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PROGRAM DESCRIPTION

This interactive discussion will strive to create a space for us as mentors to candidly evaluate the effectiveness of our practices as well as develop a network within the college community to maximize our overall outreach. 2

AGENDA

• Introduction - Program Description and Agenda Review

5 minutes

• Icebreaker – Who’s Real and Who’s Not 10 minutes

• The 3 C’s: Key Mentoring Concepts• Connection 15 minutes• Communication 15 minutes• Commitment 15 minutes

• Practice & Application 10 minutes

• Closing 5 minutes

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SAFE SPACE

A place where anyone can relax and be fully self-expressed, without fear of being made to feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or unsafe on account of biological sex, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, cultural background, age, or physical or mental ability; a place where the rules guard each person's self-respect and dignity and strongly encourage everyone to respect others.

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ICEBREAKER

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MENTORSHIP QUIZ

How are student truancy rates effected by a positive mentor/mentee relationship?

•A. 27% increase•B. 41% increase•C. 52% decrease•D. 64% decrease

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truancy - any intentional unauthorized or illegal absence from compulsory schooling

ANSWER #1

According to a Proctor & Gamble study, research shows that youth who spend time with a caring adult mentor regularly for at least one year are 52% less likely than their peers to skip a day of school.

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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)

How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship effect the youth and illegal drug use?

•A. 58% less likely•B. 46% less likely•C. 34% less likely•D. 22% more likely

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ANSWER #2

According to a Pew Public/Private Ventures Study, after 18 months with mentors, results indicated the boys and girls were 46 % less likely to use illegal drugs.

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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)

Presently, how many youth remained underserved in the mentoring gap?

•A. 6 million•B. 12 million•C. 15million•D. 18 million

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Mentoring Gap – the number of young Americans who need or want mentoring but are not are in formal, high-quality mentoring relationships.

ANSWER #3

According to MENTΩR National Mentoring Partnership 15 million young people still need mentors.

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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)

How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship affect teen pregnancy rates?

•A. 18% decrease•B. 35% decrease•C. 67% decrease•D. 98 % decrease

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ANSWER #4

According to the California Mentor Foundation surveyed 124 mentor programs with 36,251 mentors and 57,659 mentees. The survey showed that 98% deterred from teen pregnancy.

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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)

What percentage of college graduates reported a mentor as instrumental in the employer selection process?

•A. 40%•B. 55%•C. 60%•D. 75%

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ANSWER #5

According to Mentors Management results indicate that 60% of college and graduate students listed mentoring as a factor for selecting an employer after graduation.

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REFLECTION QUESTIONS

• What were some of your reaction to the statistics?

• How can you use these data to make the most impact with your mentee?

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COMMUNICATION

According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior; a verbal or written message; information transmitted or conveyed

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LET’S TALK ABOUT IT

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COMMUNICATION REFLECTION

• What are some of the techniques you liked the best?

• What is something you would have done differently?

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ISSUES AFFECTING YOUTH TODAY

• Peer pressure• Drugs/alcohol• Poverty• Family• Academics• Bullying• Self - Esteem

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SO YOU CALL YOURSELF A ‘MENTOR’?

• Gender

• Race/Ethnicity

• Socioeconomic Status

• Religion

• Political Affiliation

• Location

• Education

• Culture

• Organizational

• Other, etc.

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• Man• Black• Christian• College Educated• Working Class• Tutor• Alpha Phi Alpha• AmeriCorps

Programs (Jumpstart Tallahassee)

• Big Brother• Kollage

Dance Troupe• Independent• Miami-WADE

County• FSU Seminole

JOERY’S LIST

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I AM “MENTOR” STATEMENTS

I AM PATIENT,

I AM FIRM,

I AM HONEST,

I AM UNDERSTANDING,

I AM WORKING ON BEING A BETTER COMMUNICATOR,

I AM LOYAL,

AND I AM A MENTOR!

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REAL TALK: SO YOU CALL YOURSELF A ‘MENTOR’?

Joery Francois

The Mentoring Institute @ The Florida State University

The Center for Leadership and Social Change

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B.A., English Editing, Writing, & Media

B.S., African-American Studies

FSU C. A. R. E. Trio Pre-Collegiate Programs, Mentor

Jumpstart Tallahassee, Volunteer Coordinator

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