Agenda:
Thomas Kilmann Instrument: Getting to Know Yourself and Your Team
Positions and Interests: Getting to Good Conversation
3 Conversations:•What happened•Emotions and Feelings•Identity
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Identity Issues
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Three Identify Issues
1. Am I competent?
2. Am I a good person?
3. Am I worthy of love?
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Identity Quake
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Am I worthy of love? NO
Am I a good person? NO
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Am I competent? NO
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Complexify!
• No one is always anything
• We can feel positive and negative
• Adopt the AND STANCE
All my fault
I’m incompetent and worthless.
All or Nothing?
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Not my fault
I reject all feedback as irrelevant.
Three Things to Remember
1. You will make mistaks!
2. Your intentions are complex.
3. You have contributed to the problem.
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Rolls of Roles
1. List 10 most important roles you play
2. Now strike the 2 least important roles
3. Strike 2 more4. Then 2 more5. And another 26. Now just one more …
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Rock and Roles at Rare
PPM to CM Relationship
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Step 1
In a group, list the roles PPMs play to CMs/LAP supervisor.
Roles and roles
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Step 2
How do they evolve over time?How do you think this looks from the perspective of the CM/LAP supervisor?
Step 3
What might be effective ways of managing communication around PPM roles with CMs?
Step 1
Think about times you have experienced identity quakes.
Personal Reflection
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Step 2
Look for a pattern that may indicate identitys/roles that are vulnerable for you.
Step 3
List them.
Mantra
• Write a mantra
• Does anything come to mind now….
• Give yourself time….
• REGAIN BALANCE
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Putting It All Together
Final Exercise….
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• Review of elements
•Homework
•Follow up
Now what?
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