HomeworkA Parent’s Guide To Helping

Out Without Freaking Out

Neil McNerney, LPCwww.neilmcnerney.com

Challenges

Problem

The SolutionHelp parents lead based on what the child is doing, not based on what the parent is feeling.

Student Approach To School

Parent Leadership Roles

Supporter

Consultant

Boss

The Supporter

Supporter

• Hit and Run Praise• “I’m Proud” vs. “I’m Impressed”• Don’t Over-Do It

The Consultant

Consultant• Attitude of child• Timing• Tentative• Shoulder – to – Shoulder

The Boss

Boss• Try Supporter and Consultant First• Rewards work better than Punishments• Don’t Lecture, Vent, Teach• Computer Programmer – IFTHENELSE• Don’t express a vested interest in the outcome• Stop vs. Start• Passive vs. Active

Will Power

• Have a quiet place free of distractions

• Have only one place to study

• Stick with one subject until you finish the work, then go on to the next

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