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A CONFIDENT YOU

The Person You Always Want To Be!

By: Amy Twain



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LOOKING BACK…

I’ll never forget her.

No, it’s not because she was the prettiest, the most popular, the sexiest, and the

richest or even the smartest girl way back in high school that would make any girl

(like me) weep with envy.

I’ll never forget Rose because aside from the fact that she’s my close friend, it also

because she was the most relentlessly bullied, teased, ridiculed and easily made

fun of. It certainly didn’t help that she’s the shy and quiet type. And she’s always

misunderstood.

So as her close friend, I didn’t give up on her. I realized that she’s just this unique

and beautiful soul who needs help. Therefore, I set my personal mission to help

her in any way I can.



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This prompted me to know and learn more about this crippling condition known

as low self esteem. Why does this thing even exist? What are the root causes of

this condition?

More importantly, how can we conquer this so that we can enjoy lifeto the max?

As time went by, I helped her in my own small ways but not without its

challenges. This I say since one of the many profound reasons of low sense of

worth stems from one’s childhood. Funny, as it may sound, but as I was

helping her, I also gained so much; by reading and researching more about

self esteem, I learned so much about it and apparently, how to overcome it.

And I strongly believe that nobody has the right to hurt, humiliate or

embarrass anybody physically or emotionally.

All you need to do is to stand up for yourself and believe in yourself .

And yes, I’m proud to say that she has risen above the odds to be the confident

and blooming Rose that she is now.

Consequently, I realized that self esteem is an area in which most individuals arehaving tough issues with especially during those days----and up to the present.

Not only for the youngsters, but the lack of self esteem can be felt by people of all

ages. The issue on self esteem is very prevalent during the past generations as it is

now.

As it is a prevalent problem, there are solutions which can be applied and

practiced to overcome this. In this free report, we’ll talk about the common

problem known as low self esteem and the solutions or answers to this problem.

And you too, just like anybody, can surely and definitely rise above the odds if

you’re willing to be a more confident YOU and be the person you always want to

be!

So let’s get it on, shall we?



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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Chapter 1 What Self Esteem is All About

Chapter 2 Low Self esteem—Do You Have It?

Chapter 3 Reaching Out to Others

Chapter 4 Be Careful What You Say to You!

Chapter 5 How to Handle Criticisms

Chapter 6 The Power of Affirmations

Get Ready for a Confident YOU!



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Chapter 1

What Self Esteem Is All About

When we talk about self esteem, usually, the term confidence comes to mind.

Though these two are quite similar in some aspects, self esteem is deeper in all

aspects like, it is thinking highly of yourself, while confidence is having the faith

and belief in yourself that you can achieve something. The latter is more about

your skills and talents and believing in yourself, feeling good about yourself, yet

self esteem is thinking highly on yourself. It is putting value and significance

in yourself.

So you may think that some famous personalities are exempted from low self

esteem? Well think again!

Even the very accomplished or popular individuals in the world may be struggling

with their own insecurity, believe it or not. They are a true testament that being

in the limelight or having hordes of adoring fans won’t guarantee healthy self

esteem; it cannot be a validation of your self worth.

To expound more regarding this, there are questions to ask yourself to further

analyze yourself. These questions are given to “estimate” yourself. Try to answer

the questions as truthfully as you can. It’s like trying to look that other side of you

from within.



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To know about these questions, find out on Chapter 1 of Fabulous Self Esteem.

And take note that if you find it difficult to answer “yes” to the questions, it could

be that you may have low self esteem.

And that’s what this book is all about. To let you accept yourself despite all your

flaws and shortcomings, your past failures and mistakes. To highlight more on the

positive side of life and be the best of what you can be.

The difference between a person with low self esteem and one who has healthy

one stems from their childhood.

Think about it—observe those adults whom in your own opinion are confident,

successful, and self assured individuals who “made it”. They were equipped with

essential values during their childhood, so eventually they grew up to be

dependable, confident and worthwhile adults.

On the other hand, the opposite happens to the childhood years of a person with

poor morale or low sense of worth. Those poor kids were mostly ridiculed,

criticized, or worst, mistreated in some way. Thus, they grow up with insecurity,

paralyzing shyness and negativity.

Our childhood shaped and molded us. They provided us the tools, the

defenses, and the foundation that we apply in being the adults that

we evolved to be.

And whether good or bad, these early childhood exposures and experiences as

kids could echo for the rest of our lives.



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Chapter 2

Low Self Esteem—Do You Have It?

Want to know more about defining your self esteem? There is actually a self

esteem evaluation in store for you. All you have to do is take that quiz by

answering Y (yes) or N (no). Check out Chapter 3 of Fabulous Self Esteem for this

self esteem evaluation.

There are 3 faces of poor self esteem. Find out if you “fit in” with these

characteristics or if you see yourself as one of these facades.

1. The Phony --- another name for “The Great Pretender”. Hmmm...I know that

this one almost all if not some of us are at times guilty of. Constantly acts as if

he’s made it. Yet in fact, deep inside is frightened of failure and making mistakes.

2. The Rebel —Well, from the word itself, acts rebelliously and tries to be an

iconoclastic, being indifferent and breaking the rules. They feel as if they’re not

good enough, thus, the need to rebel.

3. The Loser or defeatist type—They constantly wait and rely for others to assist

them to be their guardian angels. These persons play the role of being helpless

damsels in distress (notwithstanding if they are males) waiting to be saved by

their knights in shining armor. Hence, these people are not emotionally mature

when dealing with their life’s choices. If made the wrong choices, unable to face

the consequences of their own actions.

Read more of Chapter 3 of the book for more detailed explanations on these 3

facades.

And do you know how does any typical individual with healthy self esteem looks

like?

Well, they also look like any ordinary individuals just like you and me. But what

separates them from those with poor self esteem is the way they look at life



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or things in general . Usually, these persons display the following features and

traits:

They are strongly motivated by their dreams and goals in life, and work

towards it, yet do not lose their touch in reality.

They have a great personality! They are usually easy to work and deal with.

Mostly, they have a strong network of friends in work, they have

gym/jogging/sports buddies, still keep in touch with longtime pals from

grade school, high school or in college.

They revel in these company of like-minded and kindred persons for they

believe that no man is an island. They know that friendship and connections

require a give-and-take relationship.



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They care for others, too. They are not selfish nor self-centered. They have

a real concern for their fellowmen and they are charitable. They are willing

to extend a helping hand and a shoulder to cry on to their friends in trying

times of distress and problems.

They are secure of themselves. By saying this, I mean that they are neither

boastful nor insecure of others. They’re able to strike a balance between

staying grounded and still enjoying the company of others. They accept that

they are not perfect that’s why they don’t limit their horizons or their world

if ever they don’t look perfect enough for the standards of society.

Actually, there are still many traits that best describe a healthy self

esteem. Chapter 3 of Fabulous Self Esteem tells you more about these

other traits.



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Chapter 3

Reaching Out To Others

Ever heard of a famous song by Barbra Streisand that says, “People who need

people are the luckiest people on earth”?

Well, it’s true isn’t it? We all need other people, whether we like it or not.

We need them from the simplest of things like asking for directions, just hang

around and have fun, to finding close friends and in looking for lifetime

partnership with The One to finally have a family with someday.

There are so many adults still struggling to just come out of their shy protective

shells and meet new faces.

Chapter 7 of Fabulous Self Esteem tells us more about the power of

relationships—solid and enduring ones preferably. There is a need to nurture

fruitful friendships and relationships.

You know, real friendships can mature dearly. And some of these platonicfriendships can arise or bloom to, (ahem) a budding romance and some may even

be potential business partners if you got the right people with the right attitude.

See, where this seemingly innocent yet enduring friendships can lead to? This is

what we call genuine connections is all about.

More than just accumulating tons and tons of new faces in Friendster or Facebook

you never knew personally, or you never even saw in the flesh, true friendship

and networking is about cultivating real friends you meet and get to experience

life’s ups and downs, share your joys and sorrows with them; you grow up with

them, you began your journey with them.



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This Chapter also tells us that there’s strength in asking people for help. There I

explained why it’s not a si gn of weakness in asking others for help.

I also shared a sad story (which we can all learn from) why “keeping it all bottled”

all by ourselves is not always good---it may cause serious depression which can

lead to extreme circumstances. That’s why w e have friends; friends are

there to make us enjoy life more.



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Chapter 4

Be Careful What You Say To You!

So who do you think is the most influential person in your life? Others may

answer their mom, their dad, some may say their friends, while others say that it

can be their celebrity idols.

It all depends on the person actually, to each his own. But have you ever thought

that at the end of the day, YOU are the most influential person on earth?

And why is that, you may ask? It’s because you are the one person who

deal with yourself —makes sense?

So you better be good to yourself.

Think about it—if you try to be good, polite and behave nicely to other people,

well don’t you think that you also deserve that same kind of courtesy and

niceness you bestow to others?

Therefore, be careful what you say to yourself! Don’t be too harsh on yourself.

There are times that our internal speech points to the negative. We might think

that since we can be true to ourselves, we could speak to ourselves whatever we

want—be it good or bad. There’s really nothing wrong with it since we have to be

honest with ourselves, right? Wrong.

Be careful on being too severe and especially doing it on a daily basis. Too often,

our subconcious mind might get too accustomed in hearing those negative voices

running all over our heads that we may accept that as our reality--the horrors!

Now, instead of just imagining it in our minds, we may unconsciously adopt it in

our life .



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You got to understand that in your hands lie the power to control your

own life and destiny and not that negative internal speech trying to

dominate you.

Chapter 4 of Fabulous Self Esteem tackles more about this and shows certain

scenarios on those very instances wherein our internal critics try to “attack” or

simply belittle or disparage us or our abilities.

There are actually “weapons” on how to combat these negative voices

we hear once in a while. Just read Chapter 4 of Fabulous Self Esteem to get

hold of these weapons to counteract “terroristic” negative internal naysayers.



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Chapter 5

How To Handle Criticisms

We got movie critics, food critics, art critics, etc. I think being paid for criticizing

someone, a performance or a work is the best job on earth.

Seriously now, what do you mean when you criticize? Criticism is making

judgements and evaluations. To criticize also means to find fault openly.

Usually, criticism is unsolicited and unnecessary. Mostly, it’s even uncalled for.

When it comes to criticism, you’re treading tricky waters here. And if you’re not

careful, you can hurt somebody’s feelings (if he’s the sensitive type), you may

arouse anger (if he’s easily prone to resentment). In short, if you’re not

careful, you may be asking for trouble.

Of course, it’s always inevitable that we get to receive some criticisms from

others at some point in our lives. And if you’re not cautious, you may be a victim

of insecurity if you let those crictics affect you and worse, run your life.



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Just like in the case of my best friend Rose, (described above) destructive criticism

was the worst she has to encounter in her shy and bullied past in high school. And

it does not even help that she’s so shy and it made her all the more weak and

paralyzed her sense of worth.

So I helped her and this I came to believe—that it’s already a fact of life that

criticism is everywhere—you can’t run away from that , so you just have

to accept that.

Now, the question is, would you rather be enslaved and forever fall victims to

this, or will you rather choose to be strong, stand your ground and still carry on

as usual with your life and prove these people wrong? Well, why not choose thelatter, right?

In Chapter 9 of my book Fabulous Self Esteem, I dig deeper regarding criticism and

how to deal with it. There are also certain scenarios on how cope with this

annoying (and off-putting situation) and how to answer without sounding too

defensive.

And not only that—what if you are the one to give out criticisms? Yeah, ithappens too, right? Maybe you haven’t noticed that you criticize others also.

Perhaps you didn’t know that you offended other people’s feelings before.

Therefore, as not to make the same (unintentional) mistake again, just read more

about this in Chapter 9 of Fabulous Self Esteem.

Want to criticize (without offending) a friend who’s dressed so badly that he/she

can be in the Worst Dressed List? Well, for his/her reputation’s sake, learn how to

deliver the right words—it’s on Chapter 9 of Fabulous Self Esteem.

There are also certain “rephrasing” statements or euphemisms when executing

criticisms—also, it’s all there in Chapter 9.



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Chapter 6

The Power of Affirmations

First and foremost, what are these affirmations I’m talking about? These positive

affirmations are healing, feel-good statements you say to yourself.

And why do we have to do this? And I say, why not? The concept behind this is to

fight back all those negativity that our inner voice has been trying to

invade our psyche through the years.

As we were growing up, some of us have our own beliefs having imagined fears

and negativity about ourselves and even comparing ourselves to other people. So

instead of believing these negative inner voice, why don’t we counteract these

with positive affirmations?

You can actually use affirmations at your own convenience and at your own pace.

You just have to keep repeating a positive phrase or declaration over and over

again till you become comfy with it.

Usually, these affirmations are easy and free; all it takes is some effort from you.

You could repeat these affirmations or affirmative statements in front of your

mirrors at home, writing it in a piece of paper, while riding on the train back

home—it’s up to you! You can be creative as you can as long as you’re

comfortable with it, then go for it.

So whenever you found yourself thinking of something or anything

that you don’t want, simply change that thought to a new one!

And how do you go about in having these thought transformations via

affirmations? Chapter 8 of my book Fabulous Self Esteem shows you how. Also,



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there are 3 areas of positive self-affirmations. Wanna know what are these? No

probs—it’s all there in Chapter 8.

Get Ready For A Confident You!

Of course, we all want to be confident—admit it. Hence, the title of this free

report. Even if you’re too shy to admit it, we all wanted to enjoy life to the fullest

and not shrink into timidity.

Surely, you don’t want to confine yourself just because of your petty flaws and

imperfections, because you came to realize—you, yes YOU the one reading this

free report right now, that you’re simply too good for that! And indeed, my hats

off to you now.

Thus, lo and behold, I know deep in your heart, you are so ready and raring to feel

and experience a fabulous life and simply can’t wait to get it on and get going...

That’s why Chapter 10 and 11 of Fabulous Self Esteem are highly significant when

you want to take your self esteem to optimum levels.





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Now is the time to give yourself (and also your loved ones) the gift of confidence

and being the best versions of yourselves!

Well, you owe it to yourself —by having a copy of Fabulous Self Esteem, you can

be the person you always dreamed of because you’re the best gift that you have.

So grab a copy now. Just like my friend Rose, a future confident you awaits...

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www.fabulousselfesteem.com

Amy Twain,

Self Improvement Coach

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