Introduction to Personal Introduction to Personal DevelopmentDevelopment

Lesson 1Lesson 1

Do you know Do you know anyone like anyone like

these?these?

Walking with Walking with head down.head down.

Not making eye Not making eye contact when contact when talking.talking.

Teasing others.Teasing others.

Saying negative Saying negative things about things about others.others.

Speaking very Speaking very loudly.loudly.

Excessive Excessive boasting about boasting about their their achivements.achivements.

Personal Development Personal Development is a process that is a process that

helps teens overcome helps teens overcome these these challengeschallenges..

Personal Personal development is development is an on-going an on-going process.process.

Signs of low Signs of low self-esteemself-esteem

1. Walking with their head 1. Walking with their head down.down.

Teens who feel that they Teens who feel that they are not worthy find it very are not worthy find it very hard to make eye contact hard to make eye contact when communicating.when communicating.

They avoid making a They avoid making a connection because they connection because they assume others have the assume others have the same negative view of same negative view of them as they do. them as they do.

2. Not making eye contact 2. Not making eye contact when talkingwhen talking

This is usually a physical This is usually a physical expression of shame and expression of shame and embarrassment.embarrassment.

Teens with low self-Teens with low self-esteem feel they need to esteem feel they need to hide and survive public hide and survive public situations unnoticed.situations unnoticed.

3. Using negative “I am” 3. Using negative “I am” statementsstatements

Teenagers who commonly Teenagers who commonly use phrases such as “I am use phrases such as “I am useless”, “I never get it useless”, “I never get it right”, “I could never do right”, “I could never do that” or “my family would that” or “my family would be better off without me” be better off without me” are examples of someone are examples of someone expressing negative expressing negative beliefs about who they are.beliefs about who they are.

4. Teasing, name calling, or 4. Teasing, name calling, or saying negative things about saying negative things about others.others.

Teenagers who feel bad Teenagers who feel bad about themselves often find about themselves often find negative things about others. negative things about others.

This is usually a defense This is usually a defense mechanism. Most times it is a mechanism. Most times it is a simple case of making simple case of making themselves feel or look better themselves feel or look better by making others look bad. by making others look bad.

5. Excessive boasting about 5. Excessive boasting about their achievements or their achievements or appearanceappearance

Teenagers seeking to fight Teenagers seeking to fight feelings of worthlessness try feelings of worthlessness try to convince themselves and to convince themselves and others the reverse by others the reverse by continually talking about continually talking about how good looking they are how good looking they are important.important.

6. Speaking very loudly and 6. Speaking very loudly and aggressivelyaggressively

Teenagers who feel Teenagers who feel insignificant or worthless insignificant or worthless believe that others see them believe that others see them as unimportant too, to as unimportant too, to counteract these feelings, counteract these feelings, they will try to verbally they will try to verbally dominate communications dominate communications to seek attention or to seek attention or recognition.recognition.

7. Evading social 7. Evading social interactions.interactions.

When the teenagers feel When the teenagers feel they are bound to be they are bound to be rejected, they will avoid rejected, they will avoid situations that will reinforce situations that will reinforce this beliefs.this beliefs.

7. Evading social 7. Evading social interactions.interactions.

Teens who have no friends Teens who have no friends or very weak interpersonal or very weak interpersonal relationships with other relationships with other teens would most likely have teens would most likely have low self-esteem.low self-esteem.

Peer bonding Peer bonding is an is an important element of how important element of how teenagers develop self-teenagers develop self-worth.worth.

8. Constantly apologizing8. Constantly apologizing

This is associated with This is associated with feelings of guilt. When a feelings of guilt. When a teenager believes he always teenager believes he always makes mistakes or does not makes mistakes or does not make expectations, he feels make expectations, he feels guilty.guilty.

Going through personal Going through personal development process development process will regain self-worth will regain self-worth

and confidence.and confidence.

The EndThe End

ASSIGNMENTASSIGNMENT

Research the Research the branches of branches of philosophy.philosophy.