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Survival.
“…the listener always wins.”~
“The best leaders are the best listeners.” Sir Richard Branson~
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empathy
emotional self control
emotional self awareness
nurturing relationships
Ask someone close to grade you on the emotional components.
Source: PRnewswire.com
Only 2% of the population are formally trained in listening.
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1. Listen generously2. Listen for nuances3. Listen for confusion4. Be patient and don’t interrupt5. Get out of your head
Listening Lessons Learned
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•Seek to understand first. •Ask empathetic questions. •People who feel like you’re
listening, and not judging, will trust you more.
Former VP of HR and Administration for Morgan Memorial Goodwill Industries
Be like Mary.
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Listen for the nuances.
Data show: •More action-oriented listener, focusing on
information pertinent to the task at hand. •Less patience for rambling off topic and
unnecessary details.
Guys
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Data show: •Connect with emotions and conversation
undertones. •More concerned with the occurrence of
conversations than with the pertinent information discussed.
Gals
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Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?
Why are wise men and wise guys opposites?
Why do we park in driveways, and drive on parkways?
Why is it called a TV "set" when you only get one of them?
Why are boxing rings square?
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3 Common Causes of Miscommunication
1. Misaligned vocabularies - speaker not using words listener will understand.
2. Messy thinking - speaking before thinking.
3. Faulty definitions - overuse of homophones.
Flounder…or founder? Alternate…or alternative?
The great interruptor—especially during meetings Monday and Tuesday mornings.
Coffee…
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Be patient, don’t interrupt.
1. 314 interruption over 900 minutes of conversation 2. Men accounted for 212 of the 314 total interruptions 3. Men are almost three times as likely to interrupt women as they are to
interrupt other men 4. People interrupted each other once every 2 minutes and 51 seconds 5. Interruption rate correlates with number of conversation participants
Source: slate.com, 2014
IT professional….
Overheard women talking about annoying men who interrupt, so did his own study.
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“Better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”
- Mark Twain
Focus on the other person as much as you’re focusing on this cash. Don’t “plan” your response…listen, think, and then respond.
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Get out of your head.
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10 Worst Listening Habits(we make when trying to listen)
1. Call the subject matter uninteresting 2. Criticize the delivery or appearance of the speaker 3. Become too stimulated 4. Listen only for facts 5. Try to outline everything that is being said 6. Fake attention 7. Tolerate or create distractions 8. Evade the difficult 9. Submit to emotional words 10.Waste thought power
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9 Common Non-Verbals
1. Crossed arms: Closed-off; resistance. 2. A brief touch to the hand: Quick connection; potentially
condescending. 3. A nose rub: You may be considered deceptive. 4. A barrier: Back off! Personal space! 5. A hand placed under the chin: Deciding. 6. Feet pointed toward the door: Interested in getting out. 7. Back-of-the-neck scratch: May have questions and concerns. 8. Hiding hands: Someone’s hiding something.
“Employees who use ‘upspeak’ put their promotions at risk by coming across as less confident.”
- Bernard Marr (performance expert)
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Professional Training Options
1. Creighton Business Institute 2. Harvard Extension School 3. TrainUp.com (virtual listening skills courses) 4. Dale Carnegie Training (dalecarnegie.com)