Welcome to “The Communication Map” Seminar

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What is “the Communication Map”?

A communication tool A one page foundational system

Easy to learn and use Universal enough for all relationships

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When “the Communication Map” Works? It comes into play when one person experiences issues and needs to talk Two people involved in the relationship: the sender and the receiver

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9 Rules of the Road

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Issues are unmet needs

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2 All issues are valid© Copyright by Relationship Coaching Institute

3Who has the unmet need owns the issue

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4One issue at a time

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One person speaks at a time

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Speak with moderation

7 Listen with curiosity

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Assume Win-Win

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9 Nurture the space between

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I. The Sender II. The ReceiverIII. The Wall

Three Concepts:

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The Sender

The sender is the one who experiences issue and needs to talk to the other person

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Difference between experiencing something and being clear what it is you’re experiencing

Difference between a “Talker” and a “Thinker”

The Receiver

The receiver is the person to whom the message is sent

It Is not about Me Be Curious Listen and Support Be Compassionate Be a Coach and

Mirror Back

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The Wall The wall, in the communication map, is

one of four things:

1. Judgment2. Interpretation3. Defensiveness4. Reactive emotion.

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How “the Communication Map” Works?

8The ReceiverThe Sender

Steps in the Communication Map

Experience Issue

Hit the Wall

Identify Issue

Communicate Issue

Make Request

Negotiate

Agree

Follow Through

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Example: “I have

something to discuss…” “’help me to

understand your issue”

“or not”

“my problem is …” “what you

need from me is…”

“identify the issue”

“how about we…”

“so you’d like to…how about…”

“great, let’s do it…”

“Ok, I agree with you…”

“thank you, let’s do it…”

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Communication Tips5 Top© Copyright by Relationship Coaching Institute

Tip1: Use the 3 Magic Words of Listening: “Is There More?”

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Tip2: “It’s Not About You!”

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Tip3: “It’s All About You!”© Copyright by Relationship Coaching Institute

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Tip4: “Turn Complaints into Requests.”

Tip5: “Telling Your Truth!” © Copyright by Relationship Coaching Institute

Thank you!

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