditions

Sharing Values

Handling Family Conflict appropriately

Meeting Children’s NeedsIt is important to meet the needs of children

What happens to children whose needs are not met?

Lag behind other children in their overall development

Suffer from deprivation

Is deprivation the same as poverty?

No!

Meeting Children’s NeedsWhat physical needs do children have?

FoodClothingShelterHealthDoctor visitsSafetyCar seats

Meeting Children’s NeedsWhat emotional and social needs do children

have?

Need for nurturing

Love (hug, kiss, smile)

Support

Concern and caring

Opportunities for enrichment

Provide a safe environment for children to explore

Meeting Children’s NeedsWhen do children begin learning from their

caregivers?

At birth

What intellectual needs do children have?

Stimulation

Playing with children

Providing interesting sounds, smells, sights, touch

Parenting StylesOne example of a way to intellectually nurture a

child…

Helping them learn to enjoy books

Infants – enjoy the sound

Preschoolers – enjoy pictures, story

School age – learning to read

Parenting StylesWhat is a parenting style?

How parents and caregivers care for and discipline their child

Some tips…

Best to use a style you are comfortable with

No one style is considered “best” or “right”

No one style works with all children

Parents often need to adapt their style as each child grows

Parenting StylesWhat does the Authoritarian style look like?

Believes children should obey their parents without question

Parent tells child what to do, child’s responsibility is to do what he/she is told

When rules are broken, parent responds quickly and firmly

Parenting StylesWhat does the Assertive-Democratic style look

like?

Children have more input intro rules and limits

Children given some independence and freedom of choice within rules

When rules are broken, children learn best from accepting the results of their actions or by problem solving to find an acceptable punishment

Parenting StylesWhat does the permissive style look like?

Parents give children a wide range of freedom

Children set their own rules

Encouraged to think for themselves, not follow trends

Parents typically ignore rule breaking

Parenting StylesSometimes parents use one style on some things

and another style on others

Authoritarian – health or safety

Assertive-democratic – clothing or hairstyles

Parenting style used may change as children age

Authoritarian – younger kids

Assertive-democratic - teenagers

Guiding Children’s Behavior

What do you think is important when giving children effective directions?

Be sure you have child’s attention

Get down to their eye level

Make eye contact

Be polite

Use positive statements

“please walk” instead of “don’t run”

Guiding Children’s Behavior

How to give children effective directions, cont.

Begin with an action verb

“Get ready for bed, please”

Give a limited number of directions at a time

Be clear

Give praise and love

Guiding Children’s Behavior

Be a good role model

Children are always watching!

This is good and bad

Set limits

Children must be told what is expected of them

Limits stated simply, briefly, calmly

Guiding ChildrenParents guide children in three basic ways

Positive role models

Set limits and redirect their children’s behavior

Use positive reinforcement

Guiding ChildrenThree questions to help parents determine limits

Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore and grow?

Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’ age?

Does the limit benefit the child, or is merely for the adult’s convenience?

Guiding ChildrenHow do you use Positive Reinforcement?

Be specific

Comment on the behavior as soon as possible

Recognize small steps

Help children take pride in their actions

Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child

Use positive reinforcement wisely

Guiding ChildrenWhen you are dealing with inappropriate behavior

and considering how to respond, keep in mind:

Is the expected behavior appropriate, given the child’s age and development?

Does the child understand that the behavior is wrong?

Did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?

Guiding Children What is negative reinforcement?

A response aimed at discouraging children from repeating an inappropriate behavior

Natural Consequences

Child suffers as result of their action

If a child loses his new jacket, he has to wear the old one

Logical Consequences

Connected to behavior

Color on the table, lose the crayons

Guiding Children Loss of Privileges

Most effective for children 5 and up

Works best when item being taken away is related to the behavior

Time Out

Gives child a chance to calm down and reflect

Gives caregiver a moment to do the same

How long should a time out last?

One minute per year of age

Guiding ChildrenWhat are some poor disciplinary measures?

Bribing

Making children promise to behave

Shouting or yelling

Shaming or belittling

Threatening to withhold love

Exaggerating the consequences

Guiding Children’s Behavior

Think about the parenting style that you have experienced. What are some of the positives of this style? What are some of the negatives of this style? Has it always been this style, or has it changed over

the years? What parenting style do you think you like to have

with your children? Why?

Think about a time that you misbehaved as a child. How was it handled? Was it effective?