Agenda:

Thomas Kilmann Instrument: Getting to Know Yourself and Your Team

Positions and Interests: Getting to Good Conversation

3 Conversations:•What happened•Emotions and Feelings•Identity

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Identity Issues

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Three Identify Issues

1. Am I competent?

2. Am I a good person?

3. Am I worthy of love?

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Identity Quake

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Am I worthy of love? NO

Am I a good person? NO

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Am I competent? NO

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Complexify!

• No one is always anything

• We can feel positive and negative

• Adopt the AND STANCE

All my fault

I’m incompetent and worthless.

All or Nothing?

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Not my fault

I reject all feedback as irrelevant.

Three Things to Remember

1. You will make mistaks!

2. Your intentions are complex.

3. You have contributed to the problem.

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Rolls of Roles

1. List 10 most important roles you play

2. Now strike the 2 least important roles

3. Strike 2 more4. Then 2 more5. And another 26. Now just one more …

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Rock and Roles at Rare

PPM to CM Relationship

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Step 1

In a group, list the roles PPMs play to CMs/LAP supervisor.

Roles and roles

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Step 2

How do they evolve over time?How do you think this looks from the perspective of the CM/LAP supervisor?

Step 3

What might be effective ways of managing communication around PPM roles with CMs?

Step 1

Think about times you have experienced identity quakes.

Personal Reflection

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Step 2

Look for a pattern that may indicate identitys/roles that are vulnerable for you.

Step 3

List them.

Mantra

• Write a mantra

• Does anything come to mind now….

• Give yourself time….

• REGAIN BALANCE

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Putting It All Together

Final Exercise….

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• Review of elements

•Homework

•Follow up

Now what?

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