TULSA POLICE DEPARTMENT GILCREASE DIVISION NEWSLETTER, VOL. 6 APRIL 2012 www.tulsapolice.org 1 Gilcrease Division Newsletter, Vol. 6 Tulsa Police Department Gilcrease Division (GID) 3436 N. Delaware Ave. Tulsa, Ok 74110 (918) 591-4100 Division Commander Major Tracie Lewis (918) 591-4105 Day Shift Commander Capt. Steve Odom (918) 591-4107 Third Shift Commander Capt. Karen Tipler (918) 591-4110 Fourth Shift Commander Capt. Dave Roberts (918) 591-4109 Graveyard Shift Commander Capt. Shawn King (918) 591-4111 Questions or Comments: Email: TPD Gilcrease News TPDGilcreaseNews @cityoftulsa.org Visit us on the web: Tulsa Police Department www.tulsapolice.org TPD on Facebook TPD on Twitter PROTECTING THE GIFT In 1999, author Gavin De Becker wrote a book titled “Protecting the Gift”, that calls into question almost everything that was considered “the norm” when it comes to protecting our children from harm. His book questions the wisdom of telling our children “don’t talk to strangers”, when we then break that tenet by making them talk to strangers when they’re with us. We instruct our children to trust police officers, but then when we see one, we tell our children that they had better mind, or the officer “is going to lock them up”. Talk about mixed messages! There are many great points in De Becker’s book, too many to go into all of them in this article, but here are a few that really should make us stop and think. One of them is that charm always has a motive. To charm is to compel, to control by allure or attraction. We must learn and then teach our children that “niceness” does not equal “goodness” . People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning. Possibly the most universally significant survival signal that something is just not right is when someone ignores or discounts the concept of “NO”. Declining to hear the word “No” is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it. A common criminal’s response to the word “No” is to negotiate. For them, negotiations are possibilities. Remember that the word “No” is a complete sentence! Of course, we can’t always be by our children’s side 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and so we must ensure that we provide them with the tools they will need to make them a less desirable target. Vulnerability is possibly the most attractive trait to a pedophile. In his book, De Becker offers a test of what children should know (ideally) before they are ever alone in public. This does not include the obvious, such as address, important phone numbers, etc. This is from the point of view relevant to violence and sexual predators. He calls it “The Test of Twelve”: (continued on p. 2)
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TULSA POLICE DEPARTMENT GILCREASE DIVISION NEWSLETTER, VOL. 6 APRIL 2012
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Gi lcrease Divis ionNewsletter, Vol. 6
Tulsa Police DepartmentGilcrease Division (GID)3436 N. Delaware Ave. Tulsa, Ok 74110(918) 591-4100
PROTECTING THE GIFTIn 1999, author Gavin De Becker wrote a book titled “Protecting the Gift”, that calls into question almost everything that was considered “the norm” when it comes to protecting our children from harm. His book questions the wisdom of telling our children “don’t talk to strangers”, when we then break that tenet by making them talk to strangers when they’re with us.
We instruct our children to trust police officers, but then when we see one, we tell our children that they had better mind, or the officer “is going to lock them up”. Talk about mixed messages! There are many great points in De Becker’s book, too many to go into all of them in this article, but here are a few that really should make us stop and think.
One of them is that charm always has a motive. To charm is to compel, to control by allure or attraction. We must learn and then teach our children that “niceness” does not equal “goodness”. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning.
Possibly the most universally significant survival signal that something is just not right is when someone ignores or discounts the concept of “NO”. Declining to hear the word “No” is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it.
A common criminal’s response to the word “No” is to negotiate. For them, negotiations are possibilities. Remember that the word “No” is a complete sentence!
Of course, we can’t always be by our children’s side 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and so we must ensure that we provide them with the tools they will need to make them a less desirable target. Vulnerability is possibly the most attractive trait to a pedophile. In his book, De Becker offers a test of what children should know (ideally) before they are ever alone in public. This does not include the obvious, such as address, important phone numbers, etc.
This is from the point of view relevant to violence and sexual predators. He calls it “The Test of Twelve”:
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1. How to honor their feelings - if someone makes them uncomfortable, that’s an important signal.
2. The parents are strong enough to hear about any experience they’ve had, no matter how unpleasant.
3. It’s okay to rebuff and defy adults.
4. It’s okay to be assertive.
5. How to ask for assistance or help.
6. How to choose who to ask.
7. How to describe their peril.
8. It’s okay to strike, even to injure, someone if they believe they are in danger, and that the parents will support any action they take as a result of feeling uncomfortable or afraid.
9. It’s okay to make noise, to scream, to yell, to run.
10. If someone ever tries to make them go somewhere, what they scream should include, “This is not my father”, because onlookers seeing a child scream or even struggle are likely to assume the adult is the parent.
11. If someone says “Don’t yell” then the thing to do is yell, and the corollary, if someone says “Don’t tell”, the thing to do is tell.
12. To fully resist ever going out of public view with someone they don’t know, and particularly to resist going anywhere with someone who tries to persuade them.
These lessons must be taught within the context relevant to violence and sexual predators. Of the twelve “tests”, De Becker answers #6. He states the one “rule” that reliably enhances children’s safety is to teach them that if they are ever lost (or need assistance or help), they should go to a woman.
According to De Becker, if they choose a woman, it is highly unlikely that the woman will be a sexual predator. “If you are lost, go to a woman” works because it’s practical, simple, and women will get involved and stay involved.
De Becker puts it best, “Obviously, we cannot change or eliminate all the dangerous people in the world; what we can change is our ability to deal with them. That is most likely if you build a world for your children in which fear is a resource and not a daily drug.”
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Robbery Detectives need help identifying the below suspect. On Sunday, April 15, 2012, 7:35 a.m. the suspect robbed the Walgreens at 3112 S. Harvard. The suspect presented a note to the clerk. He fled the store with prescription pain pills. No weapon or vehicle was seen. If you have information in reference to this case please contact the Tulsa Police Department at 918.596.9199 or Crime Stoppers at 918.596.COPS, if wish to remain anonymous.
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from the crime analyst’s desk...
for the weeks of 4/1 - 4/15
Auto thefts Thirty-five vehicles were reported stolen, and ten of those vehicles were GM products, as well as ten Honda products. Reported stolen was: 23 cars, 7 trucks, 2 SUVs, and 3 vans. 68.5% of the stolen vehicles were made before 2000 and 31.5% of them were made after 2000. Most (26) of the cars were stolen between the hours of 6 pm and 6 am.
burglariesTuesday was the most popular day for burglaries followed by Wednesday during the reporting period. 88% of all the burglaries were residential, and 73% occurred between the hours of 6 am and 7 pm. The most common method of gaining entry remains using force on (otherwise known as “kicking”) the front door. Large screen TVs continues to be the “hot” items most reported stolen.
LarceniesThere were eighty-nine total larcenies reported. 42%, or thirty-seven, of all larcenies reported were from vehicles, otherwise known as burglary from vehicle. 18%, or seven, were larcenies from retailers, otherwise known as shoplifting. The most popular day to commit a larceny during this time period was Thursday.
Robberies There were sixteen total robberies reported. Eight of the sixteen robberies were committed between 6 pm and midnight. Monday and Saturday were the most popular days.
Upcoming Downtown Events
BOK ARENA
The Black Keys Apr 28Van Halen May 1
Roger Waters the Wall May 5 Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey
presents Dragons, Jun 2-3
BRADY THEATER
Trace Adkins, April 28 The Fresh Beat Band, May 10
Five Finger Death Punch w/Lacuna Coil May 15
Daughtry May 19 Primus May 30
CAIN’S BALLROOM
Borgore: Flex US tour Apr 26
PERFORMING ARTS CENTER
(PAC)
Dinner with Friends Apr 26-28 Zorro Apr 27
Music of the Sun: Ethel w/Robert Mirabal, Apr 28
Tulsa Symphony: Musical Fireworks May 5
TULSA CONVENTION CENTER
Guess Who’s Coming To Seder, May 4-5
Gabriel Iglesias May 17Red Green May 20
Who Dat Dirty Bird? Celebrity Basketball Game Jun 23
