DATING RELATIONSHIPSSOCIAL HEALTH

DATING ROLES AND EXPECTATIONS

Ladies and Gentlemen, now is your time to make your opinions known…

IN A RESPECTFUL WAY!

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION• When you’re going on a first date…

• What things need to be communicated before or on the date?

• What should we talk about when we are on the date? • What do I do if we run out of things to talk about?

• When you’re dating someone…

• When you’re engaged…

INTELLIGENT DATING• Intelligent Dating: dating successfully; being selective

about who you date; hanging out and having fun; remaining steady through the natural highs and lows of romance; keeping your own standards

• Brainless Dating: dating ineffectively; dating anyone who has a pulse; becoming centered on your girlfriend or boyfriend; having your heart broken repeatedly; doing what everyone else seems to be doing

SOCIETY’S THINKING

1. Pair Up: Having a girlfriend or boyfriend is the only way to be happy.

2. Get Physical: The more you like someone the more physical you have to get. You can only show love with your body.

MAKE SURE YOU’RE READY• Don’t’ feel pressured to start dating at a certain

time• Date people close to your own age

GET TO KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE• Dating is your time to learn what you like and

don’t like for a future partner• Dating in high school is a time to have fun and

learn/develop social skills• Don’t be in such a hurry to have a boyfriend or

girlfriend just because “everyone else does.”

DATE IN GROUPS• It’s usually more fun• There’s safety in numbers• You’ll meet more people• There are fewer expectations

SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES• Decide NOW how far you’re willing to go, what’s off limits,

and don’t let ANYONE talk you out of it

• If you haven’t decided beforehand what your boundaries are, stuff happens you didn’t plan on

• NEVER apologize for having high standards and don’t ever lower your standards to please someone else

• If you don’t set your own boundaries, someone else will do it for you!

HAVE A PLAN• Dating is more fun when you have a plan as well as a

backup plan in case things don’t work out

• It DOES NOT have to be expensive

• Cheap yet fun date ideas?

RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS

Ultimatums• You’d better do this or

else…

Isolating or controlling behaviors

Lies• The basic building block

of relationships = TRUST

“You’ll never find anyone else who will love you.”

If you me, I’ll hurt myself

Severe jealousy or always having to know where you are/who you are with