PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

K V V NARASIMHA RAODEE

STATE DAM SAFETY ORGANISATION CDO

•SMILE

It costs you nothing

Moreover it adds value to your face

• YOU ARE SPECIAL&

UNIQUE

PERSONALITY• The aggregate and integration of all

the different characterstics of an individual –psychological , intellectual , emotional, physical etc.

• Your personality is what makes you unique – a distinct individual in a sea of humanity with your own way of thinking and doing things.

Why Personality Development?• Time Famine• Change• No rehearsals in life• Global village• More choices & opportunities

Premium on personal productivity

Pace and Pressures of life – loosing control of life

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Ex: Role in Organisation• Expectations of Superiors:• Responsibility• Self Confidence• Honesty• Capacity to take +ve criticism• Judgement• Discipline & self control• Involvement

• Expectations of Subordinates:• Respect for others• Willingness to share information• Appreciation• Encouragement• Fair play & justice• Helpfulness• Accessibility• Loyalty

• Expectations of colleagues:• Co operation• Loyalty• Frankness• Modesty • Respect & Courtesy

What is EXPECTED?• Peace• Productivity ( success )• happiness

PEACE : – Having serenity ,balance and harmony through control

of eventsPRODUCTIVITY:

Sense of ACCOMLISHMENT &Sense of SELF WORTH

HAPPINESS:Sense of WELL BEING

FEEL GOOD FACTOR

HOW?

4T`s

• Thought feeling emotion action habit character destiny

•+ ve thinking

• Talk -- self talk conversation discussion-

argument

COMMUNICATION

• Task purpose goal achievment growth

KNOWLEDGE , SKILL , ATTITUDE

• TIME = Resource

IRRICOVERABLE

Effective process to RESULT

Programming

Beliefs

Attitude

Feeling

Behavior

Result

Thoughts /Thinking: “ Change thinking to change life”

Feeling: “Good”

Emotion: Emotions that motivate us in most of our actions.

1. Fear: “ I have to”Fear of loss/ povertyFear of old ageFear of criticism /

disapprovalFear of ill healthFear of failureFear of rejection

Fear > Faith StressFear < Faith Confidence

• 2. DUTY “ I OUGHT TO”• 3. LOVE / DESIRE “ I WANT TO” “ The things we do or refrain from doing because of fear greatly outweigh the number of things we do because of desire”

Action / Behaviour• Behaviour is a reflection of what you

truly believe

Never act out of negative emotions

Habit • “ Repeated action”“ Habits are easy to form and difficult to break” Ten bad habits acting as progress obstructers:No proiritising perfectionismProcrastination non focusFear of change impunctualityEscapism lyingPurposeless life jealousy

character• “Doing what you say you`re doing”

• “ Adversity shows the man`s character”

DESTINY• desired out come … happiness

POSITIVE THINKING• “ Proactive” “ Not focusing on obstacles”

For success in globalisation “ Lateral thinking ““ out of box thinking”“ think different”

A t t I t u d e• “ perspectives from which we view

life”

Programming creates beliefsBeliefs creates attitudesAttitudes creates feelingsFeelings creates actionsActions creates results

• PMA: A perspective which allows one to see the “ opportunities “ ahead and set his sights to reach them .

Our attitudes are created and controlled or influenced by our “ beliefs”

STEPS TO PMA:

Think , but don`t react

Become a “how” thinker

Believe u can and u can

Improve self image

DEVELOPMENT

BEGINS WITH

REVIEWINGRESPONDINGVALUING -- -- placing worthORGANISING-- system of beliefs and hierarchy

ACT ---- --- in accordance with the value system

Improving self image

“YOU`RE BETTER THAN YOU THINK”

“PUT THE PAST IN

THE PAST”

“BUILD ON YOUR

STRENGTHS”

“ACCEPT YOURSELF –

UNCONDITIONALLY”

“DON`T ALLOW OTHERS TO

DEFINE YOUR WORTH”

“PUT WHAT YOU WANT

FIRST”

Goals• Planned conflict with the status quo• SMART goals• Three obstacles to leaving comfort

zones1.The invisible committee2. Walls3.Fear of change

T I M E• Stop thinking “Time management”

and start thinking “ event control”• Greater event control more

productivity -Self Esteem

Time Robbers Imposed on us self –inflected

Interruptions Failure to delegate

Unclear job description Poor attitude

Poor communication Failure to listen

Shifting priorities Unfinished tasks

Conflicting priorities Poor planning

Lack of authority Cluttered work place

Untrained staff Perfectionism

Solution to Managing Time

Prioritise Plan

Delegate Set goals

Structure each day Value time

Get organised

Evaluation of Individual Performance• {IA + AA}A = IHP

• IA Inborn attributes (mental ability, tendency,

temperment)• AA Acquired attributes ( knowledge,skill,talent,expression,ability)A Attitude ** This factor plays a major role

• What will you do with your future?

• You have 2 choices really…..

• You can choose to just survive..

• You can choose to just survive..

or

• You can choose to make a difference.

` but….. Know this

Shape your Future• Develop your ‘vision”• Define your ”dream”• Set your “goals”• Work out your “action plan”

• Develop the right habits

• Then……..

“ JUST DO IT”

NEEDS Belief

window

Rules Behaviour patterns

Results

NEEDS TO LIVE

safe & secure TO LOVE & BE

LOVED gives “Purpose”

TO FEEL IMPORNANT

Self esteem TO EXPERIENCE

VARIETY

• Our Beliefs can be reflection of our values.

• Ex: Regarding self esteem My worth as a person is determined by

-the praise I receive from others- the things I own- the job I hold - the way I look- the kind of person I marry- any combination of the above- none of the above

REMEMBER For having WINNING attitude “ LEAVE THE PAST LIVE THE PRESENT LOVE THE FUTURE ”

• WHEN!

• “ Some day, when I get time, I`m going to…………………”

• If not NOW !

• WHEN?

“Your task is to build a better world” said God

And I answered “ But HOW? The world is such a vast place , and oh so complicated nowI am small and helpless,

there is nothing much I can do”

• But God in all His wisdom said,

” Just build a better

you! “

Impossible is a word to be found only in the dictionary of

fools

•Keep SMILing with PMA

• THANK YOU