HomeworkA Parent’s Guide To Helping
Out Without Freaking Out
Neil McNerney, LPCwww.neilmcnerney.com
Challenges
Problem
The SolutionHelp parents lead based on what the child is doing, not based on what the parent is feeling.
Student Approach To School
Parent Leadership Roles
Supporter
Consultant
Boss
The Supporter
Supporter
• Hit and Run Praise• “I’m Proud” vs. “I’m Impressed”• Don’t Over-Do It
The Consultant
Consultant• Attitude of child• Timing• Tentative• Shoulder – to – Shoulder
The Boss
Boss• Try Supporter and Consultant First• Rewards work better than Punishments• Don’t Lecture, Vent, Teach• Computer Programmer – IFTHENELSE• Don’t express a vested interest in the outcome• Stop vs. Start• Passive vs. Active
Will Power
• Have a quiet place free of distractions
• Have only one place to study
• Stick with one subject until you finish the work, then go on to the next
New Research on Study Habits