“SavoirFaire”The“TRUE”ArtofCoaching

DanielJohndan@danjohn.net

Client’sObstaclesandBarriers

•  Ican’t….•  Iknowveggiesaregoodforme,but…

•  Iknowwhattoeat,Ijustdon’thaveKme…

•  “Mykidswon’teatanythingbutPizza…”

SavoirFaire

Theabilitytoadapttoanythingswi2ly.

It’smagic…almost

TheneedforthatinnatemagicalabilitytoconveyinformaKon.Therearethosewhocan’tteachafishtoswim.Canitbelearned???

TheCoach’sToolkit:5thTool

MentalSetEITHER

Pain/Pleasure

ORTinyHabitsAnd,IhateEither/OR!!!!

“LongTails”

TonyRobbins:Do/Don’tPain/Pleasureand“TheShortSKck”

TheObvious

What"pleasure"willyougetifyou"do"getyourgoals?

What"pain"willyougetifyou"don’t"getyourgoals?

FillIntheEasyOnesFirst…notehowliZle“Pleasure”mostpeoplefind.

The“RealSide”ofThisChart

What"pain"willyougetifyou"do"getyourgoals?(Besuretoreread

that!)

What"pleasure"willgetifyou"don't"getyourgoals?

ForSome,PAINistheLever

FirstScenario:EliteAthlete“Do”Pleasure•  Theuniformsarereallycool•  Notalotofpeopledoit•  PreZycool“Don’t”Pleasure•  LotsofKmeandenergy•  Ireallylikelivinghere“Do”Pain•  IjuststarteddaKngPatandPatisreallyinteresKng•  Idon’twantpeopletoaskme“what’snext?”“Don’tPain”•  Idon’tunderstandthis,sorry.

SecondScenario:RecentlyDivorced

“Do”Pleasure•  Iwillshovethisbodyintomyex’sfaceandsay“seethis”andforgeteverseeingitagain,thatlousy…

•  Iamgoingtofindthesexiestall-inclusiveresortandjustletitallout

“Don’t”Pleasure•  I’m…I’m…justsomiserable.I…“Do”Pain•  Haveyoubeenlistening?“Don’tPain”•  Haveyoubeenlistening?

ThirdScenario:NewYear’sDayClient

“Do”Pleasure•  Um,itwouldbereallygood.“Don’t”Pleasure•  IguessIamKredofthis.“Do”Pain•  Well,whatKmedoIneedtobehere?Thisshoppinglist…canyou

findProteineverywhere?And,whatkindofjournalshouldIbuy.Theyhaveabunchatthestore.Somewithlines,somewithoutlines,whichone?

“Don’tPain”•  Really,Iamjustacoupleofpoundsheavy.It’snobigdeal.Theyare

cucngclothesdifferentnowsothat’swhyIhavetoshopdifferent.

SummaryQuesKons

1.  Howcommoniseachscenario?2.  What“levers”canyoupresswitheachofthe

threeclients?3.  Howcanyouusethisexercisetofocusa

client?4.  Howuselesscanthisexercisebeforclients?

SFinAcKon!

AsBRILLIANTasthischartcanbeforshowingsomepeoplegoalsecng…Ifitain’tworking,itain’tworking!CanweINVENTPain?DeprivaKon!

DeprivaKonincreasesCapacity…AndEVERYONEthinkstheycandoit!

•  Sleep•  Food•  TrainingFaciliKes(No

ring,nofield,9straightstatediscchamps)

•  NoKmePracKcingDeprivaKonisHard,too!•  FasKng•  Twomealsaday•  NoTVonSchoolNights

ToFinishaStrictDiet,YouneedaTool!

•  AvoidingPainiseasierformany(most)thanPursuingPleasure.(SavoirFaire)

•  So,makeFAILUREreallybad.

•  EatacanofAlpo!

Why?FreeWill

Callitwhatyouwill(ha!)FreeWillSelf-DisciplineWhatever….YouonlyhavealiZle.Kids,work,commute,beer,TV,otheropKonseatitallup.

ForMOSTPeople:Habits.Actually,TinyHabits

WhenyoulearnmyTinyHabitsmethod,youcanchangeyourlifeforever.BJFogg,PhDDirector,PersuasiveTechLabStanfordUniversity

Onlythreethingswillchangebehaviorinthelongterm.Op?onA.Haveanepiphany(Pain!)Op?onB.Changeyourenvironment(whatsurroundsyou)(Prison)Op?onC.Takebabysteps(PoundthePavement)

MyBeliefinLongTails

Either:PainMassiveChange(Prison!)Epiphanies

Or:TinyHabitsHabit-BasedChangesStepbyStep(“PoundthePavement,”“Journeyofa1000milesstartswiththefirststep,”“LiZleandonenoverthelonghaul.”

WhatworksBEST?

PrisonoraDesertedIsland.No“personal”FreeWill.Thisapproachworksreallywell…nearlyinallcases.

TheyAllWork…fortheRightClient

Op?onA.Haveanepiphany(Pain!)Op?onB.Changeyourenvironment(Whatsurroundsyou)(Prison)Op?onC.Takebabysteps(PoundthePavement)

But…Is“this”yourbiggestfrog?

•  IfyouhavetoeataPlateofFrogs…

•  Eatthebiggestonefirst.

•  So,on“fixing”issues,pickoutthebiggestfrog.

•  Usually,withathletes,itissomethinglike“FrontSquats.”

ThisiswhyIapproachworkoutswithThree“Mindsets”

PunchtheClockWorkouts(“NextTime!”)KillYourselfWorkoutsTheHangoverRule…thisistruePeaking!JohnPowell,JuriSedyck,JohnLandy

HowtoNOTfindthePath:The“Problems”withtheFitnessIndustry:

ToughversusReasonable

ProblemsversusMysteries

ToughversusReasonable

ProblemsversusMysteries

So,whyisitalwaysfatloss?TheTOUGHESTthingtodo!

GecngPeopletoDoWhatTheyToldYouTheyWantedtoDo

SavoirFaireTwo

Andnow,theImportanceofthose“OtherTwo”QuesKons

Doyoueatcolorfulvegetableseveryday?Doyouexercisehalfanhoureveryday?Thesehelpdiscernthecurrentpathoftheclient.

Mostofus:DazedandConfused

•  Alright,alright,alright.

•  Wait,carbsarebad,fatsarebad,andproteinisbad…

•  Wait,exerciseinjuresme,butnotexercisinginjuresme…

DazedandConfused…Untrained,Detrained,Overtrained

Whatwewant:Mastery

PoundingthePavementcanonenbethePathTowards

MasteryandGrace

LooksRight,FliesRight

It’sARETE…notEthics

•  BradPiDin“Troy”It’sMastery

Mastery:Less“StaKc?”

Everyonetensesatthesamerate.Champsrelaxfaster.Itcanbetrained.RelaxandWinTechnicaltraining,too.PosiKon,TENSION,Shakeitout,Movement

ArousalLevels

11isDeadlining4mightbethestatechampionshipsinthediscusBut,whatifyouareata“One”ora“Nine.”MasteryofArousalisstealinginsports.

Mastery:More“Reps?”

•  RepeKKonistheMotherofImplementaKon.

•  CorrecttheCorrectable•  “ThreeKeys”andPrisoner’sDilemma

•  MasteryofArousal(nextsecKon)

Itcomesdowntoclarity

Picksomesomekeysandleteveryoneknow“thisisit!”Repthem;figureoutsomedrillsforthesekeys;emphasizethem.RemovestaKcandtensionbyincreasingboth,thenpracKceremovingthem.Masteryisfinallyfoundineffortlesseffort.

MostpeopledonotwantMastery,theywanttodebateyou

ThePerfectProgramisNOTgoingtobeverysexy.

•  YouwantthePERFECTprogramfor…

•  Thediscus:Throw,BenchPress,Deadlin

•  FeelbeZer:GobletSquat,Swing,TurkishGetUp

•  GETOFFMYBACK!

HelpingtheDazedandConfused…Untrained,Detrained,Overtrained

TheUntrainedaretheJoyofLife

TheJoyTheExcitementThehappiness!

TheFiveInterlockingKeysforsuccess

Detrained…ahtheworst!

DealingwithObjecKons

•  NomaZerwhatyouoffer,teachordo…thereisalwaysaBBD.

•  BiggerBeZerDeal.

•  Detrainedseemtoknow,always,somethingbeZer.

•  Savethetruth…

Undertrained(lackofmastery)andOvercondiKoned

MustteachRISKManagementLongevitydiscussionsThePathtoMasteryBend,don’tBREAK!

GetOFFmyBACK!!!•  1.EaKngproteinateverymeal.•  2.FocusingonQualityandQuanKty.But,andthisisimportant,Qualityisa

slidingscale.ForgetperfecKonineaKngmeals.Perhaps,though,striveforperfec?oninonemealaweek.

•  3.Forstrengthtraininggoals,thesenumbersstandthetestfor21%bodyfatfemales.

ThreePullUpsThreeDipsFiverepsinthesquatwith135poundsFiverepsinthedeadlinwith135pounds

Thisisenough.GOMB.(FromJoshHillis)