Objectives:Objectives:

• To understand the various types of To understand the various types of relationships we have in our lives.relationships we have in our lives.

• To understand the components of a To understand the components of a healthy relationship.healthy relationship.

• To determine what is important to To determine what is important to you in a relationship.you in a relationship.

Relationship= Bond or connection between two people

The connection satisfies basic emotional needsBasic emotional needs= to love, to be

loved, comfort, security, disclosure, trust

Healthy relationship= both parties feel the same way and want a

relationshipRole= part one plays in a

relationship, roles may change

MASLOW'S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS

Abraham Maslow was born in 1908. Maslow was interested in mental health and human potential. In 1943, Maslow introduced his hierarchy of needs. Maslow‘s hierarchy of needs is an attempt to classify human needs in order of importance. With his hierarchy of needs, Maslow focused more on positive mental health than most that studied before him. Maslow's theories, including the hierarchy of needs have had a great and lasting impact on the humanistic approach to psychology and are still used in many facets of life today.

• Level 3 - Love and belonging needs - Sometimes referred to as social needs. Interaction with others and acceptance by others. This is the first level of higher level needs and centers around emotionally based relationships. Includes friendship, love, belonging to a group, intimacy, and family life. If these needs are not satisfied people may become susceptible to loneliness and depression. One can satisfy love and belonging needs through involvement in social, community, or religious groups.

Loving

- The first relationship you ever

have- Provides the

strongest bonds

- With family, you get what you get. In other

words, you have no choice.

What kind of role does What kind of role does family play in your life?family play in your life?

• In your notes, answer this question. In your notes, answer this question. Describe the dynamics of your Describe the dynamics of your family. Who plays which role? What family. Who plays which role? What are your thoughts and feelings about are your thoughts and feelings about family? More specifically, your family? More specifically, your family?family?

A significant relationship between two people based on caring, respect,

consideration, and communication

Close friends vs. Casual friends-

do you know the difference?

Platonic friendship: relationship with member of opposite gender which

there is affection but no sexual activity

Think about the following Think about the following questions:questions:

• How did these people become your How did these people become your friends?friends?

• What do you have in common? What do you have in common?

• Why are you friends with these Why are you friends with these people?people?

• Are you closer to some people than Are you closer to some people than others?others?

Examples include teachers, neighbors, business, citizen, organizations, clubs, leaders,

volunteer

What kinds of relationships do you have with these people?

LOVINGLOVING•A profoundly tender, passionate

affection for another person that usually entails sexual passion or desire.

•Does not typically happen until teenage years or later.

•There is a significant difference between young love, mature love, and lust.

Anyone want to share their Anyone want to share their thoughts on love?thoughts on love?• Is there a difference between being in love Is there a difference between being in love

and loving someone?and loving someone?

• Is it possible to deeply love someone at your Is it possible to deeply love someone at your age?age?

• Have you ever told someone you loved them?Have you ever told someone you loved them?

Watch this clip from Seinfeld to see how it went Watch this clip from Seinfeld to see how it went for George:for George:

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What qualities make up a What qualities make up a healthy relationship?healthy relationship?

• Brainstorm with your seat buddyBrainstorm with your seat buddy

• Share your thoughts with the classShare your thoughts with the class

Cooperation= working together for the good of all

Compromise= result of each person giving something up to reach result that satisfies

everyoneRespect for each other’s opinion

Acceptance, Honesty, Trustworthiness= knowing they would not do anything to hurt

youDependability, Loyalty= there when you need someone and can trust they will speak good

about you even when you are not around

Empathy= ability to share another person's feeling/thoughts

Time for an activityTime for an activity

• Girls on one side of the room; boys on Girls on one side of the room; boys on the other.the other.

• One recorder per group. One recorder per group.

• List the top ten things you want in a List the top ten things you want in a future partner. future partner.

• Ten is least important; one is most Ten is least important; one is most important.important.

• BE HONEST!!!BE HONEST!!!

So, how are we ever supposed to partner with someone if what

we want is so different?

Communication is a process through which you send messages and receive messages from others

Speaking skills, listening skills are vital in a relationship, as

well as non-verbal communication

ConclusionConclusion• There are various types of relationships There are various types of relationships

including friendship, love, family, and including friendship, love, family, and community.community.

• A healthy relationship involves many qualities A healthy relationship involves many qualities including trust, positive communication, including trust, positive communication, respect, etc.respect, etc.

• We all have different relationships and based We all have different relationships and based upon what we value plays a strong role in upon what we value plays a strong role in what we want or expect in our relationships.what we want or expect in our relationships.

• Having relationships is something we need.Having relationships is something we need.