Cappuccino Coaching

Module 4What’s Stopping You From Making Change?

Welcome & Introduction(Give a few lines of introduction about yourself)

• “In my coaching I help …” (e.g - people with relationship issues or struggling with overwhelm)

• “Through questioning & coaching skills I help people …” (e.g– determine what their life purpose is, to set boundaries, set action plans & take action in their lives)

• “I’m a bit like a plumber – I help people unblock their problems!”

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What are Cappuccino Coaching Sessions?

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• A way of learning what coaching is

• A starting point for taking action and making some small changes in your life

• Safe environment – get involved as little or as much as you choose

• In business? A way of meeting like minded people, bring your business cards & share

• Not in business? Just mingle, make new friends

What We Will Cover Today• The Psychology of Change – how it works

• Things that might be stopping you

• Five common fears & how to deal with them

• Limiting beliefs – what might be holding you back and how to change that

• Learn 3 things to achieve your goals

• Set an action plan©Ruby McGuire 2014

The Psychology of ChangeDr Anthony Grant - University of Sydney

• Taking the time to contemplate a change

• Being ready to embark on a change

• Change requiring preparation

• Relapse being normal

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What’s Stopping You From Making Change?

• Belief don't deserve what you

want• Take yourself too seriously• People pleasing/others first• The Joneses• Nothing worthwhile to contribute• Agonising over decisions• Process takes too long/too much

effort or commitment

Write down 3 things that might be stopping you - WkBk

• Fear of being judged/criticised• Giving up too quickly• 'I'll do this until ...'• 'Should', 'Must',• Fear of unknown• Doubt, 'Can't'• Might make a mistake

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Five Common Types Of FearWhat are you afraid of? WkBk

(Whole session on fear coming soon so just touching on the basics)

• Fear of failure• Fear of embarrassment• Fear of rejection• Fear of success • Fear of the unknown

Once you’ve labelled it you canchallenge it.. ‘What if…

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Label it!

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Procrastination – Some Top Tips Don’t let procrastination hold you off track

(Whole session on procrastination coming soon but until then here are 3 top tips for procrastination)

• Procrastination is often hiding fear – find out what it is & figure out why you don’t want to do it

• Stop being a perfectionist - What if 80% is good enough?

• Write a list – do the jobs on the list and set yourself a fabulous reward

• Share what you’re going to do with others – it’s amazing what accountability can do

• Break the task down into mini milestones

• Just start! – do the task for 10-15 minutes

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Procrastination – 3 Top Tips(Optional Slide – Also Used in Goal Setting)

Don’t let procrastination hold you off track (We have a whole session on procrastination coming soon but until

then here are 3 top tips for procrastination)

1. Start!(Starting is sometimes the hardest bit – do 5 minutes on something just to get you going)

2. NoticeNotice what you’re doing instead of the thing you’re meant to be doing – ask yourself why you’re putting it off

3. Next StepWrite down the very first step, get that done andthen write down the very next step(bullet points on worksheet)

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Limiting BeliefsWhat are your limiting beliefs? WkBk

• Limiting beliefs are one of the biggest areas that hold people back in life

How can you overcome them?

• Recognise them, once you know they exist you can change them, and incredibly quickly too

• We build evidence to reinforce our beliefs - Santa - grotto/parents/letter/presents

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Limiting Beliefs• Limiting beliefs are based in fear, we use

them to protect ourselves but they don't serve us

• Reframe it... What's the opposite of your belief -turnaround - 'I am good enough’

(At end of notes you have 3 top tips to help you overcome your limiting beliefs)

We are going to challenge a couple of these now..

• “I don’t deserve it”• “I can’t do it”

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‘I Don’t Deserve It’• Is that true?

• Who says?

• What needs to happen for you to deserve it?

• Write a list of your strengths, you are unique, celebrate that

• Look after you too, otherwise you will build resentment

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‘I Can’t Do It’

• Turn this impossibility into possibility - HOW can you do it?

• Has someone else done it before?

• What did they have to do to make it happen?

• How do you know if you haven't tried?

• What if you could????

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Making Mistakes

• Choose a 'have a go' attitude

• You may make a mistake but you will learn how not to do something

• Give yourself permission to make mistakes

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Taking Yourself Too Seriously?

• Lighten up!

• Take responsibility for your own life

• How can you bring more fun into your life?

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Pros & Cons

• How can you turn the cons into positives?

• What's the payoff for holding onto this belief?

(if a limiting belief is coming up then explore it a bit further – flip it etc.)

• Does your goal really fire you up?

• What's your level of commitment on a scale of 1-10 (10 high)©Ruby McGuire 2014

Choose 1 thing you’d like to changeList 3 pros & cons for that change – WkBk

(nb – all q’s here are in workbook)

3 Things To Achieve Goals

• Possibility - turn impossibility to possibility

• Ability - Believe you have the ability to achieve your goals (Has someone ever done it? Then why can't you?)

• Worthiness - You are worthy (Under what circumstances would you deserve it?)

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Action Plan

• When will you take that step?• What support do you need?

What will stop you from making thatchange?

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Write down 1 action step you will commit to WkBk

Your comfort zone

Where the magic happens

What We’ve Covered Today

• The Psychology of Change – how it works

• Things that might be stopping you

• Five common fears & how to deal with them

• Limiting beliefs – what might be holding you back and how to change that

• Learnt 3 things to achieve your goals – possibility/ability/awareness

• Set an action plan

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Enjoyed Today’s Session?

• What was the best thing about this session?

• Come back next month for our topic on ….

• Tell your friends, follow on facebook, twitter etc. (give business card if you have one)

• Want to work with me 1-2-1 (here’s how…)

• If you’ve left your name will add it to my mailing list – latest topics, hints/tips etc.

• I will leave you with some words of wisdom

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